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The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
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- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Stop Saying You Want Words Of Affirmation When You Actually Want Verbal Ability
You may be saying you want words of affirmation because that seems like something that your partner could improve on... but you may actually just wish your…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
The Guinea Pig Principle... Or What Does My Guinea Pig Have To Do With Feminine Energy?
Got this title from a follower when I posted a reel about my delightful guinea pig.... this episode can help you understand your wife's subconscious in a whole…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Can Attachment Style Change In Different Relationships And At Different Stages?
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- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Monday Morning Quarterbacking Of Sex: Why The Recap Convo Is A Huge Turnoff To Women
Why your wife hates talking about sex after it's over and how to figure out what she likes and doesn't like in the absence of the detested recap conversation!…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
If You Suck, You Will Think The Opposite Gender Sucks, Here's Why
Which people think the opposite gender sucks, why, and what is actually behind this? A rollicking journey through your psyche as per usual! Subscribe if you…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Stop Trying To Make Monthly Awesome Sex Into The Norm
Some men get obsessed with the idea that if their wives can deeply enjoy sex at certain times (e.g., vacation, ovulation), they should be able to "hack" this…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Why Your Wife Is Turned Off By You Sitting Around
Many men don't realize how sitting around and not doing things in the house is a huge evolutionary turnoff for their wives, and also tends to create kids who…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
When You Find Yourself Thinking You're Better Than Your Spouse And They Should Be Grateful
Some people come into marital therapy assuming the therapist will recognize that they are awesome, far more awesome than their spouse, and they are hoping that…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
When You Make More Money And Expect Your Wife To Change Her Whole Value System
Often, men think that after they make a bunch of money, their wives should change their daily activities from laundry and book club to HRT and screwing. This…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
A Reason Your Spouse Refuses Individual Therapy That You Never Thought Of
This can be a huge wakeup call if you're someone who looks down on your spouse for not trying individual therapy. If you're the critical partner... this…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
You Don't Love Your Husband If You Won't Touch Him
This is just nonsensical and crazy-making for him and for you! How to be real with yourself and what to say instead, with scripts! And here's our upcoming…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Yes, Your SAHM Wife Should Get 50% Of The Joint Wealth After Divorce
Thankfully I see this ideology very infrequently in practice but it's all over internet comments. Here's a helpful reframe if you've ever thought she deserves…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
When You're "Scared Of Hard Work"
Are you really? Or could it be one of these issues underlying what seems to be a fear of hard work? Today's episode also includes an epiphany about…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
"What If You Used Porn Before Your Relationship Started, Should You Stop?"
Got this question as well as the second one, "If you never used porn but want to start using it after a while in your relationship, isn't that the woman's…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Should You Wait For A Partner Who Is A Perfect Fit?
My sweater analogy.... and why people are drawn to people who are NOT a good fit! Here's our two upcoming groups I mentioned also. Better Breakup…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Responsive Desire Only Kicks In If You Are Enthusiastic About Her
Some guys are so bored with their partner that they execute foreplay like it's the Bataan Death March, or like Patrick Bateman in American Psycho without the…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
"I Wouldn't Date My Spouse If I Met Them Now!"
Nobody would go on a date with a bored, dull married person lol. Here's a question to ask yourself instead, and see how the reframe opens your mind to…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Are You Acting With Your Spouse As You Would With Your Next Spouse?
A useful reframe for anyone who complains about their spouse and who's never been divorced/remarried! Spoilers for some of this book: The Divorce by Moa…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Don't Believe Your Own Bullshit... And A Helpful Hack
A helpful hack to make you realize how deeply biased you are toward your own perspective... albeit unintentionally! Game changing advice. And a story about me…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
If She Just Lays There And You Forge Ahead... You're Risking Being Thought Of As Coercive Later On
After reading Mad Wife by Kate Hamilton (https://amzn.to/3OyCr04), I realized that I need to be far more direct (rare for me) about the tremendous risks of…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
When You Are Scared Of Your Wife's Mood
Some guys are scared of their wife's mood... even when they are happy! This episode teaches you why you feel this way, how to reframe your wife's mood, and…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Yes, Therapy Can Help With Standing Up To Your Spouse
Some people say, "My problem is I can't stand up to my spouse because if I do, they get upset/would leave me. So how could therapy help with that?" Well…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Why Some Women Hate Kissing
All about why some wives hate kissing their husbands! Common issue and here's why it may happen. Subscribe if you love the DPM show!…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
And The Stupidest Mistake Young Men Make When Dating
Today's episode discusses the stupidest move men make on the dating market. A fitting companion to the prior episode about the stupidest mistake young women…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
The Stupidest Mistake Young Women Make When Dating
Today's episode discusses the stupidest move you can make on the dating market. We have all been here (at least those of us who have been young women who were…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Top 4 Female Fantasies
Today's episode discusses the four top female fantasies: why they arise, which ones your wife may have, and what impact her fantasies can have on your sex…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
"I Have A Perfect Life... Why Aren't I Happy?"
When people say this, there are usually two issues they aren't examining the depth... career and marriage. Today's episode discusses how you can feel that life…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Having An Orgasm Doesn't Mean It Was Good Sex
Many lower libido people say things like, "You got off, what more could you want?" This is not badly intentioned, but comes from a place of not understanding…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Self Compassion And Why You Struggle With It
If you are harder on yourself (and possibly your spouse/kids) than on anyone else, this is the episode for you. Here's why you may struggle with self…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
"If She Needs Foreplay, She's Not Attracted To Me"
Some men believe that if a woman needs touch to be aroused, then she isn't really attracted to you. This is not accurate, and this sort of distorted thinking…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Your Sibling Relationships Also Provide A Template For Your Marriage!
Your relationship with your parents and the relationship you observed between your parents aren't the only subconscious templates you learn in childhood for…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Sex As Life Activity vs Sex As Porn Scene
The ubiquity of internet porn has made many men think in unhealthy ways about married sex. Kinky or new activities are not the norm for most married couples…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
"Highly Sensitive" Doesn't Mean Difficult And Dramatic
Some people think that "highly sensitive" means highly difficult. Get a pen and paper to take the highly sensitive person quiz I'll read you for the first few…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
What Would Your Most Confident Friend Say To Your Partner In Your Place?
What would your most confident friend say to your husband/wife about their rude or dismissive behavior, if this friend was married to them? Using this lens can…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
In Your 40's, You're An Old Young Person, And In Your Fifties, You're A Young Old Person!
This can also explain the U shaped happiness curve! Buckle up and listen if you're in or expect to be in your 40's or 50's :) Subscribe if you love the DPM…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Red Flags In A Second Marriage!
Here are some very important red flags when looking for a partner after divorce!! Essential listening if you are dating! Subscribe if you love the DPM show!…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
"You Can Always Have More Kids But A Good Man Is Hard To Find" Hard No
An internet comment so wildly off base that it needs its own episode! Subscribe if you love the DPM show!…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
"Masking" Is Also Known As Being Flexible Within Loving Relationships
On the internet, people are reading that if you have any type of neurodiversity then your brain is just different and you shouldn't be expected to "mask" to…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Do You Ignore Your Wife's Drinking Because It's When You Get Laid?
And what does this do for your marriage and especially your kids? Related to a prior episode on when your wife is only fun when she drinks. And also: what's…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
"I Have A Great Idea"... aka How To Communicate With Enthusiasm So That Your Wife Responds Well
If you communicate in a negative, sulky, passive, or anxious way, then it's no wonder your wife responds poorly. With this one magic phrase, you can transform…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
When Your Wife Stops Trying As She Ages
Some guys are upset that their wife no longer dresses up or gets her hair dyed... here's a whole episode going deep into this idea and potential ways to think…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Look At How Your Partner's Parents Treat Each Other To See How They Will Treat You
Common sense advice that many people ignore in favor of "but they saw what NOT to do!" Today's episode dives into why pattern recognition is important... and…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
When You're Trapped In The "Victim-Perpetrator" View Of Your Previous Relationship, You Can't Move On
When recovering from the end of a difficult relationship is particularly difficult for you, e.g. you keep obsessing about it, keep blaming the other party, and…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Each Partner Doing What They Are Best At Separately.... The Commonsensical Approach To Marriage That Has Fallen From Favor
It used to be that each spouse doing what they were best at was an accepted and even extolled strategy. Now, there is an idea that the man needs to be able to…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
When You Don't Notice Your Partner Isn't A Good Fit Because Of Other Variables
If your needs are being met by other people/activities during dating, you may not realize that your partner isn't as good of a fit as you imagined! Then when…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
"Good Mom" And "Good Wife" Are Often Opposite
There's a huge difference between how a woman acts before and after kids, which is evolutionarily mediated! Listen to ensure you aren't expecting contradictory…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
How Porn Influences How You Treat Your Wife
I’ve discussed in many places that porn use is not helpful for marriage, particularly in cases where there is a libido disparity and partners are trying to…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Should You Wait To Leave Your Marriage Until The Kids Are Out Of The House?
Many clients of both genders struggle with the decision of whether to get divorced before or after the kids leave home. There are pros and cons to each…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Which Guys Hate The Idea Of Responsive Desire?
Most men find it very useful to learn about responsive desire, which means needing to be touched in order to get excited. This is the kind of desire women…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Little Ways To Connect With Your Partner Every Day
So many people who grew up in dysfunctional homes have no idea how to connect to their partners in a playful and sweet way without doing some huge gesture that…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
When You Are Wealthy, The Only Meaningful Currency Is Time
In my wealthiest clients, the only metric that makes sense of what is meaningful is time. Since you can't buy more time, here are ways people try to…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Remember, Your Life Would Go On Even If A Bad Thing Happened
Many very anxious people are consumed with fear of their own potential devastation or inability to cope if a bad thing were to happen to them. Some examples…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
The Real Compatibility: Having The Same Idea Of How Important The Relationship Is
This is stuff that securely attached people know from their upbringings and the rest of us have to learn. Can be a game changing paradigm shift! Subscribe if…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Emotional Labor Isn't The Problem
Emotional labor isn't the problem guys. This term is so widely misused it's nuts. Here's who uses it and why. Subscribe if you love the DPM show!…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
"Nothing Is Only Good" AKA The Anxious Mantra
Many clients I see are unaware that they are anxious, which is why I write so many posts about how to recognize your anxiety. As I’ve often discussed, I grew…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
If You Can't Do Scary Things For You... Do Them For Your Kids!
Many people can't put themselves out there and do scary things... until they figure out a motivator that makes sense to them. For many parents, this is their…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Your Partner Shouldn't Be Your Only Friend
Some people have very few social relationships and almost nobody, or truly nobody, that they feel close to except for their partner (and kids). Here's how this…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
"Am I Bad In Bed If My Wife Doesn't Want Sex Anymore?"
This episode dispels the myth that you are the sole reason that she doesn't like sex with you anymore. Here is a pep talk with concrete points to try if this…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Expectations... How They Mess Up Your Life
Expectations steal your joy and sabotage your relationships. In this episode, I discuss how unrealistic expectations and comparison points hurt your…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Die With Zero... A Transformative Book For Many At Midlife!
A book review of Bill Perkins' Die With Zero! Really interesting philosophically, and dovetails well with a lot of the internal work my clients do every day in…