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Relationship Advice
Relationship Advice helps listeners uncover the stuck spots in their relationships by taking expert advice from three licensed professional counselors and boiling it down into digestible tips and tools. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren help people to see that the first step to connecting with somebody else is by connecting with you. They focus their show on understanding and navigating the cycles that couples face, how to practice individuation, and staying in an emotionally regulated state. Just them…
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Relationship AdviceWhy Saying the Right Things Still Feels Wrong - QUICK ADVICE with Dr. Sue Morter
TRY RELATIONSHIP ACADEMY FOR FREE Dr. Sue's Website Let's discuss why energy feels off and why saying the right thing doesn't always lead to the outcomes we…
Relationship AdviceWhy Couples Stop Having Sex (And How to Fix It) with George Faller
Free 10 Day Couples Challenge Try Relationship Academy Why do couples so often fall into standoffs where one partner needs emotional closeness to feel physical…
Relationship AdviceCharisma Is A Real Thing With Olivia Fox Cabane: QUICK ADVICE
GET $100 OFF SPARK MY RELATIONSHIP Free 10 Day Couples Challenge Olivia's Website Let's talk about the three components of charisma, why it differs from…
Relationship AdviceDecoding the Digital Age with Bridget Todd
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Why Do People Cheat? QUICK ADVICE with Dr. Glenn Hutchinson
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Relationship AdviceWhat We Can Learn From Pursuers
Is the partner who constantly pushes for conversation actually protecting your relationship? While pursuers often get labeled as demanding or hyper-vigilant…
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Would You Get Rid Of "Fear" If You Could?
FREE 10 Day Couples Challenge Check out Relationship Academy! Would you get rid of fear if you had the choice? In this episode, we explore what fear…
Relationship AdviceWhy Relationships Make Us Feel Like Children Again
FREE 10 Day Couples Challenge Check out Relationship Academy! Why do our deepest relationship conflicts have the power to make us feel like children again?…
Relationship AdviceThe Power of Caring with Dr. Tony Nader
FREE 10 Day Couples Challenge Check out Relationship Academy! Dr. Tony Nader joins the podcast to explore ideas from his book, The Power of Caring, and how…
Relationship AdviceConnection Attunement
FREE 10 Day Couples Challenge Check out Relationship Academy! Why do the same conflicts keep showing up in our relationships, even when the surface issue…
Relationship AdviceHealing Attachment - What Pursuers and Withdrawers Need To Work On In Individual Therapy
FREE 10 Day Couples Challenge Check out Relationship Academy! Healing attachment wounds begins with understanding how early relationships shaped the ways we…
Relationship AdviceBreaking Old Patterns for Deeper Love with Stefanos Sifandos
FREE 10 Day Couples Challenge Check out Relationship Academy! In this episode, we talk with Stefanos Sifandos about how old wounds, relational patterns, and…
Relationship AdviceRelational Injuries
FREE 10 Day Couples Challenge Check out Relationship Academy! Today we dive into Relational Injuries! Relational injuries come in all kinds of…
Relationship AdviceWhat Our Withdrawer Spouse Can Teach Us
FREE 10 Day Couples Challenge Check out Relationship Academy! In this episode, we explore what pursuers can learn from withdrawer partners instead of seeing…
Relationship AdviceHow To Treat Trauma
FREE 10 Day Couples Challenge Check out Relationship Academy! In this episode, we talk about what trauma treatment actually looks like and why healing is not…
Relationship AdviceHow To Know If They Are "The One"
How do you know when someone is truly the person you want to build a life with? In this episode, we talk about the big question so many people ask in dating…
Relationship AdviceWhat Is Trauma?
[2:13 PM]This week on Relationship Advice we dive deep into the definition of trauma and its profound impact on our lives. In this episode, we unravel the…
Relationship AdviceHow To Stop Jealousy From Sabotaging Your Relationship
Jealousy and envy can feel shameful, but they often reveal important fears, longings, and unmet needs beneath the surface. In this episode, we explore the…
Relationship AdviceEmotional Regulation and Why It’s Important In Relationships: Part 2
In part two of our Emotional Regulation series, we’re talking all about co-regulation — how to regulate with your partner, friend, or someone you trust.While…
Relationship AdviceConnection vs Safety
In this episode, we talk about how couples can use simple “scales” to better understand each other’s energy, desire, and capacity. Instead of assuming what…
Relationship AdviceEmotional Regulation and Why It’s Important In Relationships: Part 1
Today we are discussing what it really means to regulate. You know that feeling when you are suddenly not quite in control of yourself? Maybe your body gets…
Relationship AdviceAnger in Relationships
Anger can feel disruptive in relationships, but it often shows up for a reason: it signals that something important feels blocked, unfair, or violated. In this…
Relationship Advice‘You Can’t Do This’ Is NOT A Boundary
If there is one thing to know about boundaries, it is that a boundary is not about what you need somebody else to do. It is about what you are going to do in…
Relationship AdviceWithdrawers: When Keeping the Peace Backfires
In this episode, the crew dives into the “withdrawer” role in relationships and how rigid, all-or-nothing responses can quietly create disconnection. They…
Relationship AdviceBefore You Pack: The Conversations Every Couple Needs Before Vacation
Vacation stress usually isn’t about the trip itself — it’s about the unspoken expectations couples bring into it. In this episode, the hosts unpack the…
Relationship AdviceFinding Secure Attachment with Trevor Hanson
This week we are joined by Trevor Hanson who shares his personal journey from anxious attachment and relationship struggles to becoming a therapist focused on…
Relationship AdviceEverything That Comes Before Intimacy with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith
What does “true intimacy” actually mean—and why do so many couples feel disconnected even when they love each other? In this episode, we sit down with Matthew…
Relationship AdviceWhen To End A Relationship
Ending a relationship is rarely about one big moment—it’s usually a pattern that keeps repeating despite effort, conversations, and growing awareness. This…
Relationship AdviceDon’t Punish the Vulnerability You’ve Been Begging For
This episode explores the common relationship dynamic where one partner struggles to share vulnerably, and when they finally do, they’re met with criticism…
Relationship AdviceAttachment Styles on First Dates (What to Watch For)
This episode explores how attachment styles subtly show up on first dates and what to watch for without overanalyzing every interaction. The hosts emphasize…
Relationship AdviceStop Saying "Calm Down"—Do This Instead
Telling someone to “calm down” usually does the opposite—it makes people feel dismissed, misunderstood, and even more activated. In this episode, the hosts…
Relationship AdviceThe Mental Load in Relationships (Why It Causes Stress)
The mental load in relationships refers to the invisible work of planning, remembering, organizing, and anticipating what needs to happen in a household or…
Relationship AdviceNavigating Friendship Conflict & Changing Friendship
Friendships change as people grow, and those shifts can bring up grief, confusion, frustration, or fear.In this episode, we unpack how growth, life…
Relationship AdviceMotivation To Change In Relationships
Most relationships start with “I love you, you’re perfect”… and quickly turn into wanting your partner to change. The real problem isn’t usually whether they…
Relationship AdviceEmotional Availability
Emotional availability isn’t about feeling emotions loudly or perfectly — it’s about presence, regulation, and the ability to hold space without shutting down…
Relationship AdviceIf I Have To Ask, It Doesn't Count
Why does it feel so disappointing to ask for what you want? In this episode, we unpack the hidden belief that “if I have to ask, it doesn’t count” — and how…
Relationship AdviceOne Move To Deescalate Your Next Fight: QUICK ADVICE
Couples Values Construction for 2026 Here you can find some more instruction on how to construct your values as a couple as well as the values list. Get…
Relationship AdviceWhy Everyone Thinks Their Partner Is a Narcissist
When someone says, “I think my partner is a narcissist,” they’re usually not chasing a diagnosis—they’re trying to make sense of a relationship that feels…
Relationship AdviceBehind Every Criticism There Is A Request: QUICK ADVICE
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Relationship AdvicePsychology of the State of the World
There’s been a wave of major U.S. events stirring up big emotions, and this episode stays out of political commentary to focus on how people psychologically…
Relationship AdviceWhat Makes You Great At Your Job Makes You Suck At Relationships: QUICK ADVICE
Couples Values Construction for 2026 Here you can find some more instruction on how to construct your values as a couple as well as the values list. Get…
Relationship AdviceThe Art of Negotiation with Kwame Christian
Negotiation isn’t a “business skill” — it’s an everyday relationship skill. Today we sit down TED Talk speaker, best-selling author, and podcast host of…
Relationship AdviceStop Your Next Fight Dead In It’s Tracks: QUICK ADVICE
Couples Values Construction for 2026 Here you can find some more instruction on how to construct your values as a couple as well as the values list. Get…
Relationship AdviceWhy Your Partner's Body Image Matters More Than You Think - Interview with Samantha Jerome
Body image isn’t just “how you look”—it’s how you feel in your body, and that inner experience can quietly shape conflict, closeness, sex, and day-to-day…
Relationship AdviceState Of The World: QUICK ADVICE
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Relationship AdviceThe Fourth Pillar Of A Secure Relationship (Reach & Respond)
Reaching and responding is the core interaction that helps couples move out of stuck, negative cycles and back toward connection. A reach is an imperfect…
Relationship AdviceTwo Date Rule and Testing The Waters In Dating: QUICK ADVICE
Couples Values Construction for 2026 Here you can find some more instruction on how to construct your values as a couple as well as the values list. HOLD ME…
Relationship AdviceThe Third Pillar Of A Secure Relationship (Knowing Your Cycle)
In this episode, we explore what a negative relationship cycle is and why couples get stuck repeating the same patterns during conflict. We explain how…
Relationship AdviceSafety In Sameness: Quick Advice
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Relationship AdviceThe Second Pillar Of A Secure Relationship (Individuation)
In this episode, Colter, Lauren, and Cayla unpack the second pillar of a secure relationship: individuation—the idea that what it’s like to be me is different…
Relationship AdviceMarriage 2026: QUICK ADVICE
Couples Values Construction for 2026 Here you can find some more instruction on how to construct your values as a couple as well as the values list. HOLD ME…
Relationship AdviceThe First Pillar of A Secure Relationship (Window of Tolerance)
Window of Tolerance helps explain why one partner often wants to keep talking while the other shuts down, speeds up, or feels totally overwhelmed. In this…
Relationship AdviceHow To Fix Disconnection in 2026: QUICK ADVICE
Couples Values Construction for 2026 Here you can find some more instruction on how to construct your values as a couple as well as the values list. HOLD ME…
Relationship AdviceStarting Fresh: New Year Intentions for a Stronger Relationship
In this episode, Colter, Lauren, and Cayla explore why we latch onto birthdays and the New Year as chances to “start fresh,” and why traditional resolutions so…
Relationship AdviceBridging the Gap: Healing Pursuer/Withdrawer Misunderstandings
In this episode, we break down the pursuer–withdrawer dynamic and why partners so often misunderstand each other during conflict. We explore how our nervous…
Relationship AdviceAre You Enabling Or Helping? And What's The Difference?
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Relationship AdviceWhy Good People Have Affairs
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Relationship AdviceHow Two Therapists Got Into A Fight and How They Repaired
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Relationship AdviceWhen the Holidays Aren't So Merry
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Relationship AdviceManaging Your Boundaries with Family Over the Holidays
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