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Assertiveness
This week we're talking about why we find it hard to be assertive and how we can learn to get better at it. My virtual beret-wearing prompts a chat about…
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Can We Expect To Be Understood?
This week we're talking about the frustration it can cause when we crave to be understood but other people seem unable or unwilling to do so. It's a problem…
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We're Back..Almost
As a prelude to the resumption of episodes on September 29th, we got together around the old creaky dining room table to chat about summer, towels, and what…
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Taking A Break
This week, as a precursor to our summer holiday, we are talking about the benefits of taking a break. We discuss what you have to gain from a little rest and…
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Intrusive Thoughts
This week we're talking about intrusive thoughts. Where they come from, why they tend to be so alarming, and what we can do to reduce their power. In addition…
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Getting Things Into Perspective
This week we're talking about why we tend to blow things out of proportion to our detriment and what we can do in order to try and avoid it. There are some…
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Loneliness or Solitude?
This week we're talking about the difference between feeling lonely and enjoying the solitude of spending time with someone you love (ie you). In what I think…
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Panic Attack
This week we're talking about panic attacks and how dealing with them is not only challenging but counterintuitive. Martin tells me we can't take a break, even…
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Why We Don't Take Advice
This week we're talking about why offering advice might not be as good an idea as helping someone decide for themselves that change is needed. Martin forgets…
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What Is Normal?
This week we're discussing the myth of normality and how when people say, "I just want to feel normal," they mostly mean that they just don't want to feel like…
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Who Are You?
This week we’re talking about Phil Daniels in the film Quadrophenia, or rather the issue of multiple identities that the film deals with. Martin gets excited…
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Thursday 17th
This week we’re talking about rituals and how they can be both destructive and constructive. I wear a beret for easter, Martin has new information about…
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Dealing With Uncertainty
This week we're talking about how to cope when nothing feels solid enough to rely on. I get excited about pressure cookers, hit upon a flawed plan to finally…
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Popularity
This week we're discussing the difference between being likeable and having status and why you're better off in the long-term developing one in favour of the…
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Gaslighting
This week we're talking about what to do if you're in a relationship where you're constantly being told that everything is your fault to the extent that you…
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Perseverance
This week we're talking about how to keep going when you feel you've reached the point where you can't take another step. We sing the praises of hard graft and…
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Positive People
This week we're talking about the importance of surrounding yourself with people who have a positive outlook and why it makes such a difference when you can…
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Family Matters
This week we've got a guest! We're talking to KL Wells, founder, and CEO of "Voices In Courage" an online community created to support the loved ones of people…
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Blue Monday
This week we're discussing what is supposed to be the most depressing day of the year although I for one am happy to declare myself a dissenting voice. Martin…
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Inspiration
This week Martin & I record an entire episode without pressing the record button and have to do the whole thing all over again. I imagine you find us quite…
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Expectations
This week, we're talking about what we expect from ourselves and others, and how that can sometimes make life much harder and more disappointing than we'd like…
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Judging Books By Their Covers
This week we're talking about how we make judgements about people long before we have enough information to form an accurate opinion. Martin comes clean about…
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Christmas Stress
This week we're talking about the things that cause most of us stress at Christmas but might pose particular problems for anyone in recovery. Martin struggles…
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Making Mistakes
This week we're talking about messing things up and the way we respond when we inevitably do it. There's a lot of talk about seasonal fruit, the appearance of…
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Resourcefulness
This week we’re talking about the genius ways in which addicts can source their drugs of choice, hide them up from prying eyes, and generally give the…
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Office Christmas Party
This week we're talking about the dangers of attending the work Christmas party, especially for those in recovery. We consider some of the strategies you might…
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Perfectionism
This week we're talking about the tyranny of perfectionism, how some people wear it proudly like a badge of honour, and how it is really nothing of the sort…
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Asking For Help
This week we're discussing the reasons why we often find it hard to ask for help even when we desperately need it. We talk about how we're not the only one's…
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Rebuilding Trust
This week we're talking about what we need to do in order to rebuild others' trust in us when we have done something that has hurt or disappointed them. We…
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Abstinence v Recovery
This week, in response to a question we got from a listener, we're debating the difference between abstinence and recovery. Martin finds it difficult to show…
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Growth Mindset v Fixed Mindset
This week we're talking about the difference it can make to overcoming mental health difficulties when you believe that you can. While trusting the process of…
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Sympathy & Empathy
This week we're talking about why empathy is far more valuable than sympathy, and how the former creates connection while the latter tends to break it. Martin…
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Dealing With Trauma
This week we're talking about trauma. Where it comes from, what it looks like, and how we might go about treating it. We also have a conversation about dead…
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Making An Ass Out Of You And Me
This week we're talking about assumptions. We discuss why we're obsessed with making up things we don't really know and why it tends to have a really…
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Dealing With Rejection
This week we're talking about why rejection hurts so much, what makes us take everything so personally, and why it's often better to let go at the times when…
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How To Make Decisions
This week we're talking about why we find it hard to make decisions, why we say yes when we mean no, and how we can relieve our stress and anxiety by…
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How To Know What's Important
This week we're talking about how to work out what matters most in life and to prioritise that instead of wasting time flicking through pictures of cats…
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How To Self-Soothe
This week we're talking about how to take care of our own needs in a positive and sustainable way, making sure that we move away from self-destruction and…
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Letting Go Of Resentment
This week we're talking about why seeking revenge when we feel hurt by someone else never gives us the resolution we're looking for. We debate the importance…
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Alien Abduction
This week we're discussing the reasons why reported abductions by aliens have reduced in number over the past year or so and what it might have to do with…