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The Psycholgy of Attachment. Compulsive Care Seeking
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That restless urge to check your phone, reread a text, or ask “Are we okay?” can feel embarrassing, but it is often a learned attachment strategy, not a personality flaw. We close our Psychology of Attachment trilogy by unpacking compulsive care seeking, the pattern where connection matters deeply and uncertainty feels genuinely threatening. When care was available enough to crave but inconsistent enough to doubt, the nervous system can grow up organized around vigilance and the prevention of loss.
We walk through how this begins in childhood, when a kid learns to scan for…
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