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Around the Kinky Kampfire Podcast
Kinky, Queer, Non-monogamy, some geeky, and all things in-between. Working to make Kink and Non-Monogamy no longer a stigma. New episodes Thursdays!
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Episodes
- Around the Kinky Kampfire Podcast
What If Rejection Is Not About You | S5 EP151 (FLASHBACK)
Send us Fan Mail Rejection is part of dating, flirting, and relationships, but rejection sensitivity can turn a normal “not interested” into a full-body alarm…
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How To Understand Your Social Battery As An Ambivert | S5 EP150 (FLASHBACK)
Send us Fan Mail Some days you’re the person holding court. Other days you’re counting minutes until you can go home and be quiet. If that sounds familiar…
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A Clear Guide To The Asexual Spectrum And The Many Kinds Of Attraction | S5 EP149 (FLASHBACK)
Send us Fan Mail Sex is not the only reason people get close, and pretending it is makes a lot of us feel broken for no good reason. We unpack asexuality (ace)…
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How To Use Love Languages To Communicate Better With Anyone | S5 EP148 (FLASHBACK)
Send us Fan Mail If you’ve ever thought, “I’m doing everything and it still doesn’t land,” love languages explain the gap. We take the popular five love…
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When Fiction Opens The Door To Real Education: SmutLovers 2024 | S5 EP147 (FLASHBACK)
Send us Fan Mail Smut Lovers 2024 isn’t just a book convention, it’s a live intersection of romance fiction, BDSM education, queer community, and the messy…
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You Can Do BDSM Without Having Sex | S5 EP146 (FLASHBACK)
Send us Fan Mail People hear BDSM and immediately picture sex, but that shortcut causes a ton of confusion, bad expectations, and messy feelings in real-world…
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Inside Smut Lovers 2023: A Book Conference With Real Kink Education | S5 EP145 (FLASHBACK)
Send us Fan Mail A smut book conference that’s also packed with real-world kink education sounds like a contradiction until you see it up close. We’re fresh…
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A Clear Guide To Primal Play In BDSM | S5 EP144 (FLASHBACK)
Send us Fan Mail Primal play gets labeled as “rough,” “animalistic,” or “hunter and prey,” but those words don’t help much when you’re trying to figure out…
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Are You Protecting Yourself Or Avoiding Love? | S5 EP143
Send us Fan Mail A random sound, an awkward moment, a “too trendy” habit, a loud chew, a cringe caption and suddenly your attraction falls off a cliff. That…
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Free Use Still Requires Boundaries And Safe Words | S5 EP142
Send us Fan Mail Free use is one of the most misunderstood kink terms on the internet, and that confusion can lead to real harm. We sit down around the…
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How BDSM Roles Help You Connect Without Boxing You In | S5 EP141 (FLASHBACK EP)
Send us Fan Mail Labels can feel like boxes until you realize they’re also doors. We get real about BDSM roles and kink labels like Dom, sub, switch, top…
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How Asexual People Navigate Orgies With Confidence | S5 EP140
Send us Fan Mail You can be asexual and still love sex spaces. That’s not a contradiction, and we’re done pretending it is. We’re talking about sex-favorable…
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Reddit AITA For Kinky Relationships | S5 EP 139
Send us Fan Mail Somebody on Reddit is always asking, “Am I the asshole?” but the better question is usually: where did consent get replaced by pressure? I’m…
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A 2026 Self-Review On Relationships And Creative Work | S5 EP138
Send us Fan Mail Half the year is gone, and I’m not letting 2026 blur by on autopilot. Around the Kinky Campfire turns into a midyear self-review where I lay…
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Naughty Nawlins' Swingers Convention 2026 Recap | S5 EP137
Send us Fan Mail Bourbon Street is loud, hot, and chaotic, so it’s the perfect backdrop for one of the biggest swingers conventions in the country. I’m back…
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New Relationship Energy Fades And That Is Normal | S5 EP136 (FLASHBACK EP)
Send us Fan Mail FLASHBACK EPISODE 4/11/24 We open with a ridiculous little “negotiation minute” over snacks and ASMR rules, and it turns into a surprisingly…
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The Biggest Dating Shifts Of 2026 So Far | S5 EP135
Send us Fan Mail Dating in 2026 has a vibe, and it’s equal parts hopeful, messy, and chronically online. We’re halfway through the year, so I’m taking a…
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Your Nervous System Was Built For Lions | S5 EP134
Send us Fan Mail Your heart races before a difficult talk, you overthink a text, you walk into a crowd and your whole body scans for threats and then you shame…
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How To Go To Social Events Alone Without Feeling Weird | S5 EP133
Send us Fan Mail Showing up alone can feel like the loudest thing you’ll do all week, but it doesn’t have to be a disaster or a mystery. We get real about…
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Love Is Not One Thing And Here Is Why | S5 E132
Send us Fan Mail Love is not a single feeling you either have or you do not. It is a set of patterns, and once you can name them, you can stop guessing at what…
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What If Sex Ed Taught Risk And Care | S5 EP131
Send us Fan Mail Sex Ed failed a lot of us, not because we missed a diagram, but because we never got the tools to talk about consent, risk, and boundaries…
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The Four Types Of Singles | S5 EP130
Send us Fan Mail Single can feel like one big label, but I don’t buy that. I’m Julius Marquise, and I’m pulling apart a question that hits your dating life…
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What If The Safest Way Into BDSM Is Community First | S5 EP129
Send us Fan Mail You do not need a secret password to find your people, you need a path. We start with the real beginner question: how do you get into a BDSM…
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A Clear Intro To Non-Monogamy Without The Myths | S5 EP128
Send us Fan Mail Non-monogamy gets talked about like it is either a cheat code for relationships or a guaranteed disaster, and both takes miss the point. We…
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Consensual Nonconsent Explained With Boundaries And Safewords | S5 EP127
Send us Fan Mail CNC can look like chaos from the outside, but the real version runs on structure. I’m Julius Marques, and around the Kinky Kampfire I’m…
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S3xless Existence Video Review | S5 EP126
Send us Fan Mail Porn gets blamed for everything, but the real story is harder and more important. I’m reviewing a Modern Wisdom podcast conversation with Dr…
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Stress Sweat, Grocery Stores, And Other Villains | S5 EP125
Send us Fan Mail Stress doesn’t always look like a panic attack. Sometimes it looks like forgetting what you were saying mid-sentence, going blank at the…
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A Loving Relationship Works When You Practice These Six Ingredients | S5 EP124
Send us Fan Mail Love can feel electric and still fall apart. The difference is usually not a big dramatic moment, it’s the slow loss of an ingredient you…
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Karmic To Catalyst: A Clear Guide To Partner Types | S4 EP123
Send us Fan Mail Chemistry can feel like destiny right up until it starts costing you sleep, self-respect, and sanity. I’m Julius Marques, and by the campfire…
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What If Your “Type” Is A Trauma Loop | Relationship Types walk-through | S4 EP122
Send us Fan Mail Chemistry can feel like destiny right up until it starts wrecking your sleep, your self-trust, and your boundaries. So I’m sitting down by the…
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"This Is Water" by David Foster Wallace | S4 EP121
Send us Fan Mail The most life changing truths are usually the ones hiding in plain sight, like water to a fish. We pick up David Foster Wallace’s “This Is…
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Unteachable Lessons From Chris Williams | S4 EP120
Send us Fan Mail You already know the advice. You’ve heard it from parents, friends, books, and a thousand quotes. So why does it still take a burned hand to…
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Chalant Dating, Explained | S4 EP119
Send us Fan Mail Tired of guessing games and six-hour reply gaps? We’re tossing nonchalant dating in the bin and making a passionate case for chalant dating…
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Understanding OCEAN: The Only Personality Model Backed By Science | S4 EP118
Send us Fan Mail Ever wonder why some quizzes feel fun but never help you change? We go straight to the Big Five—Openness, Conscientiousness, Extraversion…
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You Said “Kind,” Your Brain Said “Hot” | Stated vs Revealed Preferences | S4 EP117
Send us Fan Mail Ever notice how your carefully crafted “ideal partner” list evaporates the second someone magnetic walks into the room? We dive into the gap…
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From Small Talk To Consent: Building Better Conversations In Kink And Beyond | S4 EP116
Send us Fan Mail What if your next conversation actually moved something—clarity, trust, desire—instead of just filling the air? We take a practical…
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White Claw, Small Town Drama, And Big Poly Feelings | Reddit Q&A | S4 EP115
Send us Fan Mail Ever feel pressured to reshape your heart to fit someone else’s relationship model? We dive straight into the mess and the magic of modern…
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Why “Date Till You Hate” Wastes Your Life | S4 EP114
Send us Fan Mail Dating shouldn’t require stockpiling resentment just to make leaving feel easy. We take apart the “date till you hate” trend and talk honestly…
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Stop Calling It Talent When It’s Really Practice You’re Avoiding | S4 EP113
Send us Fan Mail Forget the superhero origin story. We’re getting real about talent versus skill—why one feels magical and the other does the heavy lifting—and…
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How A Kinky Podcaster Turned Networking Nerves Into Momentum | S4 EP112
Send us Fan Mail Ever leave a convention both fired up and a little overwhelmed? That’s where we start: freezing Florida nights, a SeaWorld-adjacent hotel, and…
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Congrats, You Didn’t Have Sex: Let’s Talk Gooning | Kink Trends 2025 | S4 EP111
Send us Fan Mail The rankings are in, and the story they tell is wild: gooning has knocked chastity off the top spot, wrestling and tickling are holding…
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Ranking The World’s Most-Watched Porn Categories In 2025 | S4 EP110
Send us Fan Mail New year, fresh data, and zero shame—we kick off 2026 by digging into the most-watched porn categories of 2025 and what they reveal about…
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Why Dating As A Queer Switch Breaks When We Don’t Ask Clear Questions | S4 EP109
Send us Fan Mail Ever sit across from someone you’re wildly attracted to and realize you’re both waiting for the other to start? That’s the quiet chaos of…
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From Newbie Nerves To Kinky Belonging: How Games, Ambassadors, And Consent Culture Lower The Barrier To Entry | S4 EP108
Send us Fan Mail Ever parked outside a munch, heart racing, and turned the car around? We’ve been there, and we built a roadmap for getting past that…
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Belonging Is A Practice, Not A Door Policy | S4 EP107
Send us Fan Mail Ever walked into a new community and felt the room go quiet? Julius takes a match to clique culture and lights a clearer path to belonging…
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From Burnout To Momentum: Libido As Life Energy | S4 EP106
Send us Fan Mail Ready to trade hesitation for momentum? Julius takes us to the edge of comfort and names the leap: escape velocity, the instant you decide to…
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From Anxiety To Aftercare: Navigating Scene Headspace In Kink And BDSM | S4 EP105
Send us Fan Mail We dig into headspace before, during, and after scenes—how nerves shift into focus, how communication sets the tone, and how aftercare…
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Boundaries, Red Flags, And Growth with Author, Shannon Elliot | S4 EP104
Send us Fan Mail We sit at the fire with Shannon Elliott to unpack losing yourself in a relationship, finding your values again, and building boundaries that…
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From Pegging To Power Dynamics: What Happens When Couples Go Public With Their Kinks | S4 EP103
Send us Fan Mail What happens when couples reveal their kinks for the first time on camera? We pull up to the fire and break down the viral Truth or Drink…
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I’m Here To Cuddle, Not Diagnose | S4 EP102
Send us Fan Mail We explore how to stop therapizing friends and partners, set clean boundaries, and keep consent front and center when the urge to fix takes…
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From Small Talk to Real Connection: Communication Skills for Kink, Non-Monogamy, and Everyday Life | S4 EP101
Send us Fan Mail We explore how “vocal image” transforms consent talks, small talk, and relationship check‑ins, especially in kink and non‑monogamy. We share…
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We hit 100 episodes, and the biggest lesson is simpler than you think... | S4 EP100
Send us Fan Mail We celebrate 100 episodes with gratitude, humor, and a clear message: just show up. From podcasting to conventions, improv, and ace-spectrum…
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“Are we really STILL saying ethical non‑monogamy?”—Julius has thoughts | S4 EP 99
Send us Fan Mail We dig into how communication, boundaries, and honesty make non‑monogamy work, and why adding “ethical” to the label misses the point. Julius…
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From Crown to Kilt: Adventures of a Volunteer Supervisor at SmutLovers Con 2025 | S4 EP98
Send us Fan Mail Julius shares his third year volunteering at Smut Lovers Convention 2025 while reflecting on the challenges and joys of being an introvert in…
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The Adult Child: When Growing Up Gets Stuck | S4 EP97
Send us Fan Mail We dive deep into the fascinating concept of Puer Aeternus or "eternal youth" – a psychological pattern where adults remain stuck in…
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Anime, Kink, and Finding Your Community: My Weekend at Ecchi Expo Orlando 2025 | S4 EP96
Send us Fan Mail Julius shares his experience performing and teaching at Ecchi Expo Orlando 2025, an adult anime convention combining anime fandom with…
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Monogamy is a Social Construct, Not Our Biological Destiny | S4 EP95
Send us Fan Mail Evolutionary anthropologist Dr. Anna Machin delivers groundbreaking research revealing monogamy as a social construct rather than our…
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Primal Play isn't just what I do—it's who I am | S4 EP94
Send us Fan Mail Julius Marques dives into the wild world of Primal Play - the raw, instinctual expression of dominance and submission through animalistic…
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Relationship Anarchy: Breaking Free from Expectations and Assumptions | Season 4 EP 93
Send us Fan Mail Relationship Anarchy is not just a buzzword but a lifestyle philosophy emphasizing intentional connections where each relationship exists…
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The Return (Again) of the Kinky Kampfire!! | Season 4 EP 92
Send us Fan Mail Julius Marques returns to the podcast after a hiatus, introducing his new vision as a "relationship spotter" rather than a coach or therapist…