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The Shit Nobody Says Out Loud: Real Talk on Life, Systems & Survival
I have a lot of shit to say. Sometimes it’s parenting. Sometimes it’s adulthood, schools, special education, grief, advocacy, relationships, or some completely random thing that got stuck in my head and wouldn’t leave. Some episodes are serious. Some are funny. Some are basically me ranting because something makes absolutely no fucking sense. I question things. I overthink things. I get pissed off. I laugh at shit I probably shouldn’t. And sometimes I start talking about one thing and end up…
Episodes
- The Shit Nobody Says Out Loud: Real Talk on Life, Systems & Survival
Thanks, Bitch. I Didn’t Know I Had a Fucking Option.
Apparently, surviving life’s bullshit is supposed to be a compliment-worthy accomplishment. Cool. But has anyone stopped to consider what that actually costs…
- The Shit Nobody Says Out Loud: Real Talk on Life, Systems & Survival
What the fuck am I supposed to do with that?
Apparently, asking what happened and expecting an actual explanation is a lot to ask. Two situations with my own kid had me questioning school discipline…
- The Shit Nobody Says Out Loud: Real Talk on Life, Systems & Survival
I Had to Learn How to Deal With Shit
You’d think getting sober would be the hardest part. Turns out, I had a whole lot of other shit to figure out. It’s been over 15 years, and sometimes I look…
- The Shit Nobody Says Out Loud: Real Talk on Life, Systems & Survival
The Shit Nobody Tells You
Apparently, I can publish a book and start a podcast, but telling people I actually know about either one? That’s where things get awkward. So, I figured I’d…
- The Shit Nobody Says Out Loud: Real Talk on Life, Systems & Survival
How The Fuck Are We Still Here?
All I wanted to know was how my kids school experience today compares to what school was like when I was growing up in the 90s. That turned into me researching…
- The Shit Nobody Says Out Loud: Real Talk on Life, Systems & Survival
It Was Very Peopley, and I Have Thoughts
I just got back from Orlando after presenting at the National Federation of Families conference, and holy shit, I have a lot of thoughts. This was my first…
- The Shit Nobody Says Out Loud: Real Talk on Life, Systems & Survival
Unfortunately, I Give a Shit
I let ChatGPT roast me, then decided the next logical move was to ask it to make a documentary about me too. What came back was way too accurate. The PDFs. The…
- The Shit Nobody Says Out Loud: Real Talk on Life, Systems & Survival
The Kid Is Still Paying For It.
We expect kids to take accountability for everything. Their choices, their behavior, how they respond, how they handle conflict. But what happens when the…
- The Shit Nobody Says Out Loud: Real Talk on Life, Systems & Survival
I’m Sorry. I Was a Fucking Asshole.
When you’re a kid, your parents aren’t actual people. They’re just the assholes making stupid rules, telling you no, and clearly not understanding anything…
- The Shit Nobody Says Out Loud: Real Talk on Life, Systems & Survival
Oh Fuck, That’s Me.
I spent years teaching my kids to talk, ask questions, use their words, think for themselves, and speak up when something doesn’t make sense. Turns out I did a…
- The Shit Nobody Says Out Loud: Real Talk on Life, Systems & Survival
I Don’t Do Nature. He Doesn’t Do School.
My husband and I have been married long enough that we’ve each somehow ended up with our own departments. Bugs, blood, animals and anything involving nature?…
- The Shit Nobody Says Out Loud: Real Talk on Life, Systems & Survival
Adulthood Was Falsely Advertised
When you’re a kid, being an adult sounds fucking amazing. Your own money. Your own house. Nobody telling you what to do. Complete freedom. Then you grow up and…
- The Shit Nobody Says Out Loud: Real Talk on Life, Systems & Survival
You Have Rights. Now Figure Out How to Use Them.
I’ve been down this fucking IDEA rabbit hole for way too long, and apparently I’m not getting out of it yet. Because the more I read about what IDEA was…
- The Shit Nobody Says Out Loud: Real Talk on Life, Systems & Survival
What the Fuck Is a Parent Supposed to Do?
This whole fucking thing started because I wanted an answer to what I thought was a pretty basic question about Child Find. How much information does a school…
- The Shit Nobody Says Out Loud: Real Talk on Life, Systems & Survival
But Did We Actually Help the Kid?
The behavior went down. The chart looks better. Fewer office referrals. Less refusal. The kid is staying in class. Great. But did we actually help the kid?…
- The Shit Nobody Says Out Loud: Real Talk on Life, Systems & Survival
Common Doesn’t Mean Normal
I hear some version of “that’s just how it works” all the time. Schools. State agencies. Child welfare systems. Different people, different organizations…
- The Shit Nobody Says Out Loud: Real Talk on Life, Systems & Survival
The Notebook Paper Mom
I keep thinking about Band-Aids. I love what I do. I love when I can help a parent finally understand what’s happening, get an answer they’ve been trying to…
- The Shit Nobody Says Out Loud: Real Talk on Life, Systems & Survival
Grief is Fucking Weird
Grief doesn't follow a neat timeline, and it certainly doesn't make sense. From getting wrecked out of nowhere at a wall of training bras to the realization…
- The Shit Nobody Says Out Loud: Real Talk on Life, Systems & Survival
What if I’m doing this wrong?
Knowing a lot about something professionally is a pain in the ass when it's your own kid and you still have no fucking clue what to do. In this episode, Jess…
- The Shit Nobody Says Out Loud: Real Talk on Life, Systems & Survival
Am I Crazy?
I didn’t know what I didn’t know. I was a parent with a kid struggling at school, trusting the people who knew the system because I didn’t. Then I found an…