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Thinking Out Loud | Kimberly
Welcome to Thinking Out Loud!
Hi. It's me, Kimberly.
I'm a rambler by nature. I ask a lot of questions, chase nuance, and rarely believe life fits neatly into "good" and "evil." I'm more interested in understanding why we think the way we do than winning an argument.
Here, we explore culture through a philosophical lens, using everyday life as the commentary—sometimes through movies, music, and pop culture, and other times through psychology, family systems, motherhood, relationships…
Episodes
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Why Do We Keep Going Back To the People Who Hurt Us? | Thinking Out Loud
EP58: Grieving What We Wish Would Be: The Complexity of Relationships Welcome back to Thinking Out Loud! Hi, it’s Kimberly. In this episode, we tackle a…
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What Changed When I Stopped Asking "What's Wrong with Me?" | Thinking Out Loud
EP57: Learning to Love My Unique Perspective Welcome back to Thinking Out Loud! Hi, it’s Kimberly. In this reflective episode, we explore a powerful shift in…
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Is Traumatizing Your Child Inevitable? | Thinking Out Loud
EP56: When Mistakes Happen: Cultivating a Repair Mindset Welcome back to Thinking Out Loud! Hi, it’s Kimberly. In this thought-provoking episode, we explore…
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Is it Too Late? | Thinking Out Loud
EP55: The Hidden Work of Personal Development Welcome back to Thinking Out Loud! I’m Kimberly, and in this episode, we tackle a thought-provoking question: Is…
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When Believing in Yourself Becomes Believing You're Better Than Everyone Else? | Thinking Out Loud
EP54: Navigating Self-Worth Without Superiority Welcome back to Thinking Out Loud! I’m Kimberly, and in this episode, we tackle a crucial question: When does…
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Are We Afraid of People or Are We Afraid of What We've Been Taught to Fear? | Thinking Out Loud
EP 53: Fears We Inherit Welcome back to Thinking Out Loud! I’m Kimberly, and in this episode, we’ll explore the complex relationship between fear and…
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How Often Do We Accept Responsibilities that Were Never Ours to Carry? | Thinking Out Loud
EP52: Carrying Our Own Weight Welcome back to Thinking Out Loud! I’m Kimberly, and in this episode, we tackle a crucial question: How often do we accept…
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What is Self-Expression? | Thinking Out Loud
EP51: The Meaning of Self Expression Welcome back to Thinking Out Loud! I’m Kimberly, and in this episode, we’re exploring a nuanced question: What is…
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What Does it Mean to Have Capacity? | Thinking Out Loud
EP50: Understanding Capacity Welcome back to Thinking Out Loud! I’m Kimberly, and in this episode, we’re diving into the essential question: What does it mean…
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How Do I Get Over It? | Thinking Out Loud
EP49: Why Can I Get Over the Past? Welcome back to Thinking Out Loud! I'm Kimberly, and in this episode, we’re tackling a deeply relatable question: How do I…
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Why Do We Rush Healing? | Thinking Out Loud
EP48: Healing Isn't a Race Welcome back to Thinking Out Loud! I’m Kimberly, and today we’re addressing a fundamental question: Why do we rush healing? In a…
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Why Does Healing Sometimes Feel Performative? | Thinking Out Loud
EP47: The Performance of Healing Welcome back to Thinking Out Loud! I’m Kimberly, and today we’re diving deep into a crucial question: Why does healing…
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When Does Influence or a Deeply Held Belief Become Indoctrination? | Thinking Out Loud
EP46: When Does Influence Become Indoctrination? Welcome back to Thinking Out Loud! I’m Kimberly, and today we’re diving into a topic that often stirs up…
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Why Might Someone Choose Estrangement? | Thinking Out Loud
EP45: Estrangement Welcome back to Thinking Out Loud! Hi, it's me, Kimberly. In this thought-provoking episode, I’m delving into a complex and often…
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Am I the Narcissist? | Thinking Out Loud
EP44: Unmasking Narcissism: A Journey into Accountability In this compelling episode of "Thinking Out Loud," Kimberly takes a deep dive into the complex…
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When Does Survival Become Manipulation? Who Gets Blamed for the Damage? | Thinking Out Loud
EP43: The Complexity of Survival and Manipulation In this thought-provoking episode, Kimberly tackles the intricate relationship between survival behaviors and…
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Why Are We So Focused On Diagnosing Narcissists Instead Of Defining Abuse? | Thinking Out Loud
EP42: Abuse Beyond Lables In this thought-provoking episode, Kimberly challenges the obsession with diagnosing narcissism and shifts the focus towards a more…
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Does Impact Matter? | Thinking Out Loud
EP41: The Impact, Impact Has In this introspective episode of "Thinking Out Loud," Kimberly invites listeners to explore the profound question: does impact…
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What's Labeled Lazy Parenting When We Stop Parenting for Other People's Comfort? | Thinking Out Loud
EP40: Redefining Parenting: Beyond Labels and Expectations In this transformative episode, Kimberly invites listeners to examine the term "lazy parenting" and…
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What if Discomfort Isn't Something We Always Need to Escape? | Thinking Out Loud
EP39: Embracing Discomfort: A Path to Self-Discovery In this thought-provoking episode, Kimberly invites listeners to reconsider their relationship with…
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Can You Love Someone & Still Be Unhealthy Together? | Thinking Out Loud
EP38: Navigating the Complexity of Love and Relationships In this deeply reflective episode, Kimberly explores the intricate layers of love and what it truly…
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How Do We Raise Children Who Tell Us the Truth Instead of Hiding Their Mistakes? | Thinking Out Loud
EP37: Raising Truth-Tellers: Accountability Without Shame In this insightful episode, Kimberly delves into the challenging question: How do we raise children…
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How Do You Know When You're In the Wrong? | Thinking Out Loud
EP36: Navigating Accountability and Authenticity In this reflective episode, Kimberly tackles the timeless question: How do you know when you're in the wrong?…
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Why Don't I Know Who I Am Anymore? | Thinking Out Loud
EP 35: Rediscovering the Self Beyond Labels In this introspective episode, Kimberly grapples with the profound question: "Why don't I know who I am anymore?"…
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Why Is It So Hard to Make Friends as an Adult? | Thinking Out Loud
EP34: The Challenge of Adult Friendship In this insightful episode, Kimberly addresses the complexities of making and maintaining friendships as adults. While…
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Is Family Estrangement Just a Trend? | Thinking Out Loud
EP33: The Complexity of Family Estrangement In this thought-provoking episode, Kimberly explores the phenomenon of family estrangement, challenging the notion…
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Are You a People Pleaser? Or Were You Taught to Be Overly Considerate? | Thinking Out Loud
EP32: Are You Really a People Pleaser? What if you’re not “naturally” a people pleaser at all—just someone who was trained to be overly considerate at your own…
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How Do We Live Outside of Survival Mode? | Thinking Out Loud
EP31: Learning to Live Beyond Survival Mode What if the problem isn’t that you’re lazy, unmotivated, or “broken”—but that your nervous system has been stuck in…
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What is Gained When Someone is Labeled a Liar? And Who Benefits from That Label? | Thinking Out Loud
EP30: When We Call Someone a Liar What is really gained when someone is labeled a liar—and who benefits from that label? In this episode of Thinking Out Loud…
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Can Trauma Become a Way to Belong? | Thinking Out Loud
EP29: When Healing Becomes Your Identity Why can pain feel like the only language that connects us? In this episode Kimberly reflects on when healing becomes a…
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Can Love Survive Infertility? | Thinking Out Loud
Episode 28: Love & Infertility Infertility isn’t just lab work, medications, and endless appointments—it’s a mirror that reflects every hidden wound…
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No Contact, No Shame: Protecting Self While Loving Family | Thinking Out Loud
In this episode, Kimberly sits down with Daesha Cates to discuss the intricate web of family relationships and the powerful journey of estrangement. Daesha…
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How Do We Tell the Difference Between Support & Control? | Thinking Out Loud
EP 27: Is It Support…or Control? When you’ve grown up in unhealthy or enmeshed relationships, control can feel like love and safety can feel suspicious. In…
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What Do We Mean When We Say We Want a Ride Or Die? | Thinking Out Loud
EP26: Would You Love Me If I Was a Worm? What are we really asking for when we say we want a “ride or die”? Is it loyalty? Or is it the hope that someone will…
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When Did Communication Become About Perfection Instead of Honesty? | Thinking Out Loud
EP25: You Communicate Someone into Caring What if healthy communication isn’t actually about saying things perfectly? In this episode, Kimberly explores the…
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What Does It Mean for People to Act Out of Character? | Thinking Out Loud
EP24: 80/20 in Relationships What happens when a relationship slowly stops feeling emotionally safe? Most relationships don't fall apart overnight. The shift…
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Leaving the Label, Keeping the Good: A Hopeful Roadmap | Thinking Out Loud
In this episode Kimberly talks with Audra Phelps — coach, former LDS member, and mom — about the messy, courageous work of disentangling faith, identity, and…
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When Did Resilience Start Meaning You're Not Allowed to Be Disappointed? | Thinking Out Loud
EP23: When Life Gives You Lemons… Now What? “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.” But what happens when you don’t want lemonade? What happens when the…
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Should We Bring Mom Shaming Back? | Thinking Out Loud
EP22: Mom Shaming “Should we bring mom shaming back?” It’s a question that’s been showing up more and more online—usually from people carrying real pain from…
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When Does Understanding Become Enabling? | Thinking Out Loud
EP21: Breaking the Cycle of Harm When does understanding become enabling? In this episode, Kimberly explores the difficult space between compassion and…
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What Does Power Actually Reveal About People? | Thinking Out
EP20: With Great Power Comes Great Responsibility What does power actually reveal about people? In this episode of Thinking Out Loud, Kimberly explores how…
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Can You Disagree with Someone & Still Respect Them? | Thinking Out Loud
Episode 19: Respect is a Feeling, Not an Action What happens when respect becomes a weapon instead of a virtue? In this episode of Thinking Out Loud, Kimberly…
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When a Relationship Ends Do You Grieve Loss or the Version of You That Stayed? | Thinking Out Loud
Episode 18: Stitching Yourself Back Up How do you begin to heal after recognizing the toxicity that shaped your identity? In this continuation of the journey…
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Are Boundaries Like Estrangement Unhealthy or Is It Saying No to Harm? | Thinking Out Loud
Episode 17: Death By a Thousand Cuts What happens when you realize that the relationships meant to support you have instead imprisoned you? In this episode of…
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What Happens When Someone Changes But Never Repairs? | Thinking Out Loud
EP16: When the Story Stops at “I Changed” What happens when someone changes—but never repairs the harm they caused? In this episode of Thinking Out Loud…
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What Happens When You Survive Assault & Ensuing Stories? | Thinking Out Loud
EP15: Me Too – And the Silence After Trigger warning: This episode discusses sexual assault and its emotional aftermath. What happens when you don’t just…
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Can Accountability & Compassion Exist at the Same Time? | Thinking Out Loud
EP14: When “Sorry” Isn’t Enough Have you ever had someone apologize… and somehow it felt like you were the one expected to move on immediately? Like the…
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Are We Capable of Long-Term Peace, or do Humans Eventually Return to Conflict? | Thinking Out Loud
EP13: Remember Who the Enemy Is It feels like war is always around the corner lately… but is it really inevitable? Or are we missing something bigger? In this…
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Am I the Problem… or are They? | Thinking Out Loud
EP 12: Who’s the Problem… or What’s the Problem? Instead of asking “who’s the problem?”… what if we asked a different question? What if the goal isn’t to…
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Why is Repair the Difference Between a Relationship that Heals & One that Harms? | Thinking Out Loud
EP11: Love Without Repair Conflict doesn’t end relationships. What ends them is the lack of repair. In this episode, we sit with the uncomfortable truth that…
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How Do We Live Honestly, When We Don’t Have All the Answers? | Thinking Out Loud
EP10: The Space Between Knowing and Questioning What if the most honest thing you could say right now is: “I don’t fully know what I believe anymore.” In this…
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Why Do We Act Like Caring About Both Sides Means Standing for Nothing? | Thinking Out Loud
EP9: Both Can Be True Why do we act like caring about both sides means standing for nothing? In this episode of Thinking Out Loud, Kimberly reflects on the…
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When Does Loyalty Become Self-Abandonment? | Thinking Out Loud
EP8: When Loyalty Becomes Self-Abandonment At what point does loyalty stop being love—and start becoming self-abandonment? In this episode of Thinking Out…
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What if Health Isn’t About Being Pure, But About Being Balanced? | Thinking Out Loud
EP7: What If Health Isn’t About Purity? What if health isn’t about purity—but about balance? In this episode of Thinking Out Loud, Kimberly reflects on how the…
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When Did Our Labels Stop Describing Us, & Start Replacing Us? | Thinking Out Loud
EP6: When Labels Start Replacing People When did labels stop describing us—and start replacing us? In this episode of Thinking Out Loud, Kimberly reflects on…
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What if Middle Ground Thinking is Understanding Harm, Not Staying Neutral? | Thinking Out Loud
EP5: Middle Ground Does Not Mean Moral Neutrality Hi, it’s me — Kimberly. In today’s episode, I’m tackling a crucial question: Where is the line in middle…
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Why Do We Moralize Survival Choices Made By Mothers? | Thinking Out Loud
EP4: Survival Isn’t a Character Flaw in Motherhood Hi, it’s me, Kimberly. In this episode, I’m diving into a question that rarely gets asked in the world of…
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What If Most of What Upsets Us Isn’t Personal? | Thinking Out Loud
EP3: Most Of What Upsets Us Isn’t Personal — It’s Unexamined Meaning Hi, it’s me, Kimberly. Today, I'm thinking out loud about a question that feels…
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Why Do We Treat Differences Like They’re Dangerous? | Thinking Out Loud
EP2: Difference Isn't Dangerous. Inflexibility Is Welcome to Thinking Out Loud, where curiosity meets connection. I’m Kimberly, and together, we’ll explore the…
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What If Changing Your Mind Isn’t a Weakness—But Growth? | Thinking Out Loud
EP1: Welcome to Thinking Out Loud, a space where curiosity and connection thrive. Hi, I’m Kimberly, and I invite you to join me on this journey of…