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Unrelenting Standards
This week we're talking about why some of us have a tendency to hold ourselves to impossibly high standards and take responsibility for things that don't work…
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The Gift Of Alcohol
This week we're discussing the perils of gifting alcohol. What might seem like a benign and thoughtful gesture could when given to the wrong person, create a…
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The Myth Of Addictive Personality
This week, we're discussing the much-believed myth that you can be born with an addictive personality and we identify some of the real reasons you're likely to…
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Are You OCD?
This week we're talking about why the phrase, "I'm a little bit OCD," or "She's a bit of an alcoholic" can never be true. We discuss the difference between OCD…
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The Joy Of Balance
This week we're talking about how we establish emotional balance, what it actually is, and, once we've got it balanced, how we can keep it there. We also…
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What Is Failure?
This week we're talking about failure. What is it? Is it bad? Should we avoid it, or does it actually do us some good? We also discuss eye injections, imposter…
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How To Deal With Shame
This week we're talking about the difference between shame and guilt, why we feel shame in the first place, and what we can do to let go of it. We ask…
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Snooze Button
This week we're talking about all the destructive ways we have a tendency to put our lives on hold and why we prefer waiting for the world to change instead of…
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Holiday Stress
This week we're talking about why holidays are full of potential pitfalls for the recovering addict, and how to make sure you get the time you need to relax…
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Lockdown Lifting Anxiety
This week we're talking about the mixed feelings many people have towards the lifting of social restrictions. For some of us the change in our lives has been…
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Who's To Blame?
This week we're talking about why we blame other people instead of taking responsibility ourselves, and why it keeps us stuck in an uncomfortable place we'd…
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How To Build Trust
This week we're talking about how easily trust is destroyed and how it takes a great deal of effort and far more time than we'd like to build it back up…
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Life After Rehab
This week we're talking about how to sustain recovery after a period in detox, rehab, or following any period of emotional difficulty that has knocked you off…
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How To Set Boundaries
This week we're talking about how we keep ourselves safe from the world, and the world safe from us. I give you a little exercise to do so that you can see how…
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It's Never Too Late
This week we're talking about whether it's ever too late to make positive changes to our lives. We also discuss the frustration of dropping things down the…
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How To Beat Procrastination
This week we're talking about the various ways in which we put things off and procrastinate, even when it makes our lives difficult and costs us money. We…
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How To Measure Success
This week we're talking about how we decide whether or not we're "measuring up" and whether it's always a good thing to be bothered about anyway. Martin throws…
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Half An Orange
In this week's episode, we're discussing why it's so hard to sit and relax, especially if you have come to measure your value as a human being by considering…
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Shock Of Recognition
This week we're talking about the occasions on which we bump into people we don't expect to see and how, in some circumstances, it can be unsettling. Martin…
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Forgiveness
This week we're talking about something that a lot of people find hard when it involves someone else and even harder when it doesn't, forgiveness. We discuss…
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Goodbye To All That
This week we're reviewing the year and discussing some of our favourite episodes. We're also questioning the wisdom of New Year's resolutions and I finally…
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Christmas Confessions
In this second festive episode (because we got confused about the dates) Martin tells us a Christmas story he's never told before. We discuss more terrible…
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Comfortably Numb
This week we're discussing disconnection, Pink Floyd, guitar solos, and soft furnishings. We also find a little space for personal growth and a mutual…
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Please Drink Responsibly
This week Martin is having a rant about the lip service paid to problem drinking and gambling by drinks and gambling companies. We both express frustration…
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Come Dine With Me & Anxiety Disorders
This week we're talking OCD and exploring the notion that alcohol "cooks out" when you add it to a recipe. I experience some food-related euphoric recall and…
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Missed Opportunities
This week we're talking about the regret that comes from not having made changes sooner. We discuss whether it might be possible to look at a different part of…
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Nine Years Sober
This week we're celebrating Martin's ninth anniversary of sobriety and I take the opportunity to ask him about what he's learned and what advice and wisdom he…
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The A Word
This week we are discussing why people find it so hard to use the word "alcoholic" in reference to their own destructive relationship with drink, and we talk…
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Why We Need To Belong
In this week's episode, we are talking about what it means to belong and why it is so important to our mental health. Martin tells us a story that is his own…
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Why We Make Excuses
This week we're talking about the elaborate excuses we come up with to justify our drinking and the ones we have to think up after we've been out and left…
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Just Say No
This week we're discussing a campaign from the 1980s which had the backing of the First Lady in the US but that took a rather hopelessly simplistic approach to…
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Why Is Technology So Addictive?
This week we're talking about the dependency we have on our tech devices, why we find them so hard to put down, and the impact that it has on our lives. Martin…
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A Cure For Loneliness
This week we're talking about the difference between loneliness and being alone, and we examine why it's so important to be OK in our own company, and why it's…
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How To Recover
This week we're talking about the routes to recovery and why there aren't any shortcuts. I make a mistake with the recording, we discuss the merits of Lucozade…
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The Truth About Alcohol Free Beer
This week we're talking about why alcohol-free beer isn't a good option for everyone. We're discussing what it actually is, what it has to do with a 1970's…
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Drowning In Or Drowning Out Emotion
This week we're talking about why it's important to face all of our emotions, especially the ones we don't want to face. We explore why we lose faith in our…
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Denial By Proxy
This week we're talking about why on earth people around you might try and convince you that you don't have an addiction problem when you have finally come to…
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How To Deal With Anger
This week we're talking about an emotion that gets most of us into bother at one time or another. We're trying to work out why anger gets such a bad press and…
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Hospital Visits
This week we're talking about how Martin's recent visit to hospital resulted in him being followed around by ghosts from the past. There's also a timely…
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Dealing With Pressure
This week, as Martin recovers from a medical procedure, I kindly set him some homework he could do from his sickbed. I asked him to watch a documentary about…
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Wedding Days
This week we're talking about the difficulties faced by the recovering alcoholic when invited to a wedding. We also hear a story which usurps the one Martin…
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Dealing With Grief
This week, we're talking about a subject most of us don't want to think about, even though facing it is the only way to get through it. One of the ways we try…
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Who Are You?
In this week's episode we're talking about the roles we play and the ways in which we define ourselves. We're asking one another how we'd like to be remembered…
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Toxic Relationships
In this week's episode, we're talking about why on earth we allow ourselves to get stuck in relationships that are not only dissatisfying but which actually do…
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Tony Slattery
In this week's episode, we are talking about a celebrity whose star shone particularly brightly in the '90s but whose fall from grace was equally noteworthy…
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Time Travel
In this week's episode, the first in season 2, we're discussing the benefit of being able to go back in time and fix the things that we feel went wrong earlier…
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Catrastrophising
This week we're talking about how good we can become at telling ourselves everything is going to be an absolute disaster, even though we're frequently wrong…
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Portuguese Model
This week we're off to Portugal, in a virtual sense, and talking about how they tackled the serious problems they had with addiction. We're asking why more…
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Doing Impressions
In this week's episode, we are talking about how we pretend that everything is OK even when it most definitely isn't and exploring why we might be so…
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Bottom Sniffer
This week we're talking about how Martin played "fast and loose" with his recovery in the early days and what buying beer for your pets has to do with buying a…