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Make Your Damn Bed
@MYDBpodcast is a bite sized, real talk, daily motivation podcast to play while you make your bed every morning. Build momentum - better your life.
Each episode is around 10 minutes and intended to encourage, motivate, and inspire you to get out of bed - so you can start making it!
Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
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- Make Your Damn Bed
1260 || habits to help bridge gaps
Today, we're reading the first few tips from "Eight Habits of Effective Bridge-Builders" and discussing what it means to build these habits. RESOURCES…
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1259 || the HEAR technique to bridge gaps
Four Steps to Help People Feel Listened To: H = Hedge your claims, even when you feel very certain about your beliefs. It signals a recognition that there are…
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1258 || final thoughts on grief
Grief isn’t linear. Grief doesn't happen in stages. Grief is chaotic. Grief convinces you that it’s all encompassing. There’s no right or wrong way to grieve…
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1257 || grief is emotional chaos
I recently received a request for resources on grief and loss, and I’ve collected a lot over the years because I’ve never been the most efficient at dealing…
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1256 || how grief affects our neural pathways
I recently received a request for resources on grief and loss, and I’ve collected a lot over the years because I’ve never been the most efficient at dealing…
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1255 || dealing with grief (the science)
I recently received a request for resources on grief and loss, and I’ve collected a lot over the years because I’ve never been the most efficient at dealing…
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1254 || dealing with decision fatigue
In 1998, Psychologist Roy Baumeister conducted a foundational study that showed decision-making depletes cognitive resources, much like physical exertion…
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1253 || regret from a life not lived
Years ago, when I was grieving the loss of a very serious break up, I was explaining to a friend that the grief was really intense not only because I was…
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1252 || escaping survival mode (revisited)
Today we revisit an episode from March 2023: what does survival mode look like for you? how can we get out of the patterns that put us into our default mode?…
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1251 || we're all traumatized (revisited)
Today we revisit an episode from March 2023: Every single one of us has experienced some level of trauma. We're only capable of acting and responding at the…
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1250 || burning out + tapping out
Life sometimes feels like a constant battle between fighting burnout and fighting tapping out. The middle path between burnout and disassociation isn’t about…
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1248 || fighting dread + doom + gloom
Feeling like you can’t do everything doesn’t mean you can’t do something. So, when things feel heavy, when the weight of the world feels like it’s sitting on…
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1245 || anti-ideological activism
" In effect we are saying the end is not as important as the means, we are turning hundreds of years of political form and content on its head by putting the…
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1244 || hope in the dark
"What could have happened if we could have spoken directly to the people in that wave, if we could have found common ground, if we could have made our position…
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1243 || victory is the journey
"Paradise is not the place in which you arrive but the journey toward it. Sometimes I think victories must be temporary or incomplete; what kind of humanity…
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1242 || comedic alternatives to history
"After all, most environmental victories look like nothing happened; the land wasn’t annexed by the army, the mine didn’t open, the road didn’t cut through…
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1241 || joy in resistance
"It’s always too soon to go home. Most of the great victories continue to unfold, unfinished in the sense that they are not yet fully realized, but also in the…
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1240 || peace movements + their butterfly effect
changing the world is not one with a tidy end goal that we will one day reach. it is an ever changing process that means we will always be working with it. and…
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1239 || hope in despair
there is power in active hope. despair can even be liberatory if we can learn not to be consumed by it. despair can turn us away from the deprivation that…
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1238 || hope in the dark (via Rebecca Solnit)
We often mistake unknowability for dread. We sometimes forget that darkness can be a place for rebirth and hope, not just fear and hopelessness. Today, I'm…
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1237 || what we can do about the climate emergency
Today is part four of our "how to take action towards the climate crisis" and we're talking about what type of action needs to be taken. Remember: It's not too…
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1236 || where to start (saving the planet)
Today is part three of our "how to take action towards the climate crisis" and we're talking about what type of action needs to be taken. Remember: It's not…
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1235 || how to save the planet
Today is part two of our "how to take action towards the climate crisis" and we're talking about choosing a group. Remember: It's not too late. Every action…
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1233 || seeking interdependence
Some of us struggle with a lack of intimacy, some of us struggle with severe codependency, but what is the balance? A healthy interdependency is essential to…
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1232 || external validation
The need for validation is normal. But, like most things in life, it’s really all about balance. Listen, some degree of attention and validation seeking makes…
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1231 || how to be sillier
just because you became an adult doesn't mean you have to be serious all the time. here's how you can infuse more silliness in your everyday: intentionality…
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1230 || the philosophy of silliness
To be silly in a serious society is a revolutionary act. By embracing a sense of silliness, you can almost create + enter a new reality within the reality…
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1229 || let's get silly
We’ve discussed the philosophy of absurdism in the past - the concept of embracing meaningless as a freedom, or even the idea of finding or creating meaning on…
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1228 || 5 pillars of mindfulness
Today, I'm bringing you a blog post from Nicole Howard, who said this: "Ultimately, this [mindfulness] is a journey that will never end. We are constantly…
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1227 || how to make friends (if you're awkward)
Making friends as an adult can feel overcomplicated, but I think it's because we've become increasingly self-aware of our weaknesses and not nearly self-aware…
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1226 || confidence building theories
Today we're talking about some theories and paradoxes that help remind me that my insecurities are just a natural negative bias that many other people…
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1225 || do you even know how to be happy? (revisted)
today we revisit an older episode and discuss prioritizing what makes us feel good. if you're dwelling on all the shit that stresses you out in order to avoid…
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1224 || debating hacks (how to diffuse an argument)
Reasoning with the unreasonable can feel impossible, but here are some techniques to diffuse intense arguments and encourage others to challenge their own…
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1223 || how to reason with the unreasonable
How do we reason with someone who is experiencing cognitive dissonance? For example: I know people who claim to believe in free speech but also support banning…
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1222 || active in love + happiness
love is an active process that involves engagement, gratitude, and practice. RESOURCE: https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2008-15454-002 RESOURCE…
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1221 || reasoning with the unreasonable
When we focus on curiosity, respect, and genuine understanding, we're more likely to bridge gaps with people we disagree with, but this takes practice. This…
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1220 || love is so scary
When we open ourselves up to love, we open ourselves up to pain and loss, but the loss of the love is what we will grieve, so we shouldn't resist that…
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1219 || the social withdrawal cycle
There is a feedback loop that seems to happen whenever I’m spending more time alone. I notice that my need for connection seems to dissipate as my anger…
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1218 || loneliness is bigger than we thought
Studies show intrinsic goals make us much happier than extrinsic ones, but society tells us to focus our time on the material stuff. Why do we think that is?…
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1217 || i'm lonely (and it isn't really my fault)
I'm on my way out the door of my apartment and it's starting to hit me just how isolated I've become. A lot of it is self inflicted: ignoring phone calls and…
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1216 || Nietzsche was onto something here
“Nobody can build the bridge for you to walk across the river of life, no one but you yourself alone. There are, to be sure, countless paths and bridges and…
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1215 || a little rant (about stoics)
Here is a little rant about people who co-opt beautiful theories + ideas and twist them in order to justify behaviors that are actually counter to its core…
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1214 || cosmetic procedures || bonus episode!!!
Today is a very special BONUS episode that gives you a sneak preview of what we're doing over at patreon. this is just 10 minutes of this month's 55 minute…
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1213 || critiquing the stoics
Like most philosophies, I have notes - but that's not to say I can't learn something from the practice of stoicism. Today we talk about some of the paradoxes…
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1212 || only the strong go crazy
"only the strong go crazy, the weak go along." - Assata Shakur THE QUOTE: https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/8762432-only-the-strong-go-crazy-the-weak-just-go-alo…
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1211 || staying hopeful (emergent strategy)
"This is an intergenerational, evolved evolutionary movement. They never looked out for each other the way that a lot of the groups I see organizing are…
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1210 || when it feels bad to feel good
I have started to feel so guilty about positive feelings lately. I think it's because I've become a bit more comfortable with the stress that has become an…
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1209 || questioning your thoughts
One technique often used in CBT is socratic questioning and it's a really great way to get ahold of our negative thinking patterns. They're usually open ended…
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1208 || cognitive behavioral therapy 101
When I first heard about CBT, I was annoyed. It felt generic, but that's because of how I learned about it. When I started applying the appropriate techniques…
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1207 || how to build self awareness using time travel (revisited)
today we're revisiting episode 1011 which was all about the "time traveling" we must do to discover our sense of self. by learning how to listen to the past…
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1206 || there is good stuff all around you
When things become familiar to us, we no longer acknowledge them. The drone of cicadas in the background becomes impossible to hear unless you’re really…
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1205 || contradictory feelings of returning home
The act of returning home after spending a decade 1,100 miles away is a daunting one. There are direct contradictions to the way I feel at nearly every turn…
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1204 || learning to dance with the chaos
There’s something freeing about realizing it’s time to let go. Life’s cycles sometimes match with my own, and things feel serendipitous and “meant to be” but…
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1203 || life is absurd
Absurdism claims that existence, as a whole, is absurd and although objective meaning does not exist, it doesn't mean we can't find + create our own. We're…
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1202 || moving out + breaking down
personal rant about my current state. moving has made me realize how stagnant I really was. DONATE:www.pcrf.net Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch…
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1201 || conspiracy thinking
People are in denial, because admitting we may need to become a part of the change is scary. Resistance is a common response to accountability. People will…
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1200 || conspiracy theories
conspiracies are all fun and games until they scapegoat entire groups of humans and cause real world harm. today, we're digging into the reality of conspiracy…
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1199 || taking life too seriously is goofy
so, here are some ways to take it a little less seriously. RESOURCE: https://medium.com/@lukaboenisch/dont-take-life-so-seriously-it-doesn-t-take-you-seriously-…
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1198 || our guts + our mental health
Our microbiome has a direct impact on our mental health, and the science is growing to support this. The more diverse our diet + microbiome, the healthier we…
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1197 || social constructionism
Today we're talking about Vivien Burr's book: Social Constructionism. The key ideas are: language impacts our reality, our history + culture + social hierarchy…