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LX2 Codependency Coaching
Licensed Clinical therapist with 10+ years of experience treating individuals, families and couples navigating through the challenges of relationships, identity and life changes. Helping humans do relationships better with boundary setting and improved communication.
Episodes
- LX2 Codependency Coaching
Mistakes
Today, we are talking about making mistake. How often to we make a mistake and then associate it with our character or then have guilt or shame about it? There…
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Do better
Today, we are talking about this idea of being sorry. I hate that we teach little kids to just say sorry and that makes things better. It doesn't we have to…
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What we carry
Today, we are talking about the things we carry in our emotional backpack or baggage into our daily experience. Some of those things are conscious and some are…
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Resume or obituary
Today, we are talking about what we prioritize in how we choose to live. Are we spending our time on how something looks, like our resume or how we influence…
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Unsafe: The boundary of sex
Today, we are talking about sexual assault and the unwanted sexual attention. In light of the current new of the Cornell incident, it is helpful to think about…
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Thieves of time
Today, we are talking about the things that rob us the limited finite time we are given on the planet. All of us have a only the time we are allotted in this…
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Compassion fatigue
Today, we are talking about the feeling of exhaustion, resentment, and sometimes depression that comes for over giving in relationships. We can often feel like…
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Above and beyond: Burnout
Today, we are talking about going above and beyond which can lead to burnout or not being able to enjoy the life we are in. Often, we are working so hard to…
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Doubt and invalidation
Today, we are talking about corrosive doubt and traumatic invalidation. The idea that if our emotional experience is often rejected or denied we can build up…
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Compulsion
Today, we are talking about compulsion or the feeling of have to do things, usually motivated by fear or worry. It is helpful to work on fact checking through…
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Choosing peace
Today, we are talking about consciously choosing peace. Life can be hard a lot of the time and if we take a moment to seek out the things that give us a moment…
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Adaptive intelligence and forced capacity
Today, we are talking about two new to me concepts of adaptive intelligence and forced capacity. Both show up for most people as hyper independence and…
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Subjective reality
Today, we are talking about how all of our realities are subject to how we feel, our experiences, and what we know we are experiencing what ever is happening…
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Requests, ultimatums, and boundaries
Today, we are talking about requests, ultimatum, and boundaries. Often, we request changes in behavior hoping someone will just do the thing. If things don't…
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Emotional maturity
Today, we are talking about emotional maturity. The idea that we can build resilience and awareness of our emotional experience through allowing space for what…
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Want to want to: Discipline and motivation
Today, we are talking about the want to. Often we lack the discipline and motivation to get things done to create lasting change. This isn't a character flaw…
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Managing expectations
Today, we are talking about how to manage and communicate our expectations to prevent disappointment and resentment. It is helpful to check in with out own…
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En ti (In you)
Today, we are talking about the challenge of placing our happiness on other people, situations, or circumstances. Often, if we leave those things up to others…
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30 Seconds
Today, we are talking about taking an intentional pause of just 30 seconds. It's helpful when we stop for just a moment and give ourselves time to be more…
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No contact.
Today, we are talking about the idea of no contact in relationships. It is sometimes necessary to create a hard boundary in a once close relationship that…
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The gift of inconsistency
Today, we are talking about inconsistency as a helpful way to give ourselves grace and compassion. There are going to be times when we can't be consistent or…
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Line of demarcation
Today, we are talking about the line of demarcation a border of before and after. When something happens and we are changed because of it. It is helpful to…
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Past, present, and future
Today, we are talking about the past, present, and future. It is helpful to have an awareness of what happened before now or who we have been in the past…
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No matter what
Today, we are talking about the idea of "no matter what". There are some relationships, situations, or circumstances we feel loyal or committed to without…
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Juice worth the squeeze
Today, we are talking about evaluating life situations and circumstances based on whether they are a benefit for the effort you are putting to them. Often we…
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Strength of relationships
Today, we are taking about how to create strength in the bonds of relationship. I was thinking about steel and how it is strengthened with different elements…
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Unintended consequences
Today, we are talking about unintentional consequences of our choices and behaviors. We often take for granted that we don't things in a vacuum and what we do…
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Othered
Today, we are talking about that feeling of being outside of group or situation. Feeling like you are wrong, bad, or other than everyone else. So many people…
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Knowing and trusting yourself
Today, we are talking about the knowing that comes with experience and especially going through hard things. Yes there is healing and growing from the things…
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Fitting in and belonging
Today, we are talking about the spaces we occupy considering where we came from and where we want to be. It is one thing to feel comfortable being your full…
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Weather the storm
Today, we are talking about how to get through the challenges that seem to come one after the other. The shit storm that happens in everyone's life at one…
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What not to do
Today, we are talking about the things we learn from our parents, including what not to do. It is helpful to consider all the elements it takes to be an…
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Slow problem
Today, we are talking about the slow problems we take for granted or avoid. A slow problem are those things we know are issues and we tend to sweep them under…
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Getting out
Today, we are talking about how to change or get out of challenging situation or circumstance that is uncomfortable or not serving the version of you that…
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Tap or drain
Today, we are talking about if something is a tap or a drain. If something is a tap, it moves us forward or gives us energy. Drains limit our motivation or…
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Modeling behavior
Today, we are talking about how we show the people around us how to behave. We get an opportunity to show up and be the leaders or communicators we want in our…
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Comfortable complacency
Today, we are talking about comfortable complacency and the idea that we often don't make change until we are in discomfort. Often, we can talk ourselves out…
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Wisdom
Today, we are talking about sharing and listening to the wisdom around us. Especially now, it is important to pay attention to the experience of the people…
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Distress tolerance
Today, we are talking about how to manage ourselves in really challenging times. Right now we are all getting through day by day and feeling pretty…
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Directed attention
Today, we are talking about increasing our directed attention, awareness, to create change. Often we are operating on auto pilot or simply functioning in…
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Emotional coregulation
Today, we are about emotional coregulation in the context of conflict. It is helpful to take a pause and get curious before you meeting someone who is having…
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Having your back
Today, we are talking about the idea of building confidence and success when you feel like someone has your back. It is helpful to feeling secure doing new or…
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Rejection sensitivity dysphoria
Today, we are talking about RSD or rejection sensitivity dysphoria. In the podcast I said disorder but it is dysphoria or feeling sensitive to being rejected…
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Burn out and boundaries
Today, we are talking about using our boundaries of time, space, thoughts, emotions, sex to help prevent feeling burned out. At the end of the year we are all…
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Effort goes both ways
Today, we are talking about effort going both ways. We are not entitled to is healthy boundaries and healthy love. If someone with a title can't give that to…
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Failure to thrive
Today, we are talking about failure to thrive in relationships. While this term typically refers to children receiving substandard care in challenging…
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Grit: making it through
Today, we are talking about the resilience that comes from pressure or adversity. When we have experience dealing with challenging things we gain an awareness…
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Anhedonia; like eating cardboard
Today, we are talking about the anhedonia or the lack of pleasure associated with depression. Often people will not recognize depression because they don't…
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Doing your best
Today, we are talking about the idea of doing your best. Often, we used this phrase when we are getting by. Other times we use to phrase to obfuscate someone…
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Closing the loop
Today, we are talking about the action of finishing a task consciously. It is helpful to be able to work a task to completion to help our brains feel better…
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Power and Peace
Today, we are talking about power and peace. We can be dealing with difficult situations or circumstances we often give them a lot of power over our lives. It…
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Being the weapon in conflict
Today, we are talking about being the unwilling weapon in conflicts. There are some relationship dynamics where be become the way people hurt themselves. We…
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Proud of you
Today, we talking about being proud of ourselves and sharing that pride with the people we love. It's hard to see the past versions of us with kindness, grace…
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Love or oxytocin addiction.
Today, we are talking about love addiction which is really oxytocin addiction. We can become addicted to the connection created by oxytocin at the beginning of…
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Choices from fear
Today, we are talking make decisions from a place of fear. Often, fear can keep us stuck or make us feel like we don't have a lot of options. We can make a…
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Wrong kind of good
Today, we are talking about those unhelpful coping skills or behaviors we want to change. There is a payoff or "good" feeling that comes from using them. If we…
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Losing yourself
Today, we are talking about losing ourselves in all the different ways we do. We get caught up in work, parenting, or in relationships and often we don't…
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Importance of Friendship
Today, we are talking about the importance of friendships. Over our lifetime we meet people who come into our life, sometimes for a season and sometimes for…
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Can we change?
Today, we are talking about who we change, evolve, grow, and heal. We know life changes and people change. Often change happens because life happens. We can…
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Logic and feelings
Today, we are talking about the alignment between your head, your heart, and your intuition. We often will try to logic our way into or out of things, even…