Why You Keep Second-Guessing Yourself (and How to Trust Your Own Decisions)

Found at 17 | Abandonment Wounds & Relationship Patterns · Oct 7, 2026 · 12m

What if you actually know what you want—you just don’t trust yourself enough to choose it?

In this episode of Found at 17, I’m talking about something I didn’t fully recognize until I looked back at the decisions that shaped my life: how much time I spent second-guessing myself and looking for someone else to confirm that what I wanted was okay.

I stayed in an unhappy marriage about five and a half years longer than I should have partly because I couldn’t bear the thought of hearing four words: “We told you so.”

I passed on things I wanted because someone else questioned whether I knew what I…