054. Getting Flooded: What Real Self-Soothing Looks Like

Heal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Relational Recovery When You Have CPTSD · Jun 19, 2026 · 1m

You know the moment. Something lands, a tone, a silence, a left-on-read, and suddenly you're underwater. The flood comes fast and it takes the whole system with it. In this episode I want to name that moment with real precision, because most of us don't even have language for what's happening to us when abandonment hijacks the body. It isn't weakness and it isn't you being "too much." It's a response that makes complete sense once you understand it. I also want to be careful here, because "self-soothing" is a phrase that gets thrown around in ways that don't actually serve survivors like us…