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Seeing Other People
Dating advice, real stories, and honest conversations about modern relationships. Seeing Other People with Ilana Dunn covers everything from first dates and situationships to long-term love, with expert guests, anonymous confessions, and unfiltered takes three times a week.
Whether you're swiping, healing, or somewhere in between...this is your show.
Episodes
- Seeing Other People
Your Younger Self Wants You to Hear This
What if the things you admire in other people are actually clues about the person you want to become? In this solo episode, I’m sharing a conversation that…
Seeing Other PeopleHave We Become the Couple We Used to Make Fun Of?
We've had a LOT going on lately! This week, we're recapping our perfect babymoon, maternity photo shoot, baby shopping adventures, and the nursery furniture…
Seeing Other People“I Was Diagnosed With Cancer Three Weeks After My Wedding”
A gentle heads-up: This episode touches on pregnancy loss and fertility struggles. We know these topics can be deeply personal and difficult, so please listen…
Seeing Other PeopleThe Marriage Conversations We Probably Should've Had Off Mic
This week, we're letting a random question generator take the wheel, and let's just say things get a little personal. We're talking about whether alone time is…
Seeing Other PeopleHow to Stop Overthinking and Feel More Grounded in Dating
What if the way we experience dating and relationships has less to do with the other person and more to do with the state we’re in when we experience them? Dr…
Seeing Other PeopleAre We Posting Our Baby on Social Media?
This week on Cohosts for Life, we're getting into a conversation we've been having more and more as we get closer to becoming parents: will we be sharing our…
- Seeing Other People
Do I Actually Like Them… Or Do I Just Like That They Like Me?
Have you ever been so focused on whether someone likes you that you forgot to ask yourself if you even like them? In this solo episode, I’m breaking down how…
Seeing Other PeopleHow to Keep Dating Fun When You're in a Relationship
Cohosts for Life is officially moving to Tuesdays! This week, we're catching up on life lately, pregnancy struggles, nursery prep, and Ilana's trip to North…
Seeing Other PeopleStop “Shoulding” Yourself: How to Stop Comparing and Start Trusting Yourself
Are you constantly thinking you should be married by now, should be over your ex, should know how you feel after a few dates, or should be further along in…
Seeing Other PeopleAre You Doing Too Much in Your Relationships?
Who keeps track of everything that needs to get done in your relationship? Ilana sits down with InvisiBILL – Anxiety Receipts founder Lisa Virginia Anderson to…
Seeing Other PeopleWhen You Know They’re Not Your Person But Can’t Let Go
Ilana and Jake are coming to you from a rainy weekend in the Hamptons with lots to catch up on: Ilana officially understands football, someone finally offered…
- Seeing Other People
Rejection Doesn’t Mean You Weren’t Enough
Rejection can make you question everything about yourself. Was I too much? Not enough? Did I do something wrong? And why did they choose someone else instead…
Seeing Other PeopleAre You Dating for the Relationship You Actually Want?
Stefanos Sifandos, relationship coach, speaker, and author of Tuned In and Turned On, joins Seeing Other People to talk about what happens after you find the…
Seeing Other PeopleStop Wishing Away the Single Chapter of Your Life
This week, we’re talking daycare waitlists, baby registry decisions, why Ilana is becoming a baby product expert, and the realities of figuring out taxes when…
Seeing Other PeopleWhen Your Parents Don’t Support Your Relationship Choices
An anonymous guest joins the podcast to talk about navigating a long-term relationship in a big city — from taking their first trip together just two months…
Seeing Other PeopleGetting Unstuck: How to Rewrite the Story You Tell Yourself
Jane Garnett, former Hollywood producer turned psychotherapist and author of This Time With Feeling, joins the podcast to talk about how to get unstuck — from…
Seeing Other PeopleHow We’d Date If We Had to Start Over & Dating Your Ex’s Friend
Ilana and Jake catch up on baby prep, their first stroller arrival, Ilana’s newfound obsession with baby clothes, Jake’s thoughts on being married to a content…
- Seeing Other People
You Can Miss Someone and Still Know You Shouldn’t Be Together
Missing someone after a breakup can make you question everything. Did you make a mistake? Does still loving them mean you should try again? And if nobody else…
Seeing Other PeopleFinding Love, Getting Married, and Figuring Out What Comes Next
Erica Shea is back on Seeing Other People, and this time she’s married. After years of dating, heartbreak, situationships, and wondering if she was ever going…
Seeing Other PeoplePreparing for Baby, Eating Our Way Through NYC & Football Season
This week, we’re catching up on life lately. We talk baby registry overwhelm, the stroller we think we’re getting, football season, the best things we ate this…
Seeing Other PeopleEveryone Around Me Is Getting Married or Having Kids and I'm Still on The Apps
Harry is back for his fourth appearance on Seeing Other People, and this time he's on camera for the first time. He just turned 35, his younger brother got…
Seeing Other PeopleThe One Who Broke You Can't Heal You
Najwa Zebian, author of The One Who Broke You Can’t Heal You, joins the podcast for a conversation about heartbreak, healing, and what it really means to move…
Seeing Other PeopleExes Coming Back, Bad Dating Patterns & “I’m Not Ready for a Relationship”
Jake spent the weekend hosting a fantasy football draft while Barkley lived his best boys day and paid for it later, and Ilana went to her first pregnancy…
- Seeing Other People
Different Timelines, Rejection Texts & The Most Unhinged Relationship Advice
What do you do when you and your partner have different ideal timelines 3 years into your relationship? How to be less anxious after a great date? I’m…
Seeing Other PeopleThe Love of Your Life Would Want to Date You
Serena Kerrigan, founder of Let’s Fucking Date and author of Let’s Fcking Date*, joins the podcast for a long-overdue reunion — five years after she was one of…
Seeing Other PeopleWhat Maternity Leave Looks Like When You’re Self-Employed
We’re back with a LOT to catch up on after another Jonas Brothers concert. We’re sharing what went down at MSG, why our entire section was rooting for us, and…
Seeing Other PeopleWhy Having a Timeline for Love Can Keep You From Finding It
Isabelle Surielow, PhD candidate, matchmaker, and relationship consultant, joins the podcast to unpack what it really means to find love — and why sometimes…
Seeing Other PeopleThe Part of Relationships Nobody Teaches You Until You’re Already in One
Mika Ross, therapist and relationship coach, joins the podcast to talk about the parts of relationships nobody teaches you until you’re already in one. We talk…
Seeing Other PeopleAre the Jonas Brothers Doing Our Gender Reveal?!
It’s Ilana’s birthday weekend, the Jets are (almost) back, and somehow the Jonas Brothers might be helping us reveal our baby’s gender?! We’re talking about…
- Seeing Other People
Why Healthy Dating Feels Like the World's Most Boring Roller Coaster
This week I'm answering seven listener questions, and somehow they all circle back to the same underlying thing: learning which feelings you can actually…
Seeing Other PeopleWhat Happens When You Get Everything You Thought You Wanted and Still Feel Unfulfilled?
Kelly Ehlers, award-winning founder, writer, speaker, podcast host, and author of Nice Girls Win, joins the podcast to unpack the invisible rules so many women…
Seeing Other PeopleHow Many Drinks on a First Date Is Too Many?
Ilana's recording sick, the Syracuse course is officially over and she's not ready to talk about how much she'll miss it, and she saw Hilary Duff sell out MSG…
Seeing Other PeopleWhat Choosing Yourself Actually Looks Like
Amanda Katz joins the podcast to share the story of ending a long-term relationship after realizing her partner never fully grasped that she truly did not want…
Seeing Other PeopleWhy You Keep Dating the Same Person in Different Fonts
Jordanne Sculler, licensed mental health counselor and relationship therapist, joins the podcast to unpack why so many of us keep repeating the same dating…
Seeing Other PeopleStop FaceTiming Someone You Haven't Even Met Yet
This week, a 4am pregnancy craving for a discontinued pasta dish spirals into one of the wildest nights of our lives, ending in a comped multi-course meal at…
- Seeing Other People
Stop Asking Your Friends These Dating Questions (Ask Yourself These Instead) | Part 2
After the response to Part 1, we had to do a Part 2. In this solo episode, I'm diving into even more questions that can help you make better dating decisions…
Seeing Other PeopleFinding Love After Hitting Rock Bottom
Courtney Kocak joins the podcast to share the unbelievable story behind her memoir Girl Gone Wild and the many rock bottoms that ultimately changed her life…
Seeing Other PeopleAm I Pregnant or Are We Pregnant? Jake and I Cannot Agree
Are we pregnant or am I pregnant? Jake says we. Ilana says she's the one with a baby in her belly. We also have to tell you about the TikTok that went viral…
Seeing Other PeopleCancelling My Wedding Was the Best Decision I Ever Made
Corinne joins the podcast to share the story of calling off her engagement just four months before her wedding after eight years with the person she thought…
Seeing Other PeopleHow to Stop Mistaking Anxiety for Chemistry
Dr. Darcy Sterling, licensed therapist, relationship expert, and host of We Need To Talk with Dr. Darcy Sterling, joins the podcast to unpack why so many…
Seeing Other PeopleI Never Felt Ready to Have a Baby (And That's Okay)
Jake turns 33, we recap his birthday week, and Professor Ilana is two classes in and already never wants it to end. We get into everything we didn't have time…
Seeing Other PeopleWhy Modern Dating Isn't Working for You
Olivia Atwood, Director of Matchmaking at Lox Club, joins the podcast to share how a joke matchmaking project during COVID turned into a career helping people…
Seeing Other PeopleAre Women's Standards Too High?
Dr. Shamara Howard joins the podcast for an eye-opening conversation about how dating is changing—and why that's not necessarily a bad thing. We dive into why…
Seeing Other PeopleWe're Having a Baby! And We're Finally Telling You Everything
We're pregnant, we're 15 weeks along, and we've been dying to tell you. This episode is everything: a clip from when we first found out, what the first…
- Seeing Other People
Stop Asking Your Friends These Dating Questions (Ask Yourself These Instead)
After answering more than 10,000 dating questions over the years, I've realized something: most people don't actually need more advice. They need better…
Seeing Other PeopleStop Chasing Uncertainty in Dating
Linnea Sage joins the podcast to share how losing her voice acting career to AI unexpectedly led her to create The Jewish Dating Game, a live dating show…
Seeing Other PeopleProfessor Ilana Era, Barkley Faked a Broken Leg + Q&A
Barkley had us in a full panic leading us to the vet ER and then immediately ran laps around the facility like nothing happened. Ilana's Professor era…
- Seeing Other People
What 10,000+ Dating Questions Have Taught Me About Modern Relationships
After reading 10,000+ dating and relationship questions, I've noticed that most people are asking the same thing in different ways: "How do I know I'm making…
Seeing Other PeopleHow to Rebuild Trust When Everything Becomes a Trigger
Therapist and co-host of the Therapy Brothers podcast, Tyler Patrick joins the podcast to share his personal story of addiction, betrayal, recovery, and…
Seeing Other People"All My Friends Are in Relationships and I'm Starting to Feel Left Behind"
Ilana's back on Love Island (long story), Jake played golf four times in eight days, and we're doing absolutely nothing for July 4th and couldn't be happier…
Seeing Other People"How I Finally Left My Toxic Relationship"
In this raw and emotional follow-up to I Didn't Expect This Relationship to Break Me, an anonymous guest returns to share the final chapter of her story—and…
Seeing Other PeopleWhy Dating Feels So Hard Right Now (And What to Do About It)
Brandi Davis (@backpocketcounseling) joins the podcast for a deep dive into modern dating, relationship anxiety, communication, attachment styles, and the…
Seeing Other PeopleShould You Text First? Should You Snoop? We Debate It All.
We're recording at the earliest time ever — Friday morning, two broken water dishes deep, and heading into an absolutely stacked weekend (a wedding, two baby…
Seeing Other People"I'm 25 and I've Never Had a Boyfriend"
At 25 years old, this anonymous guest has never been in a serious relationship—and while she knows she's not alone, it often feels that way. In this unfiltered…
Seeing Other PeopleWhat Working on The Bachelor Taught Her About Love
Julie LaPlaca joins the podcast to share her journey from longtime producer on the Bachelor franchise to author of The Love Producer. We talk about what really…
Seeing Other PeopleHe's Everything I Said I Wanted — But Something Feels Off
The Knicks are champions and Jake may have cried a little. We start there. Then four listener questions: whether therapy actually helped Ilana find Jake (yes…
Seeing Other PeopleThe Reason You're Not Getting a Second Date
Cara Ozek joins the podcast for a conversation about confidence, dating, and the small changes that can have a big impact. From style, grooming, body language…
Seeing Other PeopleMatchmaker for a Serial Rapist (Without Knowing It)
Addie Sellers joins the podcast to share one of the most shocking experiences of her matchmaking career: working with a client who was later convicted and…
Seeing Other PeopleRed Flags or Dealbreakers? What We'd Think Now vs. When We Were Single
Happy Monday! We're recording from Jake's childhood bedroom fresh off a wedding the night before. We talk about why we're obsessed with vows and speeches, what…
- Seeing Other People
My Dating Mistakes I Understand Differently Now
This solo episode is all about hindsight, growth, and the dating choices I understand differently now. I’m reacting to listener-submitted scenarios through two…