How to Ask for What You Need (and Stop Saying “Never Mind”) | EP 34

Found at 17 | Abandonment Wounds & Relationship Patterns · Oct 24, 2026 · 10m

How do you ask for what you need without taking it back the second it gets uncomfortable?

I finally said what I needed, and before the other person could answer, I took it back. "I know you're busy. Never mind." Then I was upset that nothing changed.

In this episode of Found at 17, I'm talking about the "never mind" habit. If you've experienced abandonment, or learned that having needs made you harder to love, asking for something simple can start to feel like a question about whether you matter. So we answer for the other person before they've had a chance to speak. We make their excuses for…