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Love Your Love Muscle - The Power of Assumption: How Your Daily Mindset Shapes Your Reality · Transformational Meditation Podcast

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Okay.
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Hello everyone. Welcome back to another session
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of Love, your Love Muscle.
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And as you can see, we back with Erin. Erin Herlihy.
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Welcome Erin. How are you? Thank you for having me again.
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People are watching me. Maybe they see I'm tired.
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It's been a long week for me,
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so maybe Erin will do all the talking today.
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We'll see. But before we,
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before we get started, I want just, just
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because this is a session, when we talk to Aaron,
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I have these conversations.
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We all have quite important topics. Uh, they're interesting.
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And, uh, if you are like me
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and, uh, start listening to something
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and you are on your device, uh, how often do you notice
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that you're kind of being drawn to, okay, I'm listening.
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Let me see what, what's on my Instagram. Right?
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Such a short, shorter things.
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Uh, it's understandable,
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but that's not why Erin and I are here.
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Uh, we want you to listen
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because there's so much you can learn from our
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conversations, uh, and uh, and benefit from.
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So, so, I want you to, I want to invite everybody just
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to sit down
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and do a little reset, a little heart, brain coherence,
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just a few minutes.
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Just notice how more in tune you are with,
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with the conversation and, and,
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and how more easy it is to stay focused.
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Okay? So just sit straight up, everybody,
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feet on the ground, lower your shoulders.
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And if it's the end of the day, just take a nice deep inhale
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through your nose, fill those lungs with air,
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and then breathe out through your mouth
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and letting the day go, let anything go
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that shouldn't bother you right now.
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Lower your shoulders, loosen your jaw,
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then take another nice deep in.
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Inhale through your nose
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and out through your mouth.
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Ah, just let the day go
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and feel yourself getting centered.
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Feel yourself here with us, with Aaron
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and me in this little conversation.
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Breathe normally.
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And then to calm your nervous system down.
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Breathe slower and deeper.
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25 second inhale, or five second exhale.
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And even better. So if you make your exhale longer than you
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inhale,
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just breathe in a tempo in a way
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that's comfortable for you, but just slow down your breath.
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Calm down your nervous system. Slow down your system.
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Just notice where in your body you
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feel your breath the most.
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Maybe you feel your breath the most in your nostrils,
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the back of your throat or your chest or your tummy.
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Just focus on that point in your body
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where you feel your breath the most,
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and make a mental note of
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how it feels breathing through that point.
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Maybe you feel the colder air flowing in
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the warmer air flowing out.
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Wonderful. Now, try to move your focus point into the middle
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of your chest right there, where your heart is.
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And if you want more help to focus on your heart space,
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just put your hand on your chest right over your heart.
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And just imagine now that you are breathing
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through your heart,
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just imagine the air flowing in through your nose,
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going down through your throat, down through your heart
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and into your belly,
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and then back up again through your heart and out again
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in the same nice calm temple.
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And try to set the intention for yourself to be present
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throughout this conversations routed post session
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to pick up useful information
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that you can use in everyday life.
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Maybe you want to take notes during the session
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and want to ask questions afterwards.
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In the comment field,
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set the intention to stay focused
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and be there with us, with Aaron and, and me, ep,
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and all the other people that are watching or listening in.
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We all connected
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and actually we all connected through that field
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that our heart creates.
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Beautiful. Now just get back,
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Breathe normally again, maybe you want
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to take a nice deep inhale
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and exhale again, move your body a little bit
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and just feel how present you are right now.
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Beautiful. And Erin, you're not the only one yawning
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during those kind of kind of sessions.
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So it's interesting, it's that your, let's say yawning is
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because your brain tries to cool down.
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Mm-hmm. But I think it's like when your body re relaxes,
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your brain relaxes as well,
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and it's like getting that little extra fresh air.
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And then ha and finally, you know, and that's thing focused
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because all sorts of things, when you ask people
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to get centered, they really, they focus inwards
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to their self, to the present situation
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and all the things
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that they're having going on in their brain at the same time
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that they want to take, have control over and fall away.
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And their brain is like, ah, stretching nice. Yeah.
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So you're actually right, actually introduced. Yeah.
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So I have some friends in the southwest
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of the United States,
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and they do a lot of breath meditation.
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And one of the things that you'll come
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to find is when you yawn,
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when you take in those deep breaths, it's getting
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that fresh oxygen, rich blood
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to circulate even further into the body.
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When you're taking those shallow breaths,
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it doesn't have the emphasis to go to the ends
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of your fingertips, your toes
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and whatever in your body is not getting oxygen starts
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to deteriorate, which
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that goes right along with your energy.
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So yes, it's a multitude of things.
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Your, you, your brain's trying to cool off.
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Your body is trying to get that oxygen to the very tips
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of your fingers, your toes, every organ,
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every cell inside the body.
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It wants to be, you know, witness.
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It wants to be alive, it wants to circulate.
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But not only that, when you take in that deep,
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beautiful breath that you have us take, it gets you
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so focused in on your body, it gets you grounded so
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that you can be in the present moment.
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So in a lot of the work that you do
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and some of the work that I do is it's
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that motion of awareness.
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So it's massively essential what it is that you do in that
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Breathing is the most important thing we do.
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And, uh, breathing in a good way
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and know what, uh, what what breath can do to you,
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what you're oxygen as your body is so important.
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Yeah, absolutely.
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Um, if you're wondering who is Aaron
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and who is s we did a podcast, uh,
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a few weeks back, and I want to just, uh, say to you,
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I will post a link, uh, underneath the, the description
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of the podcast as well to that, uh, to that episode.
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Uh, tune in there in the first, uh, four me five minutes,
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you'll learn exactly all about Erin.
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And of course, underneath this podcast as well,
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you will get all the links to social media that Erin has
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where you can reach out to her,
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where you can ask questions, et cetera.
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So it's a bit like every time we're introducing ourselves
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takes away time and people, people
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who are watching all the time, they know,
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they know us by now.
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Yeah. So, exactly.
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Um, last time we talked about how powerful we are
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as human beings, and I was thinking before we,
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before I tuned in, uh, with you here on Zoom, uh, Aaron,
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about who are we, uh, who are you as a person
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and, and, and how do I feel about who I am
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as a person or human being?
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I, I, I tend to say like I, I tend to see us
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as human beings that are using
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our full potential, like with your work
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in coaching, with your knowledge about also psychology
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and, and, and also the more spiritual side of things.
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And like we talked about how powerful we are,
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and we are going to talk today about, uh, manifestation
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and a law of assumption as well.
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Um, we use this in everyday life, right?
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Uh, so I almost tend to say like I'm, I'm utilizing
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all functionality that I know about a human being has.
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Mm-hmm. And,
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and I feel when I started, personally,
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when I started doing this work, especially self-regulation
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and meditation, because that, that taps into that awareness
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of who your whole being, not only your five senses
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or the physical world,
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but I mean, that's, that's only a 0.5
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to 1% of what is reality actually, if you say,
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if you look at it with a, a physicist, uh, kind of view.
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And, and being able to utilize more than that
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and also get results from that.
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I feel I, when I started doing this work,
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I always felt like I'm more whole.
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Not that I don't get sick or anything like that,
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but I feel like more whole as a human being.
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What do you feel or think about that, Erin?
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Oh, goodness. In getting into this work, you do feel
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a lot more whole.
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And yes, you're a sense of humanity, yes, that connection
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to other people, but also you start to become very
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self-aware of yourself, your life, your experiences,
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what you've been through, what you haven't worked on.
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And every single aspect of it gets brought up to you to
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witness and to decide to transmute into healing energy
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or to whatever it is that you would need at the time.
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So when you do say yes to this work, when you do say yes
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to this path, which everyone who would be listening to it,
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anyone who would find their way to it, it they will,
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they will find their way.
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They are in their own way saying yes, in that moment.
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They're going to start to notice all
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of these unique things about them.
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So, um, it's, it's not just
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that it makes you feel whole, it shows you everything
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that has been a strength of yours, what has been an excuse.
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It puts you out in front of yourself in such a unbridled,
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undeniable, authentic way that, um, you have
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to kind of see yourself in that new light.
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And it's not like you have to see yourself as superhuman,
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because it's not like anyone is better or worse than anyone.
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It's like taking away just this basic concept
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of you are just walking through an experience in this world.
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You are in fact the experience of the world.
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You are not separate from the sunlight
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that's coming towards you, the shadows
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that you cast upon life, the neighbors that you have,
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the pets that you choose to have.
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Everything that you are, everything
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that you witness is in collaboration with itself.
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Does that make sense? Yeah.
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It, we, it's all connected.
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And, and that's, that's the beauty of it.
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When you realize that
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and become more aware of that, like, oh, wow.
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And, and everything, uh, like we talked about last time
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or the state of being,
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and we most likely will go into this today as well.
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You, your, your state of being determines
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how you experience your reality
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and also what you pick up, um, more
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of, right?
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Because def your state of being the frequency you are in,
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uh, both psychologically
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and energetically, you are, you are getting, um, you get you
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on your path through life, through the,
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throughout the day even you are getting confronted with
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things that match that state of being you are in.
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And and that's why I want to talk about the law as
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of assumption and a law of attraction as well,
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and manifestation, because that's the whole
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everything together, it's all overlaps.
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It's partially the same.
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Uh, it's just different way of, of, of, of, of,
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of explaining things.
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I I say them, uh, it,
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it all comes together in this beautiful way that, okay,
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my frequency, the way I feel is how the way,
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partially how the way other people see me
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and influence how they see me.
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And it's also how the world reacts to me.
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Um, and that it's, if it's, if that sounds spiritual,
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it's actually not because just, just become,
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just get up in the morning and go to work
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and decide to be a grateful person
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that day and show gratitude.
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21st of September was World's Gratitude Day,
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and I've been talking about gratitude ever since.
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Um, but it's suddenly, it's the key to manifestation.
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I always say, because when you are in a state of gratitude,
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you will naturally come across things throughout the day
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to be grateful for even if something negative happens,
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when you are in a state of gratitude,
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you have that frequency.
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You, you, you, you notice a that sucks,
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but your experience of it is that it sucks less
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because you have a state of gratitude
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and tends to be more grateful for it than you would be
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otherwise if you were not.
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So it's less, you experience it as less negative.
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So I fully agree with that.
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In addition to that, it,
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I do feel like gratitude is not just about, um,
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the, it's not just about good.
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It's what commands your focus.
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It's what stands out above everything else
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that is in vibration with you.
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So, um, what is it that you are grateful for
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that you keep chiming into, that you keep, uh, seeing
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that is like the good or the challenge around you?
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Okay, so yes, when you wake up, you choose how you are going
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to preset your day.
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What is it that you want to experience?
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What is it that you wanna feel that you wanna see?
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And generally it's a, it's a, you want to start the day off
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with a positive op.
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Well, optimism. It's optimism.
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I can't really fathom somebody who wakes up
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and just wants to make the entire day a nightmare.
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You wanna know, I'm gonna treat myself today.
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I'm gonna see how much I can hate today,
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how much I can hurt things, how many people I can tick off.
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I'm looking forward to flipping everybody off in traffic.
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I can't imagine that that would be something
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that people wanna have as a preset
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to their day in the world.
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And it's not just that there's going
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to be things that either s uh,
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open the, the pathway for that gratitude that's going
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to fall in line with that optimism
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that you wanna start the day.
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Um, did you ever see that sleeper hit of 2008?
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Uh, the Secret, I know you've heard pr, you've,
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I know everybody did.
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Like it's not, that was a tip
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of the iceberg. Did you ever see it?
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I read it, I seen it,
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and yeah, like you say, it's the tip of the iceberg.
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It doesn't tell you everything.
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Did you ever see the follow up to that?
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What the bleep do we know? It's actually called bleep.
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They don't, okay. Yeah.
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So we have all of these, um,
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oh God, it's that wolf guy.
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Uh, it's, it's a type of,
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it's not a psychologist, it's like a physiologist
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or something to that effect.
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But, uh, they do all these studies on energy.
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And in the secret, there was this, uh, instance
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where this woman, she woke up
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and she flipping stubbed her foot getting outta bed,
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and it was, it was awful.
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And have you ever woken up and you just hit your foot
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and it's instant pain the moment that you wake up.
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Mm-hmm. How did that set the tone for the day,
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and how did you turn it around?
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Were you able to turn it around?
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How can you take a challenge that's put in front
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of an intention and transmute it?
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I think that's kind of what I wanted to get
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to at that point in time.
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So let me ask you, how can, how can you start off
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with an intention, see the next step after that,
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and either accept it or transmute it into something else?
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What has been sub's experience with that?
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Uh, when I get up in the morning,
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and I have this, I, I, I, I haven't, I haven't hurt my foot,
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so I have almost fallen out of bed once, but, uh, but,
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but I, I like everybody else, especially on a Monday,
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uh, I like, oh, I have to get into work.
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But I overwrite that
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because I mean, even if that's,
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that's why I do my morning meditation.
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And, and I noticed more and more people doing that.
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They, they have a morning routine where they just have,
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just use five minutes for themselves to, to, to set their
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state of being, to set their intention
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for the day, basically.
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And that's what does it for me.
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I mean, because I know from experience
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and everybody else will experience that, that, okay,
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when I get out of bed with a bad mood
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and I drag that with me throughout the day, it's not going
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to be a good day, right?
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Mm-hmm. Uh, and, and, and for me, I'm always concerned
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not when I, I worked a lot with, with cancer patients, like,
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you know, from the, from a last conversation, uh,
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I don't want that mood to, uh,
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to be transferred to my patients.
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That's not, that's no help for them.
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I mean, I'm, I'm not, that's not my work.
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So I have to, uh, I won't say trench mood.
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I have, I have it as knowledge, right?
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Oh, today I got up, we're in a less pleasant mood,
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but I reset that meditation reset, like just what we did
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a few minutes ago before we started this session.
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It's so important, uh, to do
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because you reset, you refocus,
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and all the things that you were busy with, like
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what I said, your Instagram, whatever, that's
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what you also can have in the morning.
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Oh, I have to check my mails, et cetera.
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Like, no, don't do that. Mm-hmm.
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Just, you just reset time for yourself. I'm here right now.
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What do I want to bring to my day?
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How do I want to be treated? How do I want to treat others?
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How, what, what state of being do I want?
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How can I be both pleasant to myself
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and others and be productive?
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Mm-hmm. And that is so immensely true.
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And the thing is, I look on both sides of this.
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And while you're saying that's true,
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and you have to take five minutes for yourself,
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you'll find situations
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and people will be like, well, I don't have five minutes.
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I have to get up and go, all right, well,
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you could get up five minutes earlier, can't you?
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Well, I can't 'cause I need my sleep. Okay?
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So what you're telling me is your experience,
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you feel limited in your decisions,
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and you feel like you have to accept the reality
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that you are working and running on other people's dimes.
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You time your efforts is all to be utility to everyone else,
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and you are just here to be whatever for somebody else.
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And then the fact is, that is such a limiting mental belief,
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and that is actually where their,
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where their assumption is, that's
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who they see themselves as.
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That's what they have forfeited, I guess, their power into,
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I'm going to do this because I don't know any other way,
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or I am not allowed any other way,
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and I am, I'm here to challenge that.
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You can, they may not like it.
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You may get some blow back on that,
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but it's not for you to just fold
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underneath that pressure.
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This is where it's, is this gonna be my excuse
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or is this gonna be my determination?
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You may not wanna get up five minutes early
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because that snooze alarm is so immensely attractive,
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but you are going to have to learn to put through
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that discipline.
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Discipline is not always gonna
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to be something that you wanna do.
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And it leads to this idea of somebody faking it.
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That's the imposter syndrome.
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And that's the thing, as you are developing a new pattern,
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I, I don't care how small it is, a new way of being.
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Again, don't care how small it is.
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You are deviating from these deep grooves
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of programming within yourself that you have either agreed
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to or that you have, uh, that have been pressured on you.
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And you're going to have resistance on that.
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But it's not that it's not right for you
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or that you're not meant to do this.
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You have to decide if this is something
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that you truly do want for yourself,
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and then act on that, which,
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that puts the power back in your hands.
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Okay, no, I really wanna do this.
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I'm gonna try, I'm gonna keep trying.
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If I fail, I'm gonna try again.
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And eventually, I don't care how long it is, it is going
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to click into place, you will be begrudgingly getting up
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that extra five minutes early,
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but you're going to start to have an easier time
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after a while, and then it's gonna become just as easy
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as if it were already set
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before, in the while back when you weren't doing this.
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You start in a place of just
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complete fresh platform for you.
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It is up for you to decide if you wanna go through with it.
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Do you get what I'm saying? Yeah.
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And I would say it's, it actually quite natural
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to not wanting to do is
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because when I think back about my kids
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and maybe those that are, are watching
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and listening, they have kids by themselves, for themselves.
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Uh, my kids didn't want
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to have their clothes on in the morning.
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Yeah, right. It's like, ah, I don't care.
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I want to just go up and play. Right? Yeah.
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And, and it's, and, and, and,
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but you, you, you learn that you how
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to take your clothes on in the morning yourself, you mm-hmm.
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You learn how to brush your teeth in the morning
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and in the evenings.
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You didn't want to do that before either.
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It's like, what's a waste of time? Mm-hmm.
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So, okay, now you're an adult,
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but you can still learn, right?
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You can still say, oh,
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that I can't get up five minutes early,
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but what if I go to bed five minutes early
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and then also get up five minutes earlier in the morning?
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I just move my whole night, five minutes is I, I would like
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to get to, to bed five minutes earlier
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because I'm tired in the evening.
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Oh, okay. Well,
26:51
naturally you would just move your whole night,
26:54
five minutes, and all
26:55
of a sudden you're awake five minutes earlier
26:57
and you, what you, what you didn't want
27:01
to do in the evening, you can now do in the, in the morning
27:04
because you're awake
27:06
and ready to, to take a little reset a little time
27:08
for yourself to, to prepare yourself for the day.
27:13
And you're going to meet in those instances, people
27:17
who are actually going to have
27:18
to decide if they are that person.
27:20
And it's not a bad thing.
27:22
So it's like, okay, no, this is stupid. I don't wanna do it.
27:26
I just wanna sleep in. I just, I want to be able to do this.
27:30
But like we were talking about before,
27:32
before we're on this, you are going to start
27:35
to see the difference in people
27:38
and how they want to start being more for themselves.
27:42
It's not, again, better or worse, it's not better or worse.
27:45
It's just that different caliber.
27:47
You know, how people do like this work routine, this diet,
27:51
this exercise routine.
27:53
And they'll have like the cheat days,
27:56
the cheat days when they're like, okay, now I can relax.
27:59
I can do what I really wanna do.
28:01
What they really wanna do that is still the base of
28:03
who they are and this,
28:05
and what they're behaving
28:07
with throughout the rest of the days.
28:09
That's who they aspire to be.
28:10
But there needs to be a transition from who they are into
28:13
what they wanna be with less of a, with less
28:17
of a shift, if that makes sense.
28:20
So eventually that person is not going
28:22
to just stay on that routine.
28:24
They're either going to be all about that new life
28:27
that they're stepping into,
28:29
or they're just going to start being like, I want
28:31
that extra day off, the additional day off.
28:32
And then they're going to slip back into patterns
28:35
of behavior that are enabling for themselves,
28:39
but it's not getting them to where they wanna be.
28:41
So they learn to want less, they learn to want to do less.
28:45
They learn to want to, well, I don't wanna say be immobile
28:50
or anything like that, because it's not like that,
28:52
but it's just
28:56
take away from the growing in their life.
28:59
Yeah.
29:01
Not just stagnate or just stay the same.
29:04
Mm-hmm. Um, I, I, I would, what I find, uh, interesting
29:08
or challenge is I was thinking,
29:10
how can I make it more fun mm-hmm.
29:14
For people like, uh, turn things into more of a game.
29:18
Like they, people get more engaged into changing.
29:22
Mm-hmm. I think that that would be a great part
29:26
because one of the things that you start to see with others
29:30
as they move on to different energy levels in life,
29:33
they think they have to present a certain way.
29:36
And the thing is, the world needs you to kind
29:39
of be uniquely yourself.
29:40
And before everything was compartmentalized and structured
29:44
before you, you were this abstract piece of art
29:48
that was just kind of designing its way through the world.
29:51
You need to take that design and elevate it up with you.
29:53
Does that make sense? Yep.
29:54
Yep. Absolutely.
29:57
So with the unique character that you are,
30:00
with the life experience that you have had,
30:03
which it's different
30:04
for all 8 billion people on this planet,
30:06
from the 8 billion different perspectives that we have,
30:09
what is unique
30:11
and so special about you that you can still have like this
30:16
elevation in the vibration of what it is that you want
30:19
to experience in the own unique way that you can?
30:23
So that's, that breaks it down even more.
30:26
It's this big convoluted, um, yeah,
30:30
I'm gonna say this energy field, it is
30:32
that sense of oneness.
30:34
Yeah, it is. And this is where I start to kind
30:38
of get into the chaos theory of it,
30:40
because it is the sense of oneness
30:43
and its uniqueness on the same breast.
30:46
It is the sense of having these different levels
30:49
and then having the reach up
30:51
and that you just see something that is on level
30:54
with you that is different.
30:56
And, um, I know that this is gonna sound just as weird
30:59
as it is, but everything is,
31:01
and it isn't at the same time, it is the zeros
31:04
and the ones that you get to experience in life.
31:07
Is it going to be your on switch?
31:08
Is this going to be your Yes.
31:10
And what is it that you are saying no to? Does that compute?
31:15
I know how it can sound
31:16
because it just, it's an experience, it's a perception.
31:20
It's a decision of awareness.
31:25
And the, um, I would say,
31:31
um, uh, this, the, I would say that's, that's
31:35
how life is, right?
31:37
And also, we all experience our lives in different ways.
31:42
Mm-hmm. Uh, because we have our culture, our history,
31:47
what we've learned at school,
31:48
what we've learned from our parents.
31:50
Uh, we all have the world according to me, right?
31:55
You have your world according to you.
31:56
You are, you're, you are born
31:59
and raised in a different side of the globe,
32:02
uh, me as well.
32:04
So we have different culture, different perspective,
32:06
and that's what, what this, what fun part is,
32:09
I think we talked about it last time as well,
32:11
but the, the, instead of, uh, looking at it
32:14
as being different, we should combine all those experience
32:18
because that's what we, that's what connects us, right?
32:22
When we combine all the experience and combine all our views
32:28
and not look at it as being, uh, different and,
32:31
and necessarily something bad, but just as,
32:34
and as be open to it and,
32:36
and try to understand it from different perspectives.
32:40
It gives you such a more broader view of the world
32:43
and life in itself.
32:44
It's it, which I think is helpful in itself
32:46
to navigate through true life.
32:49
Uh, yeah, we did touch on it.
32:51
It was either the big mosaic painting
32:53
or the quilt, the very thread that you are, that makes you
32:56
so unique in what your place is in the world.
32:59
Hmm. And it stands just as true as it does now.
33:02
So one of the things is, is what do you want?
33:07
Do you like who you are in life?
33:09
Do you like what you have or what you want in life?
33:11
If the answer is yes, then you keep doing what you're doing.
33:15
If not, then what are the changes that you need to make
33:19
to get on a higher vibration, to see things on
33:21
that higher vibration that are just so simple for you
33:24
to reach out and grab?
33:25
Because okay, let's think about it this way.
33:28
What is your vibration? What stands out to you the most?
33:31
What is your day to day for you?
33:33
For me, it's like you wake up
33:36
and I hit that snooze at least once.
33:38
I do, no matter how hard I try, it's,
33:41
it's a reflex at this point.
33:43
And I'm that person who wants to have
33:44
that additional sweet extra 10 minutes of sleep.
33:48
But then my favorite thing to do is to go make that cup
33:53
of coffee, because I can smell the aroma.
33:55
It is such a simple pleasure.
33:56
And I know exactly the way that I like to make my coffee.
33:59
And the exact way that I like to enjoy it,
34:02
and the exact time
34:03
that I'm having it is when I'm having my first session
34:06
with my first client, where she's in a different part
34:08
of the state and we're doing a morning exercise routine.
34:13
Like that is the person that I am.
34:15
I wanna wake up and I want to start the day with something
34:19
that is simple, that is going to allow me
34:21
to be helpful to somebody else.
34:23
My sons are old enough to
34:25
where one is a sophomore in college
34:26
and he gets himself ready for school,
34:29
and the other one he doesn't take much to get ready.
34:32
So this, it's like, it's something that is pretty automatic.
34:36
Everybody is in their comfortable routines,
34:39
and it's like a baseline of having comfort to start the day,
34:43
to be of service,
34:47
and to have a time of interpersonal education, a time of,
34:52
you know, having chaotic busyness
34:54
and seeing how far, uh, you can reach out to others to be
34:58
of service, to be of help to them,
35:00
because that is work that feels so validating.
35:02
That's work that makes my soul feel like it's enriched
35:05
and that it's filled with life.
35:07
And it's just to see somebody
35:09
and to know that their transition
35:11
and something clicks into place
35:13
and that highlight in their eyes, that is a vibration.
35:16
I love to witness change in others.
35:21
So my preset, my vibration
35:23
of everything is looking for evolution.
35:27
It's absolutely a passion.
35:30
So if I were to ask you,
35:32
what is your preset, what is your routine?
35:35
What does this say about you? Who are you to this?
35:38
Is this something that you like?
35:40
And do you still wanna pursue it?
35:41
If the answer is yes, then you follow that.
35:43
If not, then what needs to change?
35:45
So, Seb, what is your preset? Who are you in this world?
35:49
How does that feel for you?
35:51
Almost the same, except for the coffee
35:53
and the snooze button, because, uh,
35:56
if I hit the SNOO button,
35:57
I don't trust the snooze button to wake me up again.
35:59
So I get up straight away,
36:03
Oh, Get up straight away.
36:05
I actually, I, I, I either lay down, I shouldn't do that,
36:08
but I do that quite often.
36:10
But normally I should sit down in my bed,
36:14
close my eyes again, not fall asleep,
36:16
and just, okay, which, what, what thoughts do I have now?
36:20
Just check in with myself.
36:21
And I, I've made that, I've made that my routine
36:24
because that's what I did.
36:27
Uh, from that moment, I decided to change myself
36:30
because I was in a situation where I was maybe losing my job
36:34
and I wasn't pretty happy with myself
36:36
and the world around me.
36:37
So that routine worked so well for me that I just kept that.
36:42
And it's also, therefore, I also recommend people
36:44
to do a short self check in self-regulation,
36:48
meditation, whatever you want to call it.
36:50
Uh, and, and like you, um, I, I,
36:55
I am a service to the people, to the world, to,
37:00
to myself, because that's essentially the same, right?
37:04
We all together connected.
37:05
And even if you feel, even if you do something
37:08
for somebody else, uh, there is this mirror effect.
37:11
It affects you as well.
37:13
Um, and I have the same experience as you.
37:15
Like, if you have a client in the morning
37:17
or later the day, doesn't matter.
37:19
The moment you see things, click with them
37:23
and oh, and you see them.
37:24
That's like, like having a baby
37:26
that takes its first steps, right?
37:28
And, and, and nails it right away. It's like, yes.
37:31
I mean, to be happy, uh, on behalf
37:34
of others is such a great feeling.
37:37
Uh, and, and,
37:38
and see people get it, that it gives so much gratitude
37:41
and satisfaction, uh, that that's what I also, I'm
37:45
so excited about and, and live for.
37:48
Uh, and even in, in, in the corporate world,
37:51
it is the same if you work for a company, uh,
37:54
where you sit in the office all day, there is still some,
37:57
you be you, you're being of, of, of service,
38:01
uh, no matter what.
38:04
That's, that's like, you're not, of course, uh,
38:08
getting your paycheck is important in this world, right?
38:13
But that isn't the only thing you getting up in the morning,
38:18
uh, go to work, be with your colleagues,
38:21
do something together that
38:26
I hope, I hope for your, you
38:28
and your company, is something beneficial for the world, uh,
38:33
is that service you are providing.
38:36
Yeah. So, yeah. And even if mm-hmm.
38:40
Inter interactions with your colleagues.
38:42
I mean, uh, for me, the first time I heard I, I got a,
38:47
a sign of gratitude or a compliment from a colleague.
38:50
It was so enlightening for me, a colleague that said to me,
38:54
oh, sep, it's so nice to work together with you,
38:56
because then everything goes more smoothly.
38:58
Like, everything just flows. I said, oh, okay.
39:02
Just, just those small kind of hints,
39:04
just a little compliment here, a little notice, like, oh,
39:09
I know, I noticed that, but people feel seen.
39:13
Mm-hmm. Even those small gestures that give
39:15
so much in return and just decide to do that.
39:19
You can, you can get up in the morning
39:22
and you have no clue what you are going to do.
39:25
Just say to yourself, set the intention today.
39:27
When I'm at work and I find something positive I see
39:32
with a colleague, or I want to thank them in some way, uh,
39:37
uh, notify them that I see them, I,
39:41
that I appreciate why that they're here
39:43
with me, that we work together.
39:45
Just a little gesture,
39:47
just two words may be all it takes.
39:51
And, and just notice how that feels. Yeah.
39:54
And that's already being of service.
39:57
You're absolutely right. And it's so important
39:59
to be validated.
40:01
I don't care who you are or
40:02
how proud you feel like you have to be.
40:04
If you want people to just ignore you, that's not
40:07
genuinely the case.
40:08
There's a reason why you're feeling that way,
40:11
but words without any kind of action,
40:14
you just feel like you're being manipulate
40:16
and manipulated and lied to.
40:18
If you have just action with no words,
40:21
it makes a person feel invisible.
40:23
When you have action
40:25
and words, it feels completely validating
40:29
and witnessed in your life.
40:32
You have mattered. You have a voice, you have a place.
40:36
And that's kind of what everybody is wanting,
40:38
either on a conscious or a subconscious level.
40:41
You have people who want to just be away from everyone
40:45
and do their own little thing
40:46
and have that validation in themselves that they don't have
40:49
to be bothered by another human being.
40:51
And they have that for their own specific reasons
40:54
that they have been.
40:56
So, uh, the reasons are going to vary.
40:59
But for all intents
41:00
and purposes, uh, for this instance, a person
41:03
who would wanna be away from everyone and everything,
41:05
and just have their own little small place in the world,
41:07
in the woods where nobody bothers them, that's
41:09
because this person has either been taken too much,
41:12
or they have, well, not that they have taken too much,
41:15
but people have either invalidated
41:20
or sucked the life force outta them too much,
41:22
where they don't trust that people
41:23
aren't going to do it again.
41:25
They just wanna be isolated alone
41:26
and recuperate and heal themselves.
41:28
Or you have all the people who want all the acknowledgement,
41:32
all of the recognition,
41:34
because it's something that they had not had.
41:37
And they are looking for that sense
41:39
of fulfillment in themselves.
41:40
And it's okay to want attention.
41:43
It's okay to wanna be witnessed.
41:44
We are cohabiting creatures.
41:46
We're not meant to be isolated
41:48
and away from absolutely everyone
41:50
and everything, even though sometimes that we want to.
41:53
So when a coworker is telling you, God, everything just runs
41:57
so smoothly with when you're here, you know, I don't know
42:00
what we would do without you that proves to you
42:03
that your actions and your place of service is one
42:06
of the most helpful things,
42:08
and that nobody is taking it for granted.
42:11
And that makes your sense of purpose, your sense of energy
42:15
and desire to do that, to be even more so,
42:18
it's feeling in alignment
42:19
with purpose. Does that make sense?
42:22
Yeah. And it, and it can transform, uh,
42:25
the work environments completely.
42:27
Mm-hmm. Uh, especially in high stress environments.
42:31
Uh, it gives team spirit,
42:33
it gives recognition to each one another.
42:35
And you, and you also feel less alone.
42:38
And you notice you're working together towards a goal.
42:43
And I love, love, love that you say that
42:44
and that togetherness,
42:45
because that is raising up that, that sense
42:49
of not only the law of assumption,
42:51
but that sense of oneness.
42:52
If everybody is building each other up in an authentic way,
42:56
then the entire vibration of the environment comes up,
43:00
and that goes into the next crowd of people,
43:02
because it is bearing witness to
43:04
what it is that you are doing.
43:05
And that starts to become elevated.
43:08
And one of the things that goes with
43:10
that is the genuine authenticness of, if we're listening
43:15
or witnessing or interacting with something
43:17
that is probably not the best,
43:19
but we're saying that it is, that's going to start
43:22
to show immense pitfalls immediately,
43:25
because it's not anything that is being worked on.
43:28
It's just being yes to death.
43:29
It's an echo chamber of, I don't wanna say toxic positivity,
43:34
but it's an echo chamber of delusion.
43:37
So if you have something where everybody's rising up,
43:41
and then we have over here, uh, most of it rising up,
43:46
and then there's this little part that's like, no, we'll,
43:48
we'll drag you along with this.
43:49
No, come on, you'll get it eventually.
43:51
And it's still not doing the work.
43:52
You're going to have to see that for what that part is
43:56
and address it immediately like this.
43:59
And this is what this is not doing.
44:01
This is what this needs to be done.
44:03
And you have to decide if this is truly for you
44:07
or if you would feel different in a different vibrational
44:09
wavelength or a different area, different compartment.
44:12
So it really does not, it's not a level of separation,
44:18
but if something isn't authentically on level with you,
44:21
it's either going to have to step up
44:23
or it's going to have to, to step aside into something else,
44:27
because that will not be sustainable in the long run.
44:31
It can be there for a little bit in the hopes
44:33
of something is going to be transmuted,
44:35
but it's not going to be able to move
44:38
as forward as you would like. Does that make sense?
44:40
Yeah, exactly. Uh, yeah, that's the whole dynamic.
44:44
But, uh, I wanna go back a little bit about,
44:47
uh, law of assumption.
44:49
Yes. Because people might be wondering,
44:51
when are we going to talk about that?
44:53
You said the words a couple of times,
44:55
but that's actually what we, what, uh, are you,
44:58
do you agree when I say what we've been doing now so far,
45:01
and also in other talks,
45:03
and we'll, mostly likely do in other,
45:05
and in common talks as well, is
45:08
that we change people's assumptions.
45:11
Yes. And your job in this world is to
45:16
see your assumption and to decide what it is that you are.
45:19
If I tell you not to think of an orange car,
45:23
you're gonna think of an orange car.
45:24
If I tell you, don't look for an orange car,
45:26
you're gonna start to see orange cars pop around
45:29
because your brain works like a colander,
45:32
and it's going to start to filter out what feels like it's
45:37
authentically you.
45:39
Yep. What, what is authentically called to it, what
45:41
what it's supposed to pay attention to.
45:44
You become what it is that you pay attention to the most.
45:47
Your reality starts to become what you pay attention
45:51
to the most, for better or for worse.
45:54
So you'll have situations
45:57
and people who are thinking about death disease,
46:00
and they, they can't think about it.
46:01
They can't go near it.
46:03
And suddenly it's this, oh, crap,
46:05
something real is happening.
46:07
I can't believe this is happening.
46:08
I've been watching out for this whole time. Yeah.
46:10
You've been watching out for this whole time,
46:14
and you should have been living your life.
46:16
You should have been, you know, doing your best
46:19
and not living in that fear state.
46:21
There's so many elements to that.
46:24
So in the law assumption, what is it that you,
46:27
that feels the most natural that you see?
46:29
What is it that you pay the most attention to?
46:32
You get it is, am I, am I explaining this? Well,
46:36
You do. And I want
46:37
to add to it, like, when people ask like,
46:39
does the laws as assumption work?
46:42
I say, yeah, because just look at the world around you.
46:44
Mm-hmm. Because we all assume things,
46:49
uh, to be true.
46:52
Uh, and, uh, and that also becomes our truth.
46:56
It's like we said in the start, the world, according to me,
47:00
or the world according to you,
47:02
we all have our different experiences based on that.
47:05
So that's our reality. What we experience.
47:08
Um, when you, I had a, in the workshop I had
47:13
that Saturday, there were some people from other countries,
47:17
uh, one woman from Poland, uh, for example.
47:20
And, and in Norway, and I don't know how this in the states,
47:23
but I, I reckon in, in, in, in many countries,
47:26
people are very, uh, occupied with where you're from.
47:31
Uh, so, so, oh, where you're from? Yeah, I'm from Poland.
47:34
Okay. And then
47:36
because they have heard things, they've learned things,
47:41
they assume that
47:42
that person from Poland is like everybody else from Poland.
47:46
Yep. And kind of like, so the view of
47:49
that Polish woman becomes be
47:53
that woman in front of you that you, that you said
47:56
that you learned about this polish.
47:58
You then assume a whole set of values
48:00
and things about her that might
48:05
or not, might not be true, but for you it's true.
48:07
So you assume certain things.
48:10
Um, and that's happens in everyday life.
48:14
It's, it's what what politics are run through as well.
48:17
We are getting fed with information
48:20
to make us assume that it's true.
48:23
Mm-hmm. Uh, so we assume that what the politicians say,
48:28
or what we talked about, uh,
48:30
before we, I had to record button
48:32
with you about radiation, for example.
48:34
We assume because it's coming from, uh,
48:37
what we think is a reliable source of choice we can trust
48:40
and we assume that it's, it's the truth doesn't have to be,
48:44
uh, but we base our reality on it.
48:49
And, and for better and worse.
48:53
And, uh, that I, I would say the law of assumption,
48:56
if you change your way of thinking, your exp your,
48:59
your perspective on things, you start
49:01
to assume different things.
49:02
Your reality different too.
49:04
It's very natural for human beings
49:07
to think what's the worst things that can happen?
49:09
That's, that's very natural. That's our survival instinct.
49:13
When we are in a place
49:15
and we want to survive, it's from na from a,
49:18
the time we grew, we, we were living in middle of nature.
49:23
What is the worst that can happen right now? Right.
49:25
Where's the tire coming from?
49:27
Uh, I should better sit in that space
49:30
because the wind is coming from that direction.
49:33
So we are always preparing
49:34
for the worst things that natural.
49:36
But if, well, if we are going to think about, okay,
49:39
what's the worst that can happen to us?
49:41
If we going to change that and,
49:43
and think what is the best that can happen to us?
49:46
We assume the worst.
49:47
We assume the best instead of the worst.
49:49
Mm-hmm. As a way to protect ourselves.
49:53
Well, you start needing reasons to protect yourself,
49:55
and everything starts looking like a threat.
49:58
Yeah. Yay.
49:59
So you enter everything with a wall up,
50:02
and you're suddenly a barrier from everything,
50:05
and it's just, it's unreachable.
50:07
There has to be something, a light in the,
50:10
and there has to be a light, a hope in the dark
50:11
that chips away at that wall
50:13
and starts to show you that life is not all bad,
50:16
and that you life that you wanna live is possible.
50:20
But you have to stop looking outside
50:24
and start looking inside and communicating.
50:27
Like as I'm talking to you, suddenly I started coughing.
50:30
Something needs to be communicated from the inside out.
50:34
What is the baseline? Where have you been?
50:36
What has set up these thoughts inside of you,
50:38
and why is it that you still believe them?
50:40
It's a point of questioning everything about yourself.
50:42
And yes, it seems daunting,
50:44
but you've gotta be that bouncer of the internal club
50:47
that's going on with you.
50:50
So if you're looking at everything like it's going
50:53
to be a threat to you, if it's going to make you sick,
50:56
my God, are you going to be a walking nervous case
50:59
and everything is gonna be out to get you?
51:01
But if you have even anything that can switch into a shred
51:06
of hope and a shred of light in the dark, you can follow
51:09
that and start to minuscule on a molecular level, start
51:13
to transition from one place to another inside of yourself.
51:17
And your assumptions about the world
51:18
and how it responds to you is gonna start
51:20
to be in correlation.
51:24
It's personal evolution.
51:28
Exactly. Yeah.
51:29
And that change is important, uh,
51:31
for those working in healthcare and,
51:33
and trying to communicate
51:35
to their patients all the side effects
51:38
of treatment.
51:42
How do you think a patient that is, uh, assuming the worst
51:48
is going to react when you, uh, when you say, oh,
51:52
when you just give a list
51:53
of all the side effects of the treatment mm-hmm.
51:56
I've experienced it myself.
51:57
If you say it can, it can be that you feel this and that,
52:00
and this and that, and the next day they come back and,
52:02
and they have had all the side effects.
52:05
Mm-hmm. Because they, they, they assume
52:08
that this can happen, but the mo
52:10
but the moment you tell them, I have to tell them,
52:12
I have to tell this to you.
52:14
So you, you know, it, you,
52:17
but most of the time, this doesn't happen to any anybody.
52:22
Mm-hmm. But if you experience it, you know that it's,
52:24
that it's normal or it can happen.
52:26
You don't have to worry about it.
52:28
If you start your conversation and then say this and this
52:31
and that, that can can happen.
52:33
But often
52:34
or not, it, you don't, you don't notice anything. That's a whole
52:39
Thing.
52:40
Yeah. How do you get your clients, your patients, to
52:46
go beyond what the side effects could be
52:48
or what the negative reactions can be?
52:50
How do you get them to have a better response?
52:56
I'm, I'm asking, you know, you personally,
53:00
'cause I think that that is immensely great.
53:02
You can give them everything and be like,
53:04
I don't think this is gonna happen to you.
53:05
And I'll tell you why. So I wanna hear
53:08
what your thoughts are on that, what you know to be true.
53:12
Yeah. You don't have to lie about it.
53:13
You just say the facts. Right.
53:15
Because the, the, the thing is, uh, in Norway,
53:18
at least nurses have
53:20
to tell their patients about the side effects,
53:22
because if they don't tell about it, they can,
53:25
the patient can say, Hey, I didn't know that.
53:28
Mm-hmm. Right. That I could get this.
53:30
And I, it scared me
53:31
and I No, maybe in the US you can sue sue your,
53:35
Oh God. Yeah. You can
53:36
As Well for wearing a black tie. Come on. Right.
53:39
So, uh, just say, I just say you have, I have
53:43
to tell you this, this is information about side effects
53:47
that can happen.
53:50
Uh, but they, they don't have to happen to you.
53:54
But if you notice, uh, I always say,
53:57
don't go and wait for it.
53:59
Just go your normal life.
54:02
But if you happen to notice something like this, this
54:05
and this and this and that, just know that it is normal.
54:08
It is no nothing to be afraid of.
54:12
And just when you come back to me next time,
54:15
just tell me about it.
54:17
And we follow up on that.
54:19
And it's just the soothing, instead of giving them a list
54:24
and not preparing them for, for it.
54:27
If, if, if your patient
54:28
or your client is in that state of, in a mindset of
54:32
what is the worst that can happen to me, then then they're
54:35
Gonna find out, then Find it.
54:37
And, and the placebo effect is very strong.
54:41
Oh, god. Yeah. People's resilience
54:43
and desire to live is incredible.
54:45
Yeah. I can give a piece of paper with a side effect
54:47
to say this, this is what can happen and be done with it.
54:53
Then people can interpret it as OI, oh, I have to make sure
54:57
that this, and this doesn't happen, like you said
54:59
with the orange scar, right?
55:00
Mm-hmm. Don't look at the orange scar,
55:02
and then you, you start searching for it.
55:05
It's everywhere. Then side effects.
55:07
Yeah. So in changing their mind
55:11
and getting them to be optimistic instead of playing on,
55:15
you know, the se well, not the seriousness,
55:18
I'm sorry, poor choice of words.
55:19
In that instead of playing on fears, instead
55:22
of playing on the warnings of everything
55:24
and just informing them, getting them to see the hope in it,
55:27
getting them see that, how resilient they are, getting them
55:30
to see that not everything is lost.
55:33
And showing them that they are,
55:35
for the most part in control.
55:37
They do have the ability to overcome things.
55:41
And it's not just about the resilience,
55:43
but that's honestly where you can see miracles happen.
55:47
I've seen people come back from what, like in documentaries
55:51
and sometimes in personal life,
55:52
I've seen people come back from, like,
55:55
I've seen people come back from cancer.
55:58
I've seen people come back from, you know,
56:00
long-term illness and disease.
56:02
But I've also seen somebody who is probably one
56:05
of the most pessimistic down ridden people go in for one
56:09
of the most common surgeries that had no issues with it,
56:13
and they passed on the table.
56:15
This happened, I wanna say 15 years ago.
56:18
And this person who should not have passed,
56:20
who had no medical issues from the hospital's end,
56:25
she just didn't make it through her.
56:27
She could not get through the surgery,
56:29
and it was a common surgery,
56:33
and they couldn't find anything in the report as
56:36
to something that was wrong.
56:39
There's always something that can happen.
56:41
There's always a risk. And that's always in life.
56:44
You can walk out the door one morning
56:46
and get hit by a truck.
56:49
Absolutely. And, and, and, and I mean,
56:51
these things happen.
56:52
I mean, if you are going to be concerned about that,
56:56
then you are, yeah.
56:58
You can't even sit inside your house
56:59
because your roof might fall down.
57:02
I mean, that's, that's part of, of, of life.
57:05
And we shouldn't be afraid to live life, uh,
57:10
in including not be afraid of all the hazards we might
57:15
or might not have around us.
57:17
And joy, every pH moment, uh,
57:22
in my experience with, uh, with very sick
57:25
and young patients, it just, it helped me realize that
57:30
if I don't enjoy and make the best out of every day
57:35
and, and take care of myself
57:38
and my experience, uh, I mean,
57:43
that's what I, what I mean
57:45
by living a whole life and feeling whole.
57:47
It doesn't matter. I mean, I can, I can, if I,
57:52
if I, if I don't wake up the next tomorrow morning, uh, um,
57:58
for myself, I wouldn't be sad
58:01
because I know I,
58:04
I have done the things I could have done in the best
58:07
possible way I've tried.
58:09
Right. It's not that I feel sorry or anything like that.
58:13
Uh, it's more like, okay, I feel sad for my family,
58:16
you know, but that's, that's even, even that.
58:20
But those are things, I mean, it's all part
58:24
of life, life and death.
58:27
Uh, and, and, and,
58:28
and what I find sad is people who don't, who don't,
58:34
and I, I respect them nevertheless,
58:36
but people who don't want to open up
58:40
to becoming more than they are
58:43
becoming more than a human being,
58:45
as being defined in the dictionary.
58:48
Mm-hmm. And the whole co course
58:49
that's called you are more than a human being.
58:51
This, this just about that. Yeah.
58:53
Like what we talked about last time,
58:55
what you also tell your, your clients is we are so
58:59
immensely powerful.
59:00
And the lowest of assumption is also part of that.
59:04
We can learn to see the world in a different way, um,
59:09
in ways that are beneficial to us and others.
59:14
Uh, and, and like we said previously, uh, why,
59:17
why don't we assume, uh, what the best is that can happen?
59:22
Absolutely. And that's actually something
59:25
that I really love working with people with.
59:28
And it's not that things can't happen in life
59:32
and that you can't get things out of left field.
59:34
It's how are you going to respond?
59:36
Are you going to control yourself?
59:38
How are you going to adjust, adapt, and overcome?
59:41
And how are you going to recover from this?
59:44
Because it's not going to be something that's negative.
59:48
It's something that can be a challenge. Absolutely. Hmm.
59:52
But it's meant to, you know, it's meant for you
59:54
to overcome something.
59:55
It's meant for you to be powerful.
59:57
And one of the things that I really love teaching people
1:00:01
and getting them to see the power within themselves is
1:00:04
when they do have something that is, uh, kind of new
1:00:09
that's happening in their life, it's the fact that they can,
1:00:13
um, uh, I'm trying to find the words.
1:00:16
Hang on. It's on the tip of my tongue.
1:00:18
But it's, uh, them in that moment
1:00:22
not letting it derail them.
1:00:24
And it's something that they can use
1:00:26
as a stepping stone from themselves.
1:00:27
It's something that they're not only resilient from,
1:00:29
they come out stronger with,
1:00:31
and they have more sense of a freedom
1:00:34
and a relaxation in their life.
1:00:37
And one of my goals is whoever I'm working with, I don't,
1:00:40
because I, I work with people either short term
1:00:43
or long term, and it's perfectly fine.
1:00:44
People come and go and they are absolutely
1:00:46
wonderful all walks of life.
1:00:49
I never want somebody to finish their life dying.
1:00:51
I want them to finish their life.
1:00:54
Like, I don't want people to die.
1:00:56
I just want them to finish living, live a life that is
1:00:59
so fulfilling that it moves on
1:01:02
beyond their, their time here.
1:01:05
Like they have something that is a legacy to them,
1:01:08
that something that they can feel comfortable
1:01:10
and proud with, that they have a sense of peace with.
1:01:13
And I see that in some people, that they have a life that is
1:01:18
so amazing, so enriching for themselves,
1:01:21
and again, through all different walks of life.
1:01:24
And it's, when they finally go into that transition
1:01:29
of life into the afterlife, it's like,
1:01:32
it is a celebration of your life.
1:01:34
I can't believe all the things that you were able
1:01:36
to overcome, the footing you were able to make for yourself,
1:01:39
what, what it was that came after it.
1:01:41
The things that you healed within yourself
1:01:43
that transmuted into the external experience outside of you.
1:01:47
It is remarkable.
1:01:49
And I've seen some people that I work with,
1:01:52
and they have made reconnections and reconciliations
1:01:55
and closures in their life.
1:01:57
And that whoever that they had done in a few instances,
1:02:01
they had passed on.
1:02:02
They had finished living, and they got that sense
1:02:04
of closure, that sense of peace, that sense
1:02:06
of reconciliation.
1:02:08
There is truly that,
1:02:11
that I'm just gonna be super cheesy
1:02:13
and say the set sense of oneness.
1:02:15
Yeah. And
1:02:16
I, I want this very amazing what you say right now and,
1:02:20
and for people watching and,
1:02:21
and listening in, like, you don't have to be
1:02:24
the next dar lama
1:02:26
or the next president of the United States
1:02:28
to make an impact.
1:02:30
I mean, such, you have such a ripple effect
1:02:33
by just telling your colleague that you appreciate them.
1:02:37
Mm-hmm. Just that one little thing, I mean, that have such,
1:02:41
that can have such an impact on not maybe one person's life,
1:02:45
but think about that family of that person's life.
1:02:48
You're, uh, you're affected with that.
1:02:50
It has a ripple effect that goes
1:02:52
all over the world, in essence.
1:02:54
Absolutely. Uh, so, but the, and that's just a tiny thing.
1:02:59
It cost you two seconds of your life and two nice words.
1:03:04
And it's just, and, and, and,
1:03:06
and that's the amazing impact you, you have,
1:03:09
uh, on, on the world.
1:03:11
And that ripple effect has also a mirror effect
1:03:14
because it comes back to you.
1:03:17
It comes back to you.
1:03:18
The scent of the rose remains on the hand of the giver.
1:03:22
Yeah,
1:03:23
Exactly. Yeah.
1:03:24
And, and, and,
1:03:26
and then what I find so beautiful is when people
1:03:30
start doing this, they get it.
1:03:32
They notice it, they become aware of it,
1:03:35
and then it's like, oh, wow.
1:03:37
It's like a gift that keeps on giving and, and,
1:03:40
and forgive yourself for not feeling well one day
1:03:44
and not being in the mood one day because it's all allowed.
1:03:47
Right. We can't be, we can't be out there all the time.
1:03:53
I mean, we get a cold, we get in the, the flu.
1:03:57
Uh, we can fall from the stairs and break a leg, et cetera,
1:04:00
but know that you make an impact.
1:04:04
Well, different ways when you fall from the stairs as well.
1:04:08
But, but you make, you make it, you make it,
1:04:10
you have made an impact.
1:04:12
And even if you get into a situation where you, where you,
1:04:16
for example, break a leg, uh, you notice that ripple, that
1:04:21
that mirror effect coming back to you
1:04:23
because people will, uh, will acknowledge that Will, will,
1:04:27
will, will try to help you, will tune in
1:04:30
and say, Hey, how are you doing?
1:04:32
Right. Just because they, they know you as a person that is,
1:04:37
I won't say positive, but sees other people
1:04:40
and has an impact on the wh you're not
1:04:42
alone anymore. You never
1:04:45
Were. Yeah,
1:04:45
You never were. But you
1:04:46
do. You shouldn't feel that either
1:04:48
because, uh, just by doing small, small things
1:04:54
Well there and that you shouldn't feel alone.
1:04:58
That's something I think that we should address in a future
1:05:00
podcast and how we can be of service even more
1:05:04
to one another and be that sense of community that we
1:05:08
as human beings crave.
1:05:11
And, um, I think that there's, uh,
1:05:16
a polarity that I kind of want to get enmeshed in next time,
1:05:19
because I would love to have another one
1:05:21
with you if you're ever open up to it.
1:05:23
But, uh, yeah, I think that that sense of alone
1:05:26
and why is that happening, I think that'd be a great topic
1:05:30
to uncover next time.
1:05:32
Absolutely. Absolutely.
1:05:34
Uh, and a very good topic
1:05:36
for especially the Scandinavian countries.
1:05:39
Let's wrap it up. Yeah,
1:05:40
Let's wrap it up. That
1:05:41
was a really important note
1:05:43
to put things at for next time.
1:05:46
Hmm. Uh, so yeah. Thank you, Erin.
1:05:50
Thank you for having me. It's a pleasure.
1:05:52
Again, I feel I really enjoy these
1:05:56
Always interesting.
1:05:57
And, uh, I hope for those that are watching and,
1:05:59
and listening, uh, thank you for, uh, holding on
1:06:04
and keeping focus.
1:06:05
And I hope you made some notes.
1:06:07
And if you have questions, put them in the comments field,
1:06:10
uh, or look at the links that are posted under the videos
1:06:14
and under the audio recordings.
1:06:16
And, uh, contact, uh, Erin and, uh, and, uh,
1:06:19
and me directly if you, if you want to. Okay.
1:06:22
Thank you everybody for showing up today.
1:06:25
Great. Thank you everyone. Thank you, Erin.
1:06:28
Thank you. Thank.