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Dad Starting Over
Welcome to the Dad Starting Over podcast! "Starting Over" means different things to different people. It could be that you're newly divorced and starting over fresh with a new life. It could be that you're still married and wanting to hit the reset button and finally do things right within your marriage. Whatever your story may be, you're in the right place. I'm Ralph, a.k.a DSO, the author of books including "The Dead Bedroom Fix", "Divorce Panic", "Real Talk" "Red Flags" and "REBUILD: The…
Episodes
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Dear DSO: "I'm Divorced and Ready to Get Back Out There. Or Am I...?"
A 50-year-old man, Mister In Between, seeks advice from Ralph on rebuilding his life post-divorce. Diagnosed with depression and mild bipolar disorder, he…
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Dear DSO: "My Wife's Illness Is Impacting Our Relationship"
Ralph tackles a heartfelt query from a listener named "Help," who is grappling with the challenges posed by his wife's debilitating condition, POTS (Postural…
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Dear DSO: "My Husband Doesn't Want Me!"
Ralph addresses a poignant message from Lana, a 42-year-old woman facing a significant marital dilemma. Despite being attractive, fit, and highly sexual, Lana…
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"You Only Do This Because I Told You To! It Doesn't Count!" (from a live stream)
Ralph addresses Adnor's dilemma about seeking counseling for relationship issues without making it feel like an ultimatum. Drawing from real-life examples…
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Staying Sexy in Long-Term Monogamy.... is it Possible? (from live stream)
Can a couple's sex life be sustainable over a the life of strict long-term monogamy? In this episode, Ralph explores the challenges of maintaining a fulfilling…
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"Men shouldn't get in shape... it makes the wife insecure. It's bad for the relationship!"
A follower on Facebook reached out to me with his point of view about getting in shape. In his mind, it is NOT a good idea! His wife, after all, feels insecure…
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The Dating Game for Young Adults (from a live event)
In this episode, Ralph responds to a question from a listener named Candice about the modern dating scene, which veers dramatically from what many parents…
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Why Does Female Libido Go Down in Monogamy?! Won't That Scare The Man Away?! (from a DSO Live Stream)
Sexual desire within monogamous relationships has long been a highly nuanced and widely debated subject. A myriad of psychological and anthropological…
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Dear DSO: "My Wife Has Suddenly Changed!"
Harry asks his wife to return to work post-pregnancy, which results in her filing for divorce. Their marriage struggles due to frequent disputes, troublesome…
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Dear DSO: "Wife Has Become Withdrawn, Angry, and Has More Mental Breakdowns"
"Mister Niceguy No More" has written to Ralph about difficulties in his eleven-year marriage, describing his wife's distant and transactional approach to their…
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Dear DSO: "I’m a New Father... And I Was Really Tempted to Cheat (But I Didn’t). Is There Hope for Our Marriage?"
A reader reaches out to share his stress over being a new father and being tempted to almost cheat on his spouse... What does this mean for him and his…
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Dear DSO: Should I Tell My Wife/Roommate About My Cancer Diagnosis?
A reader has a great deal of resentment towards his spouse of 13-15 years of a dead bedroom marriage... but he's recently been diagnosed with cancer. Should he…
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Dad Starting over Is Now Part of the Help for Men Network!
We are proud to introduce our new brand: Help For Men! You can learn more at helpformen.com. The DSO Fraternity, our private group for men only, will now be…
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How Often Should The Responsive Desire Person Initiate? (with Dr. Psych Mom - from a Live Event)
Dr. Psych Mom and Ralph answer a question from a follower: How often should the responsive desire partner actually initiate sex?
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Dear DSO: "Is paying a cosplayer on Only Fans considered cheating?"
In this episode, Ralph addresses a listener's question about whether subscribing to OnlyFans is considered cheating. Ralph emphasizes that it's not about his…
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Dear DSO: "Should I fill out mental health forms for my ex?"
In this episode of Dear DSO, Jimmy from Scotland seeks advice on whether he should help his ex-wife with her mental health diagnosis. While he's hesitant due…
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DSO and Dr. Pysch Mom Talk About Dead Bedrooms (from a livestream event)
In this episode, Dr. Psych Mom and DSO discuss the psychology behind pressuring a spouse about a dead bedroom versus ignoring the issue. They explore the…
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Dear DSO: "I Feel Abandoned."
Luke writes in to ask how to overcome feelings of abandonment from his ex-wife. He feels stuck, resentful, and alone after building his life around her. DSO…
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Dear DSO: "I Feel Like I'm Stuck in a Dead Bedroom!"
DSO addresses a listener's struggle with a low-sex relationship. DSO explains the dynamics of anxious and avoidant attachment styles and offers insights into…
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Dear DSO: "Why Won't He Propose?!"
Vanessa has been engaged for seven years but can't seem to get her partner to commit to marriage. Despite being together for 18 years and having two children…
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Should You Continue Doing Family Things with Your Ex? (from a DSO Live Event)
Jared, a divorced father, seeks advice on whether to continue doing activities as a family with his ex-wife and kids. The host suggests setting boundaries and…
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Dear DSO: "My Wife is Indifferent About Us."
In this episode, DSO explores the common scenario of one partner being anxious and the other avoidant in a relationship. He offers advice on finding a middle…
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Can You Go From Avoidant to Secure? (from a DSO Live event)
In this episode, DSO explores the possibility of moving from an avoidant to a secure attachment style in relationships. He emphasizes that both anxious and…
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Interview With Coach J
Jason, or "Coach J" as he is known by our group, is one of the founding members of the DSO Fraternity and acts as the director for our DSO coaches. J has…
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About The "Forgotten Father" Tweet I Posted
In this episode, DSO explores the sensitive topic of men feeling forgotten after having children. He shares the negative response he received from women when…
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Dear DSO: "Am I Being Weird... Or Should I Be Concerned?"
In this episode, DSO addresses a listener's concerns about their wife's suspicious behavior. From late-night phone use to financial infidelity, the signs are…
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Dear DSO: Do I Tell New Gals About My Crazy Ex?
In this episode, DSO addresses a common concern: how to explain a difficult divorce without resorting to labeling an ex as "crazy." He advises being open and…
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Retroactive Jealousy (from a DSO Live Stream event)
In this episode, DSO delves into the topic of retroactive jealousy, addressing the insecurities and discomfort that can arise when a partner has had previous…
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Dear DSO: "I'm in Excellent Shape... But it's Still Not Enough For Her Libido!"
DSO comes face to face with a conundrum that plagues many married individuals – the struggle for consistent, fulfilling intimacy. The host addresses a…
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Dear DSO: "I Still Need MORE From My Wife!"
DSO tackles a sensitive and commonly encountered issue in many marriages: the dynamics of sexual desire and satisfaction. Delve into Daniel's story, a listener…
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Interview With Carla Crivaro - "The Forgotten Man"
I had the pleasure of sitting down for a nice chat with Carla Crivaro from the UK. From her website at carlacrivaro.com: "I started out as a sexually…
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Dear DSO: "Is It Menopause.... Or Something Else?"
DSO addresses a message from a listener who is experiencing a disparity in libido with his postmenopausal wife. The listener explains that his wife's libido…
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Dear DSO: I'm A Winner And My Wife Is A Loser!
In this episode, DSO responds to a letter from Nate, who is feeling drained and frustrated in his marriage. After a long military career, Nate has come to…
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Married People Have MORE Sex Than Single People?!
DSO discusses the statistic that married people have more sex than single people, and whether this means that single individuals should get married to improve…
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Dear DSO: "My Wife Wants To Go To A Bachelorette Party"
In this episode, DSO responds to a question from a listener named John Rambo, who is feeling anxious about his wife attending a bachelorette party in Vegas…
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Interview With Karen and Catherine From My Divorce Solution
Karen and Catherine offer a service that they call "My Divorce Solution". It's an excellent method for gathering all pertinent information and uncovering all…
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Dear DSO: "Ever Since The Kids, I Feel Like I've Been Put On The Backburner"
DSO addresses a common issue faced by many men in long-term relationships: feeling neglected and pushed to the back burner after having children. He explains…
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Dear DSO: "My Wife Is Lazy... Or Depressed?"
DSO responds to a question from a man named Nick who is frustrated with his wife's lack of contribution to household chores and responsibilities. Nick works…
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Dear DSO: "What About Scheduling Sex With My Avoidant Wife?"
Lloyd is obviously not too happy with his love life to his wife of twenty years. He labels her as "avoidant", and their scheduled once-per-week intimacy…
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Dear DSO: "My Wife Copes By Having Affairs"
A follower, JD, reaches out and shares a story that is, unfortunately, pretty common. His wife seems to have flipped out after enduring a pretty normal but…
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Dear DSO: "I've Been In A Dead Bedroom For Years... And Now I've Fallen For This Younger Gal"
A follower shares the story of being stuck in a long-term dead bedroom relationship. He has worked on himself and tried like hell to repair the relationship…
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Dear DSO: "I've just been told my wife doesn't love me anymore..."
A follower reaches out and tells the story of his wife who wants nothing more to do with him. It's time that he listens and stops hanging on... You can ask DSO…
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Dear DSO: Have You Ever Heard About An Affair SAVING A Marriage?
A follower asks if I have ever heard about an affair saving a marriage. "John" says that he has been in a dead bedroom relationship for a while, tried all…
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Interview With Daniel Priestley: Entrepreneurship And Life
Something a little different for the Dad Starting Over world! I had the pleasure of chatting with one of my favorite business people, Daniel Priestley. Daniel…
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DSO Reacts: That Dead Bedroom Couple Video Everyone Keeps Sending Me
It seems that everyone and their cousin has sent me the link to this video! This is a clip from a UK television show where a therapist sits down with a VERY…
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"My Wife Was A Totally Different Person After We Got Married!"
As they often say, stereotypes don't just fall from the sky. The whole notion of "my wife changed as soon as we got married" is not the NORM, but it's…
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Does "Body Count" Really Matter?
With the loosening of social mores and a broader acceptance of casual physical intimacy, especially in younger adults, it's not a surprise that these…
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Live From Facebook/Youtube/Twitter With Dr. Psych Mom!
Dr. Psych Mom and I do an impromptu live chat for our social media followers on October 5, 2023. We had a great discussion and lots of great questions from the…
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My Interview With Heather Ray, The Licensed Sexologist
Heather Ray is a licensed Sexologist based in Texas, but she is able to help clients from all fifty states. Click here to learn more about Heather Ray and her…
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DSO Fraternity Live Meeting (recorded 10/4/23)
This is a recording of a live DSO Fraternity meeting that was held on October 4, 2023. We opened this meeting to the public and had some great conversations!…
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My Interview With Youtuber Schahrzad Morgan
From Scharzad's website: "After 25 years of marriage, Schahrzad Morgan, mother of three, files for divorce and embarks on a powerful journey of desire, love…
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DSO & Dr. Psych Mom - Do Women Need An Emotional Connection to Experience Sexual Desire?
"Women need an emotional connection" -- How many times have we heard this? Is it true? Do women absolutely NEED that deeper emotional connection in order to…
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Time Moves On
In this episode, I pontificate about how time carries on with or without us, how change is inevitable, and my recent trip to Germany.
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DSO & Dr. Psych Mom - Do Women Experience Lower Libido After Marriage?
DSO and DPM tackle a popular topic: What happens to the average woman's libido after marriage? IMPORTANT LINKS: https://www.liinks.co/dadstartingover FOLLOW ME…
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DSO & Dr. Psych Mom Go Live on Facebook and Youtube
Here is the recording from the live chat DSO and Dr. Psych Mom did for Facebook and Youtube on 6/16/23. Enjoy! Dad Starting Over The DSO Fraternity Dr. Psych…