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Coming Home to Her
Welcome to Coming Home to Her — I'm Sofia. ⠀ A Maui girl who moved to the other side of the world: Copenhagen, Aarhus, Lisbon, and now Vienna. I've started over more times than I can count, and this podcast is where I talk about it. ⠀ Honest weekly conversations about building a life on your own terms: living abroad, love, work, changing friendships, being a beginner again, and the moments no one prepares you for. Solo episodes and guests who built something from the ground up. ⠀ If you're…
Episodes
- Coming Home to Her
Ep 44: Don’t Wait for January: How I’m Ending This Year (Not With Resolutions)
This week I signed up for a public speaking course. It’s something I’ve wanted to do for over six months, and I kept putting it off. In this episode, I’m…
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Ep 43: How I Found Myself Again After Moving In With My Partner
When we were long distance, my independence came automatically. Then we moved in together, and I didn’t even notice it slowly disappearing. In this episode…
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Ep 42: The Loneliest Part of Working From Home
Two months into a fully remote job, and I have thoughts. The flexibility is incredible — working from a beach in Lisbon, lunch workouts, visiting family…
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Ep 41: 8 Years Abroad and I Still Say Hi in the Elevator
Nobody tells you that moving abroad means a new appointment every week, an accent that quietly changes, and a lot of silent elevator rides.It's been almost 8…
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Ep 40: She Hit 7 Figures… and Got Used to It with Emily
At 25, Emily founded BRAINANDBABES. This year, it crossed seven figures for the second year in a row. And the strangest part? She got used to it. In this…
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Ep 39: Why Can’t I Just Be Proud of Myself?
Why is it so easy to achieve something you once really wanted and immediately start thinking about what’s next? I recently realized how quickly I move the…
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Ep 38: The Energy Cost of Having a Social Life After Work
Yesterday I started work at 7:30am. A friend invited me to a vineyard for sunset dinner after work. My first instinct was absolutely not. I went anyway. It was…
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Ep 37: A Maui Girl's Survival Guide to European Winter
I grew up in Maui. I wear bikinis in December. I had never needed a winter coat until I was 18. And then I moved to Copenhagen. Seven European winters later, I…
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Ep 36: What 25 Actually Taught Me
Last year, during the week of my birthday, I got laid off. And somehow, that ended up being the year that taught me the most about who I am. In this episode…
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Ep 35: Am I Actually Present With the People I Love?
Last week I was on a call with my mom. She lives 12 hours behind me. I fly 27 hours once a year to see her. And I was reading client emails while we were…
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Ep 34: What Actually Makes a Normal Week Feel Good
For the past nine months I was unemployed. I've never talked about it on here — the anxiety, the imposter syndrome, the hundreds of job applications, the…
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Ep 33: You Can Build a Life More Than Once with Bibi
Three years ago I met Bibi completely randomly on a street in Copenhagen. We stayed in each other's orbit through Instagram, and this episode is the first time…
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Ep 32: How Much Of My Personality Is Just My Algorithm?
Sphinx cats. Baby content. Elderly Japanese restaurant owners that make me want to cry. This is apparently what my FYP has decided I am. In this episode I'm…
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Ep 31: I Want a Soft Life… But Unfortunately I’m Ambitious
Have you ever been in a season where you're supposed to be resting, but all you can think about is everything else you could be doing? In this episode, I'm…
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Ep 30: We Grew Up in Maui… Then Both Left
My brother Marcus is finally on the podcast. In this episode, we talk about what it was like growing up in Maui, both leaving home in different directions, and…
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Ep 29: Posting Online Is Embarrassing Until It Works with Sabrina
Everyone starts posting online thinking it'll be fine. It is not fine. In this episode, I sit down with Sabrina — content creator and business lawyer — who has…
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Ep 28: Romanticizing Your Life Actually Works. Here's Why.
People talk about romanticizing your life like it’s an aesthetic. Matcha, linen, golden hour walks. But I think it’s actually something else entirely. In this…
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Ep 27: Lucky Girl Syndrome: Delusional or Low-Key Effective?
Lucky Girl Syndrome is everywhere. Girls swearing that walking around expecting good things to happen actually makes them happen. And honestly? I can't fully…
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Ep 26: You Know You Live Somewhere When You Stop Using Google Maps
You know you've become a local somewhere the day you stop using Google Maps. Today I'm talking about how a new place actually starts to feel like home — not…
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Ep 25: Things I Think Are Overrated… But I’m a Hypocrite
Today’s episode is a little lighter, a little more opinionated, and honestly… slightly hypocritical. I’m talking about things I think are overrated — from…
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Ep 24: Making Friends As An Adult Is So Awkward
Making friends as an adult is so much harder than anyone warns you about. When we're younger it just kind of happens. Same environment, same people, forced…
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Ep 23: The Lies I Believed At 22
I used to be so sure about certain things. That real friends never drift apart. That adults had everything figured out. That confidence meant never doubting…
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Ep 22: Things I'm Currently Obsessed With + Life Lately
Okay we’ve been pretty emotionally deep lately. So today — no identity crises, no emotional unpacking. Just me talking about the random things I’m currently…
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Ep 21: Why Some People Feel Heavy to Be Around
You know that feeling when you leave someone and you're just... exhausted. And nothing bad even happened. Some people don't drain you dramatically. They just…
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Ep 20: What I Actually Do When I’m Having a Bad Day
Some days I wake up and before I've even looked at my phone I already feel bleh. Everything feels wrong. My apartment feels wrong. I feel wrong. And nothing…
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Ep 19: Why You Don't Need to Explain Yourself Anymore
Have you ever walked away from a conversation and immediately thought… why did I just say all of that? Not because you said anything wrong. Just because you…
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Ep 18: I Don't Think I Fit Into One Place Anymore
Have you ever felt like you don’t fully belong where you are — but also don’t fully belong where you came from anymore? There’s a phase where you outgrow old…
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Ep 17: Being Sexy for Yourself (Not for Anyone Else)
There’s something about doing things just for yourself that feels different. Not for attention, not for validation — just because it makes you feel good…
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Ep 16: When You Don't Recognize Yourself Anymore — The In-Between Era
There’s a phase in life where you don’t fully feel like who you used to be… but you also don’t recognize who you’re becoming yet. It’s confusing…
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Ep 15: Why You Can Feel Lonely Even When You're Surrounded by People
Some days you feel completely fine, and other days loneliness hits you out of nowhere. The waves of loneliness can feel confusing — from moments of feeling…
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Ep 14: What to Do When People Don't Like You (And Why It Says More About Them)
One of the hardest but also most freeing things to accept is that not everyone is going to like you. In this episode, I talk about why being disliked or…
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Ep 13: Dating in Your 20s: Situationships, Mixed Signals & Everything In Between
Dating today can feel… a bit all over the place. Mixed signals, situationships, ghosting, and trying to understand what people actually want. In this episode…
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Ep 12: What Your Emotional Triggers Are Trying to Tell You
Sometimes a small situation can trigger a much bigger emotional reaction than we expect. A comment, a text, a moment of rejection, or feeling misunderstood can…
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Ep 11: The Real Glow Up Nobody Talks About (It's Not What You Think)
A lot of people think a glow up is about appearance. But most real glow ups start when you begin building routines that make your life feel less chaotic and…
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Ep 10: Why You Can't Switch Off (And What Your Nervous System Is Actually Telling You)
Have you ever felt like your brain never fully turns off? Even when your life is stable, your body still feels tense, restless, or slightly on edge. In this…
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Ep 9: Feeling Behind in Your 20s (Even When You’re Not)
There’s this anxiety a lot of people in their 20s share: the feeling that you should have it more figured out by now. Even when nothing is technically wrong…
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Ep 8: Self-Love Isn't What You Think It Is — Here's What It Actually Looks Like
We hear “love yourself” everywhere… but what does that actually look like on a random Tuesday when you overthink something you said, feel behind, or let…
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Ep 7: Can Long-Distance Actually Work? (My Experience)
In this episode I share my experience being in a long-distance relationship for a year and a half while living in different countries. We only saw each other…
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Ep 6: What No One Tells You About Moving Abroad — The Honest Truth
Moving abroad sounds exciting… until the adrenaline wears off. In this episode, I’m talking about what it’s actually been like moving away from home. The…
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Ep 5: Why Your Hometown Friends Hit Different (And Why That Never Goes Away)
In this episode, I’m joined by two of my childhood best friends, Celia and Marina — sisters who have been part of my life for as long as I can remember…
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Ep 4: What 20 Years of Friendship Actually Looks Like — With My Best Friend Emma
I’m joined by my childhood best friend, Emma, and we do what we’ve always done best - yap. We catch up on how our friendship has grown over the years, the ways…
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Ep 3: Building a Life From Scratch — A Conversation With My Stepsister
In this episode, I sit down with my stepsister Nani Loa — a Parisian creative who has spent years building her own path across fashion, photography, and…
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Ep 2: What Happens to Your Identity When You Go Back Home
Ten days home, and everything feels familiar and also completely different. In this episode, I talk about what it’s been like to return to a place that shaped…
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Ep 1: I Left Hawaii at 18 and Never Looked Back — This Is My Story
I’m Sofia, and welcome to the first episode of Coming Home to Her. I’ve lived in Maui, Copenhagen, Aarhus, Lisbon, and now Vienna — and every move has taught…