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S7. E1. When did you stop being YOU? · The Rockyn YES Podcast - with Dr. Raquel Yarroch

• 0:02
  SPEAKER_01: Welcome back to the Rack and Yes Podcast.
• 0:06
  SPEAKER_01: I'm Dr.
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  SPEAKER_01: Raquel.
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  SPEAKER_01: And around here we're learning what it really means to say yes to yourself, to your health, to your breakthrough, and to your next chapter.
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  SPEAKER_01: And today I want to start with a question.
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  SPEAKER_01: When did you stop being you?
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  SPEAKER_01: Not mom, not wife, not partner, not business owner, an employee, caregiver, a daughter, a son, a friend, or whatever roles you've carried in your life.
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  SPEAKER_01: When was the last time you truly felt like you?
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  SPEAKER_01: Because I don't think most of us intentionally lose ourselves.
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  SPEAKER_01: I think sometimes life just happens.
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  SPEAKER_01: We take on responsibilities.
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  SPEAKER_01: We take care of people.
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  SPEAKER_01: We go through hard things.
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  SPEAKER_01: Our bodies change, relationships change, kids grow up, careers change.
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  SPEAKER_01: And somewhere along the way, we can look in the mirror and think, wait, where did I go?
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  SPEAKER_01: That's what we're talking about today.
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  SPEAKER_01: So, how do we actually lose ourselves?
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  SPEAKER_01: So things that can happen, responsibilities pile up.
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  SPEAKER_01: We become what everybody else needs you to be.
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  SPEAKER_01: So if we think about this, even all the way from when we're kids in school, you always hear people saying, Well, you need to be this, you need to be this way, or you know, you should choose this career.
• 1:41
  SPEAKER_01: This is what you should do.
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  SPEAKER_01: We get all those shoulds, woulds, coulds.
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  SPEAKER_01: You need to do this.
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  SPEAKER_01: How many times do you even hear yourself saying, Well, I need to do this?
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  SPEAKER_01: Eventually we become a lot of shoulds, woulds, and needs, and coulds.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I want you to actually really think like, when did you lose yourself?
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe it was you're having children, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: And you're doing everything for your family.
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  SPEAKER_01: You're taking care of everybody else but you.
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  SPEAKER_01: I hear this all the time in my practice.
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  SPEAKER_01: Well, once I take care of this and this, then I will take care of me.
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  SPEAKER_01: But what happens when you runs out of all that extra energy and all the caring that you need to do for everybody else?
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  SPEAKER_01: In an airplane, they say you are to put your own mask on first and then take care of everybody else's mask.
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  SPEAKER_01: But what are we doing right now in this?
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  SPEAKER_01: What are we doing?
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  SPEAKER_01: We're generally putting the mask on everybody else, doing everything for everybody else.
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  SPEAKER_01: And before you know it, we've passed out because we didn't take care of ourselves.
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  SPEAKER_01: So you don't even notice it.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's so slow.
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  SPEAKER_01: It happens just a little bit at a time at work.
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  SPEAKER_01: You're putting work ahead of you, ahead of yourself.
• 3:06
  SPEAKER_01: You're saying yes.
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  SPEAKER_01: You're like, yes, I'm a yes person, I'm a yes ma'am, I'm a yes man, I'm a yes woman, you know, I'm a yes girl.
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  SPEAKER_01: But and that's what the show's about.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's about being yes, but it's about living your empowered self.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's about saying yes to who you truly are, not just about yes, everybody else, because when you say yes to everyone else, you say no to yourself.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I always want you to think before you say yes or no, what are you truly saying yes and no to?
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  SPEAKER_01: And is it supporting your values, your goals, your beliefs?
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  SPEAKER_01: Is it about who you are meant to be?
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  SPEAKER_01: So it happens slowly, it creeps up.
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  SPEAKER_01: All of a sudden you're like trying to figure out, hmm, what do I want in my life?
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  SPEAKER_01: Okay, so one of the things that came for me was I was always like a goal setter.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I was also a dreamer.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so one of the signs that you've gotten yourself so disconnected from yourself is that when I was setting my goals and my dreams, I eventually got to a point where I don't even know what my goals and dreams are.
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  SPEAKER_01: And you know what's funny is like as I realized that, I was like, wait, what's what's going on?
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  SPEAKER_01: But then I hear all these other people start saying the same thing.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I don't, I don't know what I'm dreaming for.
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  SPEAKER_01: I don't know what I want.
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  SPEAKER_01: And we're almost like scared to like want more than what we currently have.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like, that's bad to do.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I want you to realize that it you should have dreams.
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  SPEAKER_01: But the other thing that I was doing when I was creating my goals, so I used to always create these dedication letters each year for my life.
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  SPEAKER_01: And and but the thing is, is when I had to create them, I had to think of everybody else.
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  SPEAKER_01: It wasn't about me anymore on that dedication list.
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  SPEAKER_01: It was about, okay, so what's going to happen in this year?
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  SPEAKER_01: And what how are those people gonna be affected?
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  SPEAKER_01: And what do they want?
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  SPEAKER_01: And then I would fill it up with all that.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then by the time I got back to me, I was like, huh.
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  SPEAKER_01: Well, it got everybody else's done.
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  SPEAKER_01: Kind of forgot about me.
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  SPEAKER_01: It kind of says the same thing when you don't plan for your life or you don't figure out what your dream is, somebody else will do it for you and you probably won't like it.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I want you to really think, when was the last time you truly dreamed for you?
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  SPEAKER_01: When was the last time you really set goals that were about you?
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  SPEAKER_01: And I'm not saying this to be selfish, because I'm saying this because you deserve to have your happiness.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because when you are happy and you're taking care of yourself, excuse me, you are more inclined to be a happier, healthier person for your for your family, for your career, for your life.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because when you fill your own cup, you have more to give others.
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  SPEAKER_01: So one of the signs that you've gotten disconnected from yourselves is you just you stopped dreaming, you stopped having goals, you stopped pushing for what you wanted because you're too exhausted.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because when you don't do things for yourself, you become very exhausted.
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  SPEAKER_01: Life almost feels too difficult because you're no longer living your life for you, you're living it for everybody else.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I always want you just to stop and pause.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I want you to check in.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because I get this question, Dr.
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  SPEAKER_01: Aqua, what if I don't know who I am anymore?
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  SPEAKER_01: How who am I without this person?
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  SPEAKER_01: Or who am I without my kids in my life?
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  SPEAKER_01: You know, they've gone off to college.
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  SPEAKER_01: What do I do?
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  SPEAKER_01: Or, you know, my career ended.
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  SPEAKER_01: What do I do?
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  SPEAKER_01: And those are all really good questions.
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  SPEAKER_01: So here's what I'm going to say.
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  SPEAKER_01: I want you to get curious.
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  SPEAKER_01: So the first thing is stop.
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  SPEAKER_01: Think about what you're asking yourself.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I want you to get curious.
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  SPEAKER_01: I want you to check in with yourself.
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  SPEAKER_01: I want you to notice how do you feel in that moment when you say, I don't even know who I am anymore.
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  SPEAKER_01: What do you feel?
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  SPEAKER_01: And where is it in your body?
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  SPEAKER_01: Where are you feeling that?
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  SPEAKER_01: And then ask, what do you need?
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  SPEAKER_01: And then forgive yourself for whatever it was that got you away from who you are, who your amazing person was.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because that person at 18, when you had those dreams of what your life was going to be like, and then you wake up and it's 30 years later, and you're like, I'm not living my life.
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  SPEAKER_01: Things, you know, and that's normal.
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  SPEAKER_01: Life changes.
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  SPEAKER_01: You make different decisions because different things happen to you in your life, and there's nothing wrong with it.
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  SPEAKER_01: It is your life is exactly where you were supposed to be.
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  SPEAKER_01: Where you are right now is exactly where you need to be at this moment because this is who you are.
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  SPEAKER_01: But I want you to get curious.
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  SPEAKER_01: I want you to think, what did you love before life got so complicated?
• 8:08
  SPEAKER_01: What did you love?
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  SPEAKER_01: And sometimes you have to kind of go back into your, you know, back when you were like probably eight years old, like, who did you want to be when you grew up?
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  SPEAKER_01: You know, we still have those things.
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  SPEAKER_01: I mean, I always tell like the high school kids that I have, because my son's a high schooler and well, now he's a college student, but they're they're just starting their lives.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I let them know I'm like, don't think that right now is whatever decision you make is the end game.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because it's not.
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  SPEAKER_01: It is only the first step in the hundreds and millions of steps you're gonna take.
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  SPEAKER_01: And you may change your career seven times.
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  SPEAKER_01: I mean, I read a statistic a long time ago that people on an average change their career seven times.
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  SPEAKER_01: Seven, seven times.
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  SPEAKER_01: So don't get stuck in thinking that this is your end game.
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  SPEAKER_01: And don't think that this one decision is going to be the end game for everything because you're only starting to explore again.
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  SPEAKER_01: Who are you?
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  SPEAKER_01: You may have shifted and changed and you've come through so much.
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  SPEAKER_01: Who are you?
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  SPEAKER_01: And only you can answer that.
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  SPEAKER_01: What lights you up now?
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  SPEAKER_01: What makes your eyes sparkle?
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  SPEAKER_01: What gives you joy?
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  SPEAKER_01: What fills your heart?
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  SPEAKER_01: What brings you happiness?
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  SPEAKER_01: And let's start working on that.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then when we talk about the body, because when you aren't doing things that make bring you joy, what happens is you have neurotransmitters in your brain.
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  SPEAKER_01: And they'll start to shift when you aren't doing things that light you up.
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  SPEAKER_01: When you are constantly doing things that pull you down, it shifts all the neurotransmitters, which affects your stress, the sleep, your sugar, hormones, your gut issues, nutrition depletion, all of that stuff starts to get hit.
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  SPEAKER_01: And you're like, why is my body failing?
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  SPEAKER_01: Why, why am I a hormonal wreck?
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  SPEAKER_01: Why am I a hot hormone mess, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: Or why is my stomach just not stopping?
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  SPEAKER_01: Why does it hurt all the time?
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  SPEAKER_01: Or why do I have to always know where the bathroom is?
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  SPEAKER_01: Or why am I so exhausted?
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  SPEAKER_01: It's like you get up and you're like, I'm already tired and I haven't even barely woke up yet.
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  SPEAKER_01: This is what happens when you stop living for you.
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  SPEAKER_01: And it isn't all of that because some, you know, I mean, obviously, some people can feel like crap, and it's not because they they aren't living the life that they want to live.
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  SPEAKER_01: I mean, but I really want you to think about what fills you up because you've got to fill up your cup.
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  SPEAKER_01: You got to think those positive, happy thoughts.
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  SPEAKER_01: Sometimes we have to just start with one thought better than the other.
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  SPEAKER_01: And when you start changing just one thought that feels better than the other, the hormones and neurotransmitters, everything starts to shift in your brain.
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  SPEAKER_01: And as soon as you can start to reframe that a little bit, those neurotransmitters keep doing, and then after that feels good, then find another better feeling thought.
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  SPEAKER_01: Eventually you're gonna take yourself all the way from this despair and gloominess and or even um, you know, shame.
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  SPEAKER_01: And you're gonna start moving up the ladder, and you might start to feel anger and resentment.
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  SPEAKER_01: Well, that's moving up the ladder, and then you might start to feel like, oh, okay, well, that thought feels a little bit better than the other.
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  SPEAKER_01: And you start might start to move into like happiness and joy and excitement and hope, and all of a sudden you're there and you're feeling better.
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  SPEAKER_01: And guess what?
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  SPEAKER_01: It's it's waves, it comes and goes, you know.
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  SPEAKER_01: But if you remember to always stop and just think, wait, how can I find one thought better than the other?
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  SPEAKER_01: Or stop and check in with yourself, forgive yourself for what you're going through and ask, where is it in your body and what can I do to make and what do I need to do to shift this?
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  SPEAKER_01: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then find that one thought that feels better than the other.
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  SPEAKER_01: One thought.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then find another thought, and then another.
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  SPEAKER_01: And by the time you get done, you're gonna start to feel better about who you are.
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  SPEAKER_01: So this is it's not about fixing who you are.
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  SPEAKER_01: This is about finding and becoming and listening to yourself because so many people out there just really they've stopped.
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  SPEAKER_01: They've gotten so caught up in the fast social media, looking at everybody's pictures, um, comparing yourself to everybody on social media, or watching TV and comparing yourself there.
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  SPEAKER_01: And realizing that, like, well, in this movie, this person in two hours had this amazing body and completely changed their entire life.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's a movie is meant to do that.
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  SPEAKER_00: But in real life, it takes us years to sometimes shift and change.
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  SPEAKER_01: But all you can do is start with one step and then build into that next step and to the next step and keep building on everything you've learned.
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  SPEAKER_00: So what have you personally learned about this?
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  SPEAKER_01: For me, I've had to do this a lot because I've had a lot of different, and and we're human beings, we have different things in different parts of our stories, and we've had different ups and downs, different valleys.
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  SPEAKER_01: And through all these valleys, the one thing I've had to learn, and I know people make comments about is I've been pretty resilient.
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  SPEAKER_01: But you you don't just wake up and you're resilient one day.
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  SPEAKER_01: I have done a lot of, I listen to a lot of um books that make you a better person.
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  SPEAKER_01: I learn from other people.
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  SPEAKER_01: I study that.
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  SPEAKER_01: But what I do now is I always check in.
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  SPEAKER_01: Okay, well, what am I feeling?
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  SPEAKER_01: Why am I feeling this?
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  SPEAKER_01: Where do I feel it?
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  SPEAKER_01: How can I support myself?
• 14:12
  SPEAKER_01: And then was one thought better than the other?
• 14:14
  SPEAKER_01: Another thing I learned a long time ago was if I'm having a thought and I don't really like where this thought is going, and I don't like where the trajectory of my life is going, I'm not a tree.
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  SPEAKER_01: I can move.
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  SPEAKER_01: Jim Rohn says it.
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  SPEAKER_01: You're not a tree, you can move.
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  SPEAKER_01: So step left and make a new decision that is in alignment with who you are.
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  SPEAKER_01: And the thing is, is we have different chapters of our lives.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, you know, there's the grade school chapters, or there's even the preschool and the years before that, and then you got your grade school and your high school, and then maybe you had a chapter of your relationships, or a chapter of this and a chapter of that.
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  SPEAKER_01: So we're always stepping into the next chapter.
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  SPEAKER_01: And you have to stop and think, okay, well, what's my next chapter going to be?
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  SPEAKER_01: So you're always writing it.
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  SPEAKER_01: But I want you to realize you have the pen.
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  SPEAKER_01: You have the ability to write your future.
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  SPEAKER_01: So, what I would suggest is, especially when you don't know who you are, I would suggest, and this is the something I always have a lot of my clients do, is I have them do some writing.
• 15:27
  SPEAKER_01: And if they're not a writer, then they can do some audio notes.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I want you just to think about who am I?
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  SPEAKER_01: And start writing it down.
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe even create like a bucket list, or what do you want to have in your life?
• 15:43
  SPEAKER_01: What do you want to experience in this amazing life that we were given?
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  SPEAKER_01: And just start writing that down and then figure out, like, well, awesome.
• 15:51
  SPEAKER_01: And just have that list.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then, you know, as you want to choose to work with me, or even as you go along with it, maybe you decide, well, hey, this list, this, this right here, I can do in a year.
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  SPEAKER_01: These might take me five years, these might take me 30 days, this might take me 10 years.
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  SPEAKER_01: Well, start checking them off.
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  SPEAKER_01: Start doing a couple things, see what happens.
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  SPEAKER_01: And some people say that when they choose themselves, they think they're being selfish.
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  SPEAKER_01: I want to let you know you're not.
• 16:21
  SPEAKER_01: As we talked earlier, if you don't put your own face mask on for the air, you can't help anybody else.
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  SPEAKER_01: So this isn't selfish.
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  SPEAKER_01: This is so, so important for you.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's hugely important for you to not abandon yourself.
• 16:40
  SPEAKER_01: And thing is, you're not abandoning your responsibilities.
• 16:43
  SPEAKER_01: You're you're not.
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  SPEAKER_01: You're finally allowing yourself to live, to be you.
• 16:49
  SPEAKER_01: And then guess what?
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  SPEAKER_01: When you're you, other people love that.
• 16:54
  SPEAKER_01: They love you.
• 16:54
  SPEAKER_01: You want to be around people that are excited to be alive, right?
• 16:58
  SPEAKER_01: That makes you want to be around them.
• 17:01
  SPEAKER_01: And even if you don't feel like excited to be alive right now, maybe you're facing a lot of health issues or a loss of something else, something, you know, maybe a person that lot you lost.
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  SPEAKER_01: Uh, you know, we all go through those seasons.
• 17:14
  SPEAKER_01: And again, that's the chapter, a season of mourning, a season of ill health.
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  SPEAKER_01: Remember, it's a season, and you can still choose a better thought.
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  SPEAKER_01: Here's one thing.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, this was somebody that had, they were, they had been in a horrible wreck, and they were told they were never gonna walk again.
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  SPEAKER_01: And they decided, God, I think this might be the five-minute measure.
• 17:38
  SPEAKER_01: I don't remember.
• 17:38
  SPEAKER_01: It was a book, I'll have to find it sometime.
• 17:40
  SPEAKER_01: It might have been the five-minute measure.
• 17:41
  SPEAKER_01: Anyways, the concept was he was gonna allow himself five minutes.
• 17:47
  SPEAKER_01: He could throw a temper tantrum for five minutes about what was going bad in his life.
• 17:53
  SPEAKER_01: And he was allowed five minutes.
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  SPEAKER_01: When those five minutes were up, he had to make a new decision and move forward in a positive light.
• 18:02
  SPEAKER_01: And that's what he would do every time anything bad happened.
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  SPEAKER_01: He threw a temperatant, he got into a car accident and he couldn't walk.
• 18:09
  SPEAKER_01: He threw his five-minute temper tantrum and then he shifted.
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  SPEAKER_01: And guess what?
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  SPEAKER_01: He's walking today.
• 18:14
  SPEAKER_01: Because he could see it, he could visualize it.
• 18:17
  SPEAKER_01: But you hear so many stories because people have to shift their brain and reframe things, and the way they think is what they create.
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  SPEAKER_01: And that has always been something that has been always instilled in me.
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  SPEAKER_01: What I think I create.
• 18:31
  SPEAKER_01: What I believe between these two ears is what actually happens, whether it's good or bad.
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  SPEAKER_01: You are always going to attract into your life whatever you're thinking about, even if you put the word not in front of it.
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  SPEAKER_01: So if you say, I don't want this, you're gonna get that because it's like a double negative.
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  SPEAKER_01: So you have to be really, really purposeful and chooseful with your words.
• 18:55
  SPEAKER_01: Chooseful is not really a word, but you know what I meant.
• 18:58
  SPEAKER_01: I want you to be choosy.
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  SPEAKER_01: I want you to be, think about it before you say it.
• 19:02
  SPEAKER_01: What do you truly want in your life?
• 19:05
  SPEAKER_01: And then make sure you're well, these are whole other lessons.
• 19:08
  SPEAKER_01: So this is a whole different ballgame.
• 19:09
  SPEAKER_01: So we'll we'll talk about forward in a way and all that other stuff.
• 19:12
  SPEAKER_01: I usually do that more one-on-one.
• 19:14
  SPEAKER_01: So if you're you want to dive more deeper into really shifting your thoughts, you definitely want to work with me.
• 19:19
  SPEAKER_01: Um, but anyways, so what's one small way you can say yes to yourself this week?
• 19:31
  SPEAKER_01: What's one small way you can say yes to yourself this week?
• 19:36
  SPEAKER_01: Can you find one thought better than the other?
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  SPEAKER_01: Can you step left and make a new decision?
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  SPEAKER_01: Can you throw the five-minute temper tantrum and then shift and realize that this is a chapter in your life and that you're ready to write the next chapter, or you're excited to write the next chapter, or maybe you're currently in the middle of this chapter.
• 19:59
  SPEAKER_01: And you know how the movie sequences go, you always have a guide, right?
• 20:04
  SPEAKER_01: And that guide is going to be leading you.
• 20:07
  SPEAKER_01: So you might be in the middle of a chapter and you have a guide somewhere in your life that's guiding you into a different direction.
• 20:13
  SPEAKER_01: And if you don't have a guide, well, hey, let me know.
• 20:17
  SPEAKER_01: I'll help guide you.
• 20:18
  SPEAKER_01: Or listen to these podcasts, they might help guide you.
• 20:21
  SPEAKER_01: Anyways, so I just want you to realize that you are an amazing human being.
• 20:29
  SPEAKER_01: And I am so proud of who you are.
• 20:32
  SPEAKER_01: And I'm so proud that you're learning to say yes to yourself.
• 20:38
  SPEAKER_01: So, uh, what I want to do is I want to let you know that I have a retreat coming up, and this retreat is all about being you and your next chapter, or maybe you're currently in the middle of your chapter and you need some guidance, and maybe you just need some friends.
• 20:59
  SPEAKER_01: This is a retreat for women, and maybe you just want that friendship.
• 21:06
  SPEAKER_01: So I'm gonna be creating a lot of these different retreats, but I have one coming up and I will have a link to the show below so that you can check out when the next retreat is.
• 21:16
  SPEAKER_01: Um, and these retreats kind of go along with the concept of B you, be true, be free.
• 21:21
  SPEAKER_01: So there'll be different levels of them.
• 21:23
  SPEAKER_01: Um, there'll be even adventure retreats and all this different stuff.
• 21:26
  SPEAKER_01: So, but to get to some of the more advanced retreats, you have to start at the first retreat.
• 21:31
  SPEAKER_01: So take your baby steps and join me coming up for my first BU retreat.
• 21:37
  SPEAKER_01: So maybe today isn't about figuring out exactly who you were supposed to become.
• 21:41
  SPEAKER_01: Maybe it's simply about noticing where you've stopped choosing yourself and then one small decision to come back to you.
• 21:48
  SPEAKER_01: That's really at the heart of what I mean when I say be you, be true, be free.
• 21:55
  SPEAKER_01: And if you're ready to go deeper with this work, remember I'm hosting those B retreats where we step away from the noise and actually create the space to reconnect with ourselves.
• 22:05
  SPEAKER_01: And if you're listening in real time, our next BU retreat is November 5th through the 8th, 2026.
• 22:11
  SPEAKER_01: And if you're hearing this episode later, you can always check out the upcoming retreats and learn about working with me privately through Rock and Health.
• 22:18
  SPEAKER_01: I work with women, men, um, young and old, uh, health, um, getting helping them with their next chapter in life.
• 22:28
  SPEAKER_01: So helping them fix their health, their gut health, their hormones, thyroid, um, you name it.
• 22:34
  SPEAKER_01: I pretty much kind of do some different things to help people.
• 22:38
  SPEAKER_01: So, but my specialty is really working with the gut, thyroid hormones, sugars, um, and really helping you shift your mind frame into that next step and really stepping into the next chapter, helping you be you, being true and being free.
• 22:57
  SPEAKER_00: Have a beautiful day.