Shows / Black Girls Heal
Black Girls Heal
Black Girls Heal helps women break out of cycles of unhealthy relationships with unavailable partners and feeling not enough by combining coaching, therapeutic support, and practical tools. Every episode, we will talk about intimacy, attachment, healing unresolved trauma, and growing in our self worth.
Episodes
Black Girls Heal#55: Practicing Gratitude (Even When It's Hard)
A new episode Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become…
Black Girls Heal#54: Building Supportive Friendships for Healing
When it comes to healing intimacy disorders, you HAVE to have a good group of friends to support you. In this podcast episode, I talk about how to discern who…
Black Girls Heal#53: Healing Our Unavailable Relationship with Whiteness
We have a dysfunctional relationship right now with whiteness & white supremacy. In this episode, I talk about it and 5 steps to heal from the impact of racial…
Black Girls Heal#52: Make the Decision to Start (Student Highlight)
Sometimes the hardest decision is to start... especially if everything looks like it is going well. In this episode, we look at how this showed up for one of…
Black Girls Heal#51: Who Do You Want to Be in Your Relationship
Continuing our "Couples Month" focus in May, this week, we're talking about how to focus on who you want to be and how you want to show up in…
Black Girls HealBONUS: This One is About Racial Trauma
Racial trauma hits different. It goes deep, affects our bodies, and our peace. In this episode, I talk about how it's been affecting me, and some resources I…
Black Girls Heal#50: 3 Ways to Maintain a Healthy Relationship
So you have a relationship and you want to make sure you do your part to keep it healthy even though you struggle with an intimacy disorder? Awesome! Let's…
Black Girls Heal#49: The 4 Things Breaking Up Your Relationship
When it comes to improving our relationship health, we have to look at OUR part and what we may be contributing to the relationship. We'll be digging into 4…
Black Girls Heal#48: 3 Ways to Know It's Safe to Reconnect
If there's someone in your life you're wanting to reconnect with (or them with you), this episode is for you to determine if it is safe for you to restart that…
Black Girls Heal#47: You Can't "Practice" With Unhealthy People
Someone people hang onto people that they shouldn't so they can "practice" their communication and boundary skills on them. In this episode, we're…
Black Girls Heal#46: Understanding and Honoring Your Trauma Response
Everyone deals with stress and trauma a little differently... and that's okay. Take a listen to this podcast episode to learn more about your response and…
Black Girls Heal#45 - Why You Can't Take Everyone's Advice
In this episode, I talk about why it's so important to talk to people who get it. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our…
Black Girls Heal#44: A Reminder in Case You Need It
In case you need a reminder of your worth and encouragement to keep moving, here it is! Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join…
Black Girls Heal#43: Looking for Corona Bae, Swiping, and Coping with Current Stressors
In the words of Cardi B, "[Things] are getting real." Some of us are going to have a lot more time with ourselves and some of us are going to be…
Black Girls Heal#42: Wanting (Needing) to be Loved is Not Being Spoiled
We have an unclear definition of what it means to be spoiled and the words that we speak over each other. We talk about it this episode! Ready to heal your…
Black Girls Heal#41: Is Shame Controlling You?
In this episode, we talk about if your shame is controlling you and if you're reacting outwardly or inwardly. We also dig into whether or not you may be…
Black Girls Heal#40: How to Connect Without Losing Yourself
Sometimes, even when you want to connect and let your walls down, fear gets in the way. We talk about it here! Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love…
Black Girls Heal#39: Healing Intellectual Trauma (Student Highlight)
Intellectual trauma can impact how we show up in the world, how we feel about ourselves, and truly block us. In this podcast episode, I help one of my students…
Black Girls Heal#38: The Label DOES Matter
When working to have clarity in your relationships, first thing we gotta start with is the label. In this episode, we talk about why labels DO matter and how…
Black Girls Heal#37: Maybe It's You
If you've battled with consistent relationship issues, instead of look at how other people may be the issue, it might be important to look at yourself. Maybe…
Black Girls Heal#36: Sex as an Attachment Issue
If you've struggled with some issues with regards to your sexuality and sex life, it may be based on your attachment and unresolved trauma. I talk about the…
Black Girls Heal#35: Avoiding Our Personal Potholes
How do you learn from your mistakes? How do you avoid falling into your own personal potholes? We talk about it in this episode! Ready to heal your Love…
Black Girls Heal#34: You Can Change Your Mind
Part of healing includes knowing you can change your mind! Let's talk about it today! Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join…
Black Girls Heal#33: You Have the Power
YOU have the power to change your life. You are your own superhero. Love you so much and Happy New Year! Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?…
Black Girls Heal#32: Top 5 Episodes of 2019
Whether your a newbie or a Day 1, this episode is going to recap the most popular podcast episodes of 2019 and give you a place to start should you be looking…
Black Girls Heal#31: Creating Your Own Traditions
If you're a love addict and are feeling the pain this holiday season waiting for when your time will come, this episode is for you! Take a listen as Shena…
Black Girls Heal#30: My Top 2 (Conflict) Communication Tips
In time for the holiday season, I'm sharing my top two communication tips to help you share what you're feeling and avoid escalating conflict. Ready to heal…
Black Girls Heal#29: 3 Things to Keep in Mind When Making A Mistake
Oof!! Have you ever messed up and battled with shame on how it made you look, what it meant about you, and if you could ever recover? If so, this episode is…
Black Girls Heal#28: Boundary Hangovers
Ever feel guilt, shame, or self-doubt after setting boundaries with someone? Don't worry! You're normal. We talk about it more in this episode! Ready to heal…
Black Girls Heal#27: Ask Shena #1: Staying Present in a Healthy Relationship, Managing Fears and Expectations of Motherhood
We are starting a new segment of the podcast called "Ask Shena" where listeners get a chance to have a mini-call with Shena. This episode, being the…
Black Girls Heal#26: False Intimacy
Do you move quickly too soon in relationships? Ever wonder why? Take a listen to this episode to pause, regroup, and learn how to build intimacy in a healthy…
Black Girls Heal#25: Trauma Bonds
Trauma bonds! Where do they come from? Why are they so hard to get rid up? What's the difference between a trauma bond and being in love. We did into all of…
Black Girls Heal#24: The Importance of Self Forgiveness
Forgiveness isn't just something we do for and with other people. Forgiveness is a critical part of self healing and recovery. We did into different facets of…
Black Girls Heal#23: 3 Traps We Fall Into When Forgiving Others
In this episode, we do a quick breakdown of the importance of forgiveness for our healing process. We also dig into 3 traps we fall into when forgiving others…
Black Girls HealCheck in!
Just a check in while we get some great things ready for you! Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School…
Black Girls Heal#22: Building Self Compassion with Sarah Suzuki
In this episode, Sarah Suzuki of Chicago Compass Counseling breaks down what it means to build self compassion. She gives us practical tips on working through…
Black Girls Heal#21: Manifestation & Mindset
In this episode, we get into how manifestation is connected to your inner healing. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our…
Black Girls Heal#20: When It's Hard to Let Go - Q&A
In this special episode, we take a listen to the Q&A about podcast episode #4 - When It's Hard to Let Go. In this episode, we cover boundaries and how to…
Black Girls Heal#19: Are You Changing Or Just Thinking About Changing?
Where are you in the stages of change? Are you actually changing or just thinking about it? We dig into it this episode and also how to help you get to the…
Black Girls Heal#18: 4 Things That Are Blocking You From Change
Are you ready for change? In this two-part series, we get into 4 mindsets that may be blocking you from change. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love…
Black Girls Heal#17: What is Withdrawal?
Ever wonder what that deep, painful feeling is that happens after you break up as a love addict? Ever feel that it hits you differently than others and you…
Black Girls Heal#16: Healing Codependency
In this episode, we dig into what is codependency, where does it come from, and what you can do to unlearn it. We also spend time talking about what it looks…
Black Girls Heal#15: Is it Time to Go Back to Therapy?
So you've been to therapy before and you're wondering if maybe you need to go back? This episode will help you determine if so and give some advice to surpass…
Black Girls Heal#14: 3 Things Avoidants Can Do To Make Their Lives Better
In this episode, we go over what is love avoidance, how it looks in relationships, and 3 things you can do to unlearn it and improve your connection to others…
Black Girls Heal#13: Identifying Your Feelings (With an Intimacy Disorder)
Determining how we feel is vital to showing up for ourselves with self-love, showing up as our own person in relationships, and getting what we need. But it…
Black Girls Heal#12: When Trauma Shuts You Down in Relationships
Unresolved trauma gets stuck in your body and not only will affect you individually (mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically), but also in your…
Black Girls Heal#11: When Living in Your Head Soothes You
Fantasy and living in our heads are fancy coping mechanisms that keep us emotionally safe but also keeps us stuck. In this episode, we break down what fantasy…
Black Girls Heal#10: 3 Ways to Know It's Time to End a Relationship (Summer Reset)
Let's get the second half of your year (or whenever you are listening to this podcast) in gear by knowing if it's time for your relationship to come to a pause…
Black Girls Heal#9: Avoiding a Victim Mentality in Relationships
In this episode, we talk about what is a victim mentality, how might it show up in relationships, and what to do about it! 23 Signs You’re Suffering From a…
Black Girls Heal#8: Letting Others In (The How To's & Roadblocks)
Letting others in is hard. We can be afraid of being hurt, let down, or made to look foolish. It's also hard to determine who are the right people to let in…
Black Girls Heal#7: When It's Hard to Let Go of a Relationship
Sometimes, even when you know it's time to end a relationship, it's hard to let go. In this episode, Shena digs into 3 reasons it's hard to let go, how this…
Black Girls Heal#6: 3 Ways to Choose People Who Won't Burn You, Disappoint You, or Hurt You
In this episode, I give you three ways to ensure you are not choosing people who may end up hurting you down the road. We talk about learning from previous…
Black Girls Heal#5: What is an Intimacy Disorder? - All About Love Addiction, Love Avoidance
We talk about two of the ways that our unhealthy attachment can play out in relationships - love addiction and love avoidance. These intimacy disorders play…
Black Girls Heal#4: Coping with Anger from Your Past
This week, we did into how old anger can negatively affect our self-image, relationships with others, and impact unhealthy coping mechanisms. We talk about the…
Black Girls Heal#3: 3 Blocks to Inner Healing
This week, we're digging all into inner healing! In this episode, Shena discusses 3 blocks that get in the way and gives you one tool to use when you're…
Black Girls Heal#2: Why You Can't Control Them...
Often times, we're stuck in unhealthy relationship cycles because we think we can control others. This episode, we'll talk about why this may happen and some…
Black Girls Heal#1: 5 Reasons Why Intimacy is So Hard
If you have a problem getting close to others or letting others in, this is the episode for you. We discuss 5 reasons why intimacy can be so hard, even when…
Black Girls Heal[NEW!] Welcome to Black Girls Heal!
Welcome to Black Girls Heal where we help women break the cycle of unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships and feeling not enough to get the love they want…