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The Psychology of Relationships
Every couple has a story: the sparks, the late-night talks, the fights about nothing, and the moments that change everything. So why do some relationships thrive while others fall apart? The answer isn’t luck; it’s psychology. Join Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu, hosts of the hit podcast Dateable and authors of the book 'How to Be Dateable,' as they navigate this next phase of long-term committed relationships. Together with leading experts in the field, they'll explore what science really tells us…
Episodes
- The Psychology of Relationships
Designing Your Relationship: How to Build a Partnership That Actually Works for You w/ Ellecia Paine
What if the healthiest relationship isn’t the one that follows the traditional blueprint—but the one that actually fits the people in it? Julie & Yue are…
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Single on Purpose: How to Stop Waiting for a Relationship to Start Your Life w/ John Kim
Being single can easily feel like something we’re supposed to endure until we find someone—but what if it’s actually an opportunity to build a life you…
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The Psychology of Better Sex: How Intimacy Can Strengthen Your Relationship w/ Dr. Ian Kerner
A fulfilling sex life isn’t just about chemistry or technique—it’s about feeling comfortable enough to communicate, explore, and be vulnerable with each other…
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Love Addiction: Why You Can’t Stop Chasing Relationships (And How to Break the Cycle) w/ Sherry Gaba
When does wanting love become needing it? For some people, relationships can become a source of obsession, validation, and emotional dependence—making it…
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Stop Trying to Be More Lovable: How Your Greatest Gifts Can Transform Your Relationships w/ Ken Page
What if the parts of yourself you’ve spent years trying to fix are actually connected to your greatest strengths? Julie & Yue are joined by psychotherapist and…
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Relationship, Are You Sure You Want One?: Why Partnership Should Be a Choice, Not a Necessity w/ Simone Milasas and Brendon Watt
We’re often taught that being in a relationship is the goal—but what if partnership isn’t something we need in order to have a fulfilling life? Julie & Yue are…
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The Truth About Attachment Styles: Why You’re Not Just Anxious or Avoidant w/ Lauren Korshak
Attachment styles have become one of the most popular ways to understand relationships—but they’re often reduced to a few labels on social media. Julie & Yue…
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Money & Relationships: What Financial Compatibility Really Means for Couples w/ Joe Gavazza
Money can create some of the biggest tensions in a relationship—but the conflict usually isn’t just about money. It’s about what money represents: security…
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Relationship Self-Sabotage: Why We Push Away the Love We Actually Want w/ Dr. Raquel Peel
Sometimes the things we do to protect ourselves from getting hurt are the very things that create distance in our relationships. Julie & Yue are joined by…
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Marriage 101: The Relationship Skills Nobody Ever Taught You w/ Dr. Alexandra Solomon
Most people enter relationships without ever being taught the skills needed to sustain one. Communication, conflict, intimacy, and emotional responsibility are…
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The New Science of Emergent Love: How to Build Relationships That Grow Instead of Collapse w/ Dr. Sara Nasserzadi
What if healthy relationships require more than simply falling in love? Many traditional relationship models teach couples to merge into one shared identity…
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Sex Talks: The Five Conversations Every Couple Needs To Transform Their Love Life w/ Vanessa and Xander Marin
Sex is one of the most important parts of a relationship—and one of the hardest topics for couples to talk about openly. Vanessa Marin, licensed…
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How to Break Toxic Relationship Cycles for Good w/ Pharaoh Kyle
After enough painful relationships, many people start asking the same question: why do I keep ending up here? Pharaoh Kyle, spiritual coach and entrepreneur…
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The Science Behind Knowing Yourself: How Self-Awareness Changes the Way You Love w/ Dr Tasha Eurich
Most people believe they’re self-aware—but research shows we’re often far less aware of our patterns, behaviors, and impact on others than we think. Dr. Tasha…
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How To Avoid That Big Breakup or Divorce: The Relationship Warning Signs Most Couples Miss w/ Matthew Fray
Relationships rarely end because of one major event. More often, they slowly break down through small moments where one partner feels dismissed, unseen, or…
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Creating Chemistry: The Hidden Signals of Attraction and Connection w/ Vanessa Van Edwards
Chemistry isn’t always something you either have or don’t – it’s often shaped by behavior, body language, and the subtle signals people send without realizing…
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Love Factually: Debunking the Biggest Lies We’re Told About Finding Love w/ Paul Eastwick & Eli Finkel
Most of us grow up believing love should feel effortless if we meet the “right” person. But many of the relationship stories we absorb through romcoms and pop…
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The 4 Communication Types in Relationships: Why You Shut Down, Lash Out, or Avoid Conflict w/ Sandy Weiner
Communication is often called the foundation of healthy relationships—but most people were never actually taught how to communicate effectively when emotions…
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The Hidden Parts of Yourself Running Your Dating Experiences & Relationships w/ Lair Torrent
The biggest factor shaping your relationships may not be the other person—it may be the version of you that shows up in connection. Lair Torrent, LMFT and…
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The Psychology Behind Infidelity: Why People Cheat w/ Dr. Nicolle Zapien
Infidelity is one of the most painful experiences in relationships—but the psychology behind why people cheat is often far more complex than betrayal alone…
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Love Is Not Enough: Why You Stay in the Wrong Relationships (Even When You Know Better) w/ Mark Manson
Love can make us believe that if the feelings are strong enough, everything else will work itself out. But lasting relationships require more than chemistry or…
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Why Heartbreak Can Become Your Biggest Breakthrough w/ John Kim
Breakups have a way of forcing us to confront the patterns we often avoid seeing in relationships. Whether it’s a slow fade, an almost-relationship, or a…
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Breaking Free from Anxious Attachment: Calming Your Nervous System in Love w/ Kirstie Taylor
Do you find yourself overthinking, seeking constant reassurance, or fearing abandonment when dating or in relationships? These patterns often signal an anxious…
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Life After Divorce: How Your Ending Can Actually Become An Exciting New Beginning w/ Alicia Roberson
Divorce. For some, it’s a lived experience. For others, it’s a quiet fear in the back of every serious relationship. In this episode, divorce expert and coach…
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Why You Keep Choosing the Wrong Partners (And How To Reset Your Romantic GPS) w/ Marc Sholes
Ever feel like you keep ending up with the same “type” of partner even when it hasn’t worked out before? You might be unconsciously choosing the wrong people…
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Rewriting the Story You Learned About Love: How to Heal the Childhood Wounds Affecting Your Adult Relationships w/ Vienna Pharaon
Early experiences quietly shape how we attach, communicate, and handle conflict in adult relationships—without us even realizing it. In this episode, Vienna…
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The Science of Strong Partnerships: Why Relational Intelligence Matters From Early Dating To Years In w/ Dr. Adam Bandelli
Strong, lasting relationships aren’t just about chemistry or shared interests—they’re about how we relate to each other every day. Julie & Yue sit down with…
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The New 7 Love Styles: What Modern Research Reveals About Love Languages w/ Molly Owens of Truity Psychometrics
For decades, the 5 Love Languages have shaped how we understand connection—but relationships, culture, and expectations have evolved, and our framework for…
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Choosing Marriage (Or Not): Deciding If Marriage Is Right for You w/ Allison Raskin
With marriage rates on the decline, do people still want to get married—and why does it still carry so much emotional and cultural weight? In this episode…
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Why So Many Men Are Struggling in Modern Love (And What We Can Do About It) w/ Dr Greg Matos
Why are so many men struggling to connect today? And what does that mean if you’re trying to date and have relationships with men? In this episode, we’re…
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The Psychology of Love Bombing: Why Fast Love Isn’t Always Safe Love w/ Dr Diane Strachowski
Love can feel intoxicating at the beginning—constant attention, big gestures, nonstop affection. And when it feels that good, the last thing anyone wants to…
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Compatibility Explained: What Actually Predicts Lasting Love & Relationships w/ Eli Finkel
How do you actually know if someone is a good match for you—not just on paper or in the early spark, but in a way that lasts over time? So much of modern…
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The Hidden Cost of Avoidant Attachment: Why Pushing People Away Doesn’t Protect You w/ Kylie McBeath
Ever notice how wanting closeness can suddenly make you feel trapped or how independence can quietly turn into emotional distance? To continue the conversation…
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The Real Work of Love: Healing Attachment Wounds & Choosing Growth in Relationships w/ Mark Groves
When one person pulls away and the other leans in harder, the result is often frustration, confusion, and emotional exhaustion. In this episode, Julie & Yue…
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Quieting the Clock: Letting Go of Timeline Anxiety in Love & Life w/ Beth Gulotta
There’s a quiet pressure many people carry: the feeling that they’re running out of time. Time to find love. Time to settle down. Time to make it all happen…
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The Saboteurs That Are Killing Your Relationships w/ Shirzad Chamine
You’ve probably heard of IQ and EQ—but what if the missing piece in your relationships is PQ? In this episode, Julie and Yue are joined by Shirzad Chamine…
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When Your Marriage Nearly Falls Apart: Lessons in Repair & Reconnection w/ Casey & Meygan Caston
Relationships don’t fall apart overnight—they erode through unresolved conflict, unmet needs, and missed opportunities for repair. In this episode, Julie & Yue…
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The Science of Lasting Happiness (Inside & Outside Of Relationships) w/ Dr. Laurie Santos
We often assume that love, marriage, or having children is the key to happiness—but research tells a more complicated story. In this episode, Julie & Yue are…
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The Truth About Relationships: What’s Confusing, Frustrating, and Totally Normal w/ Todd Baratz
Love is supposed to feel good—so why does it so often feel confusing, activating, and emotionally exhausting? Even in the healthiest relationships, we can feel…
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Finding Love at Any Age: Why It’s Never Too Late to Build the Relationship You’ve Always Wanted w/ May Lee
What if it’s not too late for love and your timeline isn’t behind but rather right on time? In this episode, Julie and Yue sit down with former CNN journalist…
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What Healthy Couples Need To Understand About Money In Order To Build Their Rich Life w/ Ramit Sethi
Money has a way of sneaking into every corner of a relationship—date nights, living arrangements, future plans, even how we argue or apologize. And yet, it’s…
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The Real Reason Desire Changes in Long-Term Relationships (and What To Do About It) w/ Emily Nagoski
Sex is never just physical. Our desire, frustrations, and turn-ons are shaped by how we think, how we feel, and how safe we feel—both with our partners and…
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The Science of Attraction: The Research Behind About Who We Fall For and Why w/ Paul Eastwick
Why are we drawn to certain people—and why do some connections deepen while others fade? In this episode, Julie and Yue sit down with UC Davis professor and…
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The Equality Myth: What Healthy Couples Do Instead of Going 50/50 w/ Nate & Kaley Klemp
What if striving for fairness is actually driving disconnection in your relationship? We’ve been sold the idea of a 50/50 partnership—that equal contribution…
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Emotional Availability: The Real Foundation of Any Relationship (and Why So Many People Lack It) w/ Connor Beaton
We talk a lot about love, commitment, and compatibility—but there’s one quieter factor that determines whether a relationship can truly thrive: emotional…
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Do Relationships Make You Happy? The Truth About Love, Marriage & Happiness w/ Rob Mack
Many of us hold onto the belief that “once I’m in a relationship… then I’ll finally be happy.” But while love can absolutely bring joy, it can’t replace the…
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Navigating a Pace Discrepancy: When One Person Is Ready for The Next Step & The Other Isn’t w/ Dr. Alexandra Solomon
It’s easy to feel steady in love—until you and your partner aren’t moving at the same pace. When one person is ready for the next step and the other isn’t…
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How to Love Better: The Reason Why Personal Growth Is What Keeps Your Relationship Strong w/ Yung Pueblo
Love grows when you do. We talk a lot about how to find love and how to keep it, but not nearly enough about how to grow inside it. Because real love isn’t…
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Why We Love: What Science Tells Us About The Most Deeply Human Experience Of Our Lives w/ Dr. Anna Machin
When love feels hard, it’s easy to forget why we chose it in the first place. But remembering why we love—and what drives our need for connection—is often what…
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What Your Schemas Reveal About How You’re Wired For Relationships w/ Dr. Avigail Lev
We don’t just show up to relationships as adults — we show up with every belief we learned long before. Those early schemas — the quiet stories like “I’m not…
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The Most Important Ingredient for a Healthy Relationship: How Conflict Can Actually Bring You Closer w/ Vienna Pharaon & Connor Beaton
The reality is: no relationship is perfect. Conflict happens. Sometimes we hurt each other — even in the healthiest partnerships. But what truly matters is how…
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The 6 Pillars of a Relationship + How To Build Habits That Strengthen Them
The reason relationships feel so rewarding and so hard? You’re not just dating a person, you’re navigating two sets of needs, triggers, habits, fears, and…
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