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- 0:00Hey, what's up? This is Jeff Zimfer, your host of the
- 0:14Mortgage Marketing Radio podcast. Thank you for tuning in once again. A quick
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- 1:04review. Leave us a review. We appreciate it. Before I get into these weeks, this
- 1:07week's episode, I wanted to tell you about our latest win of the week. As you
- 1:10know, we're in a challenging market. There's a what we call I've heard this
- 1:14phrase the other day. It's not a housing recession. It's a transaction recession.
- 1:18So we're going to have a decrease of transactions for a period of time. So the
- 1:24question is, what do you do? Well, I think what I'm seeing the most successful
- 1:28people do out there right now is continue to grab market share, right? Go into
- 1:33the market, increase awareness, increase engagement, grab conversations, because
- 1:37you know, conversations leads to contracts. So my quick win of the week from one
- 1:43of our mortgage marketing pro, my agent classes members is Janelle Davis. What's
- 1:47up Janelle? She hosted our winning strategies for buyers, agent class, which we
- 1:51help agents navigate the post NAR world and help them deliver their value
- 1:56proposition more effectively to buyers so that buyers choose them. And Janelle
- 2:03hosted this class just yesterday, as I'm recording this, 33 agents attended
- 2:07huge hit. And she took two unsolicited calendar appointments, three email
- 2:14responses from the automated email that goes out saying yes, we'd like to work
- 2:18with you. And she hasn't even gotten back to her desk yet. So good. So good.
- 2:23Guys, now's the time. Land grab market share agents are hungry. You can be
- 2:28that lighthouse. You can help guide them. This is what we help you do. Learn
- 2:32more. Go to mortgage marketing.pro. Check out the other success stories
- 2:35there. Grab a call with me. We'll see if you're at right fit for us. And we
- 2:38are the right fit for you. Mortgage marketing.pro. Okay, special guest. I am
- 2:43thrilled to bring to you this week, who's become a fast friend. I'm talking
- 2:47about Raquel, Rocky, Boris. She is the self proclaimed queen of goofiness,
- 2:52brand strategist speaker, creator at the rock, the boat show. She's all about
- 2:57youth empowerment and bridging the generational gap. And we have a really
- 3:00cool, just authentic conversation about, right? What it means to be real
- 3:07on authentic and to be transparent to be you and to give yourself permission
- 3:11to be you. What does a personal brand mean in this world? How do you show up?
- 3:16Well, online, right? How do you build an audience and a following? And how
- 3:21do you make an impact in the difference out there? So we're going to put
- 3:23links to everything Raquel does in the show notes. We'll link to her link
- 3:27in her YouTube channel and all the good stuff. So without further ado,
- 3:30let's get into this week's show. Raquel, welcome to the show.
- 3:35Thank you for having me.
- 3:39Who is Raquel? Raquel Boris and what is she all about? What do you want to
- 3:43tell the listeners? Who are you? What do you want to do?
- 3:46Loaded question, Jeff, because I know, right?
- 3:49I'm going to be 49 next month. And I'm already and I get it right in there.
- 3:55And I've been going to therapy every single week for five months now.
- 3:59And I'm really trying to figure out who I am.
- 4:02Oh, awesome.
- 4:03Besides of me, I think that's something that as we get older, like I don't
- 4:07want to be labeled or put in a box like there's so many wonderful facets to
- 4:12me. So to try to explain like who I am is kind of difficult.
- 4:17I'm not going to lie.
- 4:18Well, then, then let's do this. Let's take a page.
- 4:23No, I know. Right. And by the way, I appreciate that.
- 4:25That's we're going to have a great conversation. Um, let's then take a page.
- 4:28Let's break this down. If I was to go to your LinkedIn,
- 4:31we're going to share links to all your stuff for people who want to follow you.
- 4:34But, um, by the way, should I call you Rocky?
- 4:37You can. I get rock. I can.
- 4:39Or Rocky. You do.
- 4:41Do you have a preference? Oh, it depends on.
- 4:44Do we? Are we comfortable enough with each other?
- 4:45I can call you Rocky. Yes.
- 4:48Yes. Okay. All right. I may, I may do that.
- 4:51Um, but according to your LinkedIn profile, you are the queen of goofiness,
- 4:55a brand strategist, a speaker, creator at the rock, the boat show youth,
- 4:59empowerment, bridging the generational gap.
- 5:04You're right. That is a varied.
- 5:07That is a lot going on.
- 5:10Yeah. Right. You're out of characters on.
- 5:12I tell people I'm kind of like a walking oxymoron a lot of times because,
- 5:17you know, someone who loves sports, loves football,
- 5:20but then I love going to the symphony and, you know, love my hip hop,
- 5:23but I love classical music. You know, I can, I love being goofy,
- 5:27but I can be, you know, serious and I like to get deep. Um,
- 5:30yeah. So that's kind of like, all right. So I love what you said on your
- 5:37YouTube channel, rock the boat, our, that's our AK, by the way, rock the boat.
- 5:41We can link that up as well.
- 5:43Q, sorry, sorry, see my energy drinks is kicking in.
- 5:48Call number five today. Um, what are they?
- 5:51What is that whole? It's like, it's a letter. It sounds like what it isn't.
- 5:54But what you say in there is like, there are no interview questions.
- 5:57We hit record and see what the conversation takes us and that's what we're doing
- 6:01here today. So on that note, you just mentioned you dig some rap.
- 6:05You dig some symphony, right? Yes. Now it makes me curious, who's your shortlist
- 6:11for rap? Cause I'm like, you know, I got a 20 year old and a 22 year old.
- 6:15And of course they've introduced me to the world of rap. Yes. You, you have,
- 6:19do you have to go to shortlist? It's funny because I have a 23 and 20 year old
- 6:23and they have exposed me to the recent rap, which I'm not a big fan of.
- 6:29I love my 90s. I love my Snoop Dogg, Dr. Dre. Oh, gee, baby. Yeah. Yeah.
- 6:36West Coast East Coast rivalry. Yeah, West Coast kind of gal just, I guess,
- 6:41being the name from San Diego, it makes sense, right?
- 6:43Two Pock Biggie Smalls. Yeah. Yeah. So I actually got to witness two Pock at a hotel
- 6:51in Beverly Hills just two weeks before, really? Yeah. Yeah. It was, but I was like,
- 6:57you called in for questioning? No, but I was like, no, growing,
- 7:01when he walked into the lobby, I was like, oh, my gosh, I'm like, gosh, it's two Pock.
- 7:05That's cool. That's cool. Yeah. So I get super excited when it's the 90s.
- 7:13Yeah. So Spotify has an awesome playlist, which is like West Coast rap.
- 7:17I think is one of them. There's a lot of playlists in Spotify just as a tip for
- 7:20anybody who might want to check out some of that. Oh, gee. It's kind of cool. So my,
- 7:26my son turned me on to Travis Scott. And by the way, my son does the audio bumper for this podcast
- 7:33intro music, just FYI, I was saying as we're talking about him. That's his, he's in music
- 7:38production right now for his career in college. So cool. Right, which is why I had him do it,
- 7:44right? Yeah. And so he turned me on to Travis Scott. And I knew of Kanye and all that stuff.
- 7:49And this is some of the board, you know, even though Kanye has been around a long time.
- 7:52But like Travis Scott, do you know of him at all? Of course. I do. I have some of his songs on my
- 7:59like. So to me, I understand what you're saying. And everybody right now is like, what the hell
- 8:04is going on? They're talking about rap on mortgage marketing radio. Yeah, we are.
- 8:08Because there's no notes, right? This is one of those awesome condos. But trust me,
- 8:12hang with us. And this is going to lead to an amazing. Yeah. But I feel like you just mentioned,
- 8:16you know, mortgage marketing, you know, it's, I have interest in 90s rap, which helps my kind of
- 8:23creativity. It helps me create content and helps with my marketing. So I think it let's know.
- 8:31Okay. I like that. I like that. Thanks for like tying that back in, right?
- 8:38Maybe I should let you lead the show right now. Okay. So and that's a good segue back into
- 8:46like you being a brand strategist. I'm trying to bring up your LinkedIn again. I don't know what
- 8:51happened to it. But identify when you hear the word personal brand, what, what, how do you
- 8:58quantify or what does that mean to you personal branding? To me, it's just you. It's who you are.
- 9:05But you're putting yourself out there online so people can. So that persona, I guess you will.
- 9:12So that would be let's carry this from the conversation about rap. Does that mean like if you're,
- 9:17you're on your Instagram, whatever, and you want to, are you going to share like one of the songs
- 9:21you like from Snoop Dogg or whatever or just let people know that, hey, you're a, you're an old
- 9:25school rap fan. I mean, I'm not going to maybe tell you, but I might use the music on some of my
- 9:32girls. Okay. Or if I in my car sometimes, or I'm listening to something, I'll screenshot
- 9:40the song. Oh, right. That's what I mean. Yeah. Yeah. And yeah, but get an idea of like,
- 9:44oh, that's what she's listening to. Right. A lot of times it starts a conversation. And that's
- 9:48what you want. Okay. Um, all right. So what is it that you ex, what do you do, recal?
- 10:03You're the external brand communications manager at New American Funding. Yes. Okay. Uh-huh.
- 10:09So I was just promoted to that role and that role was a created for me. And I think that's something
- 10:15that's, I don't talk a lot about in the, in the space that I'm forging my own path. Like,
- 10:22I think people forget that you have the ability to do that even in a maybe industry or a space
- 10:28that you didn't think there be any room for you. And I started out in the mortgage industry,
- 10:35not knowing where it was going to take me. You know, usually you're like, oh, you're going to be
- 10:39a loan originator and everyone assume that because I'm a people person, but I didn't want to
- 10:44originate loans. So I essentially just created my own path. And here nine years later,
- 10:51brand, you know, external brand communications manager that was created for me as well. Just being
- 10:56that it encompasses what I love to do, which is the social media content creation. I love going to
- 11:02conferences and networking and building relationships. I love collaborating. I love, I just like being
- 11:10someone that is out there trying to make a positive impact in any possible way I can. So if it's
- 11:15in the mortgage industry, what better way to do that than to kind of be someone that's out there
- 11:20educating the population on home ownership, but in a fun way. And in a way where, you know,
- 11:28I love to empower you. So what better way to do that than power them financially and empower them
- 11:34in a way where, you know, everything doesn't seem so daunting to them. So I think it's kind of
- 11:41cool that I've become kind of this like I almost say that I'm like a conduit to like the mortgage
- 11:47industry and then just like the everyday person. Because even though I've been in the industry for
- 11:51nine years, I have my NMLS. I still feel like I'm your everyday consumer that's still trying to
- 11:58figure it out, learn. And so I just kind of think about how would I want to consume content or
- 12:05how would I want to learn about something. And for me, it's I want to learn about it in like a fun
- 12:10way, a way that's relatable, a way that connects with the emotionally. And so I pretty much do all
- 12:18this very intuitively, Jeff, like I'm not someone that studied marketing or social media or any of
- 12:25or especially if we look at your major, which was art history, right? History. Wow.
- 12:31And I'm an artist like I grew up in an artistic family like my mom's an artist, my great aunt.
- 12:37So it's kind of cool that I get to be like creativity in this capacity. And it just goes to show
- 12:44that you just never know where you like life and your career can take you because there's
- 12:50careers that we don't even know are going to exist yet. You know, down the road, like when I came
- 12:54into mortgage, we know whenever I spoke on personal brandy, right, right, like having a brand or
- 13:01you know, having an online presence to help promote your company or what you do, like that didn't
- 13:07exist. You know, TikTok was hadn't even started yet. Instagram was just in the picture phase.
- 13:13Right. Oh, my gosh. Geez. I have this job. You just nine years ago, people would have been like,
- 13:20what? That's crazy. You know, the old saying, oh, you just aged yourself. Like, yeah, I did.
- 13:27I used to reference the other day. And that was my wife asked me. She was like, she didn't know
- 13:33the reference. I said, goodnight, Mrs. Calabash, wherever you are. Do you know that one?
- 13:42Cause I'm 48. I don't know what that means. I got, I got a decade on you. I'm a decade older.
- 13:49Decade plus one. Anyway, that's a, for anybody who knows what that reference is, DM me on Facebook.
- 13:54And you get a free shirt and a call with me. How's that?
- 13:57Oh, my God. I'm gonna have to Google it. But you got a call. I just need to get you a shirt.
- 14:05No, what I was going to say was when you gave that reference of when Instagram started with
- 14:09just pictures and image, like that flashed in my brain for a second of like remembering
- 14:14what that, and that feels so long ago. You know what I mean? To where Instagram is today.
- 14:21Exactly. Even when I got on LinkedIn, I just celebrated my 10 year anniversary with LinkedIn.
- 14:29When I got on, it was completely different too. Like, what did he get you?
- 14:35What did Mr. LinkedIn get you? I didn't get me anything, but I was part of their content creator
- 14:40program. So I do have a LinkedIn creator sweatshirt. It's a really nice hoodie. And I know
- 14:46thanking me for creating content. People love swag.
- 14:48The thing is I never would have thought that LinkedIn would have been the social media platform
- 14:55that's the one that I've thrived the most and the one that I love the most. Like, back in the day,
- 15:02I would have never said, oh, this professional platform would be my favorite because I don't
- 15:07look at myself as some very polished professional professional person. So for it to be the one
- 15:15platform that I recognize the most and follow the most, it's really quite funny.
- 15:22Well, okay, now we're going to dig deep. So people who are listening and you stuck with it,
- 15:27this is it's getting juicy. So do you think you need to be polished and professional on LinkedIn?
- 15:33You don't, but what I have acknowledged is that you do have to respect your community,
- 15:44your following your network. I feel like there's a level of respect there where it's not that I have
- 15:49to be polished or professional, but I have to put myself out there in a way where it's acknowledging
- 15:57what the platform is and what it is that I'm trying to do. So there is a consciousness there of like,
- 16:04okay, do you have to at least honor what LinkedIn is all about? But that makes sense.
- 16:11What is it all about? I danced to Millie Vanille too. On LinkedIn?
- 16:16Yeah, but it was a full circle moment because I had posted five years ago around the same time,
- 16:23dancing to Millie Vanille. I was working for a different mortgage company. The president had
- 16:28requested Millie Vanille because I was doing like a fun Friday thing. And I remember somebody was
- 16:34like really mean, reposted that post and said something nasty. And then I had to delete it.
- 16:40And then it almost got me off of LinkedIn, but then Michael Hammond, without even knowing anything,
- 16:45made a post about me the next day, how people should follow me. So then I stayed on. So it was
- 16:49this whole thing, but it really was like I was questioning myself of like, oh my gosh, am I doing
- 16:55something wrong? And so I did the, so Scott actually, Scott Parsons was like, you know what? I dare you
- 17:02to like post again, dancing to Millie Vanille tomorrow because it's Friday and just kind of have
- 17:10it be a full circle moment. And I did that. That was just several weeks ago.
- 17:13Well, it makes me really curious. So I'm sure people are like, okay, so that makes no sense.
- 17:23But it was, it was me trying to show that you have to be able to be 100% who you are
- 17:31and be very authentic in order for people to really want to like connect with you and follow you
- 17:37and get to know you. And so it was, it would be like a disservice to people if I wasn't showing that
- 17:44side of me. But there's still a side of me that it can be like I said, can be serious, can we know?
- 17:51Of course, at the right time. Be that person. But at the same time, I have to show that side of me too.
- 17:58And it's that side of me, to be honest, Jeff, that has gotten people to follow me.
- 18:03I had a couple people on that post message me separately and said, I think it was that particular
- 18:07post that got me to follow you because you were just fun and different and you were doing something
- 18:11completely different on the end. And it wanted me to get to know you. So it just goes to show you
- 18:16that that side of me was really what drew people in. Which makes the point of the question I asked,
- 18:23which is do you think you need to be all serious and polished to be on LinkedIn?
- 18:29Answer no. You can do Millie Vanille skits and grow your following.
- 18:35Yeah. But that, but the respect part was the fact that I grew my following and I got them to
- 18:41trust me and and understand what I was doing and understand my journey so that when I was posting
- 18:48goofy stuff, they understood where it was coming from. They knew that I was still taking the
- 18:54platform seriously and taking what I do seriously. Okay. So that's what I tell people,
- 18:59like if you're going to jump on LinkedIn, for instance, and you've been on Instagram and TikTok
- 19:03all this time, you have to understand, like, the audience is a little different. So maybe don't
- 19:09like Sully start doing crazy TikTok Instagram stuff at first because people might be like, wait,
- 19:15wrong platform. Like too soon. Right? Yeah, too. Exactly. Too soon. And I think that's where I'm
- 19:21trying to like. Okay. This is a good. I love this. Let's let's double click as they say and go
- 19:28deeper on this. I think I just aged myself again. But let's let's before you be Sully or reveal
- 19:39your goofy side, right? You have to establish some presence and credibility and maybe some
- 19:44engagement points. Okay. So what would those look like for those that are looking to establish
- 19:49that first? Like what would be is this more of the more traditional useful educational type content?
- 19:56Well, it doesn't not, it's not necessarily that you have to put out this useful educational
- 20:01content. It's just sharing who you are. But in a way that is genuine, right? Like there are people
- 20:09that are getting our newer on LinkedIn. And I love that they're also kind of being very transparent
- 20:15about the fact that this is like they're starting their social media journey. And how are they
- 20:19transparent? Are they saying it? Yeah, I tell people to say that. It's funny how many
- 20:24loan officers or just people in general that I have. They're like, well, what do I say? I'm like
- 20:28just be honest, say that this is your very first video. So I've had people on there that were
- 20:33inspired to post a video and do a video. And they'll say in their video, I was inspired by Raquel
- 20:38to just do it. And this is my first time. And I love it because usually the engagement and the
- 20:43comments are people like, oh my gosh, you did great. Keep going. Like good for you. Like there's
- 20:48that support. Right. The rooting for you. I'm like, people are going to want to root for you.
- 20:52Right. So be honest about it. If it's your first video, like who cares? Let people know. I mean,
- 20:58you got to start somewhere. What I'm looking at your videos right now. You're your threat of posts.
- 21:04And trying to net an incredible journey and of itself. Is there a balance that you lean in on
- 21:11video versus images on Instagram's a little bit unique too in terms of the content. So we're talking
- 21:17about LinkedIn specifically. But I don't know that I've done here actually quite a while. So let's
- 21:22continue to lead with this. Yeah. Video LinkedIn is leaning more towards video two. If you see their
- 21:27format, they just kind of now have they were beta testing it for a while. I got to beta test it.
- 21:32Now it looks like I think it's for everybody where it is like a talk tick-tock Instagram
- 21:37real feed now on LinkedIn. Right. So obviously they want more video on there because
- 21:43video it's easier to connect with your audience than with the picture. And that's why I do video
- 21:47because I feel like the way I speak my mannerisms, my laugh, just kind of like my personality comes
- 21:54through video, not a picture. Right. And that's why I do that. And I mean, because I understand that
- 22:02like I get it. You know, like I understand that I'm good on video. So that's why I continue to do it.
- 22:08So you lean in. It's just fun for me. Right. Oh, so was there a time where it was uncomfortable and maybe
- 22:14a little bit. The first video I ever did in 2018, my ex-husband and my kids made so much fun. I mean,
- 22:21when I went over to my exes that day and I had done a video promoting Nara if I think in the
- 22:27president, she's like, just do a video. And I'm like, all right. So I even said like because of
- 22:31Sarah Rodriguez, I'm doing this video. But like the angle and I was so stiff and I thought I had
- 22:36to be this like polished professional person. So it didn't come across authentic to the people that
- 22:42knew me. They were like mom. That was so cringy. So awkward. And it took a while for me to get
- 22:50comfortable in front of my phone. It did. That's true for everybody. I had this like idea of what
- 22:57I was supposed to look like. Ah, see that was the thing. It was more of like, oh, if I'm doing video,
- 23:04then I got to sound like I'm a keynote speaker. And I'm in an audience of 500 people.
- 23:11Right. That was thinking. Now I'm like, who cares?
- 23:14Okay. So in regards to your content or I'm wondering if you have any type of strategy or do you
- 23:21just like go in the moment and press record and upload or what do you do? Yeah, I'm more in the
- 23:27moment kind of gal. Like I'm someone that almost likes to do everything the opposite way or not
- 23:34necessarily opposite, but not do what everybody else is doing to prove to people that you can do it
- 23:38your way and still be successful at it and still gain a following and still have an impact.
- 23:44So I do that on purpose. So when there was a point in time where everybody was so like set on
- 23:50like what are the best times to post the best days? And you know, and then there are people
- 23:54were tagging everyone in their mother. Like a lot of people still do that. Like I never was that
- 23:59person. I always posted in real time because I wanted people to really get a sense of like,
- 24:03oh, she was just at this event or she just had this moment and she wants to share it with us
- 24:09right now because like it's fresh in her mind. And so that's why I do that. So and nothing's curated.
- 24:16I don't schedule anything. I do everything myself. Like I tell people all the time I'm a one woman
- 24:23show. Like it really is all me editing the videos. Everything. Do you edit on your mobile phone?
- 24:31I do everything on my mobile phone. All right. So just I have to fill in the gap here.
- 24:38What are you using for your phone video recording apps? In shot is my favorite app. And I've
- 24:44been using it for years. And I got a premium account from the beginning and it's worth it.
- 24:49It's really not that expensive. And they keep adding features. So they added captions. So now you
- 24:54can add captions. They added all these other features as well that they're just always evolving.
- 25:02And they have everything that you can think of. Music. The last video I did, the little
- 25:08dueling in the background. That was in shot. The way you can split your videos. It's really easy
- 25:13on in shot too. That was something that I didn't know until like recently. And I was like, how did I
- 25:18not know this up until now? That was a game changer. And was there? I assume a learning curve of
- 25:23learning how to use an app like in shot? Yeah. I'm still like I said, I didn't know anything about
- 25:29the split videos until recently. And that has changed everything for me because it is it's helped
- 25:35me with just my time. Because I'm not like editing the video separately and then putting them together.
- 25:40If that makes sense, like you're able to split, like you can even delete them. Because it's so good
- 25:45to have like on like a half a second. Yeah. So those are the type of things that I had to kind of
- 25:51just figure out over time. There's an arm. Did you have to this is what I find for me on this
- 26:01content journey is that I had to start to train my brain to create awareness for content capture
- 26:10opportunities. That makes sense. For example, last night I was out at the Phantom Blue Hotel here in
- 26:16Las Vegas, which is this new swanky hotel. There's a whole story behind it. No, but it's a really
- 26:20it's the most luxurious hotel that has recently opened on the street. Anyway, it's beautiful inside.
- 26:25Really? I had a view of it from my room. Oh, you did. The summit. Yeah. I can see like the pool area.
- 26:30It looked super fancy. It's super fancy, super luxurious. It's sat vacant for 15 years,
- 26:36half built because the developer went bankrupt and all this stuff. So there's this long story behind
- 26:41it. And of course, it's a it's a well-known like local story here. But the point is this is I was there
- 26:45last night and I was I've got to this point now where I can walk into a place like that. And I'll
- 26:54most times remember to look for content capture opportunities. And in that hotel, there are several
- 27:01of them because it's so beautiful and artwork and this and that and the architecture. I'm wondering
- 27:07so that was a struggle for me like because I would walk around like a moron like forever,
- 27:12not even thinking like, dude, this is content. Why don't you capture? Did you have to kind of like
- 27:17learn that new, you know? Yeah. Yeah. And now I'm like obsessed. Now I'm that person like my
- 27:23mom makes fun of me all the time because years ago, like we'd go somewhere and I'm like, mom,
- 27:27take a picture of me inside of this. I'm like, I walk around and constantly thinking about how
- 27:34to create content. It's it's really kind of crazy at this point. Yeah. And I'll even tell people
- 27:40like, I remember I went walking the other day and my mom's neighborhood and there were these two
- 27:43guys that were doing like, would work for a home. And it was really cool what they were doing. And
- 27:49no one was recording it. And I was like, Hey, guys, like, why aren't you recording this? Like,
- 27:54this is like beautiful. You're doing this like, it was like a custom, a wood board or something
- 28:00for a kitchen. And they're like, yeah, we know we night, we got to get on social media. I'm like,
- 28:05you're missing out. I'm like, because I'm videoing this right now. And I'm talking about how you
- 28:09guys should be getting on social media. And if I had you, I would attack you guys. And they're like,
- 28:14yeah, we just, we yeah, we're trying to think, you know, yeah, like I'm thinking, oh my goodness,
- 28:20you guys are overthinking. I'm like, you know, and then you've got me. I'm like, I would have
- 28:24recorded this for you and given it to you. And then you guys could have posted it. So yeah,
- 28:29I'm that person that's even thinking about other people. So there's, there's two sides of that
- 28:34coin when I think about that. There's one I was someplace recently. I mean, I think I saw,
- 28:39I saw it at the gym probably where now, you know, you got people in the gym with their tripod and
- 28:42they're like recording themselves for their fitness video or whatever. And that's like interesting.
- 28:47But then there's the other side, I don't know if you've heard this example or joke where it's like,
- 28:51you know, one day the aliens are going to come down or whatever and see everybody holding their
- 28:55phones and doing all these selfies and stuff to be like, what is going on with that planet? You
- 29:00know, and I will tell you though, Jeff, that still embarrasses me. I will not pull my phone out
- 29:08when there's people around and I'm in public. I rarely ever do that. Like, I know there's a lot
- 29:13of people like Sue Wood or she's really good at the airport and videos there walking around.
- 29:18I'm embarrassed to do that. Like I still get super self conscious when it comes to that because
- 29:23when I see other people do that, it makes me feel uncomfortable so that I'm like, why am I going to
- 29:27do that? I want anybody else to. So it's my own thing. Like I rarely will take selfies.
- 29:33Yeah. Yeah. There's certain things I still have, I still have a line. Yeah.
- 29:38But people think that like I don't have any boundaries and I cross all lines. I'm like, no,
- 29:42there's still certain things that I just don't feel comfortable doing.
- 29:45It is an age thing though. Like because I have a niece who's in like 26 and like they have no
- 29:51problem taking selfies at nauseam wherever the hell they are. Oh yeah. I'll see women like
- 29:57doing crazy stuff and we're like walking by and I was like, so no, see that would, I mean, like
- 30:02you, there's an account on Instagram that I follow. It's called influencers in the wide. Yeah.
- 30:07Oh yeah. It's great. Larry is the things that people will do and not care. Yeah. And for me,
- 30:13yeah, I still have an issue with that. It's an age demographic thing I think. We are just
- 30:18a little bit more reluctant to do that. At least that's my unscientific being around younger
- 30:24people. I'll be in the card talking to my phone all the time. Sure. Sure. In public is a little
- 30:29different. Okay. All right. So then what do you advise for people? Because I think that's a constant,
- 30:38you know, we've talked about a couple of things here. One, we have to learn and train ourselves to
- 30:43be aware of like these content opportunities. And then second, I think what, what is a content
- 30:48opportunity, if you will? I mean, I talk about contents everywhere. It really is because I feel like
- 30:55there's a learning lesson in everything. Any kind of conversation that I have, a lot of times it's
- 31:00conversations that I have with just everyday people that's content for me because it's more
- 31:05relatable too. Like that's how I think about it too. I'm like, how can I have people relate to
- 31:10what I'm saying? So that's why I'm not someone that really curates my videos and has them edited,
- 31:15has everything kind of like super polished because that to me is like for a lot of people
- 31:21out of reach that they can't do that. So that's why I try to kind of just walk the walk as opposed
- 31:27to talk about it. I'll just do videos with no makeup on or filter like in the moment. And I do
- 31:32that on purpose to give permission for people to do the same because I feel like they won't do it
- 31:37unless they see other people do it, right? Like this right now. This is a content opportunity
- 31:43for people who can't see. I'm away from the mic because I'm taking a photo, right? But the photos
- 31:49didn't let damn face. You're like, but it was a selfie incident. I'm like, what the hell? I can't even,
- 31:55like, oh my god. Yeah. So like, if I'm getting ready for a Zoom call or on a Zoom, I'll take
- 32:02a scene or a behind the scene. Anything just to kind of have something out there because that's
- 32:09another thing too is you do want to train the algorithm for the platforms that you're on to know
- 32:14that you're posting and to push your content out. So there are little things to little nuances
- 32:19like that as well that are important. So think about that, right? You listening right now behind
- 32:24the scenes. You're prepping for calls. You're doing a prequel. You're going out to a realtor
- 32:29meeting, an open house, a broker preview. Like I'm thinking of all the things. Maybe you are,
- 32:34or maybe you're on a Zoom like you and I right now and I just snap that photo. Yeah.
- 32:39Like there are a lot of content opportunities when you think about it that people want to,
- 32:44it's weird. They want to like get these insights into your day. Like what do you do?
- 32:49Do I love that? Well, yeah. I mean, it doesn't that that's more intriguing to me, Jeff,
- 32:54when I'm scrolling through my feed. If there's a curated video, I most likely will not stop,
- 33:00but if I suddenly see a video of someone in their car. Really? In the moment with a baseball cap,
- 33:06I'm more inclined to want to hear what they have to say because I know it in the moment and it's raw
- 33:11and there's something about that rawness and being in the moment that is intriguing to me and
- 33:16that I want to hear because that's like people's true kind of genuine moments and to me that's what
- 33:22that attracts me. And this, remember, this is me. There are some people that are the opposite.
- 33:27And that's okay, but those are the type of people that I don't really want on my feed or really
- 33:32attract. I mean, yeah, right. It's okay. Like I'm honoring what it is that I like. There you go.
- 33:39That's the key to the content out that I like. So if someone likes polished content and likes
- 33:45that professional look, then they're most likely going to create that. And that's okay.
- 33:50Well, I think that's a really good point there to double click on, which is like you got to be
- 33:55true to yourself. You know, be true to your school. Like it's got to resonate with you. You can't
- 34:00fake it and be all polished, which is why this just popped into my head. Like when I was at the
- 34:05mastermind summit, like I can't wear a, I don't want to say can't. I am less me if I'm going to go
- 34:12present a keynote or something from in front of a room. If I'm wearing a blazer or a sport coat,
- 34:19I feel confined and trapped. And like I can't be free and be me, right?
- 34:25So I don't know if that that that's a parallel, but it's a similar example of like you got to be
- 34:29you. You can't like fake it. Yeah. Why all those people like have the backward hat game.
- 34:35Yeah, there's a lot of guys that are looking like that these days. And it's because that's who they
- 34:40are. They're going to be walking around like that. Like I mean, there's plenty of times where I come
- 34:44to work and I have a baseball cap or I do videos with baseball caps because I love to wear a
- 34:47baseball cap. And that's a lot of what I trust like every day. So I'm not going to not do videos.
- 34:56You wearing your two pack cap. Is that what you're wearing? No, I have, they're all, they're all like
- 35:01a sports teams, wherever they're going to kind of buy it. Padres, Dodgers, Angels. What? You can't
- 35:08do Padres and Dodgers. I can do what I want. Damn it. Well, because I'm not, because I don't,
- 35:17I don't have a baseball team. So when it comes to football, apparently you have two of them.
- 35:23Really? Yeah. Yeah. So when it comes to football, you won't find me buying ball caps from
- 35:30other football teams. Baseball, I don't care. Is that your sport baseball? You like baseball?
- 35:35That's all it's all good. Oh, sorry. Football is your sport. Chargers. Yeah, but yeah, I'm so loyal
- 35:41to the chargers that you'll never see me wearing like they went to LA. Like that was the biggest,
- 35:45like ridiculous thing of like why not friggin build a new stadium city of San Diego, you know?
- 35:52Jack Murphy. I know, believe me. Qualcomm. Yeah, I went to games at Jack Murphy and Qualcomm.
- 36:00It's a matter of fact, it was the one. Yeah, but I love my sport. I know, but see,
- 36:05I took my kids to a game at must have been Qualcomm because Jack Murphy's a long time ago, but
- 36:11Qualcomm stadium. Yeah. My kids were, this is going back 10 years. So now you know, my kids are like
- 36:1510 or 12 back then. And I take them to their first NFL game and what happens? Three rows in front
- 36:20of us, a fight breaks out between these two drunk guys. And then we're on a way to the restroom.
- 36:24Some dudes thrown up in the trash can, you know? I'm like, welcome to your first NFL experience,
- 36:28kids. This is American professional football. God, I love it. I just, I'm a big fan of athletics.
- 36:38So I'm that person that's watching, like when it's the World Cup. Yeah. I love tennis. So I
- 36:43watch all the, all the tournaments, the Grand Slams. I, you know, yeah, World Series. I just,
- 36:48I appreciate sports. Yeah. So the, and didn't the World Cup. Is that happening?
- 36:58What was the game last night? The US got right now. You're peeing. That's what it was.
- 37:02European or US is out. They lost last night. Yeah. I know that because I was at the hotel.
- 37:09But um, okay. So be yourself. Um, capture content in the moment. Don't overthink it or overproduce it.
- 37:16Um, yeah. Just be. Well, I just think in, well, yeah. I mean, Jeff once again, like intuitively,
- 37:24I feel like that's where we're going. Our younger generations want more of that type of content.
- 37:29That's what they relate to. I mean, they're the ones that are literally changing the landscape.
- 37:34So I, you have kids that age, I have kids that age too. So I see it with my kids. I see that what
- 37:40they consume is completely different than what we, you know, we would consume and completely
- 37:45different than what a lot of us put out there. So that's why for me, I'm kind of also taking notes
- 37:51from what my kids are doing and saying and reacting and, and so forth. And, and, and they are
- 37:57just so different than I was at that age, so different. And so it's like having to kind of evolve
- 38:04in so many ways. Evolve as a parent. Yeah. You know, just the way a parent has evolved in the last
- 38:0910 years because of social media. And, you know, in TikTok. So for me, that's why with rock the
- 38:16boat, it's so important because I want to bridge that gap, that generational gap and hear what
- 38:21they have to say so that we can relate more to them and understand where they're coming from.
- 38:25Because, you know, that's the same thing too. With as a content creator, a marketer,
- 38:31mortgage, home ownership, all of those things, you've got to understand the future generations
- 38:36and how to speak to them. And, uh, yeah. So I think it just all relates to one another.
- 38:43And so for, yeah, let's, let's talk about this briefly, rock the boat.
- 38:48Link in the show notes to your YouTube channel, rock the boat. What prompted this?
- 38:52Why did you create this? What's the genesis of it?
- 38:57I've always loved kids. I always thought I was going to be a teacher in some capacity.
- 39:02So I've always had just affinity for, for the youth. There's something about them that just like
- 39:06the innocence and the playfulness and all of that. And I love that because it gets, you know,
- 39:10I get to kind of be that kid when I'm around them. And there's something about that that I just love.
- 39:16And just being a mother of two kids that are going through COVID, going through social media,
- 39:22seeing the, how it was affecting them mentally, especially my daughter and her friends,
- 39:27because as a female, as a teenager, you know, it's different. Just like the whole body image and
- 39:32the filters and everything. And then you had COVID and then the someone that has had suffered
- 39:38from depression and I did try to take my life when I was at UCLA. So like, I feel there are so many
- 39:45things that I could like relate to these kids. And so I wanted to showcase of like, hey,
- 39:51first of all, we got to listen to what they have to say because they're our future.
- 39:55We have to pay attention. Secondly, we have to bridge that gap if we are going to try to help them
- 40:02and have them actually want to listen to what we have to say. Then we have to be able to kind of
- 40:06get to that level where they trust us. And they feel like we actually care what they have to say.
- 40:12And also, if there was a level there of like, we're not that different. Like, we might be
- 40:16different generations, but at the core of it, we all want to feel seen, heard and valued.
- 40:22And that's essentially what like, I wanted to show the world. And from it, I just learned so much
- 40:27about our youth. And I just also learned about how we still are so much the same.
- 40:34And so that's why like, even as as a parent, understanding too that they're more transparent,
- 40:43they're more vulnerable because they have a camera that they can share all of their feelings,
- 40:46and they're hearing other people's feelings. So then they want their parent to kind of be that
- 40:51that as well. And that's what I found like, at least with my own kids. They love that I'm very
- 40:56open and transparent with them and vulnerable because now they feel like they can really trust me,
- 41:01and they tell me everything. Like my daughter, she opens, like she's 20 years old, a 20-year-old,
- 41:06a 20-year-old never told me anything. My daughter pretty much tells me everything. And she does it
- 41:11because she really feels like she can trust me. And I'm creating a safe space for her
- 41:15to where she can share. And I'm not going to judge her. I'm not going to get upset.
- 41:19You know, none of those things. And because of that, we have, I have great relationships with my kids.
- 41:24And at the end of the day, as a parent, that's what I want. I want to have a good relationship
- 41:28with my kids. I want my kids to know that they can come to me no matter what, that I love them
- 41:34unconditionally. All of the things that I feel like all kids want. And if you can give that to
- 41:41them, then it's like, you're not going to, at least with me, we don't have like these crazy
- 41:47issues happening. Just you're normal every day, you know, growing up. Situations.
- 41:55This is I'm asking for of personal interest. Do you think that, you know, the younger generation,
- 42:03like I use this term, you know, it's not exactly failure to launch, but remember that movie
- 42:09failure to launch with Matthew McConaughey? I think it was the one.
- 42:12Jeez, come on. Where's your, where's your look? All these things, these amazing gems I'm dropping
- 42:18here. People listening right now remember failure to launch. It's about this dude who doesn't
- 42:22grow up and he's not mature enough to have a real, you don't call a woman a wife, whatever.
- 42:26What's her, what's her name was in it? Goldie Hans' daughter. Kate Upton, is that her name?
- 42:31I can't remember. Okay, Hudson. Yeah. Point is this. Like, do you talk to these younger people
- 42:38more obviously than I do? But I kind of see it as well in my own like kid circle is like the speed
- 42:46at which we engaged in different activities, whether that's dating, whether that's jobs,
- 42:55whether that's moving out. It seems to me they're a little bit slow on that launch path comparatively
- 43:03or slower than like your age group, my age group. What do you, what do you say to that?
- 43:08No, I agree. I agree it's slower, but I feel like I think it's kind of it's slower because they're
- 43:16not experiencing life like we did. So like they're not going through I think like the stages and
- 43:22the phases that we did. So it's like more difficult for them to like keep going if they haven't even
- 43:28experienced. What does that mean though? Does that mean they're removed from them? They're seeing
- 43:31them virtually online and not actually living it. Yeah, I feel like a lot of them are removed from it
- 43:37because they're not, they don't, you know, social media has allowed them to create relationships
- 43:44without meeting people in person. And there's something to be said about having the experiences
- 43:49with other people or in the moment. And I think because they're not having that, that that is also
- 43:54in a way kind of like, it's like an obstacle I think in so many ways. So if we're like, oh,
- 44:02you should be like this in the in the workspace. This is what they weren't able to do that when
- 44:07they were younger and they're schooling because of COVID. Then how do you expect them to kind of
- 44:11like they're missing a gear. There's a certain way in the workplace. They're missing a gear. Like we
- 44:16could shoot like a little like are there stuck like in that, you know, that girl or they're trying
- 44:21with the. It doesn't fall in. Yeah, it doesn't fall in. Yeah, like I think they're having difficulty
- 44:29in that way. And a lot of it is not their fault. Like and that's another thing too. I'm like,
- 44:35we can't like put all this blame on that. No, it's just a culture and that's what they're, you know,
- 44:40I mean, yeah. So I think that's another thing too is that having more empathy and compassion
- 44:46for what they're experiencing because I've had kids tell me we have so much information and it's
- 44:51so overwhelming. And I don't know what's good or bad. And so it's almost like they're like asking
- 44:56for help like, Hey, we need guidance or at least like help us figure this out because a lot of us
- 45:02were kind of left with all this information and we don't know what to do with it. Yeah, a lot of
- 45:06it's not accurate. And so that's why exactly. So even with loan officers, a lot of the loan
- 45:12officers that I work with have been in this industry for 20 plus years. And so I tell them like,
- 45:17you have a responsibility to put yourself out there and put out the right information because
- 45:23you're allowing other people that don't to put it out there. And then you have the,
- 45:28you know, our younger generations think that that's what it's supposed to be like when you're
- 45:33been in it for 20 plus years, like you know what you're doing. You're the expert. So you should be
- 45:38out there explaining how things should work. You should be out there guiding them, you know,
- 45:44all of those things. And I think when I explain it to them that way, they're kind of more inclined
- 45:49to try because they're like, yeah, I do have a responsibility to share the right
- 45:54impression. I like that. I think that's something people can sink their teeth into in that you have
- 45:59a responsibility, a duty, a fiscal responsibility, right? Kind of fiduciary use that word of like
- 46:06to educate. That's why like your involvement with first home IQ, right? As an ambassador.
- 46:12Oh my. Yeah. That makes a lot of sense for those who don't know what first home IQ is. We'll
- 46:15link it up the show notes. But what do you want to quickly say about first home IQ if you don't
- 46:20mind? Yeah. Well, Dave and Kristen, who a lot of people who are in the same house, you know,
- 46:25they started this nonprofit where it's, yeah, where it's geared towards educating the Gen Z
- 46:32generate, you know, the younger generations on financial literacy and home ownership and
- 46:37get them in a position to where they can understand so that when these high schoolers are getting
- 46:43their first job, then they're already being responsible with their money and putting it, you know,
- 46:49in places that could help them grow, invest and so forth, right? Because we have, we also live in
- 46:54a society where the emphasis is on the clothing, the what you're driving, the handbags, you know,
- 47:01all of those things. And, you know, obviously we're older, so we're a wiser. We understand like,
- 47:06if I could go back and not buy the extra amount of clothes and shoes and handbags and have that
- 47:12money, like I would, but, you know, you just don't know. So that's where I feel like, yeah,
- 47:16once again, we have a responsibility to be like, hey, we've lived through that experience and if we
- 47:23could go back, we would focus more on doing this and explain to them what that this is, right? Because
- 47:29our parents, I think we're like, they were really good about telling us that we should save and
- 47:35budget and what credit cards they're like. And so for me, if we can start doing that, you know,
- 47:41when they're younger, I think they'll thank us for us because they'll be like, oh, wow, okay.
- 47:46Yeah, you were right. You know, I should have, like, now I have a home. Agreed. Agreed.
- 47:52Because, you know, I listen to you. Wow. And so that's why I think it's really important and
- 47:59I just love anything that empowers your youth and you can empower youth by
- 48:05helping them feel empowered financially. Yeah. And maybe that's a jumping off point for some
- 48:09people about content and strategy and creation is, you know, let's just face it for STEM home buyers,
- 48:13next gen, all that stuff coming up. And if you're looking for an avatar or some audience to identify
- 48:17with, and if that audience speaks to you of this younger population and you do want to be, right,
- 48:22take that responsibility to help guide. I mean, you're not going to reach everybody. But I mean,
- 48:28if you just over the course of your career help change the impact, the lives of a few hundred or
- 48:34whatever, maybe a thousand or so, depending on how much you want to do business-wise,
- 48:38like that can be pretty impactful. Maybe that gives you some motivation or purpose behind
- 48:42finally getting active with your content. Yeah. Yeah. That's that's how I feel. Like it's just
- 48:49having that responsibility to help. And that's how you can help. You know, not just give up.
- 48:55Because I think that's another thing too is a lot of people just kind of give up. I'm like, don't,
- 48:58don't give up on them. They crave that guidance. They really do want the knowledge. They want to
- 49:04understand. And, you know, a lot of them, you know, they're their parents age. Yeah. So it's like
- 49:14right now. Okay. Maybe their parents aren't doing it. Then you can do it. Well, listen,
- 49:20I'm keeping an eye on the clock. And I know your hourly is expensive. So I'm afraid of the
- 49:26invoice I'm going to get. So this has been a really, yeah, really, I'm just wondering though,
- 49:35like if you have any predictions for this year's Super Bowl. And like who you live in California,
- 49:40you said, Chargers, is it Rams also? No, just Chargers. Oh, well, forget it. They're not going to
- 49:47be in it. I do know Sean McVeigh on the Rams. Yeah. I'm just excited to see what Harval does.
- 49:53Okay. It's a new team this year really is. And obviously, it'll take a couple seasons for them
- 49:58to get in the rhythm. But I'm really excited to see like what happens. And I'm going to go to a
- 50:02couple of games for sure. I'm going to drive up there and and root along and so far, right? So
- 50:08far stadium. I'll be disappointed. But so far. Yeah. So they share the stadium with the Rams.
- 50:13A technically is a rant. I've not been there yet. It's a beautiful. Yeah. I know. Sounds
- 50:18I definitely want to go for sure. And it's and it's worth getting the VIP tickets, the VIP section
- 50:24because it's not that expensive and you get a separate entrance like, you know, private bathrooms
- 50:29to get the food there and you're closer to the to the field. Oh, all right. Little insider tip.
- 50:36If you're there to see a team that's like, you know, I don't know who your team is, but if your
- 50:40team happens to be playing the charge, I feel like I can see over my shoulder. Let's see here.
- 50:46I can't. I know. See that. See that red hat over there?
- 50:51Yeah, but it's a little bit blurry. It says SF on it.
- 50:56Oh, okay. You're a minor span. Hey, you know what? I mean, they're legit. Well,
- 51:01I was rooting for them last season. I have a relative relative on the team.
- 51:06So over them. Oh, you do. Well, my I went to school with Ryan Lynch and his brother's John.
- 51:13Oh, yeah. I met John and I'll never forget. Yeah. So they're great family. Super cool people
- 51:18here. Tori Pines. And so Ryan and I went to school together and I'll never forget when he told
- 51:23me that his brother was was drafted to the Buccaneers from Stanford. Like and at that time,
- 51:31the Buccaneers, you know, yeah, terrible. Right. And they had their like little, you know,
- 51:37crazy, um, which I'm gonna call it, um, mascot logo thing. Yeah, the mascot. Yeah,
- 51:43was forgot socially corrected. But yeah, and then to see him worries at now, like I'm really
- 51:53happy for him because they're a great family. That's fantastic. Okay. So listeners who want to
- 51:59connect with you, LinkedIn is going to be your primary social platform, although we'll link up your
- 52:04Instagram as well as your cool conversation with young peeps on rock the boat. Yes, because I do
- 52:11want to have I want to get that backup started to Scott. I'm Scott Parsons. I'm going to have his
- 52:16daughter on and I do want to like, yeah, start doing it again. So if anybody, if you got young kids,
- 52:21you want them to be on Rock Hell's show, rock the boat on YouTube, connect with her. Yeah, please.
- 52:27It's the space for candid conversations with amazing kids.
- 52:32It is. And they loved it. And like, and I've had so many parents tell me after like,
- 52:37you really helped our child with their confidence or, you know, you really kind of spark something
- 52:42in them. And, and so that, well, I hope you spark something in our listeners today. Not only do
- 52:47we have fun, we talked about rap. We talked about old movies and quotes and football and it's been
- 52:54I told you see the blank would just cut no notes. And I told you too. I'm like, that's why I couldn't
- 53:00explain like who I was because I'm kind of well, I think anybody who follows you is going to be
- 53:05glad they did. It'll be inspiring. It'll be entertaining and impactful. It's all the above.
- 53:10So, Rock Hell, thank you so much for being here. Well, thank you.
- 53:13You bet listeners, you know what to do if you like this episode. Hey, there's a link somewhere
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