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When It Comes to Women, I’m Keeping Up
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Ep371 – Long Road Back from Detachment
Sheri and Matt take a ride in the way-back machine and relive the relationship dysfunction of active addiction, the process of finding sobriety, individual…
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Ep370 – Jennifer on Craniosacral Therapy
If you could use some help calming your dysregulated nervous system, craniosacral therapy is worth your consideration. Along with other therapeutic practices…
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Faux Farm Boy
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Ep369 – The Guilt of Womanhood
Sheri feels guilty about things that Matt would never feel guilty about if the roles were reversed. Is it instincts or is it conditioning? Listen to find out…
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Beige Penis Privilege
This is the audio version of the essay from my Underlying Issues Substack. To subscribe to read about more of my underlying issues, please click this link or…
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Ep368 – Feeling Judged
Being judged for our actions and opinions is one thing. Feeling judged long after the judgement has stopped is something else entirely. Moving past the…
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He Might Be Dead, But It’s My Sunday That’s Ruined
This is the audio version of the essay from my Underlying Issues Substack. To subscribe to read about more of my underlying issues, please click this link or…
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Ep367 – Accountability: Why did they do that?
We all know that accountability involves assessing and accepting blame, but it goes much deeper. Accountability is also about asking why and getting to the…
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Jesus Got Rizz
This is the audio version of the essay from my Underlying Issues Substack. To subscribe to read about more of my underlying issues, please click this link or…
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Ep366 – Impact of Trauma on Sheri’s Voice
Regular listeners of the Untoxicated Podcast have surely noticed Sheri’s cough. On this episode, she shares the therapeutic work she is doing, both…
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Stage Fright
This is the audio version of the essay from my Underlying Issues Substack. To subscribe to read about more of my underlying issues, please click this link or…
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Ep365 – The Second Story with Shari Caudron
Have you reached midlife with lots of skills and experiences, but with a nagging feeling that those tools are leaving you unfulfilled, and doubling down just…
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Death Musings
This is the audio version of the essay from my Underlying Issues Substack. To subscribe to read about more of my underlying issues, please click this link or…
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Ep364 – When Behaviors Change Before Nervous System Repair
The partners of people with drinking problems learn about things like boundary setting and detachment. But implementation is about more than understanding and…
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Ep363 – 5 Steps to Navigating Your Partner’s Emotional Relapse
Not all relapses involve alcohol. Sheri offers five effective tactics to navigate the emotional relapse of a partner while continuing to protect your own…
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Ep362 – Ask Lara
Lara Hammock is The Illustrating Therapist and she uses drawings to make relationship patterns easier to see. On this quarterly visit with Sheri and Matt, Lara…
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Ep361 – Pros at Work, Puddles at Home Roundtable
Our three panelists have a ton of experience being large and in-charge at work, then melting under the anxiety, uncertainty, and emotional abuse of living with…
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Ep360 – Living Alone: Failure or Relief?
When people in committed relationships experience the alcoholism of one of the partners, it is widely assumed that relationship recovery is the ultimate goal…
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Ep359 – Rejecting Contentment
What is the connection between addiction and never truly feeling content? We talk a lot about underlying issues for alcoholism – things like childhood…
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Ep358 – Retreat Roundtable: Feeling Safe with Strangers in the Woods
What is it like to feel safe to speak your mind and explore your emotions? No fear of reaction. No one telling you what to do. Listen to Jen, Nikki, Mike…
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Ep357 – Sober Living Roundtable
What is sober living, anyway? If an alcoholic has completed detox and treatment, why do they need a sober living environment? Matt used to think sober living…
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Ep356 – What does the partner owe the drinker?
Leading experts in alcoholism recovery promote that the partner and other family members of the drinker play a role in the drinker’s sobriety. Sheri and…
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Ep355 – The Embarrassments of an Intoxicated Summer
Overstaying at the party, making grandiose plans, saying stupid stuff, passing out in public, missing all the social cues: Sheri and Matt talk about his…
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Ep354 – How a Lack of Safety Causes a Lack of Connection
Emotional safety is critically important to both relationship recovery, and also individual growth and discovery. We are triggered to soothe when we…
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Ep353 – How Matt Grew to Understand what Sheri had Been Through
Matt understands that his drinking and past emotionally unsafe behavior created for Sheri triggers and traumas. Reaching that understanding was a slow…
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Ep352 – Sexual Consent and Emotional Intimacy with Amanda Dames
When asked about the impact on a relationship when an intoxicated partner begs for or demands sex, and the coercion works because the drinker’s partner…
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Ep351 – Benefits of Emotional Safety for the Recipient and Provider
Sheri and Matt have covered the ways emotional safety improves relationship dynamic for the person on the receiving end: nervous system regulation, peace and…
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Requisite
This is the latest essay from our Untoxicated Blog. To read our hundreds of essays on drinking, emotional safety, and the underlying issues of addiction…
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Ep350 – Jane is Lifting Heavy Things to Deal with Heavy Things
Jane is an Echoes of Recovery OG who taught us to call our growth and healing work, “Discovery,” because there is no going back. After six years of…
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Exorcising the “F” Word
This is the latest essay from our Untoxicated Blog. To read our hundreds of essays on drinking, emotional safety, and the underlying issues of addiction…
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Ep349 – Emotional Safety and Raising Kids
When it comes to parenting, there is no shortage of generational trauma cycle breaking to be addressed. Sheri and Matt talk about the two-generation cycle…
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Humans. Am I Right?
This is the latest essay from our Untoxicated Blog. To read our hundreds of essays on drinking, emotional safety, and the underlying issues of addiction…
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Ep348 – Ask Lara for Her BEST Relationship Advice
Lara Hammock is back for another quarterly segment full of probing questions and thoughtful, helpful, well illustrated advice! Lara is a mental health…
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This Is Why She Doesn’t Trust You
This is the latest essay from our Untoxicated Blog. To read our hundreds of essays on drinking, emotional safety, and the underlying issues of addiction…
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Ep347 – I Don’t Want to NEED to Be Strong
It is not the compliment you think it is when you tell the partner of a heavy drinker how strong she is. And when you tell her that you’ll help more if…
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Never Quite Measuring Up
Our latest essay from our Untoxicated blog: “Never Quite Measuring Up” I did the math in my head. If the sales revenue generated on the opening day of our…
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Ep346 – Relapse and Divorce with Kim Augustus
On Untoxicated Podcast Ep206, Kim Augustus thought her family had made it out of alcoholism and into solid recovery. In this next chapter, Kim’s second…
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Big Birthday Revolution
Our latest essay from our Untoxicated blog: “Big Birthday Revolution” My dad’s birthday was a couple of weeks ago. I didn’t send him a card. I called him on…
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Ep345 – ADHD and Alcoholism with Annette and Jason
For Jason, alcohol provided clarity for his fuzzy thoughts and lack of clarity. His medicinal drinking helped him thrive at work. But his drinking caused…
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Rose, part two
Our latest essay from our Untoxicated blog: “Rose, part two” Confused about the sources of her anxiety, and incapable of confronting Chris for the alcohol or…
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Ep344 – Be a Happier Parent with Alex Trippier
Does the distribution of household workload cause stress in your relationship? Are your parenting roles unclear as women excel in the workforce and men…
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Rose, part one
Our latest essay from our Untoxicated blog: “Rose, part one” He took a cube of cheese right out of Rose’s mouth. It was the move a parent makes when a baby…
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Ep343 – The Five Love Languages with Monica Tanner
“You know my love language is physical touch, and yet you withhold sex, and that’s why I drink.” Relationship and Sex Therapist Monica Tanner…
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She IS Stuck in the Past
Our latest essay from our Untoxicated blog: “She IS Stuck in the Past” “You said we would only be there for a little while. A couple of beers, you said. The…
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Ep342 – Divorce Like a Boss with Diana
Diana Romanov practices family law in California, and she believes in client education and harnessing the power of technology to partner with her clients to…
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Jen, part two
Our latest essay from our Untoxicated blog: “Jen, part two” (Click here to listen to part one.) Old academic papers on the impact of alcoholism on kids are…
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Ep341 – Embracing Emotional Masculinity with Hammer
Mike Hamm is the partner of a drinker in recovery. He really relates to many of Sheri’s experiences. As a man, he also shares struggles with Matt. On…
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Jen, part one
Our latest essay from our Untoxicated blog: “Jen, part one” Mindfuckery. That’s how she described the cognitive dissonance of sitting in the waiting room while…
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Ep340 – Dual Diagnosis: What’s Behind the Alcohol?
Dual Diagnosis is a medical term for when someone experiences a substance use disorder and a co-occurring mental health concern. Sheri and Matt expand the…
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It Won’t Matter
Our latest essay from our Untoxicated blog: “It Won’t Matter” I wish I could deliver a message to my younger self. Many messages, really, to many earlier…
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Ep339 – Watch Your Mouth
Are you an alcoholic, or are you a gray-area drinker? Are you avoiding confrontation, or do you have topics that you might find benefits from addressing? Are…
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The Family Scar
Our latest essay from our Untoxicated blog: “The Family Scar” Before they served us our farewell dinner, our neighbors of twenty years, while…
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Ep338 – Relief
Sheri and Matt explain the relief that the partners of drinkers experience in different scenarios as relationship status and possibly drinking status change…
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Evolution Series: Consequences of Confrontation
Our latest essay from the Evolution Series from our Untoxicated blog: Consequences of Confrontation Confrontation has long been hard for me, and I have worked…
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Ep337 – From Surviving to Thriving with Jen
This is one of the most extreme cases of an incredibly normal experience. What started for Jen as social drinking with a new boyfriend eventually built to…
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Enough
Our latest essay from our Untoxicated blog: Enough Is having enough about getting more or needing less? I was at a casual lunch meeting with six people and two…
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Ep336 – Ask Lara
In this quarterly session with licensed clinical social worker and mental health therapist, Lara Hammock, Sheri and Matt ask Lara listener questions about…
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Sober and Unashamed: Shameful Awakening
New from Sober and Unashamed: “Shameful Awakening” We hope you will engage. Please read and leave a comment about where you are in your process on our Sober…
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Ep335 – Midwest Resentment Stuffing
Trigger warning: Epstein and power addiction (to skip graphic discussion, please go to 17:45). Do you recognize this cycle: Conflict, huffiness, a period of no…