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The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Subscribe: >240 more episodes! creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe Buy my newest book Sex Still Matters! https://link.amazon/B0iPsrl9x Clinical psychologist discusses relationships, sex, family & parenting with no BS. Unpopular opinions: don't overfocus on kids, physical touch is the most important love language, and marriage issues are due to BOTH partners. Therapy/coaching with me or my team: bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. NOT medical advice. samantha@drpsychmom.com Secret…
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- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
"I Retired and She Stopped Loving Me"
Some guys retire and start acting like a different person... one that their wives don't like. Today's episode discusses why and how this happens and how to…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Acceptance vs. Resignation
By listener request... what's the difference between acceptance and resignation? My answer may be different than you think... and as usual, I give some very…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
A New Way To Use Your Therapist
One useful way that you can use your therapist... accountability! Here's how to bring this up and use it in the most effective way possible. By the way…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
There's An Age Where More People Are Happily Married Than People Who Are Having Sex
I've been reviewing a lot of interesting research for my upcoming book on sex which compiles a lot of my posts but adds a lot more info. Here was an…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Of Course Tone Matters
Some people say that their partner is "tone policing" when they refuse to listen to angry, loud words. Instead of this, look inward and take accountability for…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Is Rejection Sensitivity Sabotaging Your Relationship?
Rejection sensitivity can create a tense and awkward relationship. Here's how to figure out if your rejection sensitivity is harming you and how to think…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Existential Crises At Midlife For High Achievers
Midlife crises can hit harder for high achieving people. I see it all the time in session. Here's why and how many people find a path forward. My newest…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Not Every Couple Is Meant To Stay Together... And Not All People Are Meant To Be Married
Some people think that couples therapists are on the side of staying married no matter what. This isn't the case! In fact, there are many situations where…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
"I'm A Good Partner"- The Power Of A New Identity
Stemming from a discussion in the secret group (join us with link below), I discuss how changing your identity can change your choices and your marriage! My…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
HALT (Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired) Isn't Just For Addiction!
This is a well known acronym used in recovery to remember when you're most susceptible to using. But you can use it for your relationships as well! My newest…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Don't Argue Online! Even Though I Get Paid When You Do
We sometimes make the mistake of assuming that people fight online because they care deeply about the particular topic they are arguing about. Not the case!…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
How To Repair After An Argument
Conflict is inevitable, but how you handle it matters. Many couples struggle with repair because of shame, defensiveness, and/or avoidance. Here's what to do…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Why You're Jealous .... It's Not Just Low Self Esteem
You may be jealous because you in fact aren't being very nice to your partner! A new way to understand yourself. My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Cognitive Surrender Isn't Just With AI... It's With Your Overfunctioning Partner
I read about how AI is causing "cognitive surrender," meaning you don't even try to think for yourself because AI can do it readily and confidently for you…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
You Can Be Sex Positive And Still Not Allow Teenagers To Have Sleepovers With Their Significant Other
There was some discussion about this in the secret group. Reality is that you can be sex positive and open while also having some boundaries. Here's my…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Rigidity Ruins Relationships
In this alliteratively titled episode, we discuss how being rigid about your preferences, routine or beliefs can harm your relationships with other people…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Stop Telling Your Wife Parenting Is Easy
A clarion call to stop making your partner feel bad for feeling stressed by parenting. It is NORMAL to feel stressed by raising kids and when you imply it's…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Quitting Porn Does Change The Frequency You Want Sex
Got a comment that watching porn doesn't impact frequency that men want sex, although the commenter could see it might impact the type of sex men want (eg more…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
When Your Partner Doesn't Do Things Your Way.... It's a Growth Opportunity!
If you are constantly frustrated by your spouse not doing things your way, which you think of as the "right" way, then this episode is for you! Join our…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
When You're A Know It All
Here's the anxious/avoidant dance workshop I promised: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/anxious-avoidant-dance-workshop Both men and women can be know…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Misery Loves Company: When Talking To Your Friends About Your Marriage Makes It Worse
When you complain about your marriage to similarly situated friends... does it help? Or is it co-rumination that makes things worse? It depends, and I dive…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
When You're Raised To Be Very Polite
A recent trip to Ohio sparked this podcast episode! Listen to how this can be both good and bad. My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW POSTS…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Being Avoidant Attachment In Marriage Doesn't Make You A Bad Parent
Some people think that avoidant partners become bad parents. This misconception is at the heart of today's episode! My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Try To Be A More Reliable Narrator And Your Life Will Improve!
Thanks for subscribing! If you really want to understand yourself and your issues, you need to be aware that everyone is an unreliable narrator to a lesser or…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
When You Think Your Partner Is The Problem
If you think your partner is the main problem in your relationship and your main problem is you're frustrated by how objectively bad/avoidant/irritating they…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
When You're Scared About Retirement
Many people, especially "producers" and those who feel deeply aligned with their careers, fear retirement. Here's a new way to think about this stage of life…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
What I Think About Lindsay Clancy
The heartbreaking Lindsay Clancy murder case is all over the news, if you don't know about it, can read this: What We Know About Lindsay Clancy’s Trial for the…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
You'll Be Disappointing People For Your Whole Life
When my son recently had to say no to a school activity in favor of other activities, he was worried about disappointing the person in charge. I said this line…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
You Can't Change People, And They Hate You Trying
So many people think the solution to all their marital problems is to change their partner. After all, they think, shouldn't my partner WANT to improve? Yet…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
When You Micromanage Your Partner, Your Anxiety Never Goes Away
By micromanaging your partner's behavior, whether in the home, with the kids, or in other arenas, you are never giving yourself a chance to do "exposure…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Do You Overfunction With Your Kids And Partner Because You Can't Tolerate Their Negative Emotions?
You may think you have a lot of frustration tolerance and grit, but you may not be considering your inability to tolerate your partner or child struggling…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Benefits Of An Avoidant Partner!
Today we talk about the real world benefits of being with an avoidant partner, and yes, they exist! Join our men's coaching group! email…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Is It A Sex Issue Or An Adulting Issue?
Some men think their issue with their marriage is a libido disparity, but the reality is that it is much deeper. Women who are scared of "adulting" and shy…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
You're Allowed To Give Your Kids Advice
In this child centered world, parents struggle with giving advice to their kids. Why, and what sorts of things do I hear from adult clients about parents who…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
"It Doesn't Matter What You Want".... The Philosophy That Can Transform Your Life
If you focus on what you want, you risk a constricted and anxiety-driven life. Instead, try this new way of framing your life decisions! Join our men's…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
When You're Wealthy, You Change From A Wild Animal To A Pet
Why? Because you are no longer hungry in any sense. You thus turn to meeting your needs for pleasure and comfort, becoming your own pet. But if you are a wild…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
5 Questions To Ask Yourself To Be A Better Partner
In this episode, I cover five questions that you can ask yourself in order to introspect deeply about what kind of partner you are, and how you may have…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Rewatching/Rereading Shows/Books You Used To Love Can Be A FREE Catalyst of Growth!
This is something I love to do. It can be a fascinating way to explore your own psyche and to bond with your spouse as well. And it's free and easy! All in…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Special Guest Lenore Skenazy of Free Range Kids And Let Grow on Our Culture Of Anxious Parenting!
Welcome to this amazing episode with Lenore Skenazy, the wonderful author of a book I loved as a younger mom, Free Range Kids, and the President of Let Grow!…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
The Professional Victim
Do you recognize yourself, your partner, or your parents/inlaws in this? Here is the person who acts like they are the scrappy underdog in all interactions…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Should You Discuss Negative Life Events In Your History With Your Kids?
There's a lot of nuance to the topic of whether you should tell your kids about negative things from your past, including poverty, abuse, parents' mental…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Histrionic Personality Disorder... When You Live For Drama And Attention
A personality disorder that many have never heard of! Here's what HPD entails. Does this sound like anyone in your life? is uncomfortable in situations in…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Male Loneliness Epidemic?
Here's what I think about why men are lonely, including some thoughts about society now vs a generation ago, as well as some practical strategies to increase…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Some People Are Lazy And That's Okay
I always discuss how if you're depressed or have ADHD, you may get less done than other people, and it doesn't mean you're lazy. But you know what, some people…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Pursuer-Distancer Dynamics
Both partners in this dynamic suffer and end up with lower self esteem, even though we usually think the preoccupied attachment/pursuer partner suffers more…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
The Self-Made Woman
I've discussed the self-made man before, as this is a common type that I get as a therapy or coaching client. This is about the self-made women! Some…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
When You Say Your Job Is More Important Because It Pays More
Common dynamic with men who say because they are the higher earner, everything should move around their schedule. Some of them even want their wives to quit…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Women Who Like Romance Novels/Movies: The Two Types
Women escaping into romance novels or online relationship content is not healthy IF THEY ARE THE PURSUING PARTNER. This fake media raises expectations beyond…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
When Your Wife Is A Teacher
There are certain relationship dynamics that I have seen crop up when the wife is a teacher. This adds to my episode on relationship issues when the man is in…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Emotional Hangovers: Why Do You Feel So Terrible After An Argument?
What's an emotional hangover? I didn't make up this term but it resonates with many people who haven't understood why they feel so awful the day or even week…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
High Achieving Men: The King Midas Problem
Wouldn't it be great to be married to someone who is good at everything? Well, my caseload is filled with high achieving men with marriage issues, so I guess…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Why Trying To Optimize Your Sex Life Doesn't Work
Why does optimizing your sex life never work, even though it works in other aspects of your life? A wake up call to the high achieving men who just can't make…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
When Your Wife Decides She "Doesn't Have Any More F's To Give"
This is a common phrase from women at midlife. "I don't have any more F's to give!" "I realized I don't give a flying F anymore" etc etc. What does this mean…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Are You Interesting To Your Spouse?
Bad news: if you think you're not, you're probably picking up on something real. But you may be able to increase how interesting you are with these really…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Producers Vs Consumers: My New Framework For Understanding Compatibility
Do you like to create in your spare time, which I call a PRODUCER, or do you like to enjoy what others have created, which I call a CONSUMER? Make…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Therapists and Money And Taxes With Michael Flax, My Very Own Accountant
Today we have the most special guest, Michael Flax, CPA of flaxcpa.com. This is my own accountant and he will field all of my questions which includes many…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
What's Your Financial Attachment Style?
Today I discuss my new term "financial attachment style" and the analogues for avoidant and preoccupied attachment as it applies to how you spend money. Many…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Blaming Your Husband For Your Sex Life Is Misguided And In Many Cases, Anti-Feminist
There is some idea now that any woman with a loving husband wants sex. This could not be less true. Women may not want sex for all kinds of reasons that have…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Having Opposite Sex Siblings Really Helps Your Marriage
Having siblings of the opposite sex really helps your (heterosexual) marriage. Here's how men with sisters and women with brothers act differently and why…
- The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Scheduling Sex Will Not Cure Your Sexless Marriage
Scheduling sex works for some people. Listen to this episode to find out who! Hint: it's not going to be the magic bullet that unilaterally makes your wife…