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Survivors guilt
We discuss how feelings of unworthiness or unjustified luck can affect people in recovery when they see their peers lapse or die. We also consider how survivor…
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Building self trust
What makes us lose trust in ourselves, and how can we rebuild it once it's gone? If you've lost faith in yourself as a result of addiction or any other mental…
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Holidays in recovery
Is it safe to go on holiday when you're in early recovery? What are the risks and how can you mitigate them? This week, we address these questions, and more…
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Feeling Hollow
What does a feeling of emptiness really mean? Does it indicate there's something seriously wrong, or can it be a point of punctuation and a sign you need a…
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How to deliver bad news
Delivering bad news is something most of us find difficult, so you might find these tips on how to do it successfully quite useful. We also explore the dangers…
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Compassion Fatigue
This week, we're talking about what happens when you allow your care for other people's emotional wellbeing to overshadow the need to take proper care of…
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Things to avoid saying to someone in recovery
This week we're talking about how to avoid unhelpful and disrespectful remarks to people in recovery, many of which say more about the person asking than they…
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Social Loafing
This week, we're talking about how some of us make less effort when we think our contribution won't be noticed. A man turns up in A&E with an unexploded bomb…
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DTD (Developmental Topographical Disorientation)
This week, we're talking about getting lost easily and how it can lead to unfair and painful levels of criticism. A woman employs a counterintuitive way to…
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How To Live A Good LIfe
This week we're talking about the components that help us get the most from our lives. A woman becomes unbelievably wealthy when buying a cup of coffee…
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Why it's hard to escape from addiction
This week, we're trying to explain why so many people remain addicted to drink and drugs even when they can see how much damage it's doing. A professional…
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How To be Kind
This week, we're talking about kindness, how to demonstrate more of it and what it feels like when we do. We're recording on the first day of February which…
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Dry January
This week, we have a look at the popular 'Dry January' campaign and consider the potential benefits and drawbacks it represents. We also discuss why long term…
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Tolerance v Acceptance
This week we're discussing the difference between tolerance and acceptance. There's a drunk racoon, vaccination chat, and I am back to my usual disappointing…
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SAD - Seasonal Affective Disorder
This week we're talking about the way the shift in seasons and the changing of the clocks is a point in the year when many of us find our emotional resilience…
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Overexplaining
This week we're talking about the tendency to explain too much, a habit that emerges from insecurity in the explainer and often has little to do with the…
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Body Doubling
This week we're talking about an effective way of keeping yourself on track or reducing feelings of overwhelm when you're facing practical and/or emotional…
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Shunishment
We're back! This week, we're having a conversation about 'shunishment' which might be a word you've never heard of that describes manipulative and controlling…
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Finding the right sponsor
This week we're discussing the red flags you might come across when you work with a sponsor in one of the fellowships and what you can do about it if it…
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How To Remember What You Learn
This week, we're talking about how we forget most of what we learn and consider ways of improving retention. Some friends, having messed with hallucinogens…
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Overthinking
This week, we're talking about how we get in our own way by making things too complicated and failing to establish helpful strategies for getting stuff done. I…
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Self-nudging
This week, we're talking about how to avoid putting barriers up to prevent our own progress and how small incremental improvements add up to a lot. There's…
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Social Thinning
This week, we're talking about the early developmental experiences that might have a significant impact on your ability to establish and sustain relationships…
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Dealing with criticism
This week, we discuss the perils of slipping on fruit, fear of vending machines, and the joy of greenhouses and short trousers. If that weren't enough, we…
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Meaning v Purpose
This week Martin has some wisdom related to the classic film, 'Citizen Kane'. It's the first episode we've recorded while sitting in the same room for five…
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Dealing with other peoples opinions
This week we're talking about how to keep your composure when someone tells you that Charlie Chaplin films are funny. A mother steals ice cream from her child…
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Improving memory
This week we're talking about ways of boosting your brain so that you don't find it as hard to remember who had the best selling single in 1974 (Mud - Tiger…
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Body Clock
This week, we're investigating the circadian rhythm, cyber-farting, big bags of flour, and the joy of early morning light…
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Body Language
This week, we're talking about how much of our communication relies on what we do with our bodies. There's all the usual guff but I can't be more specific than…
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Alexithymia
This week we're discussing a neuropsychological condition that prevents individuals from expressing and identifying emotions. We wonder why so many sports have…
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Sentimental value
This week, we're discussing the things that make us feel wistful and sentimental, even though they often have no intrinsic value other than the sentiment we…
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Living Alone
This week, we're discussing the benefits of living alone, especially for those in early recovery. Over a cup of masala chai (me) we also cover shopping from…
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Core Values
This week we're discussing how we develop the core beliefs and values that provide direction for the way we live our lives, and consider the experiences that…
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Facial Leakage
This week we're discussing how your face conveys messages you'd sometimes rather it didn't. Martin reveals a curmudgeonly attitude toward the clocks changing…
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Changing Your Mind
We're back. This week, along with the usual inane chat, we're discussing why we might change our minds and differentiating between the healthy and…
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Toxic Positivity
This week, for our final episode before a summer break, we're talking about how we block our own or others' genuine feelings so that we don't have to face the…
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Breadcrumbing
This week we're discussing 'breadcrumbing', a close relation of 'ghosting'. A man finds himself in the midst of an earthquake at a most inopportune time, and…
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Personal Space
This week, we're talking about the importance of appropriate personal space. We also cover urinal etiquette and good manners when driving through a traffic…
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Imposter Syndrome
This week we're talking about why we sometimes feel out of our depth without much evidence in support. I do some research on mangoes, a man wears inappropriate…
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Being Authentic
This week we're talking about the importance of being your true self, whoever that is. Neither of us bothers to look out for the Northern Lights but we both…
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All or Nothing Thinking
This week we're talking about why it's unhelpful to always think about things in terms of good and bad without anything in between A man has an unusual…
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Psychological Body Armour
This week, we're talking about how we prepare ourselves emotionally for challenging situations. We hear about a man who goes to great lengths to avoid getting…
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You Are What You Wear
This week we're talking about what your clothes say about you and the way that our emotional state might influence what we choose to wear. A woman tries to…
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Building Confidence in Recovery
This week we're talking about ways to bolster your confidence so that you can occupy your rightful place in the world with assertiveness and comfort. Someone…
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Losing Focus
This week we're talking about why we have trouble maintaining focus, what it might say about us and how to manage it better. Martin recalls being waterboarded…
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False Memory
This week we're talking about the things we've forgotten that we think we remember even though what we come up with might be a complete fabrication. A goat is…