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Even Monks Meditate Together: Reclaiming Community Care, Habit Stacking, and Collective Wellness with Dr. Maria Van Der Maaten · Healthy Mind, Healthy Life

• 0:00
  Host (Avik): Dear listeners, we often talk about self-care like it is something to do entirely alone in the quiet of our bedrooms or during a solo morning walk.
• 0:25
  Host (Avik): But what if the practices that truly sustain us when life gets difficult are the ones we share with others? What if building wellness together is the missing piece?
• 0:55
  Host (Avik): Welcome to Healthy Mind, Healthy Life. I am your host, Avik, and today we welcome back sociologist and author Dr. Maria Van Der Maaten. Welcome to the show, Maria.
• 1:16
  Guest (Dr. Maria Van Der Maaten): Thank you so much for having me. It is a joy to be here with you today.
• 1:18
  Host (Avik): Dr. Maria is the author of the upcoming book *Even Monks Meditate Together*. Why have we been conditioned to believe self-care is strictly an individual, private practice?
• 2:10
  Guest (Dr. Maria Van Der Maaten): Under modern capitalist structures, self-care has been packaged as a productivity hack rather than genuine rejuvenation. We are continually pushed to produce more, and solitary wellness has been framed as maintenance simply to get back on the performance treadmill.
• 4:18
  Host (Avik): How do you help people see that community care does not take away from restorative quiet time, but adds a crucial layer of support?
• 5:27
  Guest (Dr. Maria Van Der Maaten): By using habit stacking in community. For instance, walking with a neighbor satisfies movement, emotional connection, and nature immersion simultaneously. The built-in accountability makes the habit stick without the psychological resistance that comes with rigid, solitary routines.
• 8:08
  Guest (Dr. Maria Van Der Maaten): When an activity feels simple and social, we bypass the internal resistance we usually associate with grueling wellness tasks. Community accountability transforms healthy actions from temporary chores into a natural identity.
• 9:54
  Guest (Dr. Maria Van Der Maaten): Hyper-rigid health regimens often collapse because they lack sustainability and isolate us from normal social gatherings. Real health must accommodate individual differences and shared community experiences.
• 12:21
  Guest (Dr. Maria Van Der Maaten): When you communicate your goals and needs openly with friends and family, they can actively support your choices instead of inadvertently presenting obstacles to your well-being.
• 15:29
  Guest (Dr. Maria Van Der Maaten): Historically, people possessed multiple overlapping community circles—extended family, neighbors, church, and volunteer groups. Today, most individuals depend entirely on immediate family and coworkers, leading to emotional isolation when challenges arise.
• 18:59
  Guest (Dr. Maria Van Der Maaten): Joining low-pressure hobby groups, hiking clubs, or screen-free gatherings rehumanizes our days. Simply knowing someone notices your presence or absence provides meaningful emotional security.
• 21:24
  Guest (Dr. Maria Van Der Maaten): When life gets hectic or you face major life moves, lower the bar from perfectionism to 'good enough.' Prioritizing simple, consistent adult interactions—even once a week—preserves your mental health.
• 24:40
  Guest (Dr. Maria Van Der Maaten): Focus on building the human relationship first before trying to impose rigid wellness practices on your social circle.
• 26:34
  Guest (Dr. Maria Van Der Maaten): Listeners can find me at mariavdm.com or connect with me on LinkedIn and Instagram under Maria Van Der Maaten.
• 26:41
  Host (Avik): All links will be included in the show notes. Self-care is something we build, sustain, and survive through together. Thank you, Maria, and thank you to our listeners.