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Gay Men Going Deeper
Gay Men Going Deeper is a podcast about gay relationships, identity, sexuality, and personal growth for gay men navigating modern life. Hosted by Michael DiIorio and Matt Landsiedel, the show dives into topics like dating, shame, masculinity, confidence, emotional intimacy, and the pressures of modern gay culture. Expect raw conversations, psychological insight, and the kind of honest discussions that challenge assumptions and invite deeper reflection about what it means to live authentically…
Episodes
- Gay Men Going Deeper
Dating Intentionally
Dating is still one of the greatest mysteries in the world some might say. And with over 1,500 dating apps out there it’s only getting more confusing on how to…
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Zero F**ks Given
What is holding you back from doing everything you want to do and being whoever you want to be? For a lot of people, worrying about what others will say or how…
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Intergenerational Relationships
In a youth-obsessed culture, it’s easy to overlook the benefits of aging and the wisdom that only comes with lived experience. Including people of different…
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Reinventing Yourself
One of the most exciting things about life is being able to transform your identity whenever you want. For most people, transformation happens naturally and…
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Healing From Sexual Trauma
In this episode, Matt Landsiedel and Tirrell Cherry talk intimately about healing sexual trauma. They share their own personal experiences with sexual abuse…
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Making Friends
Research has shown that quality friendships are fundamental to the mental and emotional well-being of 2SLGBTQ+ individuals. A close-knit circle of friends can…
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Conflict Transformation
The holiday season can be a triggering one for a lot of people, especially those of us from the LGBTQ+ community. In today's episode, host Calan Breckon speaks…
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Lonely vs Being Alone
Being alone does not necessarily mean that you’re feeling lonely. Some people quite enjoy the experience of solitude and prefer it over being in large groups…
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Bathhouses and Cruising
Long before the days of Grindr and the internet, the gay scene was largely underground. Gay and bi men had to find creative ways to connect in discreet, yet…
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Dealing with Loneliness
Loneliness is extremely common among gay men of all ages and backgrounds. In fact, some mental health professionals refer to loneliness as an epidemic for our…
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Leadership in the Gay Community
In this episode, Matt Landsiedel interviews Peter DeWitt from Gaywellness.com and they explore the topic of leadership in the gay community. Both Matt and…
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Having Difficult Conversations
A difficult conversation is often the one thing standing in the way between you and greater connection. Many of us have a hard time with these conversations…
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Intersectionality & Mental Health
In this episode, host Calan Breckon unpacks some of the questions around intersectionality with guest Owin Pierson and the work he does as a mental health and…
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Crying
Researchers have established that crying releases oxytocin and endogenous opioids, also known as endorphins. These feel-good chemicals help ease both physical…
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Masturbation
Masturbation is a perfectly natural and healthy sexual activity that has many physical and mental benefits. However, some question whether it is a harmful…
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Lack of Trust in the Gay Community
Trust takes a long time to build and only seconds to break. In this episode, we’re talking about how our trust issues impact our ability to connect with…
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The Psychological Impact of Conversion Therapy
In this episode Matt Landsiedel interviews Dr. Lucas Wilson about the psychological impact of conversion therapy. They explore how shame and internalized…
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Trusting Yourself
We often talk about trust in the context of trusting others, but in this episode, we’re focusing on how to build an internal sense of trust. We’re exploring…
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Making Space for Being Uncomfortable
In today’s episode, host Calan Breckon and guest Drummond Fulcher dive into the uncomfortable for a conversation that revolves around cancel culture, the…
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Your Questions Answered
You asked and we answered! In this episode, we're answering some of the juiciest questions from our community such as… How to let go of the past? Why can’t gay…
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Our Community
From the outside looking in, the queer community is seen as an inclusive space that celebrates diversity. Yet for many people, it feels quite exclusive and…
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The Dark Night of the Soul
Dark periods are an inevitable part of life that can happen at any moment and in any number of ways: The death of a loved one A terminal diagnosis Job loss…
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Mindset
Your mind is a powerful tool that you can use to create a life that you love. Your mindset is your overall outlook on life and it will determine whether you…
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Pretty Privilege
In this episode, Matt Landsiedel and Andre-Lee Wills unpack the hot topic of pretty privilege. Pretty privilege works on the principle that people who are…
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Open and Closed Relationships (Vol. 2)
As more people are choosing to explore non-monogamous relationships, the discussion about open and closed relationships can be divisive and unhelpful. In…
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Community Inclusion
Recognizing and understanding privilege can be a hard pill to swallow for some. It means admitting you’re not perfect and possibly “looking bad,” which we were…
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Sexual Empowerment
Sex is a natural part of the human experience yet many people sense a lot of shame and insecurity around the topic. In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we…
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Shiny Object Syndrome
Shiny Object Syndrome (SOS) is the tendency chase after things that are new and exciting, keeping you in a state of perpetually looking for “the next best…
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Bottom Shaming
One of the most common forms of sexual shaming we see in the gay community is towards bottoming. The closed-minded narratives that are perpetuated around…
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Introduction to Breathwork
In this episode, Matt Landsiedel speaks with certified SOMA Breath breathwork instructor Jason Samadhi. Jason takes us on a journey into the power of…
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Ego
One of the greatest obstacles along the spiritual path is an overactive ego - that fear-based part of you that needs to control outcomes and win at all costs…
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Navigating Non-Binary
Change can be scary. And in today’s world of ever-evolving language around gender and identity, it can make it hard for someone to ask questions without…
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Spirituality
Spirituality is an umbrella term that means many different things to many people. In this episode, we’re revealing our own experience with spirituality and…
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Guilt, Shame, and Religion
Guilt and shame are two of the most challenging emotions we encounter. For those who grew up with a religious or spiritual belief system, guilt and shame can…
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Toxic Positivity
Toxic positivity is the belief that people should maintain a positive mindset, no matter how challenging a situation may be. This belief invalidates your…
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Embracing Opposites
Have you ever found yourself conflicted about being top, bottom or vers? Or maybe you find yourself torn between whether or not you want monogamy or…
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Emotional Health
While emotional health falls under the overall umbrella of mental health, it deserves its own conversation because your emotions have a profound impact on how…
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Depression
Depression is one of the most common mental health conditions in the United States that affects an estimated 17.3 million adults and 3.2 million adolescents…
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Suicide
Each year, over 800,000 people die from suicide and it is the 2nd leading cause of death among 10-24 year olds. The LGBTQ community has a significantly…
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Mirroring In The Gay Community
Your environment plays an important role in developing a strong identity and sense of self. Everything from the people you spend time with, where you get your…
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Building Better Relationships
Relationships can be a minefield to navigate when you don't have the right tools or language to help you. Whether it's romantic or platonic ones, we all could…
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Fitness, Nutrition & Mental Health
In today’s episode, host Matt Landsiedel speaks with Nutrition Coach Scott Weisgarber about the relationship between fitness, nutrition and mental health…
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Intimacy
Intimacy is defined as the feeling of mutual vulnerability and closeness in personal relationships. In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we’re talking…
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Grappling with Grief: Addison Brasil
Grief can be a hard experience to navigate because nothing can really prepare you for deep and emotional loss. It's something that everyone will have to…
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Secure Relationships
Relationships have a natural rhythm between feeling connected to your partner, and other times feeling disconnected from them. Each end of the spectrum can…
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Love, Intimacy & Connection: Vol. 2
In this juicy and personal episode, Michael is letting you take a behind-the-scenes peek into his relationship with his partner, Star. While vacationing in…
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Heartbreak & Breakups
The painful sting of heartbreak is a uniquely awful experience that brings up a lot of our wounds around abandonment and rejection. In today's episode, we're…
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The Sensitive Gay Man
Sensitivity is one of the most misunderstood temperament traits due to toxic gender norms and stereotypes about masculinity and femininity. Come learn about…
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Forgiveness
Forgiveness is a necessary part of the healing process. When we are able to truly forgive others, we liberate ourselves from the pain of the experience so we…
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Therapy
Therapy is crucial for our mental health, yet some people still look at it as unobtainable due to financial struggle. There are also still myths around Therapy…
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Victimhood
Whether we're aware of it or not, we all have an inner victim within us that needs to be acknowledged. Processing this can be uncomfortable and triggering, but…
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Betting on Yourself
Your life is a series of choices. Sometimes those choices will ask you to bet on yourself - to pursue what you love, even if there is an emotional risk in…
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Tips for Motivation
We all have those days when motivation is hard to come by. Whether you’re lacking time, energy, or inspiration, this episode will give you the useful tips you…
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Discovering Authenticity Through Embodiment
In this episode Matt speaks with Gay Olympian, Kung Fu Master, QTBIPOC Counselor and Shaman Devante Love. They talk about how to heal and discover your most…
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Personal Transformation
Personal transformation can be fun when it comes to setting goals and imagining the possibilities of the future, but things get tricky when it comes time to…
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Dating & Disabilities
Dating is already a minefield to the everyday gay, add living with a disability to the mix and things get even more complicated. In today's episode host Calan…
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Emotional Intelligence
Emotions can cause a lot of unnecessary suffering when we are not equipped with the tools to manage them. In this episode, we are exploring what it means to…
- Gay Men Going Deeper
Sex Positivity
Your sexuality is yours, and how you express it is the fun of life. But for so many of us, sex is wrapped up in shame. In this episode, Michael has a candid…
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Dating Apps
Dating apps are one of the most common ways we connect with other gay men. Yet many people struggle to make the connections they seek, and many more give up…