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Ep74 – Arrogance to Sobbing Puddle: The Attraction of the HFA
Everyone knows childhood trauma or major tragedy often leads to alcoholism. But that was not part of Matt’s story. Matt’s dependence on external…
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Ep73 – Running into the Solution with Amber Graziano
She was an award winning and highly recruited high school athlete. She received a full-ride division one scholarship to Baylor University for her skills on the…
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Ep72 – Another Day Closer to Forever with Dana and Frank
Sheri and Matt welcome Dana and Frank to the pocast. This is the first time they have interviewed a couple working to recover their marriage. Frank has over a…
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Ep71 – What Goes Down Must Come Up
The progression into alcoholism is always the same. Sure, some of the details are different, and the ultimate rock-bottom destination – The Pit, as Matt…
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Ep70 – Barbara’s Recovery from Sacrificing Herself
Doctor’s take an oath to do no harm. When the surgeons operated on Barbara, she was an exception. They knew they risked harming her. Barbara knew it…
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Ep69 – Should I Stay or Should I Go?
This is the question we hear most often from our listeners, so on this episode, Sheri and Matt discuss how she processed this painful decision in their…
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Ep68 – Can Anyone Hear Me? Communication Challenges in Sheri’s Recovery
Family communication is fraught with pitfalls whether alcoholism is a factor or not. But with sobriety, we can make progress in our discovery. In this episode…
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Ep67 – Saved by Sobriety: The House Fire Cheryl Survived
Have you ever cheated death? Have you ever had too much to drink, and put yourself in a dangerous situation? Have you ever passed out unable to protect…
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Ep66 – Be the Hero and Save Yourself
Low self esteem, insecurity and negative self talk – these issues plague so many of us, and they are particularly detrimental to people who love…
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Ep65 – Karen Explains that You can have a Life on the Other Side
Karen’s life did not go as planned. She married the man she loved, and they had four kids together. So far, so good. But when the progression of her…
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Ep64 – soberevolution: Who Should Read this Book?
Our book, soberevolution: Evolve into Sobriety and Recover Your Alcoholic Marriage, isn’t for everybody. It is for high-functioning alcoholics who are…
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Ep63 – The Holiday Season: Tinsel & Candy Cane Covered Trauma
It’s a Wonderful Life or White Christmas – who has experienced a holiday season that lives up to those perfect pictures of love, family and…
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Ep62 – You’ve Done Nothing Wrong. Why are you So Ashamed?
The shame of alcoholism is not reserved only for the drinkers. The loved ones of drinkers feel an enormous amount of shame – for letting it get so bad…
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Ep61 – Traci on Healing Her Broken Heart
The anger and resentment from her husband’s drinking was building inside our friend, Traci. If he kept drinking, she faced a selfless and dreadful…
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Ep60 – Why are we still so angry?
If you’ve ever looked for the root cause of your anger, you’ve probably read or heard that anger is the outward manifestation of fear…
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Ep58 – Neither of You are to Blame
Alcoholism is so insidious because of how it creeps into relationships and destroys us from the inside. When did my husband turn from a sweet, loving man into…
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Ep57 – Kate Flourishing in the Truth
Sheri and Matt are joined on this episode by a fellow survivor of an alcoholic marriage, their good friend and Denver neighbor, Kate. Just like Sheri, Kate…
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Ep56 – Our Wedding: Making the Trauma Typical
Sheri and Matt tell the story of the trauma of their wedding. Devastating and heartbreaking? Yes. Unusual? Sadly, no. It was such a shameful event that this is…
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Ep55 – The 2 Keys to Ending the Alcoholism Epidemic
Being a part of the alcoholism recovery community is all about putting out fires that are already started. That’s important, but that’s not what…
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Ep54 – Jane’s Pain and Anger from Being In It
If you’ve listened to the Untoxicated Podcast before, you know Sheri’s and Matt’s story is not unique, because you are probably in the middle…
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Ep53 – Inspiration from Matt’s Mediocrity
Listeners and readers often share that they can’t imagine their alcoholic spouses reaching the level of clarity that Matt and Sheri share on this…
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Ep52 – A Message for Your Alcoholic Partner
As an active alcoholic, Matt thought all of his attempts to control his drinking, his pontifications about how it would be different this time, and his…
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Ep51 – How Sheri’s Cold Detachment Contributed to Matt’s Sobriety
After a decade of developing disdain for her alcoholic husband, the disease transformed Sheri into a bit of bitch. And now, looking back, no one is happier…
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Ep50 – The Raw, Naked Truth about Socializing Sober
Socializing sober is not just a challenge for alcoholics in recovery. Everyone impacted by this disease has to find a groove in a society that depends on…
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Ep49 – Getting from Here to the Relationship You Want
Sobriety doesn’t fix anything, but it is a prerequisite for recovery from an alcoholic marriage. Once we realize we have removed alcohol, and our…
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Ep48 – Fairytale: When Relationship Recovery Feels Out of Reach
We asked a group of loved ones of alcoholics to read a chapter of our book, soberevolution, that will be released on September 23rd. The chapter is titled…
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Ep47 – The Emotional Volatility of Living with Alcoholism
We talk a lot of the trauma and pain of living with an alcoholic, but we rarely share the details. In this episode, Sheri and Matt talk about the emotional…
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Ep46 – Impact: Here’s Why You’re Not a Failure
Recovery is not a binary choice. You are not a success if you are sober, and a failure if you relapse. The same is true for the loved ones of alcoholics…
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Ep45 – The Revealing Truth of Sobriety
I thought I was so funny, cute, smart and charming when I was drinking. Little did I know, I was just a loud and boorish bloviator of intoxicated rambling. Now…
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Ep44 – You Drank Yourself Silly: The Brain Chemistry of Alcoholism
If you are the loved one of an alcoholic, it is easy to blame poor lifestyle choices and lack of willpower for the jam your abusive drinker has gotten the both…
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Ep43 – Relationship Recovery Dry Relapse
A dry drunk is a label associated with someone who white-knuckles his way through sobriety. A dry drunk might not be drinking alcohol, but he is not learning…
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Ep42 – The Alcohol is Gone, But the Asshole Lingers
One of the most common concerns Sheri and Matt hear from the loved ones of alcoholics is, “He’s a drunk asshole now, but what if he sobers up, and…
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Ep41 – Parenting Sober: Journey into the Unknown
Sheri and Matt had drastically different exposures to alcohol when we were growing up, and we carried that experience into our parenting roles. Our kids were…
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Ep40 – Friendships Lost in Recovery
Sheri and Matt are big believers in the power of vulnerability, and the huge gains in enlightenment and healing we have made as a result of recovering out…
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Ep39 – Instinct Over Insecurity: When Pushing It Down Stops Working
Sheri and Matt talk about the evolving process of learning to trust instincts. The greatest challenge to listening to what she knows to be true are the…
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Ep38 – It Turns Out My Wife’s Not a Bitch
I had a huge ego as an active alcoholic. I thought I was great. My wife, Sheri, found me repulsive and stupid, and she felt betrayed by my love of alcohol…
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Ep37 – It’s Sheri’s Turn: A Sense of Recovery Urgency
Active alcoholism is selfish, but everyone knows that. Early sobriety is equally selfish, but this time, for a good reason. For Matt and Sheri, our…
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Ep36 – Sheri’s Lingering Fears from the Trauma of Alcoholism
Three years into recovery from Matt’s alcoholism, fearful anticipation lingers for Sheri. In this episode, we discuss the worry and anxiety that Sheri…
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Ep35 – Echoes of Recovery: Healing for the Loved Ones of Alcoholics
One of the most widely accepted misperceptions about alcohol addiction is that the drinkers are the only people facing enormous challenges in recovery. The…
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Ep34 – Pandemic Policy Fuels Epic Liquor Store Lines
On our first remotely recorded episode due to the COVID-19 pandemic, Matt and Debbie Scheer discuss the public policy decision that threw Denver into chaos…
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Ep33 – Quarantine and Isolation – Alcohol will Only Make it Worse
While the COVID-19 pandemic is nothing like the terrorist attack on America we suffered during 9/11, it does isolate and confine us in a similar way. Back…
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Ep32 – Sex Miseducation: The Lasting Impact
Was your middle school sex ed experience as shrouded in shameful secrecy and as incomplete as ours? In this episode, Matt and Debbie talk about the lasting…
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EP31 – The Destruction of Intimacy in our Alcoholic Marriage
Sheri and Matt dive deeper than ever before into the intimate details of our alcoholic marriage. Our relationship started in a very typical manner – we…
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Ep30 – Humor is the Ultimate Icebreaker with Debbie Scheer
The damage done by alcohol is no laughing matter, but if we lighten up and loosen up, honest, healing conversation often follows. No one knows more about using…
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Ep29 – Doritos Made Me an Alcoholic: The Why, the How and the Stigma of Alcoholism
To blame my alcoholism on Doritos is a bold statement, but the more we learn about neurochemistry and the way our brains process inputs, the more obvious the…
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Ep28 – Bar Zero: Great Food, Exotic Drinks, Fun People with No Alcohol
Emily Schrader has always been a risk taker. Drinking alcohol and doing drugs was a natural fit for a woman living life on the edge. Now, with 15 years of…
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Ep27 – Accomplishment Black Hole
I’m supposed to feel rested coming off the holidays, right? So why do I feel so bad – worthless and sinking? Some people drink to avoid processing…
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Ep26 – Surviving the Holidays Sober
This is our third consecutive sober holiday season, and it is monumentally better for both my wife and me. In this episode, Sheri and I discuss the differences…
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Ep25 – My Alcoholism is Not a Spiritual Problem
In this episode, I share a speech I gave to a community of people recovering from alcoholism through the twelve steps. It was not an Alcoholics Anonymous…
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Ep24 – When Alcohol Stops Working with Jolene Park
Jolene Park and her friends were like the cast of Sex in the City with their nights on the town and affinity for classy wines while complaining about their…
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Ep23 – Healthy Delay: The Pace of Recovery for an Alcoholic Spouse
When I was trying to gain my permanent sobriety, I needed my wife’s support more than ever. I thought her cautions attitude and reserved enthusiasm was…
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Ep22 – Gray Area Drinking with Christy Wynne
Christy Wynne didn’t have a spectacular, catastrophic, up-in-flames relationship with alcohol. Sure, she partied for many years, but she decided to leave…
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Ep21 – Sheri’s Social Drinking: Alcohol Remains Toxic to Our Marriage
The damage done to our marriage by my active alcoholism was massive. We are still trying to deal with the resentment, and repair trust and our intimate…
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Ep20 – Alcoholism is More Prolific than Cancer, and We Are the Cure
Almost 15 million Americans have cancer, but there are more than 15 million American alcoholics. Addiction to alcoholism touches all of our lives. In this…
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Ep19 – Fearless Teen Drinking: Make Alcohol a Choice
Listen to this speech I wrote for the students at a large, racially and economically diverse high school after they experienced a series of brazen and…
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Ep18 – Getting Our Marriage Unstuck with Jason & Lana
Sheri and I are stuck. We have made tremendous progress in the recovery of our relationship, now in the third year of my sobriety, but resentments from the…
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Ep17 – Sheri’s Story, Part 2: Recovering Our Marriage
In part two of a three part series about how Matt’s alcoholism has damaged our marriage, Sheri talks about the process of recovering our marriage from…
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Ep16 – SHOUT Sobriety Week 6
God has an important place in my life. He always has. I am a very spiritual person, and I pray constantly both now and back when I was in active alcoholism…
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Ep15 – SHOUT Sobriety Week 5
Relationships are so important to our happiness and our success in early sobriety. Taking alcohol out of our relationships actually does not fix the problems…
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Ep14 – SHOUT Sobriety Week 4
The disease of alcoholism has many victims. The spouses and children of an alcoholic are victims. The parents and friends of an alcoholic are victims, too. The…