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Heal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Relational Recovery When You Have CPTSD
The CPTSD podcast for adults who grew up in dysfunctional families and are done repeating the pattern in their adult relationships. When you grow up in a house full of trauma, you develop a lot of coping skills just to survive, and it turns out what was adaptive then isn't so helpful in adult romantic relationships. I'm Dr. Tanner Wallace, former professor turned IFS Certified Practitioner, and in this podcast I share what I've learned about relational recovery when you suffer with CPTSD, so…
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- Heal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Relational Recovery When You Have CPTSD
013. You Can't Forgive What's Still Going On
You can't forgive what is still going on. I heard that line in a training this morning and it stopped me, because it explains why so many of us get stuck…
- Heal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Relational Recovery When You Have CPTSD
012. Why Therapy Isn't Working
You can go to therapy every week for years with the best intentions and still not resolve the thing you came in with. Most of us quit when we're tired, or…
- Heal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Relational Recovery When You Have CPTSD
011. Begging Someone Not to Leave
If you've ever begged someone to stay, you know the feeling underneath it: that you're a freak, an outlier, and this relationship might be the only one you…
- Heal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Relational Recovery When You Have CPTSD
010. When You Can't Say Goodbye
If you can't leave a relationship, you can't choose it either. You can only stay by default, and a default isn't a decision. This episode is about the…
- Heal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Relational Recovery When You Have CPTSD
009. Standing Up for Yourself in Your Relationship
Standing up for yourself isn't a skill you're missing. It's a position you can't hold while Parts of you are running trauma energies to manage what feels like…
- Heal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Relational Recovery When You Have CPTSD
008. How Do I Know What a Healthy Relationship Is for Me? Choosing a Partner After Childhood Trauma
A listener wrote to me this week with a question I hear constantly from survivors of childhood trauma: how do I clearly choose what a healthy relationship is…
- Heal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Relational Recovery When You Have CPTSD
007. Your Childhood and How It Impacts Your Adult Relationships
Bad things happen to every kid. What turns a bad thing into complex trauma is what came after: whether the adults helped you regain a sense of safety, and…
- Heal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Relational Recovery When You Have CPTSD
006. Controlling Behavior Means Your No Is Being Overridden
With complex trauma, we take the blame for bad things happening in our relationships. But controlling behavior isn't a character flaw. It's what a person does…
- Heal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Relational Recovery When You Have CPTSD
005. CPTSD Red Flags in Relationships: The Ones You Miss
Not sure about your relationship? Is it healthy, unhealthy, fixable, or not? These are key questions many of us have, but we struggle to get answers that make…
- Heal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Relational Recovery When You Have CPTSD
004. Is This Behavior Making Things Worse?
Often I get asked, "Why isn't this getting better?" And when I do, I often run a "Reach Inventory." This episode is a modified lecture from a core CPTSD…
- Heal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Relational Recovery When You Have CPTSD
003. Why Your Relationships Are So Messed Up
You didn't choose to be a childhood trauma survivor. That's something I want you to remember. And yet, your childhood trauma has impacted your life…
- Heal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Relational Recovery When You Have CPTSD
002. Relational Empowerment As The Second Experience
Learning how to be your own co-regulator is life-changing and knowing that no one is coming to save you is the ultimate leadership amplifier, and YET those are…
- Heal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Relational Recovery When You Have CPTSD
001. Individual Empowerment As The First Experience
Getting your heart broken again and again is horrific. It doesn't have to be this way for you anymore, and I would like to teach you how this exausting…
- Heal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Relational Recovery When You Have CPTSD
054. Getting Flooded: What Real Self-Soothing Looks Like
You know the moment. Something lands, a tone, a silence, a left-on-read, and suddenly you're underwater. The flood comes fast and it takes the whole system…