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The Third Thing
A podcast Hosted by Michelle & Danyelle: a coach and a therapist, an interracial and queer best friend pair of 26 years. The Third Thing is where we are naming and confronting the topics that challenge us in platonic relationships. On friendship and race, money, sobriety, politics, when we drift or breakup, and the jealousy nobody admits to. Each week we spill the tea from our hurdles, and offer up the tools we’ve learned along the way.
Episodes
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S2E22: Astrology & Friendship Compatibility (pt 2): Generational Placements
Somewhere between your late 20s and early 30s, life shook like a snow globe. Maybe you packed up and moved. Maybe you planted roots and doubled down. Astrology…
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S2E21: Astrology & Friendship Compatibility (pt 1): Reading Your Natal Chart
Ever wonder why you and your best friend are perfectly in sync in person, but somehow every text thread turns into a small fire? There might be a cosmic…
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S2E20: Weddings Make People Weird - Navigating Traditions, Money, & Drama
You got the invite to be in the wedding party, and you said yes before you knew what you were signing up for: the matching robes, the bachelorette weekend, the…
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S2E19: It's Not If, It's When: Mental Health in Friendship
Your friend cancels again. They go quiet for a week. Or you're the one who has to text "I can't make it today" for the third time this month. Mental health is…
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S2E18: Can Men and Women Really Be Friends? Unpacking the Trope
Can Men and Women Really Be Friends? The short answer is yes. The longer answer is where it gets interesting. When Harry Met Sally told a whole generation that…
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S2E17: What to Do When You Don't Like Your Friend's Partner
Every relationship or friend group has had this moment: your favorite person is dating someone you can't stand. Maybe it's just a values mismatch, or maybe…
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S2E16: Are You a Good Friend to Yourself? On Self-Abandonment and People-Pleasing
You already know how to show up for a friend: feed them a home cooked meal, celebrate their wins or birthdays, meet their tears with grace. Now flip it around…
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S2E15: "I Give More Than I Get" - On One Sided Friendship
Everybody has that friend who remembers the birthdays, plans the trips, sends the text first or the friendship where they're the one always reaching out (which…
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S2E14: Why Making Friends as an Adult Feels So Hard (And What Actually Helps)
You haven't had to walk into a room and introduce yourself in years, and then suddenly you do, and every old insecurity shows up at once. Making friends as an…
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S2E13: Chosen Family 101 - What Queer Culture Gets Right About Friendship
Season Two opens with the episode we've been wanting to make since day one. Queerness has been a thread running under every conversation on this show, and this…
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S1E12: Bonus Episode: Tarot Reading on Money, Scarcity, and Rest
Ever wondered what actually happens in a tarot reading? Not the vague, Instagram-caption version, but a real one, with real questions, real doubt, and cards…
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S1E11: Bonus Episode: On Becoming Podcasters and Going Viral
We finished Season 1. Ten episodes, recorded and released, exactly the way we said we would. In this bonus episode, we're pulling back the curtain on what that…
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S1E10: On Friendship and the Grief of Drifting
You know that friend you keep meaning to text back? The one where you scroll up in the thread and realize it's been six months, then a year, then you've lost…
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S1E9: Money Differences in Friendship - When Your Incomes Don't Match
You've never told your best friend what you actually make. Or you have, and you watched their face change. Money might be the last real taboo in friendship…
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S1E8: How to Stay Friends When Life Pulls You Apart
📍 Content warning. This episode includes a discussion of a suicide attempt starting at 6:09 and running through 8:42. Please take care of yourself while…
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S1E7: Boundaries Aren't Just for Romantic or Familial Relationships
Boundaries are everywhere in conversation right now, but almost no one talks about how tangled up they are with shame, especially in friendship. This week…
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S1E6: Friendship and Attachment Styles - Why You Keep Attracting the Same Kinds of Friends
Attachment style usually gets talked about in the context of dating and romance. Rarely do we turn that same lens on friendship, even though it shapes those…
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S1E5: The Breakup Nobody Talks About - When You Lose A Friend
Friendship breakups are one of the most painful experiences we can go through and one of the least talked about. There's no ceremony, no bereavement leave, no…
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S1E4: What 25 Years of Friendship Across Race Has Taught Us
Race is something every interracial friendship encounters, but most of us were never given the tools or the language to talk about it honestly. In this…
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S1E1: Meet the hosts!
What if friendship deserves the same care, commitment, and investment that we give to romantic relationships? In the very first episode of The Third Thing…
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S1E2: What is "The Third Thing"?
What if friendship isn't the supporting character in your life story? What if it's one of the most important relationships you'll ever have? In this episode…
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S1E3: When Your Best Friend Hurt You: How To Find Your Way Back
Conflict is something every relationship encounters, but most of us were never taught how to navigate it well. In this episode, Michelle and Danyelle explore…
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Season 1 Trailer
Podcast launching June 16th! There are three kinds of love. There's romantic love, the one that gets the songs, the movies, the couples therapy, the date…