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Confirmation Bias
This week we’re talking about how we can become experts at looking for evidence in support of beliefs we already hold, and the ways it can be destructive. We…
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Platitudes
This week, I've been in Scotland and so we recorded in a rush without any time to do a proper edit. It's a mark of our "professionalism" that you probably…
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Exaggeration
This week we're talking about why people feel the need to embellish the truth and how it often comes from a place of low self-confidence. We wonder what it…
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Managing Your Inner Dialogue
This week we're discussing the ways we can harness our inevitable self-talk. Martin does a survey on anchovies, and a pigeon is held captive for eight months…
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Being Let Down
This week, we're talking about why it hurts when someone lets us down, how we can avoid it happening, and what to do if it does. Other than that, we hear about…
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Expert Mindset
This week we're discussing thinking you know everything already and how that expert mindset can often limit your opportunities to grow intellectually and…
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Beginner's Mindset
This week we're talking about the benefits of going into situations without assuming any prior knowledge, and how even if you're a relative expert, keeping an…
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Adaptability
This week we’re talking about why it’s important to be adaptable in recovery and life generally. To illustrate our ability to adapt to random subjects we find…
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Genetics In Addiction
This week we’re talking about some of the biological and genetic factors that might make problems with addiction more likely. Neither of us claims to be…
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Festive Anxiety
This week, if you’re wondering why you’d been feeling so stressed and anxious about the festive period that we’ve just hauled our way through, we might have…
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Memory Loss
This week we’re talking about the impact too much alcohol can have on your memory. Martin introduces me to the concept of moon bathing, we hear about a…
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Interventions 2
This week, we inadvertently select a topic we covered earlier in the year and then worried that we might have contradicted ourselves within the space of six…
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Being An Empath
This week we’re talking about what happens when you don’t or can’t seem to limit the empathy you feel for others. We discuss, where it originates, why it can…
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Admiration
This week we’re talking about why we sometimes find it hard to celebrate other people’s success and how helpful it is to do so. We wonder how God feels about…
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Abundance Mindset
This week, after our discussion last time about scarcity mindset, we're balancing things out with some thoughts about why an abundance mindset is far…
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Scarcity Mindset
This week we're talking about the negative impacts of worrying that you won't have enough, regardless of whether you're right or not. Martin waxes lyrical…
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Classical Music
This week we're talking about the physical, emotional and mental benefits of listening to classical music. Martin tells us about a surprising and inappropriate…
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Haunted By The Past
This week, having recently spoken about anxiety, an emotion that lives in the future, we're turning our attention to the ways we become burdened by the past. I…
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Hiding In Plain Sight
This week we're talking about some of the reasons alcohol is treated differently in society from other drugs. I get antsy about technology updates, Martin has…
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Receiving Compliments
This week we're talking about why we find giving and recieving compliments so awkward, what it says about us, and how to change it. There's squirrel talk, a…
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Self Sabotage
This week we're discussing all the methods we use to get in our own way. Procrastination, perfectionism, low self-esteem, disconnection, and lots more. I help…
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Five Signs Of Addiction
We're back, and this week we're talking about five common signs that you've developed or are developing a dependence on a substance or behaviour. There are…
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We're Back...Soon
A short trailer to let you know that we've had enough of being without you and are looking forward to returning next week…
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How To Feel Inspired
In the last episode of this season, we're talking about how we create conditions for inspiration. We reminisce about bringing games into school on the last day…
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How To Make Decisions
This week we're talking about why we find it hard to make decisions and what we can do about it. There's money to be made from scaring birds, especially those…
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Supporting Or Enabling?
This week we're talking about the fine line between supportive behaviour and the point at which it slips into enabling a continuation of the problem that…
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Underestimating Yourself
This week, we're talking about doubting your own ability and why there is no benefit in believing the worst about who you are and what you can do. If that…
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Easily Influenced
This week we’re talking about how and why we’re easily led astray. During a conversation about library fines, I make a long overdue confession, Martin is…
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Searching For Identity
This week, we're discussing how much we struggle to know who we are, especially through difficult periods of our lives and how who you were yesterday is almost…
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Reframing Negative Thoughts
This week we're talking about ways to rethink our negative thoughts and I make the lofty claim that there is no negative thought that cannot be reframed…
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Dealing With Endings
This week we're talking about why we find it hard to face the end of things, even when they have been destructive and painful. We discuss too, the space…
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Interventions
This week we're discussing what makes us feel the need to tell other people what they ought to do, why it never works and what we might be better off trying…
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Playing The Victim
This week we’re discussing why people place themselves in the position of victim when all it does is render them incapable of taking action to change the…
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Cross Addiction
This week we’re talking about how giving up one addiction can lead you straight into the arms of another one if you aren’t on your guard, and we explore the…
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Preconceived Ideas
This week we’re talking about the damage we do to ourselves and other people when we allow our mistaken conscious and unconscious beliefs to dictate the way we…
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The Four C's Of Addiction
This week Martin takes use through some keys ways in which its possible to identify addiction distinct from other mental health difficulties. We manage to move…
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Myths About Sobriety
This week we're debunking some of the common misconceptions around sobriety that keep people from putting down their drink and drugs. Martin has some startling…
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Causes Of Relapse
This week we're looking at some of the reasons people give for relapse and discuss ways in which such self-destructive action can be avoided. We reminisce…
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Coping With Change
This week we're talking about the things that it's best not to change in the first year of recovery to make sure you keep yourself on track. Martin and I…
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The Importance Of Connection
This week we're talking about human relationships and the way in which they are the most consistent predictor of long, happy and healthy lives. Martin develops…
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Tuning In To Shit FM
This week we turn our attention to rumination and explore the reasons why we can't get out of destructive circular thoughts and what to do about it. We…
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Codependency
This week we're talking about the destructive nature of codependency and how it can keep everyone involved in a relationship with a codependent in an unhealthy…
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Controlling Behaviour
This week we're talking about how having people in your life who want to control everything can be incredibly irritating if reasonably harmless at one end of…
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Motivation
This week we're talking about motivation. What causes us to feel demotivated, how do we increase our motivation, and what is the difference between motivation…
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The 12 Gifts Of Sobriety
This week Martin uses the well-known Christmas song as a thin veil for twelve benefits gained from sobriety. It's really quite uplifting. We wonder why Holst…
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Reinventing Yourself
This week we're talking about how we change, why it's inevitable and how personality is not a fixed point. Martin is concerned about some frogs but not as…
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Elephant In The Room
If you've ever avoided talking about something that clearly needs talking about you will be failing to address the "elephant in the room" and we're determined…
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Am I Invisible?
What factors contribute to feeling disrespected, overlooked, and undervalued? This week we're looking at how we become marginalised and the part we can play in…
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Silencing Your Inner Critic
This week we're talking about where that negative self-talk comes from and how to successfully tune out and stop listening to it. Martin is celebrating his…
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Self-Reflection
This week we're talking about the benefits of being alone with your own thoughts and how we can make fewer mistakes and accelerate our personal growth by…
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People Pleasing
This week we're talking about why we relentlessly deprioritise our own needs in favour of other people's, where such destructive behaviour comes from, and what…