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Dad Starting Over
Welcome to the Dad Starting Over podcast! "Starting Over" means different things to different people. It could be that you're newly divorced and starting over fresh with a new life. It could be that you're still married and wanting to hit the reset button and finally do things right within your marriage. Whatever your story may be, you're in the right place. I'm Ralph, a.k.a DSO, the author of books including "The Dead Bedroom Fix", "Divorce Panic", "Real Talk" "Red Flags" and "REBUILD: The…
Episodes
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"I Lost My Wife… and My Entire Identity"
In this powerful Dear DSO entry, I read a message from a man whose wife left him after 20 years of marriage. He gave everything to his family—his time, energy…
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"My Wife Is Polyamorous Now – And Wants Her Boyfriend in Our Bed"
A husband writes in with a heartbreaking and outrageous story: after 16 years of marriage and raising six boys together, his wife gave him an ultimatum — “Open…
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"My Wife Cheated with Our Neighbor and Lifelong Friend – What Now?"
What happens when your wife cheats... not just with anyone, but with your married next-door neighbor you've known since childhood? Jake wrote in to share his…
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She Used a Vibrator… and He Called It Cheating - A Live Chat With a Female Follower
Victoria reached out to share her story — a candid, emotional, and often shocking look into a toxic relationship filled with insecurity, gaslighting, and…
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Do Men Still Need Marriage? - My Live Chat With Dr. Orion Taraban
In this candid livestream, Ralph is joined by psychologist and creator of @psychacks , Dr. Orion Taraban, for a powerful and thought-provoking conversation on…
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Why Some Wives Hate When Men Take TRT and Viagra (from a DSO Live Event)
What happens when a man starts taking control of his health—drops weight, hits the gym, starts TRT and Viagra—and his wife doesn’t like it? In this clip from a…
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"Your Book Doesn’t Work" – A Reader Calls Me Out
A reader sent me an email with some harsh feedback—he says my book is BS because by the time a man picks it up, his marriage is already doomed. He’s…
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"I’m Addicted to Porn" – A Husband’s Confession & My Response
A man reached out with a tough confession: after years of a sexless marriage, he turned to porn—and now he feels trapped. He says he's addicted, his wife…
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"No... That Doesn't Count!" - A Woman Writes in About Her Husband's OCD Cleaning. Oh boy...
Jennifer writes into to share the story of her OCD husband's super cleaning habits, and how she doesn't feel like it "counts" as helping out like "normal" guys…
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After 4 Years of Fatherhood, He Discovered the Unthinkable (from a DSO Live Stream)
This is a clip from one of my recent DSO Live Streams on Facebook and Youtube. What happens when a man gives everything to his marriage—only to discover it was…
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"She Warned Me... And I Didn't Listen. Now I'm Paying The Price."
A follower shares his story that is, unfortunately, all too common. His woman gave him every indication that she wasn't really good long-term relationship…
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Is The "Shallow" Stuff Important in a Long-Term Relationship? Yes... VERY.
This is a follow-up to a post I recently made about relationships floundering due to "silly" things like looks and money. Yes, those things matter! They don't…
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“Caught in a Chaotic Relationship Cycle, Help!”
A follower reaches out to tell the story of his very chaotic and dysfunctional relationship. Like most, he had many opportunities to make a course correction…
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“In Sickness and in Health” -- When Being the Caregiver to a Sick Wife Is the Final Straw
A man reached out with a gut-wrenching confession: His wife is sick, and he’s doing everything to take care of her… but their marriage was broken long before…
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"My Wife Told Me I Was Too Small! What Do I Do With That Information?!"
A follower reaches out with a story that no man wants to hear: His wife told him that he wasn't big enough. To add insult to injury, she compared him to a much…
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Married to Chaos: 20+ Years With a Borderline Wife (A Brutal True Story)
Ant, a follower, reaches out with his story of complete chaos. This is the perfect example of a naive man who marries a probably borderline wife, and the many…
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"I Shouldn't Have to Do That... I'm Married!" -- The Thought Pattern That Will Get You Into Trouble
In this video, I am responding to commenters who tell them that they shouldn't HAVE to put in effort to maintain a relationship and attraction. You just stick…
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“Why Is She Acting This Way?!” : The All-Too-Common Behavior of the Soon-To-Be Ex-wife.
Our pal "Wordsmith" is back with a new "Dear DSO" submission (https://deardso.com). He's perplexed by his soon-to-be ex-wife's erratic behavior. Why is she…
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Dear DSO: "My Wife Shut Down After Menopause!"
A "Dear DSO" follower reaches out to share his frustration. He's at a loss. His married sex life has stopped completely for the past two years. The reason?…
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Dating Advice for the Divorced Guy - Let's Talk About Red Flags
A follower from a live stream asks about advice when it comes to dating. He has just started dating two years after his divorce. He's seeing green flags for…
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Chore Play... Does It Work?
This is a clip from one of our private live zoom meetings we host for members of our HFM Brotherhood. We have anywhere from 6-8 live meetings every week, and…
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Don't Lie to Get Women (from a DSO Live Stream)
From a DSO Live Stream, Ralph reacts to a follower saying that he has to lie to women about his kid situation in order to get dates. Guys, we have to stop…
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How One Horrible Decision Can Ruin Your Life - A Follower's Story
Ralph gets a "Dear DSO" submission for a guy named Joe... and it's a doozy! Listen to Joe's story and how one big, important life decision (taking his mentally…
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A Chat With a Long-Time Follower About His Stressful Marriage and Imminent Divorce
For those who watch a lot of DSO videos and listen to the podcast, you have probably heard me mention the name "Wordsmith" more than a few times. Wordsmith is…
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Top Questions for 2024!
Here are the most-asked questions I received in 2024. Thanks to all of you reached out to me, purchased a book, signed up for coaching, or signed up for our…
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Dear DSO: "How Can I Win Her Back?"
Ralph addresses a common dilemma faced by many men undergoing relationship challenges; the question of whether and how to "get your wife back" after a…
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Dear DSO: "I can't wait that long! I need to make a baby now!"
Ralph delves into a thought-provoking discussion prompted by a listener named Paula, who challenges his advice that men should wait three years before marrying…
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The Two Type of Cheating Men
Ralph delves into the intricate topic of infidelity among men, drawing from his extensive experience working with men and data from anonymous surveys. This…
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Our Stressed-Out, High-Anxiety Wives
Ralph examines anxiety in relationships, focusing on the interaction between anxious men and their equally anxious partners. Ralph draws on his decade of…
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Divorced? Want Just ONE Woman For The Rest of Your Life? Probably Not Happening.
Ralph explores the often harsh reality faced by newly divorced individuals re-entering the dating world. He challenges the romanticized notion of "the one" by…
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Dear DSO: "My Wife Became a Fitness Fanatic and Then Cheated!"
Ralph addresses a "Dear DSO" letter from a man named Steve, who shares the breakdown of his 15-year marriage due to his wife’s significant lifestyle and…
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Jumping From Relationship to Relationship - Do You Not Like to Be Alone? - A Dear DSO Live Chat
This is my very first live call-in chat with a "Dear DSO" submission. You can submit your own question or story to https://deardso.com. In this one…
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Baby Rabies and Single Moms - Be Careful!
In this episode, Ralph examines the challenges men often face after divorce, noting that 70% of men are surprised by their partners' decision to leave. He…
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Why Would She Cheat And Go To Such Extremes To Hurt Me?!
Ralph examines the emotional turmoil that follows infidelity, focusing on the psychological effects on those who have been wronged. The discussion highlights…
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Let's Talk About Duty Sex (From a Live HFM Brotherhood Member Meeting)
Everyone seems to be talking about DUTY SEX right now. Why is this such a hot-button topic? What exactly is it, anyway? Should women do it? Should men accept…
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Dear DSO: "Why is she so ANGRY at me for being upset about being rejected for the hundredth time?"
This episode of "Dear DSO" addresses a common couple's issue: reduced sexual intimacy. Ralph shares a letter from Jack, a 40-year-old struggling with a…
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When The Nice Guy Turns Into The "Alpha" Dude... And The Ensuing Drama
In this episode, Ralph examines the changes men undergo when shifting from "nice guys" to more confident "alpha males." He discusses how a personal crisis…
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Dear DSO: "It's Like When Your Boss Just Decides to Cut Your Pay!"
In the latest episode of 'Dear DSO,' Ralph responds to a question from a participant called "Wordsmith." Wordsmith compares the decline of workplace wages to…
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Dear DSO: "I Feel Like My Wife is Just Using Me in Bed! There's No Connection!"
A follower reaches out and shares the typical "anxious man/avoidant wife" scenario we hear about so often, but this time with one twist: His wife does seem to…
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DSO Reacts - Sadia Khan Dropping Truth Bombs About Women and Cheating!
A lot of people have been sending me the link to a video interview between Sadia Khan and Matthew Hussey. In this episode of DSO Reacts, I break down a couple…
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Dear DSO: "Why Are Women So Mad When Men Relax?!"
In this episode of Dear DSO, Ralph discusses the topic of how men relax and how women perceive it. This subject was brought up by a contributor named Mr…
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A Follow-Up To The "Scarcity" Video (from a live stream event)
Ralph examines the psychology behind men's perceived scarcity in the dating world and its effect on their interactions with women. He looks at how this mindset…
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Porn... It Ain't Good For You (from a live stream event)
Ralph discusses pornography, sex work, and their psychological and social effects. He starts by examining the historical background of these industries…
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What About Just "Hooking Up" With Women After Divorce? (from a live stream event)
Ralph responds to a question from a YouTube viewer, Jason, about the dynamics of hooking up—not dating—after a divorce. Ralph explains the complexities of…
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Dear DSO: "Cheating Ex-Wife Left... But is Now Contacting Me Again!"
Ralph addresses a letter from a listener named Dunk, dealing with the aftermath of his wife's infidelity. The episode explores the challenges of handling…
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Dear DSO: "Wife Says She Wants Sex... Just Not With Me".
Ralph discusses a listener-submitted story from Thomas about relationship issues and maintaining intimacy in marriage. The episode, titled "Wife not worried…
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Gentlemen: Your Scarcity is Killing You!
Ralph discusses the widespread issue of scarcity mindset among men, especially in relationships. He explains the harmful effects of a scarcity mindset and how…
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Lesbian Couples: High Rates of Dead Bedrooms and Divorce!
In this episode, Ralph delves into the controversial topic of "lesbian bed death" and the unusually high divorce rates among lesbian couples compared to their…
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The Paternity Testing Myth
Ralph delves deep into the emotional traumas many men face due to infidelity and broken relationships. He critically examines the burgeoning trend of male…
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Seven Signs That Your Wife May Be Cheating on You
Ralph addresses the stigma surrounding infidelity and provides a nuanced perspective on why it might happen. He kicks off by debunking the myth that most women…
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"I'm Starting to Despise Women!"
Ralph delves into an intriguing message from a Facebook follower that serves as a perfect illustration of the typical challenges faced by men in today's dating…
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Why Did She Cheat?!
Ralph delves deep into the distressing world of infidelity, targeting the psychology behind why women cheat in relationships. Through a blend of data…
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Dear DSO: "We Are Not The Same Since My Wife's Emotional Affair"
Ralph addresses a poignant letter from Jay, a long-time listener seeking advice on how to revive the dwindling romance in his marriage. The letter, filled with…
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Dear DSO: "Wife Says She Enjoys Our Time... But Sometimes She Doesn't Orgasm"
Ralph dives into a unique and complex relationship concern that's been submitted by one of our listeners, who goes by the pseudonym "Could be worse." In this…
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Dear DSO: "Can My OCD Wife Change?"
Ralph addresses a deeply personal letter from a listener named Jay, who is grappling with significant intimacy issues in his ten-year marriage. The common…
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Dear DSO: "I'm In An Abusive Relationship"
Confused Husband seeks advice from Ralph on handling a toxic marriage where his wife despises his daughter and exhibits abusive behavior. He reveals…
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Dear DSO: "My Cheating Wife Wants Back"
Ralph addresses John’s heart-wrenching predicament: his wife’s affair led to their separation, and now she wants to come back. Ralph sheds light on different…