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🤔Are you reacting or responding?🤬 · Peace in a Pod

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  Hey, Hazel tribe, welcome to peace and the pod.
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  I am Loretta. Thank you all so much for tuning
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  in today. You know, I, I wanted to share
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  something that happened happened to me a couple weeks ago and it
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  was like a strange to me. It was strange because I, I
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  hadn't felt it in a long time. And when it happened, it just
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  kind of like, I don't know, kind of caught me off guard.
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  So I, if you're a returning listener, you know that I have a
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  cat. His name is Bellow and every now
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  and then you'll hear him in the background in some, some of the
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  episodes. But one day I was getting ready
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  to well let me just say this he has an automatic cleaning litter
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  box and one day it was I woke up 1 morning and it was like
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  beeping and going off and doing all kinds of crazy sounds.
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  So I go check it out and try to reset it and troubleshoot it as
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  I'm trying to like figure it out.
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  I'm trying like some techniques that I tried before that worked.
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  You know, I'm like opening drawers and lifting flaps and,
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  you know, doing all of the things and nothing was like
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  getting this thing to reset. I even like unplugged it for 10
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  minutes and not 10 minutes for like 10 seconds and then plugged
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  it back in thinking, you know, one of these are going to get it
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  back on track. And then all of a sudden I got
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  like this weird feeling of I, I guess it was like frustration.
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  I, I, I don't know, but I started feeling strange.
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  So I stopped. I stopped what I was doing.
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  I put, you know, the drawers and the covers and all of that stuff
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  back on and I just unplugged it and I left it.
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  I, I stopped, I took a pause, I stepped back and I just left it.
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  And I have a, a manual little box that I do use whenever we
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  travel just in case the the automatic one goes offline or
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  something like that. But anyways, I I pulled out the
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  manual 1 and set all of that up and I just left the the
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  automatic 1 and went on about the rest of my morning and
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  didn't think about it. And the next day, literally the
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  next day, I plug in the litter box, plug the power cord back in
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  and all of a sudden it just resets.
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  It just goes back to like it's regular mode.
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  It just, it did the cleaning process and was like ready and I
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  was just like what? I did everything up under the
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  sun the day prior trying to get that thing back on track and
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  nothing was working. And in the moment, I felt like a
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  hint of frustration, which felt very strange to me because I
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  haven't really had like moments of like really feeling annoyed
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  or frustrated. Like I might say that I'm
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  annoyed about something, but I'm not really annoyed and I don't
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  really get frustrated about things because when things
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  happen in life, I don't view them as like they're happening
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  to me. So I don't take things personal
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  and I don't put any emotions behind things when they happen.
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  I just take it as, you know, a sign.
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  I'm the type of person that I see a lot of things as signs in
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  life. So I view things very
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  differently than I used to a few years ago.
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  So for me, when I start feeling that little hint of frustration,
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  it felt strange in my body. So I stopped because I didn't
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  like that feeling. And I went back to like my calm,
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  cool collected cell. And literally the next day when
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  I plugged that thing in, it just like nothing was wrong with it.
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  And I, I was surprised. And I don't know if that was
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  some kind of test that, you know, that was being thrown at
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  me to see if I would react. But the point is sometimes when
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  we are faced with things in life, we need to take a pause,
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  step back from it, because people, people can be quick to
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  react to things rather than respond to things and
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  situations. And people, when you react, you
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  have all these emotions and energy that you're putting into
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  whatever someone said to you and your, your reaction and you're
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  draining yourself. You're giving away your power
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  and you're, you're, you're draining your energy by
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  reacting. So for me, in order to consume
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  my energy and place that energy where I need it the most, I no
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  longer react. I don't react to situations.
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  I don't react to people. No one will be able to get a
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  rise out of me because I refuse to give away my power and my
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  energy. I move away from the emotional,
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  away from angry responses, and instead I choose calm,
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  calculated actions that honor myself.
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  Worth the pressure that someone may feel from tough situations.
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  It's there to help, to help develop you, to help you grow
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  and evolve as a person. Responding to life instead of
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  reacting to it is the key to to contain your energy and your
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  power. I mean, think about it, when
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  we're reacting to people in situations, we are giving away
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  our energy and our power. The longer you're in that
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  reactive state, the longer and more energy and power you are
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  giving away. I mean, think about it, if
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  someone cut you off in traffic, you're on your way to work or
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  home from work, wherever. And someone cut you off in
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  traffic and your first response is to lay on the horn and yell
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  and curse and you know, maybe do some hand gestures, whatever.
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  But if your, your first response is to get angry and react that
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  way, that person, for one, you don't know what they're doing in
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  their car. They may have not even seen you
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  could have been a blind spot. They may not even care, but the
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  fact that you're reacting, they're going on about their
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  day. They're ahead of you, probably
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  not even thinking twice, not even looking in the rearview
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  mirror of what they just did. And they're still, you know,
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  happy go lucky even though they just cut you off, not a care in
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  the world. They're going on about their
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  day, not fazed. You, on the other hand, now have
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  picked up this energy of anger in frustration that you're on
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  your way to work with now. So now your your energy has
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  shifted and you have went from having a you know what, say it's
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  going to be a good day to now you're, you're like, you know, I
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  would like to see someone cut him off or cut her off for doing
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  that to me. You, you're like seeking revenge
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  or, you know, wanting something to go in your favor towards them
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  in order for you to feel good. So it's like you, you get in
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  that reactive state and your energy shifts.
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  You feel drained, you feel frustrated, you know, angry.
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  You're very emotion driven at that point.
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  And that person has literally went on about their, their,
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  their, their way, went on on their way, not even worried
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  about you. So don't allow people to get a
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  reaction out of you. Even when people are trying to
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  argue, some people, you know, they want to argue, they want to
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  get into, you know, a situation where they're, they're going
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  back and forth. They thrive on that type of, you
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  know, taking people's energy and getting a reaction out of
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  people. Some people enjoy that And they,
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  you know, there are people who will challenge you and say
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  things and try to get a reaction out of you.
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  And you have to take a pause, remove yourself for a second,
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  take those emotions out of it. Pause.
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  I always, I mean, I changed the way that I speak because I do a
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  lot of thinking before I do a lot of speaking and my brain is
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  actively working whenever I'm, I'm, I mean, obviously when I'm
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  having a conversation, but I don't just speak to speak.
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  I don't speak just because I like the sound of my voice.
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  So I want people to hear me when I speak.
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  I have something to say that actually needs to be said.
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  And I'm no longer in a place where I feel like I need to
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  defend myself, explain myself, justify, you know, why I did
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  something or didn't do something.
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  I don't have time for that. If you don't get it, you don't
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  get it. If you don't, you know,
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  understand where I'm coming from, then you know, maybe the
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  conversation is not for you. So I'm not going to take all my
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  time and energy going into deep details trying to explain
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  something. Now, if there's someone who
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  generally doesn't genuinely doesn't understand what I'm
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  saying, then I will explain that.
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  But if there's someone trying to challenge me to try to stump me
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  or see, you know, if I really know what I'm talking about,
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  those types of individuals are just digging for dirt.
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  I'm not going to give them the time of day of an explanation, a
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  justification. I don't have to and I don't need
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  to. And I just saved my energy for
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  the people that my energy is meant for.
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  Those energy vampires not going to get me, got me in the past,
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  not going to happen again. So all I'm saying is, are you
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  reacting or responding when you're in situations?
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  Because if you're reacting, no that you are giving away quite a
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  bit of your energy and your power to those situations and
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  you're going to be feeling real drained and exhausted by the end
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  of the day. So if you want to contain your
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  energy and power and save those for where you actually need to
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  put them, try a different approach and be responsive
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  rather than reactive. And once again, Soul Tribe, I
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  And once again, I really do appreciate you all.
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  me and the channel. And I hope that you are able to
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  gather some kind of peace and understanding in this crazy
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  thing called life. And I really do appreciate you
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  all. Thank you again for tuning in to
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  Thanks for tuning in. Bye.