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Ask a Sub is an advice podcast for the kink-curious to take themselves from dreaming to doing. Our host Lina Dune is bringing wellness kink to the masses, and equipping every would-be kinkster with the tools to become their own BDSM BFF.
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185. A Real Dom And Sub Watch '50 Shades of Grey'
In the year of our lord 2015, Dakota Johnson and Jamie Dornan were placed into the Saw-esque dark and twisted psychological game of E.L. James's 50 Shades of…
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184. Queer Coziness with McKenzie of Emtothethird Knitting
Who gets to be domestic and cozy at the end of the world? Say it with me… THE FREAKS!! This week, Lina is joined by her favorite knitting content creator to…
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183. What's The Deal With Platonic Rope Play?
A caller wants to know what's going on with people who do rope play for non-sexual reasons and somehow Lina traces it back to Audre Lorde again with…
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182. Birth Is A Scene
Lina has surfaced from the liminal space of postpartum to get on the mic and share a Very Kinky Birth Story with you. No it was not a sexy, orgasmic birth but…
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181. Pervertibles For The People
A caller wants to know how to do kink on a budget so STRAP IN because Lina is fresh off a tear through the outer rings of reddit with vetted ideas and…
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180. Chronic Kinkster Community In Action
A caller has just gone through a breakup and is facing down a new chronic illness diagnosis all at once, and wants to know how to incorporate kink into life…
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179. Grey's Journey Pt. 3: Break That Binary Open
Introducing our new series, Kink Journeys, where each week we'll follow a listener of pod as they go through a pivotal moment in their journey. This week…
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178. Grey's Journey Pt. 2: The Duality of Being Known
Introducing our new series, Kink Journeys, where each week we'll follow a listener of pod as they go through a pivotal moment in their journey. This week…
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177. Grey's Journey Pt. 1: How Does an Adult Man F*ck?
Introducing our new series, Kink Journeys, where each week we'll follow a listener of pod as they go through a pivotal moment in their journey. This week we…
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176. Kinky Rejection… Worse Than Death? (Sources Say Yes)
A caller wants to know why kinky rejection hurts more than any other rejection and wonders if maybe, possibly, there's a way to avoid it?? Asking for a…
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175. M's Journey Pt. 3: It's That Slow Burn Bullshit
Introducing our new series, Kink Journeys, where each week we'll follow a listener of pod as they go through a pivotal moment in their journey. This week, we…
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174. M's Journey Pt. 2: Sit With the Itch
Introducing our new series, Kink Journeys, where each week we'll follow a listener of pod as they go through a pivotal moment in their journey. This week…
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173. M's Journey Pt. 1: The Worst Breakup Ever
Introducing our new series, Kink Journeys, where each week we'll follow a listener of pod as they go through a pivotal moment in their journey. This week, we…
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172. A Beautiful Evil Pouring Out Of Me with Miss Gold
This month on the Deep Dive series, we're graced with the presence of one of London's preeminent kink queens Miss Gold — Dominatrix, photographer and creator…
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171. You Can't Step In The Same River Of Pee Twice
A caller is doing trauma therapy and wants a good lens to explain the value of kink in their healing journey. In response, Lina checks in on how we're…
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170. Daddy Is A State Of Mind
In honor of U.K. father's day we're getting into 'Daddy' as an honorific, whether it always implies age play (Sometimes? Yes? No?) and how nobody has to do…
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169. Don't Throw The Therapist Out With The Bathwater
A listener wants to know what to do about their well-meaning but vanilla therapist, and in response Lina earns her gold star Therapist's Favorite badge by…
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167. Lubing Up The Flirting Dipstick
This week we're doing a refresher on flirting so Lina can assist you all into getting into more trouble to keep the questions coming for the pod — vertical…
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166. High Volume Orgasms: Blessing Or Curse?
A caller wants to know whether their miraculous gift of nonstop orgasms is hindering them from long term partnership — really goes to show one person's dream…
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165. Quick Hits: "Straight-Passing" Queer Couple Spring Is Here
These week callers want to know how to welcome the springtime, how to enjoy/not enjoy the Met Gala, hack quiet sex, and, of course, see Lina lose it over…
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164. Submission But Not Like THAT
A listener is recovering from a religious culture that expected submission from women by default — how, then, can she trust her desire to be submissive in a…
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163. Hedonism is a Moral Imperative with S.T. Gibson
On this month's Deep Dive, we're joined by S.T. Gibson, bestselling author of A Dowry of Blood, Savage Blooms, and more, who also hosts the Metaphysical Girl…
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162. Vanilla Dating Is Not A Pre-Requisite For Kink Dating
Ahhh vanilla dating…. Well, it mainly sucks. Jk! Maybe not! Either way, it's not something you have to do before you get to be kinky. It's good to know what…
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161. How To Be A 24/7 Sub When You're Like… Really Pissed At Your Dom
What happens in a long-term 24/7 dynamic when you, as a sub, get so fuckin pissed that you just need a MINUTE to collect yourself before resuming your…
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160. When You Break Up With A Dom Who Looms Large
A caller wants to know how to feel confident as a sub in your local scene after a friendship breakup with a Dom who seems to be the golden boy of said scene…
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159. Exploring Our Darker, Stranger Drives with Anastasiia Fedorova
On this month's Deep Dive, we're joined by Anastasiia Fedorova, author of Second Skin: Inside The Worlds of Fetish, Kink, and Deviant Desire. We talked about…
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158. Let's Talk About Latex!
What if you wanted to wear a raincoat but like…. in a weird way?? In anticipation of our upcoming Deep Dive with Anastasiia Fedorova, author of Second Skin…
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157. Responsible Mess Management
We're all a mess rn. How do we share our messy selves with others messy selves without making too much of a mess?? It's the question of the day and Lina uses…
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156. My Dudes! My Guys! My Bros!
What is a Nice Guy™ to do when the sub he's playing with refuses to enumerate her wants/needs? Is it pressure-y to insist on a discussion? And, more broadly…
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155. Quick Hits: British ≠ English, Grief = Horny
On this month's Quick Hits we're talking about how Lina and Mr. Dune take their tea, and how to put yourself out there at kinky parties, when you're a little…
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154. How To Tell If Someone Is Kinky (No Telepathy Needed)
A listener wants to know how to tell if someone is kinky without having to ask. You guessed it, you do still have to ask, but there are subtle ways of sussing…
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153. Does A 'Pleasure Dom' Imply The Existence Of A… Not-Pleasure Dom?
Some thoughts on the implications of the words we use to signal safety, pontifications on whether 'Pleasure Doms' are inadvertent pick-mes, and another battle…
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152. Pro-Submission with Alexis O'Kneel
Pro-sub Alexis O'Kneel joins us to discuss a little-known facet of the Oldest Profession, and how pro-subs can be a resource to all members of the kink…
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151. If You Want The Juice, You Gotta Show 'Em The Whole Fruit
We're inventing idioms on the Ask A Sub podcast once again, and this time we're talking about how to balance a desire for a long-term relationship with sorting…
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150. Zen and the Art of Not Trauma Dumping
What if our baggage from the vanilla world could be taken away as easily as selling something on Facebook Marketplace? Until that time, Lina provides a rubric…
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149. Quick Hits: Clubs, Cults, and Sexual Favors
We're back with another Quick Hits episode! This time we're talking about how to get slammed in a hockey-coded way, how to tell if your kinky commune is a…
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148. New Year, Same Heated Rivalry with Danielle Belazel
We're back with a shared full episode (no snippet!) with the Sex Ed with DB podcast, talking all about everyone's favorite smutty gay hockey show, HEATED…
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147. Getting Your Bag (Ethically!)
A caller is struggling with accepting money for Domination services, and understandably so! But this week we're talking about how to get the rent paid on the…
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146. This Sex Cult Stole Our Sh*t! With Natalie Robehmed of Allison After NXIVM
This month on the Deep Dive series we're joined by journalist Natalie Robehmed, whose exclusive access to Allison Mack after her time in prison culminated in…
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145. JennaWorld & Why We're So Weird About Porn with Molly Lambert
This week we're joined buy Molly Lambert, host of the JennaWorld podcast all about Jenna Jameson, Vivid Video, & The Valley. We track the recent history of…
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144. Noelle Perdue Is A Pervert (Not Derogatory)
Noelle Perdue, writer of the PORN WORLD substack and noted Thinker of Thoughts joins us on the pod this week to break down the porn industry, the power of…
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143. Consciously Un-Subbing
A listener wants to know how to curate a conscious breakup, and Lina speaks to the unusual amount of D/s ghosts she's heard about lately. THE ASK A SUB GIFT…
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142. Quick Hits: Emily Tied-To-A-Post (And Whipped!)
This week Lina puts on her etiquette hat to solve the age-old issue of who cleans up after a scene! Also included are Mr. Dune reading assignments, a happy…
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141. Your Partner Is Not A McDonald's Soft Serve Machine
What happens when you have to take a pause but centuries of social conditioning tell you you're not allowed to stop until your partner comes?? Follow Lina into…
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140. Now Write 'Submissive ≠ Passive' 50 Times On The Blackboard While I Pelt Chalk At You
Lina takes the mic this week to clarify a misunderstanding about the responsibility of subs in D/s dynamics, how both partners can bring 100%, and once again…
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139. How To F*ck Like A Girl with Vera Blossom
How DO you f*ck like a girl?? Vera Blossom has the answers in her debut essay collection by the same name, a trans coming of age that reads like an epic poem…
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138. The Non-Verbal Mambo
Lina is back and we're easing you back in with a medium-unhinged episode title & a discussion about how to bolster communication among the neurospicy folks in…
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137. Kink Event Girl! Put The Bass In Your Walk, Head To Toe Let Your Whole Body Talk
Hey raccoons! Lina's still away on her meditation retreat so it's Mr. Dune again. Don't worry, Lina will be back next week (she's coming home tomorow 🎉) and…
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136. Switch On Me Once, Shame On.. Shame On You. Switch On Me Twice... A Switch Can't Get Switched On Again
Hey ya'll, Lina's off on a meditation retreat out of cell phone range so it's Mr. Dune's job to write up the title and the podcast description for this week's…
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135. From the Subby Archives: The Origins Of The Folsom Street Fair
In honor of the Folsom Street Fair happening this weekend, we're rummaging through the Ask a Sub Supply Closet full of lube and butt plugs to bring you this…
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134. Living Truthfully on an Imaginary First Date
Ok so if kink isn't role play for you but you want to inject some role play in your kink… what the heck do you do? This Hellraiser-style puzzle box has…
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133. The Wonderful World of Thuddy Impact Toys
A listener wants to enter THE THUD ZONE *guitar solo* *flames* *monster truck* and Lina activates her Special Interest mode to outline what makes a toy thuddy…
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132. In Praise Of Pickiness
When are we being too picky with our play partners? Listen, nothing is perfect, but if your ick is "doesn't respect my boundaries" or "is unsafe" … time to…
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131. Ugly Sex with Margeaux Feldman AKA Softcore Trauma
Margeaux Feldman joined me for a deep dive into their work around trauma, sexuality, chronic illness, and queerness. Get Margeaux's upcoming book 'Touch Me I'm…
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130. The Republican Dommy Mommy Archetype
Today Lina reads a piece that's popping off on her substack about the intersection of The Hunting Wives, Susan Sontag, fascism, and Leather aesthetics. Why are…
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129. On Not Turning Your Daddy Into Your Dad
A caller has gone no contact with her parents and wants to know how to be mindful with not projecting that trauma on her Daddy Dom. As a bit of an expert on…
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128. Is Everybody Frickin' Poly Or What??
It's summer. It's hot. It's sexy. And what's more hot and sexy than… endless scheduling and calendars? A caller wants to know how to stay sane while single and…
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127. The Things You Cannot Unsee In Public Play Spaces (And Why You Should See *Some* Of Them)
We got a write-in question from a Patreon member wondering how to prepare for a big public kink event like Folsom, and Lina gets into creating a plan for…
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126. Quick Hits: Objectification, Romance Fiction, and The Skeezy Little Black Book
Hey it's the episode where you write in and ask about the light or deep kink questions that are on your mind! Today we're talking about how being a human…