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Seeing Other People
Dating advice, real stories, and honest conversations about modern relationships. Seeing Other People with Ilana Dunn covers everything from first dates and situationships to long-term love, with expert guests, anonymous confessions, and unfiltered takes three times a week.
Whether you're swiping, healing, or somewhere in between...this is your show.
Episodes
Seeing Other PeopleIs Everyone a Narcissist Now?
Just because someone ghosted you doesn’t mean they’re a narcissist. Ilana is joined by licensed therapist Carla Litto, LMFT, to unpack what actually makes…
Seeing Other PeopleThe End of an Era
We announce a major life update, talk about how absurd the logistics of living in NYC are, and debate whether or not Ilana should start another new business…
Seeing Other People“I Almost Let My Body Image Ruin Everything — Including My Wedding”
On this Unfiltered, an anonymous guest opens up about how body image struggles, weight gain, and health issues in her mid-to-late 20s held her back from…
Seeing Other PeopleRecovering From Infidelity: Can Love Survive Betrayal?
What really happens after someone cheats—and is there ever a way back? In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Monique Thompson, a licensed psychotherapist…
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What Would 13 Year Old Us Think Of Us Now?
It's Ilana's 31st birthday! We're recapping a fun filled week including the Jonas Brothers concert that broke the internet, way too much sushi, and Jake's…
Seeing Other PeopleTrust Your Gut, Not Your Group Chat
On this episode of Unfiltered, Sagari takes us through her powerful transformation from a self-proclaimed serial monogamist stuck in toxic relationship…
Seeing Other PeopleWhat If You Don’t Want the Life Everyone Else Has?
This week, I’m joined by my run coach Victoria Sekely, DPT, for a candid conversation about living life on your own terms. We talk about the shocking way she…
Seeing Other PeopleHow the Jonas Brothers Were Our Matchmakers
This week on Cohosts for Life, we’re talking about how our relationship wouldn’t exist without the Jonas Brothers (seriously), and how they’ve been woven into…
Seeing Other PeopleI've Never Been In A Relationship Before
Ilana sits down with Allie—an almost 30-year-old who’s never officially had a boyfriend despite years of dating in New York City. Allie opens up about the…
Seeing Other PeopleChoosing Myself After the Breakup
TW: This episode may be triggering to those with sensitivities around sexual abuse. Fresh off a blindsided breakup, Amy Richman dives right back into dating…
Seeing Other PeopleIs Traveling Without Your Partner a Relationship Red Flag?
Ilana and Jake break down a whirlwind 10 days weeks that take them across four states, wrangling three dogs, surviving a six-hour quest for TikTok-famous…
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Love Won’t Fix You — But These Things Might
We’re told that once we find the right person—boyfriend, fiancé, husband—everything will fall into place. But when I got the relationship I always wanted, I…
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If This Was Your Friend’s Relationship… Would You Be Worried?
Carli—friend and now 4x Unfiltered guest (you can catch her most recent episode linked below)—is back for a very real conversation about all the moments we…
Seeing Other PeopleRelationship Milestones & How Our Love Story Almost Didn’t Happen
In this episode of Cohosts for Life, we’re taking you behind the scenes of our relationship—not just the milestones you see on social media, but the ones that…
Seeing Other PeopleTrying to Get Pregnant While Trying Not to Fall Apart
When this week’s guest decided to freeze her eggs at 30, she thought she was biding her and her husband time. Instead, she was hit with the news that she had a…
Seeing Other People"You’re a Nice Guy, But…" Dating Horror Stories
Comedian Paul Schoenberg joins us today to get into why “nice guys” are often misunderstood, how texting culture has made rejection feel impersonal and…
Seeing Other PeopleWhy We Track Every Date — and You Might Want To
This week on Cohosts for Life, we’re diving deep into a tradition that’s become core to our relationship: the date list. We share how it started, why it’s…
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The Part of Your Life You’re Afraid to Talk About
We’ve all got something we’re scared to talk about. Maybe you still live at home, haven’t had sex yet, just lost your job, or are quietly working through…
Seeing Other PeopleHow to Be More Attractive Without Playing Games
Psychologist, relationship expert, and author Dr. Harry Cohen joins us to explain the power of being a “positive energizer,” what it really means to bring good…
Seeing Other PeopleBare Minimum or Princess Treatment?
Ilana’s back from a fun bachelorette weekend in Maine and shares her travel nightmares, while Jake recaps his boys weekend with Barkley. Ilana’s riding high…
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"From Roommates to Soulmates"
When Waverly Colville signed a lease with a stranger named John Guilyard in the summer of 2020, she never imagined she was also meeting her future partner. Two…
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Why You’re Still Stalking Your Ex and What Actually Helps You Heal
Breakups today aren’t just about letting go of a person — they’re about navigating texts, timelines, algorithmic reminders, and the pressure to "heal fast."…
Seeing Other PeopleWelcome to Cohosts for Life
Welcome to the very first official episode of Cohosts for Life! Ilana kick things off by explaining why this series exists, what inspired it, and what you can…
Seeing Other PeopleLessons From the Ones Who Weren’t My Person
In this Unfiltered, a listener shares the hard truths she’s learned through dating, heartbreak, and situationships. From realizing you can’t force someone to…
Seeing Other PeopleInside the Modern Male Mind on Dating
Ryan Kenny, comedian and dater, joins me for a hilarious, honest convo on ghosting, dating app fatigue, and the awkwardness of putting yourself out there. We…
Seeing Other People"How My Worst Relationship Led to Real Growth"
In this Unfiltered, a 39-year-old New Yorker opens up about dating a guy who was terrible for her, but ultimately changed her life for the better. Before, she…
Seeing Other People"Hitting The Reset Button on Life"
Dana, a 31-year-old nurse, shares how her seemingly “on track” life slowly unraveled in a toxic marriage that took a toll on her mental and physical health…
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Commitment Issues, Pregnant Bridesmaids, and Paying for Apps
n this solo episode, I’m catching you up on life lately—books I'm reading, finishing my half marathon, how I feel about content creation right now, and whether…
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Meet-Cute Masterclass: Everything You Need to Meet Someone Offline
Real world romance isn’t dead. It’s just been buried under algorithms and ghosting. That’s exactly why I partnered with Louis Jadot to host a Meet-Cute Master…
Seeing Other PeopleThe Truth About Healing No One Talks About
I’m joined by Han Huante, host of How I See It, for a vulnerable conversation about mental health, dating patterns, and the real (often messy) work of healing…
Seeing Other People"All Of Our Friends Are Progressing in Life"
I sit down with Danielle Dietzek and Julie Griggs, the cofounders of Fourplay Social (@fourplaysocial), for a real, unfiltered girl chat. We’re diving deep…
Seeing Other PeopleAnniversary Special: What Changes (and What Really Doesn’t)
We recorded this episode on our actual one-year anniversary, from Turks and Caicos! We set out to recap the year, and ended up talking about how Ilana ruined…
Seeing Other PeopleDating Anxiety: How to Stop Overthinking and Self-Sabotaging
I’m joined by therapist Annie Josephson, PsyD, MSEd, Founder of Uptown Psychology to talk about why dating make us so anxious, even when it’s going well. We…
Seeing Other People"My Rock Bottom Moment Saved Me"
TW: This episode my be triggering to those with sensitivities around physical and emotional abuse. I’m joined by Ryan Spencer, who I met on the Tamron Hall…
Seeing Other PeopleYou Don’t Need Someone to Complete You
This week, I’m joined by Syd Miller , founder of the fitness brand Housework. Syd shares how a breakup at 30, right when all her friends were getting engaged…
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Healing Doesn't Happen Overnight
TW: This episode includes discussion of sexual assault. This week, I’m joined by Meg Reynolds (@meg_reynoldss), host of Not the Girl Next Door…
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When Everyone's Getting Married (Except You) & Why That's Okay
Jen Glantz (@jenglantz) has stood beside hundreds of brides—literally. As the founder of Bridesmaid for Hire and author of three books, she’s seen everything…
Seeing Other PeopleUnderstanding Yourself in Dating & Relationships with Erin Claire Jones
Ilana is joined by Human Design expert and author Erin Claire Jones (@erinclairejones) to break down how understanding your unique design can shift the way you…
Seeing Other PeopleJared Freid: You Can't Tell People How To Feel
In this episode, Jake plays cohost as we’re joined by comedian and podcast host Jared Freid—someone who’s played an unexpectedly big role in our relationship…
Seeing Other PeopleConversations to Have Before Marriage & Major Life Changes
I’m joined by Melissa Fitch and Michelle Unger, the BFF duo behind The M Take pod. They’re both married to their long-time loves (a college boyfriend and a…
Seeing Other PeopleWhat Women Get Wrong About Men & How To Have Hard Conversations
I’m joined by Eli Weinstein, LCSW, therapist and host of The Dude Therapist Podcast, for real talk about what women often misunderstand about men, the…
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Red Flags That Are Actually Green
In this solo episode, I’m sharing some unexpected life updates—including a few medical things I’ve been navigating lately—and TV shows I recently found out not…
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Flirting 101: Everything You Need to Know About Making a Move IRL
I’m joined by Benjamin Camras, Flirt Coach and host of Flirtations!, to talk all things flirting—how to build real chemistry, flirt without the ick, and…
Seeing Other PeopleMy BFF’s Love Story & What She Really Thought of My Dating Life
I’m joined by my childhood best friend Jessie — the one who’s seen me through every confusing situationship, career pivot, and major life change. We’re talking…
Seeing Other PeopleModern Love Is Exhausting—Here's Why with Dr. Morgan Cutlip
Author and Relationship Expert Dr. Morgan Cutlip joins me to unpack the invisible load we carry in relationships—why emotional and mental labor often falls on…
Seeing Other PeopleIntroducing: Cohosts for Life with Ilana & Jake
Cohosts for Life is our new Patreon weekly series where we (Ilana & Jake) sit down every Sunday—just the two of us—to reflect, laugh, vent, and share the real…
Seeing Other PeopleAlanna Vizzoni: "I'm Not Just a Cancer Survivor"
At 27, Alanna Vizzoni was diagnosed with breast cancer—and everything changed overnight. In this raw and honest conversation, she opens up about what it was…
Seeing Other PeopleYou're Never Too Much For The Right Person with Emma Paige
In this episode, I sit down with Emma Paige, host of 'too much.', to explore the twists, turns, and personal growth that led her to the love of her life. Emma…
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From Anxious to Secure: Hobbies, Healing & Hot Takes on Dating
In this solo catch-up, I’m giving you a life and mindset update from changing my Instagram handles to finally breaking through a running plateau that had me…
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Feeling Behind? You're Exactly Where You Need to Be
Carleigh Ferrante from the Mostly Dating Podcast is back again to discuss the joys and challenges of dating, relationships, and growing into yourself. We talk…
Seeing Other PeopleThis Mindset Shift Will Change Your (Dating) Life
In this episode, I sit down with executive coach and author Keren Eldad to explore how the same perfectionism and overachievement that drive success can also…
Seeing Other People"She Was Cheating On Me With Her Step Brother"
In today's episode, our anonymous guest from Louisiana shares the intense and tumultuous story of his longest relationship, which lasted four years. What…
Seeing Other PeopleWhy Some Breakups Feel Impossible (And How To Get Through Them)
I sit down with author, podcaster, and relationship coach Allison Raskin for a raw and insightful conversations about love, heartbreak, and moving forward…
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How to Stop Overthinking Every Text | Solo Q&A
Time for a solo episode! ’m catching up with you on everything that’s been on my mind—dating, friendships, and some personal struggles I’ve been working…
Seeing Other PeopleWhy Dating Feels Harder Than Ever (& How To Fix It)
Therapist Laura Caruso joins us to share her perspective on why so many people feel like the dating pool is worse than ever, the biggest mistakes people make…
Seeing Other People"Freezing My Eggs and Freeing Myself from Dating Anxiety"
Erica Borsak opens up about the realities of living alone, dating with a food allergy, and why she decided to freeze her eggs. She shares her experiences…
Seeing Other PeopleI Needed To Be Single To Be My Best Self with Greg Grippo
Greg Grippo opens up about life after The Bachelorette, his journey through grief, and finding happiness on his own. He shares why he took a year off from…
Seeing Other PeopleHow to Be a Good Friend When Your BFF Has a Baby
Your best friend, sibling, or coworker is pregnant or just had a baby—now what?! If you’ve ever wondered how to support a friend through pregnancy, postpartum…
Seeing Other PeopleWhy Your Relationships Keep Failing—And How to Fix Them ft. Yung Pueblo
In this episode, Diego Perez aka Yung Pueblo shares his journey from personal struggles and substance abuse to becoming a celebrated author and meditation…
Seeing Other PeopleWhy Everything Falling Apart Might Be the Best Thing for You
Stephanie Pavone joins us today to talk about her journey through heartbreak, growth, and self-discovery. She gets real about everything from crying in the…