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Unbecoming Me with Toi
Unbecoming Me is a personal journey of shedding who we were told to be and growing into who we truly are. Hosted by Toi Waddles, this podcast explores healing after heartbreak, navigating lonely seasons, rebuilding self-worth, and learning to care for yourself in real and meaningful ways. Through honest stories and heartfelt reflection, Toi invites you to release old identities, face your truth, and step into your becoming — one layer at a time. If you're in a season of change, transformation…
Episodes
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You Can Like Them and Still Leave Them Alone
In this milestone 1-year anniversary episode (Episode 17 of Season 2), host Toi celebrates one full year of Unbecoming Me by diving straight into the heart of…
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The Soft Life Isn't About Luxury, It's About Safety
She thought the soft life was all vacations and flowers—until she realized it's actually about peace. In this episode, Toi reflects on day 321 of her one-year…
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Healing Didn't Change Who I Attract—It Changed Who I Entertain
She used to overdraft her own finances to help people who wouldn't even buy her a McDonald's sweet tea. Now she's done financing relationships—and done…
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When You Stop Chasing, You See Who's Willing to Meet You Halfway
The right person doesn't need convincing—and Toi repeats that truth three times in this episode. She reflects on mistaking one-sided effort for love, then lays…
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The Audacity of Expecting Consistency, Respect, and Peace in Love
In Episode 13, Season 2 of Unbecoming Me, host Toi tackles the bold concept of expecting healthy love in relationships. She challenges listeners to raise their…
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The Greatest Lesson in Healing: Learning to Receive Love
In Episode 12 of Unbecoming Me, host Toi explores the theme of receiving love without guilt. Drawing from five years of personal growth, she discusses the…
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The Greatest Power of Consistency: Finding Peace Over Chaos
In Episode 11 of The Unbecoming Me with Toi, host Toi reflects on her five-year healing journey, exploring how her perception of relationships transformed. She…
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The Most Important Lessons in Healing and Relationship Discernment
In episode ten of Unbecoming Me with Toi, host Toi reflects on 200 days of her 365-day healing journey, exploring whether she is truly healing or simply…
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Embracing Peace in Relationships: How Leadership, Intentionality, and Safety Transform Love After Healing
In this episode of Unbecoming Me with Toi, host Toi explores what peace looks like in relationships after surviving difficult seasons of healing and letting…
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Why Detachment Is the Key to Ending Emotional Overextension and Finding Yourself Again
In episode eight of The Unbecoming Me with Toi, host Toi introduces "Detachment Season," exploring why boundaries stop feeling mean. She discusses breaking…
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When Chemistry Distracts You from Character: How to See the Truth in Relationships
In this episode of Unbecoming Me, Toi explores one of the biggest relationship traps: confusing chemistry with character. She explains how attraction…
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The Art of Observing Love Instead of Auditioning for It
In this episode of Unbecoming Me, host Toi shares her personal journey of recognizing and breaking free from the cycle of overgiving. She reflects on how…
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The Unbecoming Process: How Motherhood Forced Me to Relearn Love, Selflessness, and Strength
In this heartfelt episode, host Toi reflects on the profound transformation motherhood brought into her life. She shares how becoming a mother in 2017 forced…
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The Most Powerful Step You Can Take: Saying "Enough" to Settling in Relationships and Friendships
In Episode 4 of Unbecoming Me, host Toi delivers a heartfelt monologue about unbecoming the version of herself that settled for less than she deserved. She…
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The Most Powerful Season of Growth: Shedding What No Longer Serves You
In Episode 3 of Unbecoming Me, host Toi explores the concept of "Shedding Season" — a transformative period of personal growth where letting go becomes…
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From Overgiving to Owning Your Worth: Lessons in Healthy Boundaries and Self-Respect
In this episode of Unbecoming Me with Toi, host Toi shares personal do's and don'ts she's learned through her journey of self-discovery. She reflects on…
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Navigating Life's Storms: Understanding Grief, Growth, and Your Due Season
In this episode of "Unbecoming Me," host Toi returns after a brief hiatus, candidly sharing her recent struggles with grief, illness, and life's busyness. She…
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Who Are You Becoming as You Step into 2026?
In the season finale of "Unbecoming Me," host Toi invites listeners to reflect on their true selves as they enter 2026. Exploring identity through the company…
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Unbecoming: The Beautiful Process of Shedding What No Longer Serves You
In this episode of "Unbecoming Me," host Toi explores the theme of "unbecoming"—letting go of societal expectations, old identities, and limiting beliefs to…
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From Settling to Soaring: The Transformative Power of Loving Yourself
In this episode of "Unbecoming Me," host Toi shares her personal journey of healing and self-discovery, setting the stage for a podcast focused on growth…
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Finding Peace in the Storm: How Breathwork Can Transform Your Life
In this episode of "Unbecoming Me," host Toi shares her personal journey through a stressful season, highlighting the transformative power of breathwork. She…
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How Can Hypnosis and Journaling Transform Your Healing Journey?
In this episode of "Unbecoming Me," host Toi explores the healing modalities of hypnosis and journaling. She shares personal experiences with hypnosis…
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Unbecoming: The Art of Healing and Rediscovering Yourself
In this episode of "Unbecoming Me," host Toi shares her personal journey of healing and growth, exploring the concept of "unbecoming" to become your true self…
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Becoming Whole: Redefining Self-Care and Self-Reflection
In episode 4 of "Unbecoming Me," host Toi explores the importance of self-care and self-evaluation, emphasizing that self-care looks different for everyone…
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The Lonely Season: Finding Yourself in the Silence
In this third episode of "Unbecoming Me," host Toi explores "The Lonely Season," a period of solitude that often follows outgrowing relationships, friendships…
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When Pain Becomes Purpose: The Story Behind Unbecoming Me
In this throwback episode of "Unbecoming Me," host Toi reflects on her introduction to podcasting over five years ago. She shares a deeply personal story about…
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Unbecoming Who I Was: Toi Waddles on Healing After a Hard Love
In this episode of Unbecoming Me, host Toi shares her deeply personal journey of transformation after a challenging relationship with an incarcerated partner…
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Unbecoming Me with Toi: Your Journey to Healing and Self-Discovery Begins
Welcome to Unbecoming Me with Toi! Over the past five years, Toi has journeyed through life's challenges, letting go of who she thought she had to be so she…