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A Life, Folded
Contact Lainey at: Laineycathan@gmail.com A Life, Folded is available in eBook, paperback, and audiobook. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0H668HWB4 Audible: https://bit.ly/4bFAtXM
Welcome to a space of safety, acceptance, and understanding. Where we frankly and bravely dialogue about the harmful effects of pornography addiction, betrayal trauma, and narcissistic emotional abuse. We’ll explore reclaiming your core self by more thoroughly understanding these heartbreakingly complex interpersonal…
Episodes
- A Life, Folded
36: Porn Fuels the Human Trafficking Industry
This episode further debunks the porn myths that "it doesn't hurt anyone" or "it's normal" or "everyone does it" with a hard look at the porn industry's direct…
- A Life, Folded
35: We All Have a Place at the Table of Happiness
Do you ever feel like you are an other? That the only people in the world who are truly happy are married individuals? Statistics show that in the United…
- A Life, Folded
34: Why Do Narcissists Ruin Everything?
There are an estimated one billion narcissists and Cluster B personality-disordered individuals on our planet right now. Why do they seem to relish ruining…
- A Life, Folded
33: The #1 Quality for Your Perfect Partner
Whether we are actively dating or not, it behooves every single person to draw up a list of non-negotiables for a potential future partner. This list may…
- A Life, Folded
32: Listening Boundaries
We often extol boundaries in the context of who gets to communicate with you, who is allowed to spend time with you, and how you rest and practice self-care…
- A Life, Folded
31: The Narcissist's Life is *AMAZING*...Not!
Have you ever noticed how the narcissist has to work so hard to convince the world that his or her life is *awesome*?! Is it really? No, it's not. When your…
- A Life, Folded
30: Forgiveness
How do we forgive "70 times 7"? Is it even humanly possible; do we have the capacity? Sometimes, when we are trying to be too goal-oriented toward forgiveness…
- A Life, Folded
29: Reclaiming Self After Betrayal Trauma: Dating
After living through betrayal trauma and perhaps a narcissistic discard, how do you know when you are ready to date again? Or, if you will ever be ready to…
- A Life, Folded
28: Where Are You God?
Have you ever wondered, "Where are you God?" Have you felt like you have endured more than your fair share of grief and pain? That you have tried to live a…
- A Life, Folded
27: If The Narcissist Doesn't Want You, Why Won't They Let You Go?
It's common for a narcissistic partner to drag out the divorce process as long as they possibly can. Why? Why would they do this when they have already moved…
- A Life, Folded
26: Suicidal Ideation after Betrayal or Discard
You are not alone if you feel that you are succumbing to despair after betrayal trauma, a narcissistic discard, or both. This is a common reaction as a result…
- A Life, Folded
25: Gray Rock
A key motto in my healing journey is: go no contact and live again. We can argue, prod, and beg toxic people in our lives to give us closure, but they can't…
- A Life, Folded
24: When You Suck at Boundaries
Boundaries are one of the most difficult concepts for serial people-pleasers as well as victims of betrayal trauma and narcissistic gaslighting. It seems…
- A Life, Folded
23: Will My Partner Ever Change?
How do you know if your partner is truly changing after you have lived through betrayal, narcissistic emotional abuse, and/or a partner's sex and pornography…
- A Life, Folded
22: Reclaiming Self After Betrayal Trauma
Shattered. Destroyed. Broken. These were words I used to think most accurately described me. I felt that I was beyond repair and healing. Betrayal trauma had…
- A Life, Folded
21: Why I Hate The Five Love Languages
Narcissists and other unhealthy partners can take the most helpful and benign concepts and weaponize them to manipulate, control, and devalue. This episode…
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20: Beware of Therapy with a Narcissist
Entering therapy with a narcissist is done most often with sincere effort by the partner, but can, and usually will be, used against them. The concerns around…
- A Life, Folded
19: Spiritual Abuse
One of the most unconscionable types of abuse that can be endured is spiritual abuse. For many of us, our spiritual lives and connection to a higher power are…
- A Life, Folded
18: But Who Else Will Ever Love Me?
After being betrayed or living in an unhealthy relationship, many people lament, "Yes, but if I leave my partner, who else will ever love me?" While…
- A Life, Folded
17: Hidden, Insidious Narcissitic Jabs
Cuts. Jabs. Barbs. Narcissists excel at them all. Malignant narcissists can be quite overt in their cruel comments. However, most narcissists are more elegant…
- A Life, Folded
16: Am I A Walking Red Flag?
"It takes two to tango!" "Well, there are two sides to every story." The insinuation in these types of statements can be highly shaming to a victim of…
- A Life, Folded
15: Was That Really Love Bombing?
Love bombing is a classic technique used by manipulative narcissists. The hallmarks are usually excessive praise, compliments, and inappropriately expensive…
- A Life, Folded
14: When You Suck at Self-Care
When I first began navigating healing after betrayal trauma and the resultant narcissistic discard, I didn't know what to do. I was not raised to think that…
- A Life, Folded
13: Are They Really Your Best Friend?
When I first learned about my husband's betrayal, all I could think was: How could my best friend do this to me? I hear this lament so often and it is…
- A Life, Folded
12: Should I Try to Save the Narcissist's Next Victim?
After you have been abused, manipulated, and discarded by the narcissist in your life, the inevitable follows...they have a new source of supply immediately…
- A Life, Folded
11: Why do Narcissists Move on so Quickly?
One of the most confusing and dizzying experiences that can happen when navigating complicated relationships with narcissists occurs generally right after, or…
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10: Grief after Betrayal Trauma
Most people think about grief in connection with death, and certainly there is much to grieve when we lose someone. But when I found out that my decades-long…
- A Life, Folded
9: Are Men Really More Visual?
It is an excuse we have all heard often. When a partner is caught cheating by using porn, the initial refrain is usually something to the effect of, "What's…
- A Life, Folded
8: Combating Betrayal Trauma Triggers
After you have been betrayed and hurt by your partner, or anyone for that matter, you may go into "fight, flight, or freeze" whenever you see them. No matter…
- A Life, Folded
7: DARVO, Narcissistic Emotional Abuse
DARVO is a commonly used tactic in society today, where people often try to deny taking accountability. However, this tactic is a common occurrence for a…
- A Life, Folded
6: Porn IS Cheating
Here are some often used dismissive comments about porn: All men use porn. It doesn't hurt anyone. It has nothing to do with my love for you. It just helps me…
- A Life, Folded
5: Betrayal Trauma Faith Crisis
When you experience intimate betrayal, it is common to also have a resultant faith crisis. Why did God let this happen? Why didn't He intervene so that you…
- A Life, Folded
4: Betrayal Trauma D-Day
D-Day is short for Discovery Day. It's the horrible moment you will most likely remember in minute detail for the rest of your life. The day you found out the…
- A Life, Folded
3: Why Porn is Always Wrong
Pornography is a commonly accepted part of our modern-day world. “Everyone does it.” “It doesn’t hurt anyone.” Nonsense. Pornography kills love, ruins lives…
- A Life, Folded
2: The Narcissistic Discard
Narcissists can exist in any or all of the aspect of our lives. They may be a member of our family, our spouse, our boss, or even our ecclesiastical leader…
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1: Intro to A Life, Folded
As a survivor of a spouse's pornography addiction, betrayal trauma, as well as covert narcissistic abuse, this episode introduces the "why" of A Life, Folded…