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The Second Closet with Juan Galan
A podcast for gay men on sex, dating, God and the patterns we can't stop repeating. Most of us came out once. We said the true thing, we survived it, and years later we found a second room we were still hiding in, the one that holds the wanting to be held, the fear of being too much, the reaching for a man at eleven at night when we already know how it ends. Nobody throws you a party for leaving that one. This is not a show about arriving. It's made by someone still inside the work, talking…
Episodes
- The Second Closet with Juan Galan
At 75, I Finally Stopped Waiting for the Unavailable Man to Come Around With John Mifsud
John was my first guest on The Second Closet, and he was also my very first Coming Home client. He's 75, he lives in Malta where he was born, and he just threw…
- The Second Closet with Juan Galan
The Grief Nobody Let You Have at the Funeral
After the grief post went up, one man left a comment I haven't been able to stop thinking about. He said I'd left out the biggest grief of all, the AIDS years…
- The Second Closet with Juan Galan
The Grief Nobody Let You Call Grief
Most of us don't walk around thinking we're grieving. We think we're tired. We call it burnout, or a bit of depression, or we decide we're just someone who…
- The Second Closet with Juan Galan
Why Gay Dating Is Harder, and Why You Keep Picking The Same Man Anyway
Dating as a gay man really is harder, and I want you to hear me say that before anything else. The pool is small, the apps have trained us to reject, racism…
- The Second Closet with Juan Galan
Why The Guys On Grindr For Sex Are Happier Than The Ones Looking For Love
It's late, you're in bed, there's nothing left in the day that needs you, and your hand goes to your phone. Most of the time you're not even horny. You open…
- The Second Closet with Juan Galan
I Came Out Of The Closet And Walked Straight Into A Second One
When I came out, I thought the hard part was over. I'd finally said the true sentence, I could love who I wanted, and for a while that felt like freedom. It…