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The Gay Relationship Podcast
Hosted by gay sex and relationship therapist and published author Tom Bruett, this show dives deep into what it really means to be in relationship with yourself and others as a gay, queer, or trans person today. Each episode features candid conversations with leading experts in psychology, sex therapy, wellness, culture, and LGBTQIA2S+ lived experience. Together, we explore the complexities of queer love, intimacy, identity, and connection - without shame, without scripts, and without…
Episodes
The Gay Relationship PodcastWhy LGBTQ+ Solidarity Matters More Than Ever
In this solo episode, Tom explores the fear and political uncertainty facing the LGBTQ+ community, particularly gay men, amid growing attacks on transgender…
The Gay Relationship PodcastWhat Polyamory Can Teach Us About Love | Interview with Ruffus, The PolyKink Therapist
In this episode, Tom sits down with Ruffus, The PolyKink Therapist, to explore what it means to build ethical relationships, whether monogamous…
The Gay Relationship PodcastWhy Sexual Pleasure Is a Radical Act of Resistance | Interview with Alex Garner
In this episode, Tom sits down with Alex Garner, Interim Executive Director of MPact, to talk about queer sexuality, HIV, sexual pleasure, and the fight for…
The Gay Relationship PodcastThe Hidden Ways We Escape Stress, Shame & Anxiety | Interview with David Olem
What if the way you cope with stress could change how you experience your life—even when you can’t change the situation itself? In this episode…
The Gay Relationship PodcastAddiction, Trauma & the Path to Recovery in the Queer Community | Interview with Araya Baker
What happens when substance use becomes a way of coping with trauma, loneliness, and the stress of being queer in a world that can still be deeply rejecting?…
The Gay Relationship PodcastAre You Your Own Worst Critic? Self-Love for Gay Men | Interview with James Guay, LMFT
What does it actually take to move from self-hatred toward self-love? In this episode, Tom talks with James Guay, LMFT, about the lifelong process of building…
The Gay Relationship PodcastGay Men, Tantra & the Power of Touch | Interview with DaddyGuru
In this episode, Tom sits down with DaddyGuru, to explore tantra, spirituality, erotic maturity, and healing for gay men. Drawing from his book, You Are the…
The Gay Relationship PodcastWhy We NEED Better Gay Sex Education | Interview with Aidan Wharton
In this episode, Tom sits down with writer and sex educator Aidan Wharton, creator of Gay Buffet, to talk about gay sex education, relationships, sexual…
The Gay Relationship PodcastThe Controversial Issues Dividing Gay Men Right Now | Interview with Michael Pezzullo
What are the biggest issues dividing gay men and the LGBTQ+ community today? In this candid conversation, Tom welcomes therapist Michael Pezzullo back to…
The Gay Relationship PodcastChronic Pain and LGBTQ+ Health: What We Need to Know | Interview with Ian A. Lane, PhD, RN
What happens when chronic pain intersects with queer identity, minority stress, and isolation? In this episode, Tom speaks with Ian A. Lane, PhD, RN, pain…
The Gay Relationship PodcastGay Shame, Loneliness & Finding Real Community | Interview with Brian Spitulnik
Why are so many gay men still struggling with loneliness, shame, and disconnection in 2026? In this conversation, Tom talks with therapist Brian Spitulnik…
The Gay Relationship PodcastSexual Bypassing: Are Your Labels Keeping You Stuck? | Interview with Dr Chris Donaghue
What happens when the identities and labels that once helped us understand ourselves begin to limit us? In this episode of the Queer Relationship Institute…
The Gay Relationship PodcastWhy Great Therapy Includes Conversations About Sex | Interview with Martha Kauppi
What happens when therapists avoid talking about sex? According to Martha Kauppi (she/they), it often leaves clients feeling invisible, misunderstood, and…
The Gay Relationship PodcastWhy So Many Gay Men Struggle with Intimacy, Shame & Spirituality | Interview with Darren Main
What if the biggest obstacle to love isn't finding the right partner -- but the story you've been told about yourself? In this conversation, Tom Bruett…
The Gay Relationship PodcastNon-Monogamy, Polyamory & Open Relationships Explained | Interview with Andrew Reidenbach
What does it actually take to build a healthy non-monogamous relationship? In this episode, Tom (he/him) welcomes Andrew Reidenbach (he/him), psychotherapist…
The Gay Relationship PodcastWhy You're Losing Erections (and how to FIX it) | Interview with Shay Doran
What happens when everything looks successful on the outside, but you're quietly struggling with performance anxiety, erection challenges, and shame? In this…
The Gay Relationship PodcastThe Truth About Prostate Health, ED & Masculinity | Interview with Dr. Arthur Burnett
How do you protect your prostate, recognize the early signs of erectile dysfunction, and separate medical facts from internet myths? In this episode, Tom…
The Gay Relationship PodcastRepairing After Infidelity: A Queer Relationship Therapist Explains: Interview with Christopher Shea
Why does betrayal feel so devastating, and why can rebuilding trust feel so difficult after a relationship rupture? In this episode, Tom (he/him) welcomes Dr…
The Gay Relationship PodcastWhen Sex Feels Out of Control, What’s Really Happening? | Interview with Michael A. Vigorito
What happens when we stop viewing sexuality through a lens of shame and start approaching it with curiosity, compassion, and context? In this episode, Tom…
The Gay Relationship PodcastAnxious Attachment: Why We Chase Love That Hurts & How to Heal | Interview with Chris Rackliffe
In this episode, Tom (he/him) welcomes Chris Rackliffe (he/him), anxious attachment style coach, author, and host of Needy No More podcast, for a deep…
The Gay Relationship PodcastLGBTQ+ Aging, Sex & Desire: What Nobody Talks About | Interview with Joseph Winn
In this interview, Tom (he/him) interviews Joe Winn (he/him) LICSW, CST-S, about one of the most overlooked topics in LGBTQ+ mental health: aging, sexuality…
The Gay Relationship PodcastWhat Queer People NEED to Know About HIV Today | Interview with Araya Baker
In this interview, Tom (he/him) interviews Araya (they/them), therapist, columnist, and social policy researcher about serodiscordant (mixed-status)…
The Gay Relationship PodcastWhy So Many Bi Men Stay Closeted | Interview with Robert Cohen
In this episode, Tom (he/him) interviews writer, comedian, coach, and Two Bi Guys host Robert Brooks Cohen (he/him) about bisexuality, late-life coming out, bi…
The Gay Relationship PodcastKink, Shame & The Truth About “Sides” | Interview with Dr. Joe Kort
In this episode, psychotherapist and sexologist Dr. Joe Kort (he/him) joins Tom Bruett (he/him) for a candid conversation about queer sexuality, kink, shame…
The Gay Relationship PodcastWhy Intimacy Can Feel Impossible for Queer Men | Interview with Andrew Katsinas
In this episode, Tom Bruett (he/him) interviews Andrew Katsinas (he/him), a queer sex and trauma therapist, for a wide-ranging conversation about queer male…
The Gay Relationship PodcastHow Religious Trauma Shapes Queer Dating & Mental Health | Interview with Kit Morgan
In this episode, Tom Bruett (he/him) interviews Kit Morgan (he/they), a queer and trans religious trauma-informed educator, licensed clinical social worker…
The Gay Relationship PodcastWhat Nobody Tells You About Gay Dating with a Disability | Interview with Andrew Gurza
In this episode, Tom Bruett (he/him) interviews Andrew Gurza (they/he), an award-winning disability awareness consultant, author, and podcast host of…
The Gay Relationship PodcastWhy the Mother-Son Relationship is Different for Gay Men | Interview with Rick Miller
In this episode, Tom Bruett (he/him) interviews Rick Miller (he/him), a pioneering psychotherapist, author and film maker with over 40 years of experience…
The Gay Relationship PodcastWhat If Nobody Is Actually Straight? (A Therapist Explains) | interview with Paula D. Atkinson
In this interview, Tom Bruett(he/him) interviews Paula D. Atkinson (she/her), a queer, liberation-focused psychotherapist based in Palm Springs. They discuss…
The Gay Relationship PodcastBisexuality, Masculinity and Thriving as a Queer Middle Eastern Man - interview David F Khalili
In this conversation, Tom Bruett interviews David F Khalili (he/him), a queer licensed marriage and family therapist and board certified sexologist based in…
The Gay Relationship PodcastSurviving the AIDS Crisis & Healing Through Art - an interview with Mickie Kennedy
In this conversation, Tom Bruett interviews Mickie Kennedy(he/him), a gay poet whose work reflects on his experiences living through the AIDS crisis and the…
The Gay Relationship PodcastThe Truth About Gay Male Pretty Privilege - interview with Michael Pezzullo, LMFT
In this insightful conversation, Michael Pezzullo, LMFT (he/him), explores the complex dynamics of pretty privilege, aging, and self-worth within the gay…
The Gay Relationship PodcastADHD and Autism in Gay Relationships - interview with Dr. Miguel Toribio-Mateas
In this conversation, Dr. Miguel Toribo-Mateus(he/they) shares his personal journey with ADHD and autism, discussing the importance of diagnosis and…
The Gay Relationship PodcastWhy Gay Dating Feels So Hard Now - interview with Ed Bell
In this conversation, Ed Bell (he/him), a gay dating and relationship coach, shares his journey from being a musician to a coach, discussing the importance of…
The Gay Relationship PodcastSomatic & Cultural Healing: Why Liberation Starts in the Body - an interview with Dr. Roger Kuhn
In this conversation, Dr. Roger Kuhn(he/him) discusses the themes of connection, cultural identity, and the importance of vulnerability in healing. He…
The Gay Relationship PodcastSexual Embodiment and Fantasy for Gay Men - Interview with Finn Deerhart
In this conversation, Tom Bruett (he/him) speaks with Finn Deerhart (he/him), an AASECT certified sex counselor and coach, about his journey from ministry to…
The Gay Relationship PodcastThe Truth About Kink, BDSM & Leather in the Gay Community - Interview with Dr. Ty David Lerman
In this engaging conversation, Tom Bruett (he/him) interviews Dr. Ty (he/him), a sex therapist and advocate for the kink and leather communities. They discuss…
The Gay Relationship PodcastOvercoming Loneliness as a Gay Man - Interview with Cator Sparks
In this interview, Tom Bruett, sex and relationship therapist, interviews Cator Sparks, a life coach for gay men. They explore topics like loneliness…
The Gay Relationship PodcastMoney and Queer Relationships - Interview with Nick Wolny
In this conversation, Tom Bruett (he/him) interviews Nick Wolny (he/him), an author and columnist for Out Magazine, about his new book, Money Proud: The Queer…
The Gay Relationship PodcastMeth and Sex (Chemsex) A Dangerous Combination -Interview with Dallas Bragg
In this interview with Tom Bruett, LMFT, CST, interviews Dallas Bragg, a Chemsex Recovery Coach. The interview talks about some of the devastating ways that…
The Gay Relationship PodcastFitness After 40 for Gay Men - Interview with Zach Taylor
In this conversation, Tom Bruett (he/him) speaks with Zach Taylor (he/him), a fitness coach specializing in helping men over 40. They discuss the changes men…
The Gay Relationship PodcastGay Conversion Therapy: A Survivor's Story - Interview with Dr. Luke Wilson
In this interview we talk with Dr. Luke Wilson about his story surviving conversion therapy and the new book that he has edited which compiles the stories of…
The Gay Relationship PodcastQueer Cinema, Community and Connection - Interview with Andy Scahill
In this conversation with Andy Scahill, we explore the intersection of queer culture, film, and community building. Andy shares his journey of creating Rainbow…
The Gay Relationship PodcastBeyond Monogamy in Gay Relationships - Interview with Brian G. Murphy
Get a free set of 48 discussion cards for gay men: https://www.queerrelationshipinstitute.com/cards Tom Bruett, LMFT, sex and relationship expert for gay men…
The Gay Relationship PodcastCommunity, Heated Rivalry and Holistic Growth for Gay Men - Interview with Keegan Hirst
In this conversation, Keegan Hirst (he/him) shares his journey from being a professional rugby player to becoming a coach for gay men. He discusses the…
The Gay Relationship PodcastSex, Authenticity, and Queer Joy - an Interview with Dr. Matthew Brinkley
Get your FREE set of relationship discussion cards for gay men: https://www.queerrelationshipinstitute.com/cards In this conversation, Tom Bruett (he/him) and…
The Gay Relationship PodcastThe Sex Gay Men Are Really Craving - Interview with Vance Hedman
What are gay men actually craving in bed—and why doesn’t porn, hookup culture, or Instagram perfection satisfy it? In this deep, honest conversation, sex and…
The Gay Relationship PodcastMaking Friends as a GAY Man at a Retreat - Interview with Owen Schiller of Easton Mountain Retreats
The conversation with Owen Schiller provides insights into the Easton Mountain Retreat Center, highlighting its impact on the queer community and the diverse…
The Gay Relationship PodcastBefore you become a therapist, watch this - Interview with Dustin Oliver, MHC-LP, MA
In this episode, Tom Bruett (he/him) sits down with Dustin Oliver(he/him), the creator of boy meets therapy, to talk honestly about what it really takes to…
The Gay Relationship PodcastHealing through Twerking and Art - Interview with Jayden Aubryn
In this episode, Tom Bruett (he/him) sits down with the brilliant and wildly creative Jayden Aubryn (they/them) - a therapist who blends movement, art…
The Gay Relationship PodcastHow body shaming and body dysmorphia affect the gay community - Interview with Daniel O'Shaughnessy
The conversation delves into the complexities of body dysmorphia, exploring its roots in early trauma, societal conditioning, and personal experiences. It also…