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Healing Didn't Change Who I Attract—It Changed Who I Entertain
She used to overdraft her own finances to help people who wouldn't even buy her a McDonald's sweet tea. Now she's done financing relationships—and done mistaking chemistry for real effort. In this episode, Toi shares how healing changed the dating patterns she'll entertain: no months-long text threads, one-sided conversations, or waiting around for someone to make plans. She describes the startling shift of being genuinely pursued and getting to know someone who reciprocates. Her takeaway is sharp and grounded: healing may not change who you attract overnight, but it can change who you let…
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