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When You’re 64: Building the Marriage You’ll Want in Retirement · Doing Marriage Well

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  Doing Marriage Well for March 5th, 2026 When You're 64 Building the Marriage
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  You'll Want in Retirement Can't do a playlist week without a Beatles song, so today, When I'm 64.
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  The Beatles sing, Will You Still Need Me? Will You Still Feed Me? When I'm 64?
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  It's a cute lyric, until you realize plenty of couples reach their 60s feeling
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  more like roommates than spouses.
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  Will You Still Want Me When We Get Older? There's a more important question.
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  Are you doing things that keep your marriage alive so your marriage feels alive when you're older?
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  If you want a good marriage when you retire, you have to have a good marriage
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  now. You have to stay connected.
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  Keep talking. Keep doing life together. And make intimacy of all kinds a high priority.
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  Doing this is difficult as the kids get older. The late 30s and 40s are usually very busy years.
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  When you have too much to do, it's tempting to think your marriage is good and coast a bit.
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  But marriage is like going up the down escalator. You have to work just to not
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  lose ground. Coast for very long, and your marriage will suffer.
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  Common interests need to be cultivated before you retire. I've seen couples
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  realize when their children all moved away that the kids were the only thing they had in common.
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  In theory, you can work to find common interests at 60, but I assure you that
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  it's very difficult, and some couples who have tried it that way have failed.
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  The Beatles go on, doing the garden, digging the weeds.
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  Who could ask for more? What you do together need not be exciting or expensive
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  Sharing the simple things can be enjoyable and satisfying More music Every summer
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  we can rent a cottage In the aisle of right,
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  if it's not too dear We shall scrimp and save We shall scrimp and save Of course,
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  some of what you want to enjoy may cost a bit Saving for a shared dream is always
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  a good thing Be it a once-in-a-lifetime vacation or a yearly trip One more lyric Mine forevermore,
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  Forevermore starts now Are you building a solid forevermore?
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  What can you start doing together?
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  Gardening, walking, cooking, church, serving, day trips, board games,
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  DIY, volunteering, learning a skill, or maybe saving towards a dream?
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  This is Paul reminding you that doing marriage together is doing marriage well.