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Found at 17 | Abandonment Wounds & Relationship Patterns
You gave everything. They still left. You don't know why. You call it high standards. Independence. Being the strong one. Underneath is an abandonment wound teaching you love is earned. Found at 17 helps women break the relationship patterns rooted in abandonment wounds — perfectionism, people-pleasing, hyper-independence, and anxious attachment — that keep repeating in their romantic lives. New episodes every Tuesday.
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- Found at 17 | Abandonment Wounds & Relationship Patterns
Is He Love Bombing You or Does He Just Like You?
Is he love bombing you or does he just like you? Flowers, good morning texts, and "I've never felt this way" can look the same in the first few weeks, whether…
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How to Ask for What You Need (and Stop Saying “Never Mind”) | EP 34
How do you ask for what you need without taking it back the second it gets uncomfortable? I finally said what I needed, and before the other person could…
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Why You Keep Second-Guessing Yourself (and How to Trust Your Own Decisions)
What if you actually know what you want—you just don’t trust yourself enough to choose it? In this episode of Found at 17, I’m talking about something I didn’t…
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How Can They Not Know Why You Left? | Family Estrangement, Boundaries & Guilt
In this episode of Found at 17, we talk about the particular pain of distancing yourself from someone who seems completely oblivious to why you've done it—and…
- Found at 17 | Abandonment Wounds & Relationship Patterns
Self-Abandonment: Why You Ignore What You Already Know
Have you ever known something was wrong but kept talking yourself out of it? You knew the relationship wasn't what you wanted. You knew you were unhappy. You…
- Found at 17 | Abandonment Wounds & Relationship Patterns
Emotionally Unavailable Parents: How Childhood Emotional Neglect Shapes Your Adult Relationships
Did you grow up with an emotionally unavailable parent and now find yourself choosing emotionally unavailable partners, struggling to ask for what you need, or…
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Boundaries Don't Work. Access Does. (Here's the Difference)
You keep setting boundaries and they keep getting ignored. That's not a boundary problem — it's an access problem, and almost nobody talks about the…
- Found at 17 | Abandonment Wounds & Relationship Patterns
Why Can’t I Relax? When Rest, Fun & Doing Nothing Make You Feel Guilty
Why can’t you relax without feeling guilty? Why does sitting down, doing nothing, or doing something just for fun somehow feel like you should be doing…
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Why You Can't Ask for Help — The Cost of Being the Strong One
Why is it so hard to ask for help when you are the person everyone else relies on? You get home exhausted. Dinner needs to be made, homework needs to be…
- Found at 17 | Abandonment Wounds & Relationship Patterns
When Your Child Chooses the Other Parent.
Your child chose the house with fewer rules. You made the rules, their father made the memories, and somehow you are the one sitting in a quiet house wondering…
- Found at 17 | Abandonment Wounds & Relationship Patterns
What Parents Miss About Teen Mental Health — A School Counselor Explains
School counselor Francisco Cepeda sits across from teenagers every day—and hears what many parents and adults never get to hear. In this conversation…
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The Decision You Made at 17 to Keep Everyone Happy—and How It Still Runs Your Life
Everyone is about to ask a 17-year-old the wrong question. What are you going to do with your life? This is a short letter to a rising senior, from a former…
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The Grief Nobody Calls Grief — Empty Nest and Letting Go of Your Senior
You counted the dinners. You didn't sit down and do it. It landed on you one night at the table, and it hasn't left since. This is empty nest grief, and it…
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Perfectionism, People-Pleasing, and Overthinking: Where "High Standards" Really Come From
You call it high standards. You call it being thorough. But if a small decision takes you three days — the lists, the tabs, asking everyone's opinion before…
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Love Is Blind, Perfect Match & Why You Need to Be Chosen — The Abandonment Wound Behind Reality Dating
Why does being chosen feel so powerful? In Love Is Blind and Perfect Match, you can watch it happen in real time. A woman says she is casual, unbothered, just…
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Nervous System Healing Isn't Linear: Why Your Abandonment Wound Keeps Coming Back
You did the work. You felt better. And then it came back — the same old ache, the same trigger, the same pattern you thought you'd healed. So you ask yourself…
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When Talk Therapy Is Not Enough — NeuroEmotional Technique (NET) and the Neurological Integration System (NIS) with Elizabeth Craft
Your nervous system remembers everything your mind tried to forget. Registered Nurse and certified NET and NIS practitioner Elizabeth Craft explains exactly…
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The Adoptee Who Became an Adoption Therapist — Healing Adoption Trauma with Dr. Gina Marie Dattilo
She lived the adoptee experience first, then spent her career helping others heal it. Dr. Gina Marie Dattilo joins the show to talk about adoption trauma, the…
- Found at 17 | Abandonment Wounds & Relationship Patterns
How to Release Trauma Stored in the Body — NET, Acupuncture, and the Nervous System with Dr. Noah Cali
You can talk about your pain for years and still feel it living in your body. In this episode, Dr. Noah Cali explains how Neuro Emotional Technique (NET)…
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EMDR, Biofeedback, and Healing What Talk Therapy Cannot Reach — Kelley Smith on Nervous System Healing
You have talked about it. You understand it. So why does it still feel like it is living in your body? In this episode Rosanna sits down with Kelley Smith —…
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You've Done the Therapy. You're Still Triggered. Here's Why — Neuroemotional Technique With Dr. Kendall Ahrens
You have done the work. You have sat in the therapy chair. And something still won't let go. That is not failure — that is your nervous system holding a charge…
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Why It Won't Go Away — Triggers, Hidden Wounds, and Why You Keep Getting Pulled Back In
You thought you had healed it. And then one ordinary moment — a text, a song, a single word — and you are right back in it. You are not broken. You are not…
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How to Forgive Someone Who Never Apologized — Why Forgiveness Is Not Reconciliation, Access, or a Permission Slip
I did not forgive my ex-husband intentionally. I just woke up one day and the charge was gone. And the woman he had the affair with? I ran into her…
- Found at 17 | Abandonment Wounds & Relationship Patterns
Grieving Someone Who Is Still Alive — Ambiguous Loss, Emotional Abandonment, and the Grief Nobody Gives You Permission to Feel
Nobody checked on you. Nobody brought flowers. Because the person you are grieving is still breathing. This episode names the grief the world has no ceremony…
- Found at 17 | Abandonment Wounds & Relationship Patterns
The Abandonment Wound — Why It's Been Running Your Life and How to Finally See It
Something has been running your life. Your relationships. Your patterns. The way you love and leave. It has a name. And once you can see it — everything…
- Found at 17 | Abandonment Wounds & Relationship Patterns
Ep 10: Dear 17 — A Letter to Every Adult Who Was Once Young and Carried Something Nobody Helped Them Name
This episode is a letter. Not to the teenager standing at graduation — but to the adult who was once 17 and stepped into the world still holding something…
- Found at 17 | Abandonment Wounds & Relationship Patterns
Ep 9: National Adoption and Foster Care Awareness Month--What Every Adoptee and Foster Child Need to Hear
I did not know May was National Foster Care and Adoption Awareness Month until I walked into a Wendy's and saw it. And I smiled — because God always has…
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Ep. 8: Why You Keep Falling for the Same Person in a Different Body--Imago Theory and Toxic Relationship Patterns
It is not bad luck. It is not bad taste. And it is not a coincidence. There is a reason you keep ending up in the same place — and I found the answer in a…
- Found at 17 | Abandonment Wounds & Relationship Patterns
Ep 7: People Pleasing Is Not Kindness — It Is Fear. Here Is What It Is Really Costing You
You know the feeling. You see exactly what is happening but you say nothing. You absorb it. You cover for it. And somewhere in the process — you lose a piece…
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Ep. 6: Healing the Abandonment Wound- What 16 yrs of Healthy Love Actually Looks Like
This is where it all comes together. In this final episode of the first arc, I show you where the road leads. Not the highlight reel version. The real one. I…
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Ep. 5: Anxious Attachment vs Avoidant Attachment- Why You Push People Away and Cannot Stand Alone
Sometimes the wound isn't running your life loudly. Sometimes it's quiet. Familiar. And completely invisible — until you stop running long enough to see it. If…
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Ep 4: Why You Keep Choosing the Wrong People — The Wound You Don't Know You're Carrying
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Ep. 3: The Night My Entire Identity Changed — And What Silence Does to a Person
Sometimes the wound is running the show long before you even know it's there. January 1st finally arrives. And what happens in the days that follow — the…
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Ep. 2: Growing Up in a Loving Family and Still Feeling Like Something Was Missing
You can be loved well and still feel like something is missing. That's not ingratitude. That's human. She shares the coaching truth that changed everything…
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I Found Out I Was Adopted at 17 — And Nobody Asked If I Was Okay
🔗 Connect with me & find all resources here: https://linktr.ee/unfinishedrewrite You gave everything. They still left. You don't know why. In this first…