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Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
Break free from pornography and rebuild the trust in your relationship. Hosted by licensed marriage therapist Sam Tielemans, Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction is your go-to podcast for overcoming porn addiction, restoring emotional and sexual intimacy, and healing after betrayal trauma in your marriage. Each episode offers practical tools, relationship advice, and real stories of men and couples navigating the path of porn recovery and restoring your marriage. Whether you’re just…
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- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
155: If She Stays, She Thinks He’s Just Getting Away With Everything
One very difficult hurdle that many women struggle, with is the idea of forgiveness or staying in the relationship with someone who hurt them so much. If she…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
154: LIVE CALL – How to Resolve Triggers During / After Sexual Intimacy
Rebuilding sexual intimacy after damage by pornography can be a challenge for many couples. A wife often has fears and concerns like: How do I know he's not…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
153: When She's Hurt By Him Looking at Women in Public
Going out into public can create a lot of anxiety for both a husband and wife. She's worried about who he's looking at and what he's thinking about, and he's…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
152: 3 Things to Jumpstart Marriage Repair
If you had to get to the other side of a mountain, would you rather take a tunnel through it or climb all the way up and around it? It still takes effort and…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
151: From Grief, Sadness, and Hurt to Healing and Closure
When pornography use is discovered in a relationship, there is often a lot of grief and hurt that surfaces. Shock about how this could have happened. Feeling…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
150: He’s a Source of Pain AND a Source of Comfort
After pornography use, a husband becomes a source of pain as well as a source of comfort for his wife. this can be such a confusing place for both people to…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
149: A New Twist On Identify and Resolving Underlying Issues That Lead to Pornography Use
Understanding and resolving the underlying issues that lead pornography use is essential. Without addressing the root cause, you're bound to continue to…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
148: 5 Signs That the Trust in Your Marriage is Seriously Damaged
Announcement!!! Trust is a critical part of rebuilding your relationship after pornography use has damaged it So, I decided to do a special trust building…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
147: Tools to Help Your Relationship Progress If She Brings Up Her Pain
Announcement!!! Trust is a critical part of rebuilding your relationship after pornography use has damaged it. So, I decided to do a special trust building…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
146: Success Story: Braden Shares the 5 Specific Things That Changed His Life and Helped Him Quit Pornography
Have you ever felt so hopeless and discouraged as you've tried to quit pornography that you thought that there's no way out? Despite how hard you've tried, you…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
145: When It’s Hard to Work On Your Marriage and Forgiveness Seems Impossible to Achieve
Pornography use damages a relationship in deep and significant ways. Trust is broken and her wall goes up. The idea of forgiveness can feel impossible to…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
144: 5 Signs She’s Feeling Betrayal Trauma (And How You Can Address It)
When a woman discovers her husband's pornography use, her whole world gets turn upside down. Oftentimes she now thinks that everything was a lie. Their whole…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
143: How to Avoid Pornography If Your Spouse Leaves Town or For The Day
When a spouse is gone for the day or weekend and a man is all alone, it's a common trigger. In this episode I share 3 specific things you can do to make sure…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
142: Success Story: Todd is Free From Porn 2 Years Later (and here's how)
Change is 100% if you have the right ingredients. In today's episode, I want to introduce to you a man who has found success, and 2 years later, he continues…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
141: Why a Husband Avoids Initiating Conversations and How to Resolve It
Initiating conversations can be very difficult for a husband to do. If his wife is in a good mood, he doesn’t want to bring up the pain all over again. If…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
140: When Shame and "Self Pity" Dissolves Connection and Breaks Down the Conversation
How do the conversations go when you talk about her pain? Do they end with you feeling closer or further apart? Do you feel hopeless and inadequate, not…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
139: When a Wife Brings Up Her Husband's Lack of Follow Through
Have you ever gotten into an argument with your spouse where you're talking about specific actions that he's committed to do but then doesn't follow through?…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
138: The Top 3 Ways to Kill Your Chances of Having a Strong Marriage
"We've been spinning our wheels for 9 months... I'm in a worst place now than the day I discovered everything." A couple reached out to me a few hours before…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
137: How Long Does It Take to Repair A Marriage After Pornography Use?
This road to healing your marriage can be agonizing. So many people wonder how long will this take? They feel like they might not be able to hold on much…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
136: How Long Do We Need To Keep Talking About It?
After the discovery of pornography use, it shatters the foundation of the entire relationship. Naturally, it becomes the center of most conversations as you…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
135: She Found Out He Was Hiding A Slip… Now What?
Couples can very easily get stuck when a husband has a slip up, acts like things are normal, and then his wife finds out that he searched for something and…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
134: He Thinks He's Making Progress Helping Her Feel Safe, She Doesn't
March 18th: Join the free 5 Day 'Overcome Your Urges' Challenge to get tools to resolve the root cause of your urges so you can eliminate them instead of…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
133: Narcissism and Pornography Use: Why They've Had It Wrong The Whole Time
The idea of being in a relationship with a narcissist can feel overwhelming. After all, a “personality disorder” is a serious thing… But what if people…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
132: When the Tools Don’t Help You Feel Better or Make Progress
Safety is necessary in order for relationships to be repaired after pornography use. Many women default to using an emotional wall to keep themselves safe…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
131: Emotional Safety in Marriage is Key: Here Are 3 Ways to Create It
Safety is necessary in order for relationships to be repaired after pornography use. Many women default to using an emotional wall to keep themselves safe…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
130: The Solution to Avoid Trading One Bad Coping Mechanism for Another
It's very easy for men to switch one bad coping mechanism (pornography) for another (food, video games, social media, TV, etc.). Some people might see those…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
129: How to Help Her Feel Secure Again in the Relationship After Pornography Use
In a relationship, having a strong feeling of security is so important. When pornography addiction or habit is discovered, it completely undermines the…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
128: How to Overcome Feelings of Unworthiness and a Lack of Self Love
Lots of people struggle with feelings of low self worth, unworthiness, inadequacy and a lack of self love. Affirmations and being positive doesn’t seem to…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
127: The Key to Addressing Her Sadness If It Feels Like You’re Not Making Progress
Have you ever had a good day with your spouse, then out of nowhere, you get hit with a wave of deep sadness. Then you share the sadness and the conversation…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
126: The Damage of Pornography Use and Deception Can Be Healed – Here’s How
When a pornography addiction or habit is discovered in a relationship, it causes significant damage. Trust is broken, there's a lack of emotional safety, and…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
125: He Wants to Move Forward, But She’s Still Hurting and Her Wall is Up
Most people don’t want to stay in pain any longer than they already have. They want the process to speed up, to find closure and peace sooner, and move forward…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
124: When Seeking Validation Leads to Pornography and/or Physical Infidelity
What do you do when you struggle with feelings of needing validation from a source outside of yourself? Whether it’s sexual attention from a woman, making a…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
123: Harvard Professor Shares a Critical Factor in Successfully Quitting Pornography
Have you ever wanted to know exactly what it’s going to take to eliminate pornography and have a connected relationship with your spouse? As I have initial…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
122: This Conversation Can Unintentionally Harm Your Ability to Directly Address and Resolve Pornography Use
When struggling to overcome pornography addiction or a habit, have you ever had the conversation that goes something like this: If there's another relapse…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
121: Can Having Sex Make it Harder For Him to Overcome Pornography?
Can having sex make it hard for him to quit watching pornography? Is a pornography addiction or habit fueled by sex with a spouse? The men and women I work…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
120: The 3 Best Ways to Help Her Pain Go Away
When a man struggles with a pornography addiction or habit, it shatters trust and security in his relationship. Most men desperately seek to repair and restore…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
119: Success Story with Kenna and Dave – From Near Divorce to Connection and Safety
Have you ever contemplated ending your relationship because of the hurt and pain you’re feeling? Or because of broken communication that leads to fights or…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
118: When She Says, “If You Loved Me, You Never Would Have Watched Pornography”
When a man struggles with pornography, addiction or habit, it’s devastating to his wife. She will express her hurt and pain to him hoping that the behavior…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
117: How to Eliminate the Desire for Pornography So You Can Feel ”Normal”
Imagine what life would feel like if you didn’t have any desire to look at pornography. You just simply had no interest in it anymore? What if you just felt…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
116: If a Wife Has Unmet Expectations and a Husband Feels Like His Efforts Aren’t Enough
When working to overcome pornography addiction or habit, it’s easy for expectations to not be met.. This work is difficult, and if a wife has expectations of…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
115: When Saying How You Feel Leads to a Fight
When couples are working through the impact of pornography addiction, communication is so important to resolve painful and sensitive issues. But what, if…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
114: Avoid This Thought Pattern So You Can Overcome Pornography and Betrayal Trauma
It's easy for people to get stuck in a negative thought patterns that increase depression, hopelessness, and feeling paralyzed. When's the last time you…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
113: You’ll Never Overcomes Pornography With This Subconscious Belief
If you’ve ever felt depressed after another relapse and you’ve thought that quitting pornography isn’t possible, then this episode is for you. I had a session…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
112: Avoid Emotional Spirals With This New Approach
Our emotional state determines the quality of our life. Yet, most people allow the external world to determine their emotional responses. One of the most…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
111: Success Story With Kevin: Reclaiming His Self Worth and Improving His Marriage
Finding success in overcoming pornography, you can be so difficult for many people because they don't know the best way to approach it. It can feel so…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
110: Identifying Source of Urges and Triggers: Habit vs Emotional Coping
When a man struggles with pornography, identifying the root cause and the source of the urges and triggers is critical. Without knowing what's driving, the…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
109: When He’s Doing Well, But She Can’t Reciprocate the Love
Many couples feel overwhelmed by feeling stuck despite trying to take positive steps forward. A woman can often feel afraid to bring her wall down, or she…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
108: In Session (Behind the Scenes): Repair Your Marriage With THIS Conversation
This is a very special episode I am super excited about! I'm working with a wonderful couple who allowed me to record our sessions together. This episode is a…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
107: Reprocessing Triggers & New Habits: The Key to Avoiding Relapse
In order to sustain progress and avoid relapse in the future, it's so important to not only develop new habits but actually reprocess your triggers. Most men…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
106: How to Guard Against Temptation and How She Can Help
The nagging feeling of an urge or temptation can become so powerful it's hard to resist. In this episode I share with you specific approaches and tools you can…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
105: How to Know If You’re Ready For Sexual Intimacy Again in Your Marriage?
Navigating sexual intimacy after the impact of pornography can be so difficult! In this episode we do a deep dive to help you know how to integrate sexual…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
104: 3 Ways to Have Hard Conversations More Productively So You Can Find Closure
Having hard conversations in your marriage after pornography addiction is one of the most important skills you can learn. However, there are many things that…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
103: Slip vs Relapse and Should He Tell His Wife?
Is there a difference between a slip and a relapse, and at what point should he tell his wife? In this episode I detail not only the differences between a slip…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
102. How to Achieve Forgiveness Without Pressure and Forcing It
Forgiveness is such an important element in the healing process, yet most people go about it in a way that causes resistance, pressure and frustration. Trying…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
101. How to Eliminate Scorekeeping and Resentment From Your Marriage
In your journey of overcoming pornography addiction and rebuilding trust in your relationship, it's so important to understand the root of the problem in a way…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
100. Instantly Reduce Relapses With This Simple Tweak
In the process of overcoming pornography addiction, so many men focus on tracking sobriety. However, there is a big problem with using that as the measurement…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
99. Get Unlimited Motivation to Overcome Pornography Addiction
When a man struggles with a pornography addiction, both he and his wife often feel concerned that he'll run out of motivation to stay consistent. And it's…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
98. 3 Strategies to Overcome a Man’s Knee-Jerk Dishonesty With His Wife
One of the most damaging things to a relationship is dishonesty. He completely undermines trust, makes a woman second-guess everything her husband says, and at…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
97. New Tools for When Communication Breaks Down (Part 2)
In the previous episode I talked about the negative communication cycles that every couple get stuck in. I shared with you the formula to communicate…
- Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction
96. Breaking Negative Communication Cycles and Preventing Arguments (Part 1)
Every couple gets caught in negative communication cycles. When there is anger, defensiveness, shutting down and avoidance, it makes it impossible for a…