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The Relationship-Smart podcast
Helping men, women and couples get smarter, happier and more connected in their intimate relationships.
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The Relationship-Smart podcast77. 4 barriers to good communication
4 Barriers to good communication We all want to be good at communication and we know how we want to communicate but sometimes things just get in the way. In…
The Relationship-Smart podcast76. How midlife and perimenopause impact our relationships with Dr Keri Krieger
Peri-menopause can really umpact us in midlife. This episode of the Relationship Smart Podcast featured Dr. Keri Krieger, an acupuncturist and Chinese medicine…
The Relationship-Smart podcast75. We care for everyone else at our own expense with Claire Stephensen
We care for everyone else at our own expense. Have you ever felt let down by care? Like you don't quite get the care you need? Like there isn't enough to go…
The Relationship-Smart podcast74. The highs and lows of loving someone on the spectrum
There are attachment and relational impacts of loving humans on the spectrumIn this episode I share:-my personal journey of living with and loving humans ont…
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73. Healing complex trauma in relationships with Dr Zoe Vilenica
In this episode I speak to Dr Zoe Vilenica, trauma specialist and somatic practice therapist. This episode comes with a trigger warning as we will be exploring…
The Relationship-Smart podcast72. How defensiveness creates disconnect - the difference between intent and impact
How Defensiveness Damages Intimacy (And What To Do Instead) Intent vs Impact in Relationships: Why Good Intentions Aren’t Enough Most partners are not trying…
The Relationship-Smart podcast71. Understanding the stories we tell ourselves about our relationships with Dr Di Harner
In this episode I speak to my colleague Dr Diane Harner, neuroscientist, counsellor and business coach. Together we explore how an understanding of…
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70. How to understand our Love Blueprints and find relationship peace with Heidi Louise
Join me and my guest Heid Louise as we discuss her book The Love Blueprint. You can find out more about Heid here, and get a copy of her book here, or on audio…
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69. Exploring Neurodivergence in Relationship
Join my guest Helen Sheehy and I as we explore neurodiversity in the realm of relationships You can find Helen at neurodivergence.live here and you buy her…
The Relationship-Smart podcast68. Same event, different story, Bridging the gap of your different view points
Two people can go through the same event and walk away with different stories about what happened. That’s right — same event, different story. And those…
The Relationship-Smart podcast67. The mistake we make in navigating conflict.
How are you in conflict? I hear so many clients ask me how to stop being so intense in their moments of conflict and I always answer that it is a great…
The Relationship-Smart podcast66. Why the Patriarchy makes us bitches
The Patriarchy does not serve any of us and it most definitely has it's gnarly tendrils in our homes and our relationship dynamics. The way that women respond…
The Relationship-Smart podcast65. All the pressures on the female libido
In this episode I explore a bunch of pressures on female libido that I see over an over and yet are not commonly thought of as desire stoppers. I am hoping…
The Relationship-Smart podcast64. Why we don't always love your solutions
Solutions are good right? I am just trying to help. Yes, but we actually find it really frustrating when we are sharing an issue and our partner jumps straight…
The Relationship-Smart podcast63. How to be who we truly are in relationship?
In this episode, I talk to my beautiful, soulful friend Kris Franken. So many people ask me how they can find themselves, be true to themselves and still be in…
The Relationship-Smart podcast62. Does your partner have sex tantrums?
Does your partner have sex tantrums? How does it make you feel? How do they feel? What is going on and how do you get out of the downward spiral of need…
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61. Why is intimacy so darn hard?
Intimacy (and I am not talking about sex), in my opinion is one of the hardest things in the whole world, but also, something that gives us the deepest most…
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Trailer - The Beauty Load podcast
Hello ,it's me Nicole Mathieson and I would like to introduce you to my brand new podcast; The Beauty Load, How to feel good enough in your body. This podcast…
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60: Slow living for better relationships with Rachelle Glendon
In this episode we talk to Slow Living coach Rachelle Glendon about the benefits of concsiously slowing down on all of our relationships. In this chat we talk…
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059: Why body image is a relationship issue
Why is a relationship coach / therapist writing a book about body image I hear you ask? That's because the Beauty Load, body image, how we feel about ourselves…
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058: Your man doesn't "get" your Beauty Load stress
Sometimes we feel wrong for feeling the Beauty Load, especially when our males partner's or friends just don't get it. But the stress and concern of the Beauty…
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057: The Beauty Load intro author reading
In this special Beauty Load episode of the podcast, I am reading the first chapter (the introduction) of my new book The Beauty Load, how to feel enough in a…
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056: What NOT to do with trauma and big emotions
There is a lot going on in the world at the moment that can leave us feeling a bit or a lot traumatised. I am inspired to share this "what not to do" episode…
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055: How to recover from body image shame
If there is one thing the Beauty Load pressure leaves us women with, it is a sense of shame. We are shamed on so many fronts on all aspects of our body and…
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054: A few reasons why I wrote another beauty book
There are a lot of books out there about loving our body and the issues that come with it, so why have I written another book about it? In this episode I share…
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053: Managing stress in your relationship
How do you manage stress in your relationship? How does it feel when your partner is stressed? How do you respond? How do they respond to you? Stress can be a…
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52: Cards to help couples reconnect
In this episode, I speak to Emily, who with her partner Sean, created Yum cards for couples. We talk about how these cards help couples reconnect and why…
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051: You are not going to get rid of your suffering
You are not going to get rid of your suffering and that's okay. We do not need to be wrapped in cotton wool and protected from all the harshness to be okay…
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050: Your libido needs you to find you a bit sexier
How does the way you look or feel in your body influence your desire? Research shows that us women, in general, need to feel ourselves sexy in order to feel…
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049: Stop cementing your relationship in
We want certainty in our relationships. We say..."I'll be happy when there is a ring on my finger or we buy that house or we have kids or whatever" Which makes…
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048: Navigating break ups with Mackenzie Eason
Break ups can be devastating. They are without a doubt big events in our lives. Which is why we need Mackenzie, a break-up specialist. Mackenzie and I chat…
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047: Relationships and sex after babies
So much happens to your relationship and your sex life after you have kids. Everything changes. Your roles, your sex life, how you spend your time, how you see…
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046: Gathering your toolkit
This episode comes back to the basics of how to get grounded and centred and calm ourselves down, because you know.....life. It is super important, especially…
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045: Self regulation is sexy part 2
Following on from Self regulation part 1, this episode explores the "how" of self regulation. How do you calm and soothe yourself so that you can be more of a…
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044: Self regulation is sexy part 1
Self regulation is sexy. Learning to calm and soothe yourself in your relationship is a skill that will help bring all the things to your relationship life…
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043: How to manage relationships under lockdown
In this episode my colleague Ebony from Little Window counselling comes and interviews me. Ebony asks me lots of questions about how to manage our…
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042: Managing anxiety part 2 - connecting deeper within
Managing anxiety part 2 - Connecting deeper within How do we stay calm and centred and resilient when there is so much craziness going on? There is so much…
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041: Managing anxiety part 1 - Mindfulness
Managing anxiety part 1 - Mindfulness. How do we stay calm and centred and resilient when there is so much craziness going on? There is so much exposure to…
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040: Coping with the mental load
The mental load is a thing and it can cause disconnection in your most important and intimate relationships. Just this last week, I have personally been…
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039: Communicate better in your relationship
Communication with my husband about anything that mattered used to make me want to run in the other direction. I would try to say stuff, but I would always say…
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038: Permission to be messy with Katie Dean
Katie Dean is a woman who gives us permission to be ourselves; human. imperfect and messy. Listen as we chat about; The pressure we put on ourselves Katie's…
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037: Aging gracefully with Sirgun Lindsay German
I am back talking to my dear friend and kundalini yoga teacher Sirgun Lindsay German. Today we are talking about aging gracefully. What happens to us as women…
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036: Why we are not having much sex - A letter to your husband
A letter to your husband with the reason we are not being intimate aka: having (much) sex. Hello honey, I just wanted to write and let you know a few things…
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035: He pulls away when I want more
Does he even care about me? When I ask for more, then he pulls away from me. As far as the dance of intimacy goes, this is a common relational pattern. It goes…
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034: I need you to be different with Sandi Phillips-Meyler
Whenever I am feeling stuck or like I am neck deep in the struggle, there is one thing that always helps - listening to some Abraham Hicks. There is something…
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033: How numb are your lady parts? with Tamra Mercieca
Are your lady parts numb? How much feeling is down there? Tamra Mercieca is all about self-love, and she means on every level. Which means that Tamra really…
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032: Get off the orgasm train to revive your sex life
I had a revelation recently, it was that the western culture of sexuality really didn’t suit me. In fact, I am pretty sure it doesn’t suit a lot of us. What I…
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031: Sex is like food with Jacqueline Hellyer
Are you ready for my first interview in 2 years?! Yes? Good! If your partner were to feed you eggplant for dinner every night, and you didn't like eggplant…
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030: The chasm between us
Babe, I want to talk to you, but I can’t find the words, so I am writing to you instead. I want you to know that I am thinking of you and us. I know that you…
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029: My partner won't go to counselling, what should I do?
He won’t go to counselling, what should I do? This is a common tale in the realms of hetero-sexual relationships. The wife wants to go to couple counselling…
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028: Clear relationship negativity
Clear out your relationship negativity When we talk about clearing your relationship negativity, what we are really talking about is clearing your resentment…
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027: How to find YOU in your relationship
"I feel lost in my marriage. I don't even know who I am anymore!" This is a common cry from women in my relationship coaching office. Do you feel like YOU in…
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026: Stop the anger. 3 ways to feel more love in your relationship now.
Several years ago, I was stuck in a dark place in my marriage. This darkness seeped out as anger – I would storm and bang around the house in a passive…
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025: Why do I get so angry at my husband
It is easy to make sense of this when we are stressed out by life, work, kids and pressure from every direction. Of course, we are going to have moments when…
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024: Why am I such a bitch to the one I love?
You thought you were the only one who was mean to their beloved. Sadly, or perhaps, reassuringly, that is not the case. You are in good company. Being a bitch…
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023: 10 ways you could be damaging your marriage
Are you worried that you are damaging your marriage? You find yourself being mean and bitchy to the one you love. You feel stuck in negative thoughts about…
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022: Feel sexier without changing a thing
Do you feel sexy? In the past I never felt that sexy. But now something has changed. In fact, at this point in my life I am sexier than I have ever been and it…
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022: How joy transforms your relationship
What happens to your relationship when you are tired and depleted. When you feel like all you have done all day, all week, all year is look after other people…
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021: Attachment style - Understand your attachment style, understand your relationship
Understand your attachment style Relationships can be baffling. But there is a way to understand why we react the way we do. In my client sessions, one of the…
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020: Repair after an argument
Learn to repair. If you’re feeling worried about the fights, arguments or tense moments between you and your partner. If they seem to sit there, looming like a…