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Your Most Important Relationship is With Yourself | EP 294 · Confident and Empowered Women

• 0:05
  You
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  know,
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  we
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  talk
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  a
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  lot
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  about
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  relationships,
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  romantic
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  ones,
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  friendships,
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  family,
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  but
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  but
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  the
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  one
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  relationship
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  that
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  determines
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  the
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  quality
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  of
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  every
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  other
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  single
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  relationship
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  in
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  your
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  life
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  barely
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  It
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  gets
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  in
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  the
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  airtime,
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  and
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  that's
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  the
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  one
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  you
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  have
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  with
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  yourself.
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  So
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  I'm
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  getting
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  real
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  specific
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  about
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  what
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  being
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  your
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  own
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  best
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  friend
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  actually
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  looks
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  like
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  in
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  your
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  daily
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  life.
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  Not
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  the
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  cute
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  concept,
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  not
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  the
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  IG
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  carousel
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  worthy
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  version,
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  but
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  the
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  real
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  practiced
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  daily
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  thing.
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  This
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  one
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  is
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  going
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  to
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  make
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  you
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  look
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  at
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  yourself
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  differently
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  in
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  the
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  best
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  way
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  possible.
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  Hey
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  friend,
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  real
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  quick,
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  if
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  you
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  are
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  not
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  subscribed
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  to
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  the
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  Confident
• 0:50
  and
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  Empowered
• 0:51
  Women
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  Podcast
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  yet,
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  what
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  are.
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  We
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  are
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  here
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  every
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  single
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  Tuesday
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  and
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  Thursday,
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  and
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  this
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  is
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  not
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  just
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  a
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  podcast.
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  This
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  is
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  a
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  community
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  of
• 1:03
  women
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  who
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  are
• 1:04
  done
• 1:04
  shrinking,
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  settling,
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  done,
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  people
• 1:07
  pleasing,
• 1:07
  performing,
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  and
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  putting
• 1:09
  herself
• 1:09
  last.
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  This
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  is
• 1:11
  where
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  we
• 1:11
  come
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  to
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  remember
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  who
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  we
• 1:13
  actually
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  are
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  and
• 1:15
  build
• 1:15
  a
• 1:15
  life
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  that
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  reflects
• 1:17
  her.
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  We
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  are
• 1:18
  becoming
• 1:19
  together,
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  friend,
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  and
• 1:20
  if
• 1:20
  you're
• 1:20
  not
• 1:20
  subscribed
• 1:21
  yet,
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  let's
• 1:22
  make
• 1:23
  today
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  the
• 1:24
  day.
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  hey,
• 1:26
  hey,
• 1:26
  hey.
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  Welcome
• 1:27
  back.
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  Okay,
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  listen,
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  I'm
• 1:29
  coming
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  in
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  hot
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  with
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  this
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  one.
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  So
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  as
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  your
• 1:32
  coach,
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  I
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  gotta
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  ask
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  you,
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  how
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  do
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  you
• 1:34
  treat
• 1:34
  yourself
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  when
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  things
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  go
• 1:36
  wrong?
• 1:36
  Mm-hmm.
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  Not
• 1:38
  when
• 1:38
  everything
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  is
• 1:39
  going
• 1:39
  great
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  and
• 1:40
  you
• 1:40
  are
• 1:40
  feeling
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  good
• 1:41
  and
• 1:41
  life
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  is
• 1:42
  flowing.
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  I
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  mean,
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  when
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  it's
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  hard
• 1:45
  friend,
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  when
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  you
• 1:47
  made
• 1:47
  a
• 1:47
  mistake,
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  something
• 1:49
  didn't
• 1:49
  work
• 1:49
  out
• 1:49
  the
• 1:49
  way
• 1:50
  you
• 1:50
  planned.
• 1:50
  When
• 1:51
  you're
• 1:51
  frustrated
• 1:52
  and
• 1:52
  you
• 1:52
  blew
• 1:53
  up
• 1:53
  as
• 1:53
  somebody,
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  maybe
• 1:54
  you
• 1:54
  felt
• 1:54
  disappointed
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  or
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  you
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  just
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  having
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  one
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  of
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  those
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  days,
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  somebody
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  queue
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  Monica.
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  What
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  does
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  your
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  inner
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  conversation
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  sound
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  like?
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  Because
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  here
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  is
• 2:06
  what
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  I
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  know
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  to
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  be
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  true.
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  The
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  relationship
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  you
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  have
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  with
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  yourself,
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  is
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  the
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  foundation
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  of
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  every
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  single
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  relationship
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  in
• 2:15
  your
• 2:15
  life.
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  How
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  you
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  love
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  yourself
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  is
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  how
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  you
• 2:19
  will
• 2:19
  allow
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  others
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  to
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  love
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  you.
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  Okay,
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  friend,
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  let
• 2:24
  me
• 2:24
  rewind
• 2:25
  that
• 2:25
  back.
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  Okay.
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  How
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  you
• 2:29
  love
• 2:29
  yourself
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  is
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  how
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  you
• 2:32
  will
• 2:32
  allow
• 2:33
  others
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  to
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  love
• 2:34
  you.
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  How
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  you
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  speak
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  to
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  yourself
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  is
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  the
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  standard
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  you
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  will
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  accept
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  from
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  everybody
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  else.
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  And
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  how
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  you
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  show
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  up
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  for
• 2:43
  yourself
• 2:43
  in
• 2:43
  the
• 2:43
  hard
• 2:44
  moments
• 2:45
  determines
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  whether
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  you
• 2:46
  can
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  genuinely
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  show
• 2:48
  up
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  for
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  anyone
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  else.
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  And
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  friend.
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  Most
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  women
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  have
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  never
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  even
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  been
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  taught
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  what
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  that
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  relationship
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  actually
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  looks
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  like.
• 2:57
  In
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  practice,
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  we
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  hear
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  be
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  your
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  own
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  best
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  friend
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  all
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  the
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  time.
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  You
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  probably
• 3:02
  even
• 3:02
  got
• 3:02
  a
• 3:02
  t-shirt
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  with
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  it
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  on
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  there.
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  But
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  nobody
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  really
• 3:07
  unpacks
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  what
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  that
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  means
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  on
• 3:10
  a
• 3:10
  regular
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  Schmegular
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  Tuesday
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  when
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  things
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  are
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  hard
• 3:13
  and
• 3:14
  your
• 3:14
  self-talk
• 3:14
  is
• 3:15
  talking
• 3:15
  down
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  to
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  you
• 3:16
  faster
• 3:17
  than
• 3:17
  Mary
• 3:17
  j
• 3:17
  Blige
• 3:18
  is
• 3:18
  singing,
• 3:18
  I'm
• 3:18
  going
• 3:19
  down.
• 3:23
  You
• 3:23
  are
• 3:24
  probably
• 3:24
  hangry,
• 3:25
  tired,
• 3:26
  and
• 3:27
  you
• 3:27
  just
• 3:27
  want
• 3:28
  someone
• 3:28
  to
• 3:28
  show
• 3:29
  up
• 3:29
  for
• 3:30
  you.
• 3:31
  Well,
• 3:31
  friend
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  today
• 3:33
  I
• 3:33
  wanna
• 3:33
  be
• 3:33
  that
• 3:34
  someone,
• 3:34
  and
• 3:35
  I
• 3:35
  want
• 3:35
  to
• 3:35
  show
• 3:36
  you
• 3:36
  exactly
• 3:37
  what
• 3:37
  showing
• 3:37
  up
• 3:38
  for
• 3:38
  yourself
• 3:38
  actually
• 3:39
  looks
• 3:39
  like
• 3:40
  because
• 3:41
  I
• 3:41
  practice
• 3:41
  many
• 3:42
  of
• 3:42
  these
• 3:42
  things
• 3:43
  every
• 3:43
  single
• 3:44
  day
• 3:44
  and
• 3:45
  it
• 3:45
  has
• 3:45
  changed
• 3:46
  the
• 3:46
  way.
• 3:47
  I
• 3:47
  feel
• 3:48
  about
• 3:48
  me.
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  Listen,
• 3:50
  Drake
• 3:51
  said
• 3:51
  I
• 3:51
  gotta
• 3:52
  watch
• 3:52
  my
• 3:52
  back
• 3:53
  'cause
• 3:53
  I'm
• 3:53
  not
• 3:53
  just
• 3:54
  anybody.
• 3:58
  And
• 3:58
  if
• 3:58
  you've
• 3:59
  been
• 3:59
  hanging
• 3:59
  out
• 3:59
  with
• 3:59
  me
• 3:59
  on
• 4:00
  YouTube,
• 4:00
  which
• 4:01
  is
• 4:01
  AKA,
• 4:02
  my
• 4:02
  new
• 4:02
  favorite
• 4:02
  place,
• 4:03
  if
• 4:03
  you
• 4:04
  have
• 4:04
  been
• 4:04
  there
• 4:04
  with
• 4:04
  me,
• 4:05
  then
• 4:05
  you
• 4:06
  have
• 4:06
  heard
• 4:06
  me
• 4:07
  end
• 4:07
  so
• 4:08
  many
• 4:08
  videos
• 4:08
  with
• 4:09
  my
• 4:09
  signature
• 4:10
  send
• 4:10
  off.
• 4:11
  I
• 4:12
  remind
• 4:13
  everybody
• 4:13
  at
• 4:13
  the
• 4:13
  end
• 4:13
  of
• 4:13
  the
• 4:14
  video.
• 4:14
  I
• 4:15
  love
• 4:15
  myself
• 4:15
  so
• 4:15
  much.
• 4:16
  I
• 4:16
  don't
• 4:17
  play
• 4:17
  about
• 4:18
  me,
• 4:19
  and
• 4:19
  if
• 4:19
  you
• 4:19
  hang
• 4:20
  out
• 4:20
  with
• 4:20
  me
• 4:20
  long
• 4:20
  enough,
• 4:21
  you'll
• 4:21
  love
• 4:22
  yourself
• 4:22
  so
• 4:23
  much.
• 4:23
  You
• 4:24
  won't
• 4:24
  play
• 4:24
  about
• 4:25
  you
• 4:25
  either.
• 4:26
  Okay.
• 4:30
  I
• 4:30
  love
• 4:30
  that
• 4:30
  line
• 4:31
  so
• 4:32
  much
• 4:33
  and
• 4:33
  it's
• 4:33
  so
• 4:34
  true,
• 4:34
  friend.
• 4:35
  So
• 4:36
  let
• 4:36
  me
• 4:36
  just
• 4:36
  tell
• 4:36
  you
• 4:37
  this
• 4:37
  before
• 4:37
  we
• 4:37
  get
• 4:38
  even
• 4:38
  further
• 4:39
  into
• 4:40
  it
• 4:40
  because
• 4:41
  I
• 4:41
  don't
• 4:41
  want
• 4:41
  you
• 4:41
  to
• 4:42
  think
• 4:42
  that
• 4:42
  being
• 4:42
  your
• 4:43
  own
• 4:43
  best
• 4:43
  friend
• 4:44
  means
• 4:45
  you
• 4:45
  have
• 4:45
  to
• 4:46
  be
• 4:46
  perfect
• 4:47
  because
• 4:47
  perfection
• 4:48
  is
• 4:48
  nowhere
• 4:49
  in
• 4:49
  this
• 4:49
  criteria.
• 4:53
  It
• 4:53
  doesn't
• 4:54
  mean
• 4:54
  that
• 4:54
  you'll
• 4:54
  never
• 4:55
  have
• 4:55
  a
• 4:55
  bad
• 4:55
  day
• 4:56
  or
• 4:57
  you're
• 4:57
  never
• 4:57
  gonna
• 4:58
  think
• 4:58
  another
• 4:59
  negative
• 4:59
  thought
• 4:59
  again,
• 5:00
  that.
• 5:01
  Is
• 5:01
  not
• 5:01
  what
• 5:02
  this
• 5:02
  is.
• 5:02
  It's
• 5:03
  about
• 5:03
  what
• 5:04
  you
• 5:04
  do
• 5:05
  in
• 5:05
  the
• 5:05
  hard
• 5:05
  moments
• 5:06
  when
• 5:07
  they
• 5:07
  show
• 5:07
  up
• 5:08
  and
• 5:08
  who
• 5:09
  shows
• 5:09
  up
• 5:09
  for
• 5:10
  you
• 5:10
  when
• 5:11
  things
• 5:11
  get
• 5:11
  hard.
• 5:12
  Because
• 5:12
  friend,
• 5:13
  that
• 5:13
  person
• 5:14
  should
• 5:14
  be
• 5:15
  you
• 5:15
  because
• 5:16
  real
• 5:16
  talk
• 5:17
  sometime
• 5:17
  the
• 5:18
  only
• 5:18
  person
• 5:18
  around
• 5:20
  is
• 5:20
  you.
• 5:23
  So
• 5:24
  let
• 5:24
  me
• 5:24
  tell
• 5:24
  you
• 5:24
  what's
• 5:25
  actually
• 5:25
  happening
• 5:26
  when
• 5:26
  something
• 5:26
  goes
• 5:26
  wrong,
• 5:27
  because
• 5:27
  I
• 5:27
  think
• 5:27
  the
• 5:27
  specifics
• 5:28
  really
• 5:29
  matter
• 5:29
  here.
• 5:30
  The
• 5:30
  first
• 5:31
  thing
• 5:31
  I
• 5:31
  do
• 5:32
  is
• 5:32
  I
• 5:32
  go
• 5:33
  to
• 5:33
  my
• 5:33
  breath
• 5:34
  friend,
• 5:35
  this
• 5:35
  is
• 5:35
  something.
• 5:36
  I
• 5:36
  had
• 5:36
  to
• 5:37
  train
• 5:38
  myself
• 5:38
  to
• 5:39
  go
• 5:39
  here
• 5:40
  because
• 5:40
  once
• 5:41
  upon
• 5:41
  a
• 5:41
  time
• 5:42
  I
• 5:43
  would
• 5:43
  go
• 5:43
  zero
• 5:43
  to
• 5:44
  a
• 5:44
  hundred
• 5:44
  real
• 5:45
  quick.
• 5:48
  Drake
• 5:49
  might
• 5:49
  have
• 5:49
  made
• 5:49
  a
• 5:49
  song
• 5:49
  about
• 5:50
  it,
• 5:50
  but
• 5:50
  friend,
• 5:50
  I
• 5:50
  was
• 5:50
  doing
• 5:51
  it
• 5:51
  in
• 5:51
  real
• 5:51
  life
• 5:52
  long
• 5:52
  before
• 5:52
  that
• 5:53
  song
• 5:53
  came
• 5:53
  out.
• 5:57
  But
• 5:57
  I
• 5:57
  go
• 5:58
  to
• 5:58
  my
• 5:58
  breath
• 5:58
  because
• 5:59
  it's
• 5:59
  not
• 5:59
  just
• 6:00
  a
• 6:00
  cute
• 6:01
  wellness
• 6:01
  thing.
• 6:02
  Okay?
• 6:02
  My
• 6:03
  breath
• 6:03
  is
• 6:04
  the
• 6:04
  fastest
• 6:05
  way
• 6:06
  I
• 6:06
  know
• 6:06
  how
• 6:07
  to
• 6:07
  get
• 6:07
  out
• 6:07
  of
• 6:07
  my
• 6:07
  head
• 6:08
  and
• 6:08
  back
• 6:09
  into
• 6:09
  my
• 6:09
  body.
• 6:10
  Just
• 6:11
  a
• 6:11
  few
• 6:11
  slow
• 6:12
  breaths
• 6:12
  before
• 6:13
  I
• 6:13
  react
• 6:14
  to
• 6:14
  anything.
• 6:15
  So
• 6:15
  if
• 6:15
  you
• 6:15
  ever
• 6:16
  see
• 6:16
  me
• 6:16
  take
• 6:16
  a
• 6:16
  deep
• 6:17
  breath,
• 6:18
  that's
• 6:18
  me
• 6:19
  regulating
• 6:19
  myself
• 6:20
  because
• 6:21
  it's
• 6:21
  either
• 6:22
  I
• 6:22
  blow
• 6:22
  my
• 6:23
  breath
• 6:23
  or
• 6:24
  somebody
• 6:24
  getting
• 6:24
  their
• 6:24
  hair
• 6:25
  blown
• 6:25
  back.
• 6:29
  I
• 6:29
  am
• 6:29
  just
• 6:30
  kidding.
• 6:31
  Okay.
• 6:34
  That
• 6:34
  was
• 6:34
  not
• 6:35
  my
• 6:35
  coach
• 6:35
  voice.
• 6:35
  That
• 6:35
  was
• 6:36
  my
• 6:36
  inside
• 6:36
  voice
• 6:36
  coming
• 6:37
  out,
• 6:40
  but
• 6:41
  you
• 6:41
  know,
• 6:41
  I
• 6:41
  play
• 6:41
  entirely
• 6:42
  too
• 6:42
  much.
• 6:42
  Okay.
• 6:44
  But
• 6:44
  taking
• 6:45
  in
• 6:45
  a
• 6:46
  deep
• 6:46
  breath
• 6:47
  and
• 6:47
  letting
• 6:47
  it
• 6:47
  out
• 6:48
  slowly
• 6:49
  is
• 6:49
  the
• 6:49
  first
• 6:50
  way
• 6:50
  I
• 6:51
  can
• 6:51
  let
• 6:51
  out
• 6:52
  some
• 6:52
  of
• 6:52
  that
• 6:52
  frustration
• 6:53
  and
• 6:53
  stress
• 6:55
  and
• 6:55
  get
• 6:55
  myself
• 6:56
  back
• 6:56
  to
• 6:56
  neutral.
• 6:58
  Then
• 6:58
  I
• 6:58
  check
• 6:59
  in
• 6:59
  with
• 6:59
  my
• 6:59
  feelings,
• 7:00
  and
• 7:01
  I
• 7:01
  mean,
• 7:01
  really
• 7:02
  check
• 7:03
  in,
• 7:03
  not
• 7:04
  push
• 7:04
  them
• 7:04
  down,
• 7:05
  not
• 7:05
  rush
• 7:06
  past
• 7:06
  them,
• 7:07
  or
• 7:07
  immediately
• 7:08
  go
• 7:08
  into
• 7:08
  fixing
• 7:09
  it
• 7:09
  mode.
• 7:10
  I
• 7:10
  actually
• 7:11
  ask
• 7:11
  myself.
• 7:12
  What
• 7:12
  am
• 7:13
  I
• 7:13
  feeling
• 7:13
  right
• 7:13
  now?
• 7:14
  And
• 7:14
  then
• 7:14
  I
• 7:15
  give
• 7:15
  it
• 7:15
  space
• 7:16
  to
• 7:16
  just
• 7:17
  be
• 7:17
  there
• 7:18
  because
• 7:18
  some
• 7:19
  feelings,
• 7:19
  they
• 7:20
  just
• 7:20
  need
• 7:20
  to
• 7:20
  be
• 7:20
  felt
• 7:21
  before
• 7:22
  you
• 7:22
  can
• 7:22
  move
• 7:23
  on.
• 7:23
  And
• 7:24
  this
• 7:24
  is
• 7:24
  something
• 7:24
  I
• 7:24
  have
• 7:25
  to
• 7:25
  remind
• 7:25
  my
• 7:25
  husband
• 7:26
  of
• 7:26
  so
• 7:27
  often
• 7:27
  because
• 7:28
  he
• 7:28
  doesn't
• 7:29
  like
• 7:29
  to
• 7:29
  see
• 7:29
  me
• 7:30
  uncomfortable
• 7:31
  or
• 7:31
  in
• 7:31
  any
• 7:32
  kind
• 7:32
  of
• 7:32
  pain
• 7:32
  whatsoever.
• 7:33
  So
• 7:34
  he
• 7:34
  instantly
• 7:35
  goes
• 7:35
  into
• 7:35
  fixing
• 7:36
  it
• 7:36
  mode,
• 7:36
  and
• 7:37
  sometimes
• 7:37
  the
• 7:38
  fix
• 7:39
  is
• 7:39
  just
• 7:39
  allowing
• 7:40
  me
• 7:40
  to
• 7:40
  feel.
• 7:42
  It
• 7:42
  because
• 7:43
  if
• 7:43
  I
• 7:43
  feel
• 7:44
  it,
• 7:44
  it'll
• 7:44
  pass.
• 7:46
  But
• 7:46
  if
• 7:46
  I
• 7:47
  try
• 7:47
  to
• 7:47
  walk
• 7:48
  past
• 7:48
  it
• 7:48
  or
• 7:49
  act
• 7:49
  like
• 7:49
  it
• 7:49
  doesn't
• 7:50
  exist,
• 7:51
  friend,
• 7:51
  we
• 7:52
  are
• 7:52
  just
• 7:52
  asking
• 7:52
  for
• 7:53
  the
• 7:53
  fire
• 7:54
  to
• 7:54
  keep
• 7:54
  sweltering.
• 7:55
  Okay.
• 7:58
  So
• 7:59
  allow
• 7:59
  your
• 7:59
  feelings
• 8:00
  to
• 8:00
  just
• 8:00
  have
• 8:01
  some
• 8:01
  space
• 8:02
  to
• 8:02
  breathe
• 8:03
  for
• 8:03
  themselves.
• 8:04
  And
• 8:05
  then
• 8:05
  I
• 8:05
  pay
• 8:05
  close
• 8:06
  attention
• 8:07
  to
• 8:07
  my
• 8:07
  self-talk
• 8:08
  because
• 8:09
  this
• 8:09
  is
• 8:09
  where
• 8:10
  it
• 8:10
  can
• 8:10
  go
• 8:10
  sideways
• 8:11
  real
• 8:12
  fast
• 8:12
  if
• 8:12
  I'm
• 8:12
  not
• 8:13
  intentional.
• 8:15
  It
• 8:16
  doesn't
• 8:16
  mean
• 8:16
  that
• 8:16
  I
• 8:16
  don't
• 8:17
  have
• 8:17
  negative
• 8:17
  thoughts
• 8:18
  because
• 8:18
  I
• 8:18
  absolutely
• 8:19
  do,
• 8:19
  and
• 8:20
  sometimes
• 8:20
  I
• 8:21
  have
• 8:21
  to
• 8:21
  say
• 8:21
  to
• 8:21
  myself,
• 8:22
  that
• 8:22
  wasn't
• 8:22
  very
• 8:23
  nice,
• 8:27
  The
• 8:27
  moment
• 8:28
  I
• 8:28
  notice
• 8:28
  a
• 8:29
  negative
• 8:29
  thought
• 8:29
  coming
• 8:30
  in,
• 8:31
  I'll
• 8:31
  literally
• 8:32
  say
• 8:32
  to
• 8:32
  myself,
• 8:33
  okay,
• 8:33
  we're
• 8:33
  not
• 8:34
  gonna
• 8:34
  do
• 8:34
  that.
• 8:35
  And
• 8:35
  sometimes
• 8:36
  it's
• 8:36
  in
• 8:36
  my
• 8:36
  head.
• 8:37
  Other
• 8:37
  times
• 8:38
  it
• 8:38
  is
• 8:38
  out
• 8:39
  loud,
• 8:40
  but
• 8:40
  I
• 8:40
  name
• 8:41
  it,
• 8:41
  I
• 8:41
  interrupt
• 8:42
  it
• 8:42
  and
• 8:43
  then
• 8:43
  I
• 8:43
  reframe
• 8:44
  it,
• 8:44
  not
• 8:45
  because
• 8:45
  the
• 8:45
  negative
• 8:46
  thought
• 8:46
  is
• 8:46
  always
• 8:47
  wrong,
• 8:48
  because
• 8:48
  sometimes
• 8:49
  it.
• 8:52
  But
• 8:52
  I've
• 8:53
  grown
• 8:53
  and
• 8:53
  matured
• 8:54
  enough
• 8:55
  that
• 8:55
  I'm
• 8:55
  not
• 8:55
  gonna
• 8:56
  let
• 8:56
  it
• 8:56
  run
• 8:56
  the
• 8:56
  show
• 8:57
  unchecked.
• 8:58
  And
• 8:59
  I
• 8:59
  absolutely
• 9:00
  am
• 9:01
  not
• 9:01
  going
• 9:01
  to
• 9:01
  name,
• 9:02
  call
• 9:03
  or
• 9:03
  put
• 9:03
  myself
• 9:04
  down
• 9:04
  because
• 9:05
  I
• 9:05
  would
• 9:05
  never
• 9:06
  talk
• 9:06
  to
• 9:07
  my
• 9:07
  best
• 9:07
  friend
• 9:07
  that
• 9:07
  way.
• 9:08
  And
• 9:09
  I
• 9:09
  am
• 9:10
  my
• 9:11
  best
• 9:11
  friend.
• 9:12
  And
• 9:12
  even
• 9:12
  with
• 9:12
  that
• 9:13
  said,
• 9:13
  I
• 9:14
  gotta
• 9:14
  keep
• 9:14
  it
• 9:14
  real
• 9:15
  with
• 9:15
  myself.
• 9:16
  If
• 9:17
  I've
• 9:17
  been
• 9:17
  cutting
• 9:17
  up,
• 9:18
  I
• 9:18
  will
• 9:18
  take
• 9:18
  accountability
• 9:19
  for
• 9:19
  that.
• 9:19
  Okay.
• 9:23
  I
• 9:23
  am
• 9:23
  not
• 9:24
  just
• 9:24
  out
• 9:24
  here
• 9:25
  in
• 9:25
  denial,
• 9:28
  but
• 9:28
  the
• 9:29
  accountability
• 9:30
  comes
• 9:31
  with
• 9:31
  the
• 9:31
  real
• 9:33
  meaning.
• 9:33
  I
• 9:33
  tell
• 9:34
  myself
• 9:34
  the
• 9:34
  truth
• 9:35
  along
• 9:35
  with
• 9:36
  kindness.
• 9:37
  Always
• 9:37
  with
• 9:38
  Grace
• 9:39
  because
• 9:39
  getting
• 9:40
  it
• 9:40
  wrong
• 9:41
  is
• 9:41
  a
• 9:42
  part
• 9:42
  of
• 9:42
  being
• 9:42
  human
• 9:43
  and
• 9:44
  the
• 9:44
  best
• 9:45
  friend
• 9:45
  version
• 9:46
  of
• 9:46
  me,
• 9:47
  she
• 9:47
  knows
• 9:47
  that.
• 9:48
  So
• 9:49
  that
• 9:49
  is
• 9:50
  what
• 9:50
  the
• 9:50
  hard
• 9:50
  moments
• 9:51
  look
• 9:51
  like.
• 9:52
  But
• 9:53
  being
• 9:53
  your
• 9:53
  own
• 9:54
  best
• 9:54
  friend
• 9:55
  is
• 9:55
  not
• 9:55
  just
• 9:56
  about
• 9:56
  the
• 9:56
  hard
• 9:56
  moments,
• 9:57
  it's
• 9:58
  about
• 9:58
  the
• 9:58
  daily
• 9:59
  practice
• 10:00
  of
• 10:00
  showing
• 10:00
  up
• 10:01
  for
• 10:01
  yourself
• 10:02
  even
• 10:02
  when
• 10:02
  things
• 10:03
  are
• 10:03
  fine.
• 10:04
  I
• 10:04
  also
• 10:04
  remind
• 10:05
  myself
• 10:06
  of
• 10:06
  how
• 10:07
  far
• 10:07
  I've
• 10:08
  actually
• 10:08
  come.
• 10:09
  Not
• 10:09
  in
• 10:09
  the
• 10:10
  performative
• 10:10
  kind
• 10:11
  of
• 10:11
  a
• 10:11
  way,
• 10:12
  but
• 10:12
  in
• 10:12
  a
• 10:12
  genuine
• 10:13
  moment
• 10:14
  because
• 10:14
  friend,
• 10:15
  you
• 10:16
  really
• 10:16
  have
• 10:16
  done
• 10:17
  something.
• 10:18
  Here,
• 10:19
  look
• 10:20
  at
• 10:20
  where
• 10:20
  you
• 10:20
  started
• 10:21
  and
• 10:21
  look
• 10:22
  at
• 10:22
  where
• 10:22
  you
• 10:22
  are
• 10:23
  now.
• 10:24
  This
• 10:25
  is
• 10:25
  what
• 10:25
  I
• 10:25
  reflect
• 10:26
  upon
• 10:26
  because
• 10:26
  I
• 10:27
  am
• 10:27
  genuinely
• 10:28
  proud
• 10:29
  of
• 10:29
  myself
• 10:30
  and
• 10:30
  I
• 10:31
  let
• 10:31
  myself
• 10:31
  feel
• 10:32
  that
• 10:32
  pride.
• 10:33
  I
• 10:33
  don't
• 10:33
  minimize
• 10:34
  it
• 10:34
  or
• 10:35
  rush
• 10:35
  past
• 10:35
  it.
• 10:36
  I
• 10:36
  sit
• 10:37
  in
• 10:37
  it.
• 10:38
  I
• 10:38
  listen
• 10:39
  to
• 10:39
  what
• 10:39
  I
• 10:39
  need
• 10:40
  that
• 10:40
  day,
• 10:41
  not
• 10:41
  what
• 10:41
  I
• 10:41
  think
• 10:42
  I
• 10:42
  should
• 10:42
  need
• 10:43
  or
• 10:43
  what
• 10:43
  looks
• 10:43
  good,
• 10:44
  or
• 10:44
  what
• 10:44
  everyone
• 10:45
  else
• 10:45
  seems
• 10:45
  to
• 10:45
  need,
• 10:46
  but
• 10:46
  what
• 10:47
  do
• 10:47
  I
• 10:48
  actually
• 10:48
  need
• 10:49
  today?
• 10:50
  And
• 10:50
  then
• 10:51
  I
• 10:51
  give
• 10:51
  it
• 10:51
  to
• 10:51
  myself.
• 10:52
  Sometimes
• 10:53
  I
• 10:54
  can
• 10:54
  do
• 10:54
  that
• 10:54
  right
• 10:55
  away.
• 10:55
  Other
• 10:56
  times
• 10:56
  I
• 10:57
  do
• 10:57
  have
• 10:57
  to
• 10:57
  schedule
• 10:58
  it,
• 10:58
  but
• 10:58
  either
• 10:59
  way
• 10:59
  it
• 11:00
  gets.
• 11:00
  Honored
• 11:01
  because
• 11:01
  I
• 11:02
  am
• 11:02
  on
• 11:03
  my
• 11:03
  own
• 11:03
  calendar.
• 11:04
  I
• 11:05
  am
• 11:05
  a
• 11:05
  priority
• 11:06
  in
• 11:07
  my
• 11:07
  own
• 11:07
  life
• 11:08
  and
• 11:09
  friend.
• 11:09
  This
• 11:09
  is
• 11:09
  so
• 11:10
  important
• 11:10
  because
• 11:11
  yes,
• 11:12
  there
• 11:12
  are
• 11:12
  some
• 11:12
  times
• 11:13
  when
• 11:14
  I
• 11:14
  need
• 11:14
  a
• 11:14
  vacation,
• 11:17
  but
• 11:17
  that
• 11:18
  may
• 11:18
  not
• 11:18
  be
• 11:18
  feasible
• 11:19
  for
• 11:19
  today.
• 11:20
  So
• 11:20
  I
• 11:20
  would
• 11:20
  say
• 11:21
  to
• 11:21
  myself,
• 11:21
  okay.
• 11:22
  Vacation
• 11:23
  isn't
• 11:24
  in
• 11:24
  the
• 11:24
  plans
• 11:24
  for
• 11:24
  today,
• 11:25
  but
• 11:25
  what
• 11:26
  can
• 11:26
  I
• 11:26
  give
• 11:26
  myself
• 11:27
  today
• 11:28
  where
• 11:28
  relaxation
• 11:30
  is
• 11:30
  the
• 11:30
  goal?
• 11:31
  Where
• 11:32
  can
• 11:32
  I
• 11:32
  press
• 11:32
  pause
• 11:34
  and
• 11:34
  have
• 11:35
  a
• 11:35
  drink
• 11:36
  and
• 11:36
  throw
• 11:36
  an
• 11:36
  umbrella
• 11:37
  in
• 11:37
  it?
• 11:37
  And
• 11:38
  listen,
• 11:38
  it
• 11:38
  doesn't
• 11:39
  even
• 11:39
  have
• 11:39
  to
• 11:39
  be
• 11:40
  a
• 11:40
  grownup
• 11:41
  drink.
• 11:45
  I'm
• 11:45
  down
• 11:45
  with
• 11:46
  a
• 11:46
  cute
• 11:46
  straw
• 11:46
  or
• 11:46
  an
• 11:47
  umbrella
• 11:47
  in
• 11:47
  any
• 11:48
  drink.
• 11:48
  Okay.
• 11:52
  But
• 11:52
  just
• 11:52
  be
• 11:52
  willing
• 11:53
  to
• 11:53
  work
• 11:53
  with
• 11:54
  yourself
• 11:54
  and
• 11:55
  even
• 11:55
  if
• 11:56
  what
• 11:56
  you
• 11:56
  need
• 11:57
  isn't
• 11:57
  something
• 11:58
  that
• 11:58
  you
• 11:58
  can
• 11:59
  do
• 11:59
  within
• 12:00
  the
• 12:00
  same
• 12:01
  day,
• 12:02
  at
• 12:02
  least
• 12:02
  make
• 12:03
  sure
• 12:03
  that
• 12:03
  you
• 12:04
  are
• 12:04
  recognizing
• 12:05
  that
• 12:05
  need,
• 12:06
  even
• 12:07
  if
• 12:07
  it's
• 12:07
  on
• 12:08
  a
• 12:08
  small
• 12:08
  scale
• 12:09
  that
• 12:09
  counts
• 12:10
  to.
• 12:11
  And
• 12:11
  friend,
• 12:11
  this
• 12:12
  one
• 12:12
  is
• 12:13
  so
• 12:13
  important.
• 12:13
  Okay,
• 12:14
  because
• 12:15
  I
• 12:15
  have
• 12:15
  decided
• 12:17
  I
• 12:17
  am
• 12:17
  no
• 12:17
  longer
• 12:18
  willing
• 12:19
  to
• 12:19
  be
• 12:19
  uncomfortable
• 12:21
  so
• 12:21
  that
• 12:21
  someone
• 12:21
  else
• 12:22
  can
• 12:22
  be
• 12:23
  comfortable.
• 12:24
  Okay?
• 12:24
  Let
• 12:24
  me
• 12:24
  say
• 12:25
  that
• 12:25
  again.
• 12:26
  I
• 12:27
  am
• 12:27
  no
• 12:27
  longer
• 12:27
  willing
• 12:28
  to
• 12:28
  be
• 12:28
  uncomfortable
• 12:30
  so
• 12:30
  that
• 12:30
  someone
• 12:30
  else
• 12:31
  can
• 12:31
  be
• 12:31
  comfortable.
• 12:32
  Listen,
• 12:33
  they
• 12:34
  should
• 12:34
  have
• 12:34
  caught
• 12:34
  me
• 12:35
  during
• 12:35
  my
• 12:35
  people
• 12:36
  pleasing
• 12:36
  season,
• 12:37
  okay?
• 12:40
  Because
• 12:40
  those
• 12:41
  days
• 12:41
  is
• 12:41
  OVA
• 12:43
  is
• 12:43
  over.
• 12:49
  And
• 12:49
  that's
• 12:49
  not
• 12:49
  selfish.
• 12:50
  That
• 12:51
  is
• 12:51
  self-love.
• 12:53
  There
• 12:53
  is
• 12:53
  a
• 12:53
  version
• 12:53
  of
• 12:54
  me
• 12:54
  that
• 12:54
  would've
• 12:55
  twisted
• 12:55
  herself
• 12:56
  inside
• 12:57
  and
• 12:57
  out
• 12:58
  to
• 12:58
  make
• 12:59
  everybody
• 12:59
  else
• 13:00
  around
• 13:00
  her.
• 13:00
  Okay?
• 13:01
  While
• 13:01
  she
• 13:02
  was
• 13:02
  quietly
• 13:02
  struggling,
• 13:03
  that
• 13:04
  version
• 13:04
  of
• 13:04
  me
• 13:05
  that
• 13:05
  thought
• 13:06
  that
• 13:06
  was
• 13:06
  kindness.
• 13:08
  What
• 13:08
  I
• 13:08
  now
• 13:09
  know
• 13:10
  is
• 13:10
  that
• 13:10
  was
• 13:10
  self
• 13:11
  abandonment.
• 13:12
  And
• 13:12
  your
• 13:12
  best
• 13:13
  friend
• 13:13
  would
• 13:13
  never
• 13:14
  ask
• 13:14
  you
• 13:15
  to
• 13:15
  abandon
• 13:15
  herself
• 13:16
  for
• 13:17
  your
• 13:17
  comfort.
• 13:18
  And
• 13:18
  here
• 13:19
  is
• 13:19
  a
• 13:19
  piece
• 13:19
  of
• 13:19
  this
• 13:20
  that
• 13:20
  I
• 13:20
  think
• 13:20
  surprises
• 13:21
  most
• 13:22
  people
• 13:22
  because
• 13:22
  nobody
• 13:23
  really
• 13:23
  talks
• 13:24
  about
• 13:24
  this
• 13:24
  one
• 13:24
  openly.
• 13:25
  Okay?
• 13:26
  Because
• 13:26
  high
• 13:27
  key.
• 13:27
  I
• 13:28
  genuinely
• 13:29
  enjoy
• 13:30
  my
• 13:30
  own
• 13:30
  company,
• 13:34
  and
• 13:34
  I
• 13:34
  say
• 13:35
  that
• 13:35
  not
• 13:35
  as
• 13:35
  a
• 13:36
  flex,
• 13:37
  but
• 13:37
  as
• 13:37
  something
• 13:38
  I
• 13:38
  had
• 13:39
  to
• 13:39
  actively
• 13:40
  practice
• 13:41
  and
• 13:41
  grow
• 13:41
  into
• 13:42
  because
• 13:43
  when
• 13:43
  I
• 13:43
  was
• 13:43
  single
• 13:44
  for
• 13:44
  a
• 13:45
  long
• 13:45
  time
• 13:46
  and
• 13:46
  friend,
• 13:47
  I
• 13:47
  mean
• 13:48
  a
• 13:48
  long
• 13:48
  time,
• 13:49
  okay.
• 13:53
  And
• 13:53
  there
• 13:53
  were
• 13:53
  times
• 13:54
  when
• 13:54
  I
• 13:55
  did
• 13:55
  see
• 13:55
  myself
• 13:56
  as
• 13:56
  lonely
• 13:57
  until
• 13:58
  I
• 13:58
  stopped
• 13:58
  focusing
• 13:59
  on
• 14:00
  who
• 14:00
  was
• 14:00
  not
• 14:01
  there.
• 14:02
  I
• 14:03
  then
• 14:03
  started
• 14:03
  to
• 14:03
  focus
• 14:04
  on
• 14:04
  who
• 14:04
  was
• 14:05
  my
• 14:06
  family,
• 14:06
  my
• 14:07
  kids,
• 14:07
  my
• 14:08
  friends,
• 14:09
  so
• 14:09
  many
• 14:09
  people
• 14:10
  who
• 14:10
  loved
• 14:10
  me,
• 14:10
  and
• 14:11
  and
• 14:11
  I
• 14:11
  was
• 14:12
  genuinely
• 14:12
  grateful
• 14:13
  for
• 14:13
  them.
• 14:14
  But
• 14:14
  beyond
• 14:15
  that,
• 14:16
  I
• 14:16
  had
• 14:16
  me,
• 14:17
  and
• 14:18
  me
• 14:18
  is
• 14:18
  actually
• 14:19
  really
• 14:20
  good
• 14:20
  company.
• 14:20
  Okay.
• 14:23
  I'm
• 14:24
  a
• 14:24
  pretty
• 14:24
  dope
• 14:24
  chick,
• 14:25
  if
• 14:25
  I'm
• 14:25
  gonna
• 14:25
  say
• 14:25
  so
• 14:25
  myself.
• 14:29
  And
• 14:30
  just
• 14:30
  like
• 14:30
  I
• 14:31
  sit
• 14:31
  here
• 14:31
  and
• 14:31
  crack
• 14:32
  jokes
• 14:32
  with
• 14:32
  you,
• 14:33
  I
• 14:33
  crack
• 14:33
  jokes
• 14:33
  with
• 14:33
  myself,
• 14:34
  okay?
• 14:35
  I
• 14:35
  laugh
• 14:36
  at
• 14:36
  how
• 14:36
  silly
• 14:37
  life
• 14:38
  and
• 14:38
  people
• 14:38
  can
• 14:39
  be
• 14:39
  sometimes,
• 14:40
  myself
• 14:40
  included.
• 14:45
  I
• 14:45
  have
• 14:45
  a
• 14:45
  genuinely
• 14:46
  good
• 14:47
  time
• 14:47
  with
• 14:47
  myself,
• 14:48
  and
• 14:49
  that
• 14:49
  might
• 14:49
  sound
• 14:50
  a
• 14:50
  little
• 14:50
  unhinged,
• 14:51
  but
• 14:51
  friend,
• 14:52
  if
• 14:52
  you
• 14:53
  cannot
• 14:53
  have
• 14:53
  a
• 14:53
  good
• 14:54
  time
• 14:54
  with
• 14:54
  yourself.
• 14:55
  How
• 14:55
  is
• 14:55
  anybody
• 14:56
  else
• 14:56
  supposed?
• 15:00
  Here
• 15:00
  is
• 15:00
  what
• 15:01
  being
• 15:01
  your
• 15:01
  own
• 15:02
  best
• 15:02
  friend
• 15:03
  looks
• 15:03
  like
• 15:04
  in
• 15:04
  the
• 15:04
  most
• 15:05
  important
• 15:05
  moments.
• 15:06
  When
• 15:06
  it's
• 15:07
  hard,
• 15:07
  when
• 15:07
  you're
• 15:08
  scared,
• 15:08
  when
• 15:08
  you
• 15:08
  wanna
• 15:09
  quit,
• 15:10
  you
• 15:11
  are
• 15:11
  still
• 15:12
  there.
• 15:13
  You
• 15:13
  do
• 15:14
  not
• 15:14
  abandon
• 15:14
  yourself.
• 15:16
  When
• 15:16
  things
• 15:16
  get
• 15:16
  uncomfortable,
• 15:18
  you
• 15:18
  show
• 15:18
  up.
• 15:19
  You
• 15:19
  hold
• 15:19
  your
• 15:20
  hand,
• 15:21
  you
• 15:21
  place
• 15:21
  your
• 15:21
  own
• 15:22
  hand
• 15:22
  on
• 15:23
  your
• 15:23
  heart.
• 15:24
  You
• 15:24
  remind
• 15:25
  yourself
• 15:25
  of
• 15:26
  everything
• 15:27
  God
• 15:27
  has
• 15:28
  placed
• 15:28
  in
• 15:28
  your
• 15:28
  heart
• 15:29
  and
• 15:29
  you
• 15:30
  keep
• 15:30
  it
• 15:30
  moving.
• 15:31
  Not
• 15:31
  because
• 15:32
  it's
• 15:32
  easy,
• 15:33
  but
• 15:33
  because
• 15:34
  you
• 15:34
  believe
• 15:34
  in
• 15:35
  yourself
• 15:35
  enough
• 15:36
  to
• 15:36
  keep
• 15:37
  going.
• 15:38
  And
• 15:38
  that
• 15:38
  is
• 15:39
  what
• 15:39
  a
• 15:39
  best
• 15:39
  friend
• 15:40
  does,
• 15:40
  and
• 15:41
  you
• 15:41
  deserve
• 15:42
  that
• 15:42
  from
• 15:42
  yourself
• 15:44
  every
• 15:44
  single
• 15:45
  day,
• 15:46
  every
• 15:46
  single
• 15:46
  opportunity
• 15:47
  that
• 15:48
  you
• 15:48
  have.
• 15:49
  And
• 15:49
  listen,
• 15:50
  if
• 15:50
  God
• 15:50
  is
• 15:51
  not
• 15:51
  your
• 15:51
  jam,
• 15:52
  feel
• 15:52
  free
• 15:52
  to
• 15:53
  insert
• 15:53
  your
• 15:54
  own
• 15:54
  belief
• 15:55
  there.
• 15:56
  Just
• 15:56
  know
• 15:57
  that.
• 15:57
  Everything
• 15:58
  that
• 15:58
  was
• 15:59
  placed
• 15:59
  in
• 15:59
  your
• 15:59
  heart
• 16:00
  was
• 16:00
  given
• 16:01
  to
• 16:01
  you
• 16:02
  as
• 16:02
  your
• 16:03
  roadmap,
• 16:04
  and
• 16:04
  it's
• 16:04
  time
• 16:05
  that
• 16:05
  you
• 16:05
  follow
• 16:06
  it,
• 16:06
  but
• 16:07
  as
• 16:07
  your
• 16:08
  own
• 16:08
  best
• 16:08
  friend.
• 16:11
  Ooh,
• 16:11
  we
• 16:12
  listen.
• 16:12
  I
• 16:13
  remember
• 16:13
  sitting
• 16:13
  with
• 16:13
  so
• 16:13
  much
• 16:14
  awareness
• 16:15
  and
• 16:15
  absolutely
• 16:16
  nowhere
• 16:17
  to
• 16:17
  put
• 16:17
  it
• 16:18
  like
• 16:18
  something
• 16:18
  had
• 16:19
  cracked
• 16:19
  open,
• 16:20
  but
• 16:20
  I
• 16:20
  didn't
• 16:20
  know
• 16:20
  what
• 16:20
  to
• 16:21
  do
• 16:21
  with
• 16:21
  what
• 16:21
  was
• 16:21
  spilling
• 16:22
  out.
• 16:22
  I
• 16:23
  had
• 16:23
  all
• 16:23
  these
• 16:24
  feelings
• 16:24
  and
• 16:25
  none
• 16:25
  of
• 16:25
  the
• 16:25
  clarity,
• 16:26
  and
• 16:26
  I
• 16:26
  kept
• 16:27
  circling
• 16:28
  the
• 16:28
  same
• 16:28
  questions,
• 16:29
  wondering
• 16:29
  why
• 16:30
  nothing
• 16:30
  was
• 16:30
  shifting.
• 16:31
  And
• 16:31
  then
• 16:32
  I
• 16:32
  started
• 16:32
  to
• 16:32
  ask
• 16:33
  myself
• 16:33
  more
• 16:33
  high
• 16:34
  vibration
• 16:34
  questions.
• 16:35
  Not
• 16:36
  the
• 16:36
  ones
• 16:36
  that
• 16:36
  keep
• 16:36
  you
• 16:37
  stuck,
• 16:37
  but
• 16:38
  the
• 16:38
  ones
• 16:38
  that
• 16:38
  cause
• 16:39
  everything
• 16:40
  to
• 16:40
  start
• 16:40
  moving,
• 16:41
  not
• 16:41
  because
• 16:42
  I
• 16:42
  had
• 16:42
  all
• 16:42
  the
• 16:42
  answers.
• 16:43
  Okay,
• 16:43
  listen,
• 16:44
  we
• 16:44
  don't
• 16:44
  need
• 16:44
  no
• 16:44
  Kanye
• 16:45
  moments
• 16:45
  up
• 16:45
  in
• 16:45
  here.
• 16:49
  How
• 16:49
  sway,
• 16:53
  I'm
• 16:53
  sorry
• 16:54
  I
• 16:54
  played
• 16:54
  too
• 16:54
  much.
• 16:57
  But
• 16:57
  those
• 16:58
  elevated
• 16:58
  questions
• 16:59
  help
• 17:00
  me
• 17:00
  to
• 17:00
  finally
• 17:01
  hear
• 17:01
  the
• 17:01
  answers
• 17:02
  I
• 17:02
  already
• 17:02
  had
• 17:03
  inside
• 17:03
  me.
• 17:04
  So
• 17:04
  if
• 17:04
  you're
• 17:04
  in
• 17:05
  that
• 17:05
  place
• 17:05
  right
• 17:05
  now,
• 17:06
  that
• 17:06
  is
• 17:07
  not
• 17:07
  a
• 17:07
  dead
• 17:08
  end
• 17:08
  friend,
• 17:09
  that
• 17:09
  is
• 17:09
  an
• 17:09
  invitation
• 17:10
  to
• 17:10
  ask
• 17:11
  high
• 17:11
  value
• 17:12
  questions,
• 17:12
  and
• 17:13
  that
• 17:13
  is
• 17:13
  what
• 17:14
  the
• 17:14
  woman
• 17:14
  you're
• 17:14
  becoming
• 17:15
  does
• 17:15
  with
• 17:16
  a
• 17:16
  moment
• 17:16
  like
• 17:16
  this.
• 17:17
  She
• 17:17
  doesn't
• 17:18
  let
• 17:18
  it
• 17:18
  pass.
• 17:18
  She
• 17:19
  does
• 17:19
  something
• 17:20
  with
• 17:21
  it.
• 17:21
  So
• 17:22
  I
• 17:22
  will
• 17:22
  link
• 17:22
  the
• 17:22
  Main
• 17:23
  Character
• 17:23
  Energy
• 17:24
  Journal
• 17:24
  Prompts
• 17:24
  for
• 17:24
  you
• 17:25
  down
• 17:25
  in
• 17:25
  the
• 17:25
  show
• 17:25
  notes.
• 17:26
  They
• 17:26
  really
• 17:27
  help
• 17:27
  you
• 17:27
  get
• 17:27
  out
• 17:27
  of
• 17:28
  your
• 17:28
  head,
• 17:29
  into
• 17:29
  your
• 17:29
  heart,
• 17:30
  and
• 17:30
  connected
• 17:32
  to
• 17:32
  your
• 17:32
  own
• 17:33
  Truth
• 17:34
  and
• 17:34
  friend.
• 17:35
  I
• 17:35
  think
• 17:36
  you're
• 17:36
  ready.
• 17:38
  Okay,
• 17:39
  it's
• 17:40
  our
• 17:40
  favorite
• 17:40
  time.
• 17:41
  You
• 17:41
  know
• 17:41
  that
• 17:41
  time
• 17:42
  that
• 17:42
  we
• 17:42
  all
• 17:42
  know
• 17:43
  and
• 17:43
  love
• 17:43
  around
• 17:43
  here.
• 17:44
  It's
• 17:44
  time
• 17:45
  for
• 17:45
  your
• 17:45
  self
• 17:45
  love
• 17:46
  Two
• 17:46
  step,
• 17:46
  and
• 17:46
  this
• 17:47
  one
• 17:47
  is
• 17:48
  your
• 17:48
  best
• 17:49
  friend
• 17:50
  Two
• 17:50
  step.
• 17:50
  And
• 17:51
  all
• 17:51
  I
• 17:51
  can
• 17:52
  hear
• 17:52
  is
• 17:52
  Brandy
• 17:53
  singing
• 17:53
  Best
• 17:54
  Friend.
• 17:54
  So
• 17:54
  just
• 17:55
  as
• 17:55
  a
• 17:55
  bonus,
• 17:56
  go
• 17:56
  ahead.
• 17:57
  Do
• 17:57
  yourself
• 17:57
  a
• 17:57
  favor
• 17:58
  and
• 17:58
  add
• 17:58
  that
• 17:59
  to
• 17:59
  your
• 17:59
  playlist
• 18:00
  and
• 18:00
  sing
• 18:00
  it
• 18:00
  to
• 18:00
  yourself.
• 18:01
  Okay?
• 18:02
  Consider
• 18:02
  this
• 18:02
  your
• 18:03
  pre-work.
• 18:06
  Step
• 18:06
  one,
• 18:07
  check
• 18:07
  in
• 18:08
  with
• 18:08
  yourself
• 18:09
  right
• 18:09
  now.
• 18:10
  Not
• 18:10
  later,
• 18:11
  but
• 18:11
  right
• 18:12
  now.
• 18:13
  What
• 18:13
  are
• 18:13
  you
• 18:13
  feeling
• 18:14
  today?
• 18:15
  What
• 18:15
  do
• 18:15
  you
• 18:15
  need?
• 18:16
  Not
• 18:17
  what
• 18:17
  you
• 18:17
  think
• 18:17
  you
• 18:18
  should
• 18:18
  need,
• 18:18
  but
• 18:19
  what
• 18:19
  do
• 18:19
  you
• 18:19
  actually
• 18:20
  need?
• 18:20
  Okay.
• 18:21
  Name
• 18:22
  it.
• 18:22
  And
• 18:22
  then
• 18:23
  make
• 18:23
  a
• 18:23
  plan
• 18:23
  to
• 18:24
  give
• 18:24
  it
• 18:24
  to
• 18:24
  yourself
• 18:25
  today,
• 18:26
  even
• 18:26
  if
• 18:26
  it's
• 18:26
  small.
• 18:27
  Even
• 18:28
  if
• 18:28
  it's
• 18:28
  five
• 18:28
  minutes,
• 18:29
  you
• 18:29
  matter
• 18:30
  enough
• 18:31
  to
• 18:31
  be
• 18:31
  on
• 18:31
  your
• 18:31
  own
• 18:32
  agenda.
• 18:33
  Step
• 18:33
  two,
• 18:34
  interrupt
• 18:35
  one.
• 18:36
  Unkind
• 18:37
  thought
• 18:37
  today.
• 18:38
  Just
• 18:38
  one.
• 18:39
  Okay.
• 18:39
  We're
• 18:39
  not
• 18:40
  trying
• 18:40
  to
• 18:40
  overhaul
• 18:40
  your
• 18:41
  whole
• 18:41
  brain.
• 18:43
  In
• 18:43
  that
• 18:44
  moment,
• 18:44
  you
• 18:44
  catch
• 18:45
  yourself
• 18:45
  being
• 18:46
  unkind
• 18:47
  to
• 18:47
  you,
• 18:48
  whether
• 18:48
  it
• 18:48
  is
• 18:49
  in
• 18:49
  your
• 18:49
  self-talk
• 18:50
  in
• 18:50
  how
• 18:51
  you're
• 18:51
  treating
• 18:51
  your
• 18:51
  body,
• 18:52
  in
• 18:53
  how
• 18:53
  you're
• 18:53
  pushing
• 18:54
  yourself
• 18:54
  past
• 18:55
  your
• 18:55
  limits.
• 18:56
  Stop,
• 18:57
  say
• 18:57
  it
• 18:57
  out
• 18:58
  loud
• 18:58
  or
• 18:58
  in
• 18:59
  your
• 18:59
  head.
• 19:00
  We
• 19:00
  are
• 19:00
  not
• 19:01
  doing
• 19:01
  that,
• 19:02
  and
• 19:02
  then
• 19:03
  reframe
• 19:03
  it.
• 19:04
  So
• 19:04
  what
• 19:04
  would
• 19:05
  your
• 19:05
  best
• 19:05
  friend
• 19:06
  say
• 19:06
  to
• 19:06
  you
• 19:06
  right
• 19:07
  now?
• 19:08
  Say
• 19:08
  that
• 19:08
  instead.
• 19:09
  And
• 19:10
  now
• 19:10
  it's
• 19:10
  time
• 19:11
  for
• 19:11
  your
• 19:11
  remix.
• 19:12
  Okay?
• 19:12
  Because
• 19:12
  the
• 19:13
  most
• 19:13
  important
• 19:14
  relationship
• 19:15
  is
• 19:15
  the
• 19:15
  one
• 19:15
  you
• 19:16
  have
• 19:16
  with
• 19:16
  yourself.
• 19:17
  Everything
• 19:18
  else
• 19:18
  in
• 19:18
  your
• 19:19
  life,
• 19:19
  your
• 19:20
  work,
• 19:20
  your
• 19:21
  dreams,
• 19:21
  your
• 19:21
  relationships,
• 19:22
  your
• 19:23
  joy,
• 19:24
  it
• 19:24
  all
• 19:24
  flows
• 19:25
  from
• 19:25
  that
• 19:26
  one.
• 19:27
  So
• 19:27
  tend
• 19:27
  to
• 19:28
  it
• 19:28
  friend
• 19:29
  every
• 19:29
  single
• 19:30
  day
• 19:31
  with
• 19:31
  the
• 19:31
  same
• 19:31
  love,
• 19:32
  care,
• 19:33
  and
• 19:33
  presence
• 19:34
  you
• 19:34
  would
• 19:34
  give
• 19:35
  to
• 19:35
  your
• 19:35
  very
• 19:35
  best
• 19:36
  friend
• 19:36
  and
• 19:36
  the
• 19:36
  people
• 19:37
  you
• 19:37
  love.
• 19:38
  Do
• 19:38
  that
• 19:38
  for
• 19:39
  you
• 19:39
  because
• 19:40
  you
• 19:40
  deserve
• 19:41
  nothing
• 19:42
  less.
• 19:43
  Okay,
• 19:43
  so
• 19:44
  this
• 19:44
  is
• 19:44
  where
• 19:45
  you've
• 19:45
  done
• 19:46
  step
• 19:46
  one
• 19:46
  and
• 19:46
  step
• 19:47
  two,
• 19:47
  and
• 19:48
  you've
• 19:48
  even
• 19:48
  done
• 19:48
  your
• 19:48
  pre-work,
• 19:49
  okay?
• 19:49
  And
• 19:50
  now
• 19:50
  you
• 19:51
  do
• 19:51
  the
• 19:51
  YOU
• 19:52
  step,
• 19:53
  you
• 19:53
  get
• 19:53
  still,
• 19:54
  you
• 19:54
  get
• 19:54
  quiet
• 19:55
  and
• 19:55
  you
• 19:56
  ask
• 19:56
  yourself,
• 19:57
  what
• 19:57
  is
• 19:58
  my
• 19:58
  heart
• 19:58
  telling
• 19:59
  me
• 20:00
  to
• 20:00
  do
• 20:00
  next?
• 20:01
  And
• 20:01
  whatever
• 20:02
  comes
• 20:02
  up,
• 20:03
  that
• 20:03
  is
• 20:04
  your
• 20:04
  next
• 20:05
  right
• 20:05
  aligned
• 20:06
  step,
• 20:07
  not
• 20:07
  the
• 20:07
  whole
• 20:08
  plan.
• 20:09
  Just
• 20:09
  the
• 20:09
  next
• 20:10
  move.
• 20:11
  Trust
• 20:12
  her.
• 20:12
  She
• 20:13
  already
• 20:13
  knows.
• 20:14
  Now
• 20:15
  lemme
• 20:15
  pour
• 20:15
  into
• 20:16
  you
• 20:16
  real
• 20:16
  quick,
• 20:16
  okay?
• 20:17
  Because
• 20:17
  I
• 20:18
  wanna
• 20:18
  speak
• 20:18
  directly
• 20:20
  to
• 20:20
  your
• 20:20
  heart.
• 20:21
  I
• 20:21
  know
• 20:22
  you've
• 20:22
  been
• 20:22
  the
• 20:22
  one
• 20:23
  who's
• 20:24
  always,
• 20:25
  everyone's
• 20:26
  person.
• 20:27
  The
• 20:27
  one
• 20:27
  everybody
• 20:27
  calls,
• 20:28
  the
• 20:28
  one
• 20:29
  who's
• 20:29
  always
• 20:29
  showing
• 20:29
  up,
• 20:30
  the
• 20:30
  one
• 20:31
  who
• 20:31
  holds
• 20:31
  it
• 20:31
  all
• 20:32
  together,
• 20:33
  and
• 20:33
  she's
• 20:33
  been
• 20:34
  doing
• 20:34
  all
• 20:35
  of
• 20:35
  that.
• 20:35
  Even
• 20:36
  without
• 20:37
  anyone
• 20:38
  really
• 20:38
  showing
• 20:38
  up
• 20:39
  for
• 20:39
  her
• 20:39
  in
• 20:39
  the
• 20:39
  same
• 20:40
  way
• 20:41
  I
• 20:41
  see
• 20:41
  you
• 20:42
  and
• 20:42
  I
• 20:43
  want
• 20:43
  you
• 20:43
  to
• 20:43
  know
• 20:44
  you
• 20:44
  deserve
• 20:45
  the
• 20:45
  same
• 20:46
  love
• 20:46
  you
• 20:46
  give
• 20:47
  so
• 20:47
  freely.
• 20:48
  To
• 20:48
  everyone
• 20:49
  else,
• 20:50
  not
• 20:50
  someday,
• 20:51
  not
• 20:51
  when
• 20:52
  you've
• 20:52
  earned
• 20:52
  it,
• 20:53
  not
• 20:53
  when
• 20:53
  the
• 20:53
  kids
• 20:54
  is
• 20:54
  grown
• 20:54
  and
• 20:54
  gone,
• 20:55
  but
• 20:55
  right
• 20:56
  now,
• 20:56
  today,
• 20:57
  in
• 20:58
  this
• 20:58
  season,
• 21:00
  you
• 21:00
  know,
• 21:00
  when
• 21:00
  my
• 21:01
  mom
• 21:01
  made
• 21:01
  her
• 21:01
  transition
• 21:02
  to
• 21:02
  heaven,
• 21:03
  before
• 21:03
  God
• 21:04
  gave
• 21:04
  me
• 21:05
  a
• 21:05
  new
• 21:05
  person,
• 21:06
  I
• 21:07
  had
• 21:07
  to
• 21:07
  be
• 21:08
  my
• 21:08
  person
• 21:09
  and
• 21:09
  friend.
• 21:10
  You
• 21:10
  are
• 21:11
  allowed
• 21:12
  to
• 21:12
  be
• 21:12
  your
• 21:13
  own
• 21:13
  person.
• 21:14
  Your
• 21:14
  own
• 21:15
  safe
• 21:16
  place,
• 21:16
  your
• 21:17
  own
• 21:17
  soft
• 21:18
  landing,
• 21:19
  you
• 21:19
  are
• 21:19
  allowed
• 21:20
  to
• 21:20
  choose
• 21:21
  yourself
• 21:21
  for
• 21:22
  real.
• 21:23
  Not
• 21:23
  instead
• 21:24
  of
• 21:24
  the
• 21:24
  people
• 21:25
  you
• 21:25
  love,
• 21:26
  but
• 21:26
  alongside
• 21:27
  them.
• 21:27
  Because
• 21:28
  a
• 21:28
  woman
• 21:28
  who
• 21:28
  is
• 21:29
  her
• 21:29
  own
• 21:29
  best
• 21:30
  friend
• 21:30
  has
• 21:31
  so
• 21:31
  much
• 21:31
  more
• 21:32
  to
• 21:32
  give.
• 21:33
  Not
• 21:33
  because
• 21:33
  she's
• 21:34
  selfish,
• 21:35
  but
• 21:35
  because
• 21:36
  she
• 21:36
  is
• 21:36
  full
• 21:37
  and
• 21:37
  connected
• 21:39
  to
• 21:39
  her
• 21:39
  own.
• 21:40
  Wholeness,
• 21:41
  you
• 21:41
  are
• 21:42
  already
• 21:42
  complete.
• 21:43
  You
• 21:44
  lack
• 21:45
  nothing,
• 21:46
  and
• 21:46
  that's
• 21:47
  all
• 21:47
  the
• 21:48
  more
• 21:48
  reason
• 21:49
  to
• 21:49
  be
• 21:49
  your
• 21:50
  own
• 21:50
  best
• 21:50
  friend.
• 21:51
  She's
• 21:51
  been
• 21:52
  waiting
• 21:52
  for
• 21:52
  you
• 21:53
  to
• 21:53
  show
• 21:53
  up
• 21:54
  for
• 21:54
  her.
• 21:56
  Ooh,
• 21:57
  friend.
• 21:58
  So
• 21:59
  good.
• 22:00
  Now
• 22:00
  remember,
• 22:01
  you
• 22:01
  are
• 22:02
  not
• 22:02
  an
• 22:02
  extra
• 22:03
  in
• 22:03
  anybody
• 22:04
  else's
• 22:04
  story.
• 22:05
  You
• 22:06
  are
• 22:06
  the
• 22:06
  main
• 22:06
  character
• 22:07
  of
• 22:07
  your
• 22:07
  very
• 22:08
  own
• 22:08
  story,
• 22:09
  so
• 22:10
  go
• 22:10
  be
• 22:10
  her,
• 22:11
  the
• 22:11
  one
• 22:11
  you
• 22:11
  have
• 22:12
  been
• 22:12
  becoming.
• 22:13
  She's
• 22:13
  been
• 22:13
  waiting
• 22:13
  on
• 22:14
  you
• 22:14
  to
• 22:14
  live
• 22:14
  out
• 22:15
  loud.
• 22:16
  I
• 22:16
  am
• 22:17
  cheering
• 22:17
  for
• 22:17
  you
• 22:17
  loud
• 22:18
  and
• 22:18
  obnoxiously
• 22:19
  always.
• 22:22
  And
• 22:22
  no
• 22:23
  matter
• 22:23
  what
• 22:23
  comes
• 22:24
  your
• 22:24
  way
• 22:25
  together,
• 22:25
  we
• 22:25
  can
• 22:26
  Encourage
• 22:27
  Over
• 22:27
  Everything.
• 22:29
  Love
• 22:29
  you,
• 22:29
  friend,
• 22:29
  and
• 22:30
  I
• 22:30
  will
• 22:30
  see
• 22:30
  you
• 22:31
  in
• 22:31
  the
• 22:31
  next
• 22:32
  episode.