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Why aren’t we talking about this?
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Why Aren’t We Talking About This? is a series of honest conversations about the stuff we rarely discuss but probably should—big feelings, weird thoughts, life, death, sex and all the messy, beautiful parts of being human.
This is for midlife women who:
Want more from life but worry that wanting something different makes them ungrateful.
Recognise burnout in women, yet find it difficult to stop being the capable one everyone relies…
Episodes
Why aren’t we talking about this?Hyper-independence: When “I can manage” becomes “I don’t need anyone” | I’ve been thinking about this…
Hyper-independence can show up in the everyday habit of doing everything yourself. Why does asking for help feel so uncomfortable when you’re happy to offer…
Why aren’t we talking about this?Why do I say I’m fine when I’m not? Asking for Help | Rachel Mason
Asking for help can feel uncomfortable when you’re used to saying “I’m fine”. What happens when you need support but worry about being a burden? Rachel Mason…
Why aren’t we talking about this?How to figure out what you want when you’ve put yourself last with Nadia Patel (LIVE)
Wanting more from life doesn’t mean you’re ungrateful for the life you already have. So why can it feel so uncomfortable to admit it? Your career’s fine, your…
Why aren’t we talking about this?Baby loss support: Grieving yourself or supporting someone you love | Tanya Wilkinson
What does baby loss support really look like, whether you’re grieving yourself or trying to be there for someone you love? Grief coach and Death on the Daily…
Why aren’t we talking about this?Having a baby in NICU: Guilt, fear and finding your bond | Charlotte Corbett
What does life after NICU feel like when your baby is home, but you’re still on high alert? Charlotte joins me to share her experience of neonatal intensive…
Why aren’t we talking about this?How to talk about sex: Asking your partner for what you really want | Ally Iseman
How do you talk to your partner about sex when you’re not even sure how to explain what you want? You can be confident at work, clear about your opinions and…
Why aren’t we talking about this?Psychedelics for women: Midlife curiosity and the fear of losing control | Nasreen El-Mariesh
Psychedelics for women: what’s behind the curiosity, particularly in midlife, and what holds us back from even having the conversation? I’ve been interested…
Why aren’t we talking about this?Maternity leave guilt: Why do we feel we’re wasting it? | Becca Hamilton
Maternity leave guilt can mean worrying about the work you’ve left behind, wondering whether you’re doing enough for your baby, or feeling that you should…
Why aren’t we talking about this?Female ambition: Why does wanting more make us feel guilty? | Nadia Patel
Why does female ambition still come with so much explaining? You want the promotion, the bigger business or the opportunity to be seen, but admitting it can…
Why aren’t we talking about this?Sex in long-term relationships: Why you don’t always feel in the mood | Ruth Ramsay
Responsive desire might be a new phrase to you (it was to me), but the experience may sound familiar: you enjoy sex when it happens, wonder why you don’t do it…
Why aren’t we talking about this?Hustle culture: Why do we think success has to be exhausting? | Lorna Lyons
Hustle culture has left me with a belief I find difficult to shake: if I want to earn good money, I should be working bloody hard for it. When someone tells me…
Why aren’t we talking about this?Burnout in women: Looking like you’re coping when you’re not | Shena Lee-Anthony
Burnout in women can sit behind a very convincing “I’ve got this”. You’re keeping work moving, looking after other people and finding a reason for every sign…
Why aren’t we talking about this?Jealous of other people’s success? Career envy and feeling left behind | Claire Bridges & Elizabeth Treversh (live)
Career envy is uncomfortable to admit, especially when you genuinely admire the person you’re jealous of. You can recognise that her work is brilliant, want…
Why aren’t we talking about this?Recurrent UTIs and menopause: Why is it so hard to get help? | Kath Church
Recurrent UTIs aren’t just an uncomfortable inconvenience. The burning, the constant urge to pee and the pain can take over your day and infections can…
Why aren’t we talking about this?When life falls apart: How do you keep going through uncertainty? | Sarah McDermott
When life falls apart, how do you find your next step while you’re still frightened, overwhelmed and unsure what’s going to happen? It’s one thing to hear…
Why aren’t we talking about this?Starting something new in midlife: Why I started a podcast at 41
This week, we’re doing something a bit different. I’m talking about me. Why, at 41, did I decide to start a podcast, share stories about myself and put…
Why aren’t we talking about this?Living with endometriosis: Pain, fertility fears and finding support | Kyra Bentley
Living with endometriosis can feel lonely, even when you have people around you who love you and want to help. How do you explain unpredictable pain…
Why aren’t we talking about this?Posting children on social media: Where do we draw the line? | Lisa Ventura
Posting children on social media can feel like an ordinary part of family life: the first day of school, a birthday, something funny they’ve said. But how much…
Why aren’t we talking about this?People pleasing: Are you choosing your life or managing everyone’s reactions? | Heidi Cullip
People pleasing can shape more than the favours you agree to or the work you take on. It can influence whether you change careers, have children, try something…
Why aren’t we talking about this?Grief and guilt: Am I grieving wrong? | Kate Nudds
“Am I grieving wrong?” It’s a question you might ask when your siblings seem to be coping differently, when something completely ordinary floors you months…
Why aren’t we talking about this?Male infertility: Guilt, silence and going through IVF together | Alex Wortley
Male infertility can bring a difficult mix of uncertainty, guilt and feeling unsure where you fit in the treatment process. How do you support your partner…
Why aren’t we talking about this?How to listen to your body: When health advice feels overwhelming | Brigid Fox
How do you listen to your body when everyone else seems to be telling you what it needs? More protein, more steps, better sleep, heavier weights, another…
Why aren’t we talking about this?Midlife career change: When the job everyone wants makes you miserable | Gilly Ridley Whittle
Midlife career change can feel difficult to explain when, from the outside, you’ve got the job everyone wants. The title, the salary and the career you worked…
Why aren’t we talking about this?What to say to someone who is grieving: When you’re scared of getting it wrong | Poppy Mardall
What do you say to someone who is grieving when everything you think of sounds inadequate? You want to be a good friend, but you’re worried about upsetting…
Why aren’t we talking about this?Feeling stuck in your career? How to know when it’s time to leave | Richard Robinson
How do you know when to leave your job, especially when you’re good at it, people rely on you and you have absolutely no idea what you’d do instead? It’s easy…
Why aren’t we talking about this?Grief at Christmas: Making space for what you need | Jennie Cashman
Grief at Christmas can feel particularly lonely when everything around you insists you should be having a wonderful time. There are presents to organise…
Why aren’t we talking about this?How to have fun without alcohol: Will I still feel like me? | Helen Masters
How do you have fun without alcohol when so much of your social life and your sense of who you are, has been built around drinking? If you’ve always been the…
Why aren’t we talking about this?Dense breasts and breast cancer risk: What does breast density mean? | Adrian Waller
About the show: Why Aren’t We Talking About This? is a series of honest conversations about the stuff we rarely discuss but probably should—big feelings, weird…
Why aren’t we talking about this?GLP-1 weight-loss injections and body image: Why do I feel pressure to be thinner? | Bertie Stringer
GLP-1 weight-loss injections are everywhere, but what happens to our relationship with food and our bodies when the conversation is dominated by…
Why aren’t we talking about this?Coping with redundancy: Who am I without my job? | Jarrod Cocksedge
Coping with redundancy can mean losing much more than an income. The calls stop, your diary empties and a question as ordinary as “What do you do?” suddenly…
Why aren’t we talking about this?How to trust your intuition: When you keep second-guessing yourself | Sim Stevens
How do you trust your intuition when you’re used to second-guessing yourself? You have a feeling about something, but it looks good on paper, the money makes…