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Ep194 – Vacation Anxiety and Trauma
The bathing suits, blue ocean waves and smiling faces posted to social media don’t tell the true story of vacations for families experiencing alcohol…
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Ep193 – Recovery Timeline
Sheri and Matt talk about the individual pieces of recovery all the time: resentment processing, nervous system stabilization, trust building, intimacy, etc…
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Ep192 – The Power of Choice
Seven women who have made the impossibly difficult choice to move on from alcoholism through divorce talk about the challenges and the triumphs of their own…
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Ep191 – Accountability, Envy, Fear, Anger & Blaming the Alcohol
Many of the people finding success in the alcoholism recovery community embrace some form of assigning the blame to the alcohol. And yet, so many people who…
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Ep190 – Demand what You Deserve
If you are the spouse of an alcoholic, you deserve sobriety. But even once your relationship enters sobriety, you deserve more. You deserve a partner who…
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Ep189 – Will I Ever Trust Again?
Sheri and Matt break trust down into three components: safety, intimacy and honesty. Trust is the last thing to come back in a marriage that has suffered…
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Ep188 – Relapse Threat after Rehab
The threat of relapse after an inpatient rehab is real, but the threat is coming from more directions than we might understand. Sheri and Matt talk about…
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Ep187 – What is Fun?
As a drinker, alcohol was an major component of Matt’s identity. And alcohol also influenced how he had fun. Phrases like, “Work hard, play…
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Ep186 – Marriages in Recovery Need Sex
Did the definitive statement of this episode title get your attention? We know there are strong emotions when it comes to sex and intimacy in relationships…
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Ep185 – Simply Health Conscious with Graham Hawley
Get ready to get your nutrition, exercise and healthy habits on with Graham Hawley – certified health and wellness coach, Matt’s soccer buddy and…
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Ep184 – Danger from Within
What happens when the person you trust and most rely on for mutual protection becomes the most dangerous person in your life? Does this sound like a setup for…
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Ep183 – The Truth Seeping Out with Mindy and Deb
Warning – Discussion includes talk of self harm. Living with alcoholism means trying to keep the truth a secret. But as alcoholism progresses, the truth…
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Ep182 – Navigating Positive, Neutral, Negative and Silent Reactions
Sheri and Matt react to Amber Hollingsworth’s advice from Ep181 about how the spouse of an alcoholic can respond to the behavior of the person suffering…
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Ep181 – Put the Shovel Down with Amber Hollingsworth
She is an addiction counselor who values the role of the family in the addiction recovery process. She shares a wealth of resources on her Hope for Families…
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Ep180 – The Role of Intimacy in Relationship Recovery
Sheri and Matt review Come As You Are, the best-selling book by Dr. Emily Nagoski. They discuss sexual anatomy and how we all have the same parts just…
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Ep179 – Worthiness Roundtable
Being on the receiving end of the lies, gaslighting and manipulation of alcoholism can make it tough to feel worthy. On this special roundtable episode, Sheri…
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Ep178 – The Parents Alcoholism (and Recovery) Made Us
Sheri and Matt are eager to break some of the generational patterns that resulted in underlying causes of addiction for Matt. In this episode, the couple talks…
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Ep177 – Writing the Trauma Out with Liz
When she found her husband drinking alcohol with their underage kids, the scene triggered an unexpectedly life-changing response. At first, Liz thought it was…
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Ep176 – Why Sheri and Matt Are Not Psychologists or Therapists
The answer to this episode title has morphed over the years from: they couldn’t imagine anyone would want to listen to what they have to say, to…
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Ep175 – Couples Roundtable: The Threat of Relapse
Eight loving, empathetic, hard-working alcoholism survivors sitting around a big microphone – it’s a roundtable episode recorded during our winter…
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Ep174 – Reconciling the Joys of Alcohol
There is no arguing the fact that without alcohol, Sheri and Matt would never have met. It is also an undisputed reality that some of the best times the couple…
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Ep173 – Blame Won’t Fix It
Blame the alcohol, or the alcoholism, but don’t blame the person. We say it all the time. But what if the blame isn’t just something that occurs…
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Ep172 – Here Comes the Hard Part
So you made it through the holidays…well, definitely don’t let your guard down yet. January is really hard in early sobriety, and it is hard for…
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Ep171 – Community SHOUT-Outs
On this one-of-a-kind episode, Sheri and Matt have compiled the answers to this simple prompt from 17 participants in the SHOUT Sobriety and Echoes of Recovery…
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Ep170 – Generational Trauma: Breaking the Cycle
Sheri and Matt knew they would hand down important lessons about faith and work ethic and loyalty and love of family to their kids. What they didn’t…
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Ep169 – Unworthy
Childhood experiences, including exposure to alcoholism, along with the gaslighting and denials from being married to an alcoholic, have left Sheri facing real…
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Ep168 – The Orgasm Gap and Addiction: Connecting the Dots
The only thing Matt knew about a connection between orgasms and addiction when he was in active alcoholism was that he sure liked to have sex when he was…
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Ep167 – No Longer Pretending with Karen and Adam
A manicured lawn, beautiful social media photos, and a well-kept house are often signs that something sinister lurks hiding behind the perfection. On this…
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Ep166 – When Motivation Morphs into Addiction
Do you find satisfaction in an accomplishment, or does an achievement just drive you to keep pushing forward? If you, like Matt, relate to the latter, watch…
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Ep165 – The Lingering Voices of Trauma and Abuse with Hannah
Hannah has been through a lot, and now she is recovering from her traumatic and abusive experience with the alcoholism of her husband. Sheri and Matt are…
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Ep164 – Communication Mistakes with Our Kids and Why We Keep Trying
At the heart of all relationship struggles we will find communication challenges. On this episode, Sheri and Matt recall all the communication mistakes they…
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Ep163 – Scaring Up some Holiday Peace and Joy
Sheri and Matt have had some awful alcoholic Halloween experiences. Last year, they recapped the trauma on Ep111. This year, the couple is talking about the…
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Ep162 – Get Off Your Back
We humans are hard on ourselves. In fact, it is widely believed that no one will ever be as hard on us as we are on ourselves. Sheri and Matt have experience…
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Ep161 – The Value of Pain
Pain is thought of as an almost exclusively negative emotion and experience. But does pain serve a purpose? Is pain necessary for forward motion in certain…
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Ep160 – Safety, Connection and Implied Consent with Julia and Liz
What comes first, safety or connection? Can two married people be in two different relationships when it comes to trust and implied consent? Is there guilt…
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Ep159 – Forgiveness Roundtable
Can forgiveness be achieved without an apology ever being offered? Likewise, can we find comfort in feeling remorse without ever being forgiven? On this…
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Ep158 – It Takes Two to Tango
In order for a relationship to survive alcoholism, both partners, the former drinker, and the spouse, need to do an amazing amout of work in recovery. It is…
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Ep157 – Food and Mood for Alcoholics and Loved Ones with Kelly Miller
Sheri and Matt welcome The Addiction Nutritionist, Kelly Miller, back to the podcast to learn more from this amazing nutrition therapist and recovery coach…
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Ep156 – Is “Victim” a Dirty Word?
Alcoholism has lots of victims – including the drinker. High-functioning alcoholics in sobriety often have a really hard time accepting their victim…
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Ep155 – Your Wife’s Not a Bitch…but She Might Be Afraid
Last week, we published this article titled, “Your Wife’s Not a Bitch,” to our Sober and Unashamed website and blog. We got a lot of…
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Ep154 – Intimacy is Vulnerability
Sheri and Matt dive deep into Sheri’s favorite topic: intimacy. But this discussion might not be what you are expecting. They separate emotional intimacy…
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Ep153 – Making the Turn for Home with Mindy and Tom
Do you want to know what it takes to save a marriage from alcoholism? One word: genuine humility. OK, that’s two words. And it also takes therapy, group…
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Ep152 – Five Ways Alcohol Impacts Brain Chemistry
The brain is the final frontier of human biology, so the full impact of alcohol on our gray matter is a topic that undergoes continuous discovery. In this…
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Ep151 – New Hope after Death with Suzy Jahn
The official cause of death was, “Complications of chronic ethanolism.” We all knew Suzy’s husband Matt was struggling and relapsing, but no…
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Ep150 – Echoed Voices – Live!
To celebrate our 150th podcast episode, we gathered in the foothills of the Rocky Mountains for our first ever Echoes of Recovery retreat. We took a break from…
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Ep149 – Mantras: Gross and Glorified
Why do we give so much power to the mantras that surround us (at least some of us do (Sheri’s looking at you, Matt))? There are gross and glorified…
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Ep148 – Phases of Relationship Recovery
There is a flow to the process of recovering a marriage from alcoholism. In this episode, Sheri and Matt talk about the universalisms found in the eight phases…
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Ep147 – Chaos between the Traumas
Anyone who has experienced an alcoholic relationship is familiar with the traumatic events when the drinking and the aftermath spins wildly out of control. But…
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Ep146 – Consistently Different
As a drinker, Matt’s goal for the marriage was for Sheri to agree with him on morals, politics, religion, finances, parenting, etc. Only now in sobriety…
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Ep145 – From Denial to Reality with Leah
Leah suffered from denial for years while living with someone whose drinking became a progressively more significant problem. She describes it like living in…
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Ep144 – Pride Over Shame
Pride, self-esteem, ego and confidence often get a bad rap in the traditional recovery community as leading to relapse. We believe the opposite is true, and…
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Ep143 – Write Your Story for Us All
We are thrilled to announce the “Evolution Series” as part of our Sober and Unashamed website and blog. Writing our stories of the impact of…
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Ep142 – Consequences with Allison
Everyone understands the consequences associated cigarette smoking (lung cancer) or a poor diet heavy on added sugar and fat (diabetes and obesity). Those…
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Ep141 – Trauma of Summer Holidays and Vacations
Nothing is more important to healthful, sustained recovery than staying in tune with the traumas of active alcoholism. It isn’t a good idea to wallow in…
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Ep140 – Ending Our Societal Love Affair with Alcohol
What are the most impactful steps we can take to decrease the massive amount of abusive drinking that is condoned in our culture? Prohibition didn’t…
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Ep139 – Staying Well with Lori
The decision to stay or to go when in an alcoholic relationship seems to rely on the ability of the drinker to find sobriety. Because humans can’t change…
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Ep138 – Looking Back but Moving Forward with Bridget
Bridget stayed with her husband as his drinking destroyed his health and their marriage. The lies, the hiding and the gaslighting is something with which so…
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Ep137 – When Unacceptable Behavior is Normalized
The indicators of the increase in bad behavior are everywhere. The airline industry, big city crime statistics, and alcohol industry consumption numbers all…
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Ep136 – Married to Addiction with Julie Sanford
Julie Sanford hosts the Married to Addiction podcast, and she joins Sheri and Matt to discuss the similarities and differences in both their recovery stories…
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Ep135 – Denial: Delaying the Inevitable
Matt spent ten years working himself through the cycle of active alcoholism into permanent sobriety. What could have been accomplished in a year, took Matt a…