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#216: Kids Ruined My Life: The Real Story Behind Hotmomz · The Hotmomz Lifestyle Podcast

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SPEAKER_00: You're about to get the best spotty that you've ever had in your whole life.
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SPEAKER_00: It's gonna be easier than it's ever been.
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SPEAKER_00: Ever.
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SPEAKER_00: So I've been a health and professional, health and fitness professional for 17 years.
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SPEAKER_00: Professional fitness model got on the cover of magazines after I had kids, total hysterectomy, elective in my early 30s.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm 40 now, but I got into this shit in my 20s.
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SPEAKER_00: When everybody else was telling me then I shouldn't just enjoy life, just live a little, right?
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SPEAKER_00: Now all those people are literally in desperate need of my work.
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SPEAKER_00: We clear the root issue of any any body struggles, any hormone.
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SPEAKER_00: The reason why you just can't get those last 10 pounds off or whatever, and all this basic bitch fitness stuff online that you see.
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SPEAKER_00: Just just oh shoot.
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SPEAKER_00: I get this glass of losers.
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SPEAKER_00: Leave glass on the beach, right?
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SPEAKER_00: But basic bitch fitness stuff online that you've probably done.
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SPEAKER_00: Peptides, DLPs, low calorie diets, macros, and thinking positive and addressing your hormones and doing certain types of cardio, doing challenges and all this shit, and it's great, you'll probably get some results, whatever, but there's always something deeper inside of you that you should not fulfill.
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SPEAKER_00: You can't, you can't keep, you can't sustain it.
1:01
SPEAKER_00: Like you lose motivation, you go through seasons of life, hard seasons of life.
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SPEAKER_00: Fucking loss, people die, divorce, you lose yourself, your financial hardships, career change, all this shit, right?
1:12
SPEAKER_00: Life, life will fuck you up, man.
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SPEAKER_00: Life is I'm about to go through.
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SPEAKER_00: It just rained here, South Florida, and so there's frogs that are.
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SPEAKER_00: I love it.
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SPEAKER_00: Frog medicine is upon us, and I love it.
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SPEAKER_00: They'll probably stop as I get close to them, but love it.
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SPEAKER_00: It just frogs.
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SPEAKER_00: Anyway, I love it.
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SPEAKER_00: So life's gonna life's gonna fuck.
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SPEAKER_00: I can't even tell you.
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SPEAKER_00: And listen, all the abundance and feminine coaching and all this stuff was it gets to be easy and flowy and all that.
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SPEAKER_00: And feminine, I'm all for it.
1:34
SPEAKER_00: Listen, I'm all for feminine work, integrating healthy, masculine, feminine energetics.
1:38
SPEAKER_00: I love energetics.
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SPEAKER_00: And one of the reasons why my work is so profound, and so many women, their lives are changed deeply because it's trauma-informed.
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SPEAKER_00: We look at the whole body, we look at the person's nervous system, what their lived experiences is, are, what they've been through.
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SPEAKER_00: Because trauma, what will happen, even if it's nothing bad, has to happen.
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SPEAKER_00: It's just it could be trauma from burning out, just doing the wrong, doing the things so hard, going all in and to the wrong things.
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SPEAKER_00: Trauma could be childbirth, trauma could be losing something lost, growing up as a kid, and your parents got divorced.
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SPEAKER_00: It doesn't have to be that there was rape and near-death experiences and all that, even though I've been through all that, not until I started introducing trauma-informed work and energetics, masculine, healthy, masculine, feminine into my body of work did my life change for the better.
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SPEAKER_00: Everything.
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SPEAKER_00: Once I tapped into that, you can look back at photos and I've got because I've got trainings, everything where you can go see my blood work in the past, you can see my brain scans, you can see my body.
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SPEAKER_00: I had cystic acne, I had hello libido, stubborn fat, and I was like in fitness.
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SPEAKER_00: I just couldn't figure out what the fuck is wrong.
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SPEAKER_00: No energy turns out doctors were telling me I was normal.
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SPEAKER_00: It turns out I had adrenal fatigue, and nobody will treat that.
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SPEAKER_00: They always want to put you on progesterone and estrogen or whatever it's in testosterone, but nobody actually knows how to heal the adrenals and get the body out of a certain survival mode in fight or flight.
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SPEAKER_00: And I've been in and out, depending on what I'm going through.
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SPEAKER_00: So it's like I'm super embodied in understanding the human, ultimately, the human body.
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SPEAKER_00: And so if a woman's body doesn't feel safe, which most women don't, we are right now, I would say, at an all-time high of women being disconnected from their bodies.
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SPEAKER_00: There are, there's not a lot of women walking around with healthy feminine energy.
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SPEAKER_00: And if you want to see healthy feminine, healthy masculine energy in a woman, because women, we have feminine and masculine energy.
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SPEAKER_00: A lot of women think, well, if my husband would just do this, or if I just had a guy with money or whatever, everything would be different.
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SPEAKER_00: So we're always putting our safety outside of ourselves.
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SPEAKER_00: External circumstances.
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SPEAKER_00: Once this happens, then I'll feel this.
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SPEAKER_00: You can't do that.
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SPEAKER_00: It's all inside of you.
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SPEAKER_00: And so you have to have enough masculine structure inside of your body and life for your feminine, your inner feminine, to feel soft and to not think she needs to go all in and that fitness has to be a punishment and guilt and she needs to starve herself and remove food groups and all this shit.
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SPEAKER_00: I could go on a whole tangent, but I'm not gonna do that.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm just saying that once we started to teach this level of embodiment, really clearing out the reason why nothing has worked, people's hormones started to balance.
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SPEAKER_00: And yes, we have a team of physicians we work with.
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SPEAKER_00: We'll make sure we get specific hormone panels rammed.
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SPEAKER_00: We'll make sure you're at the elite levels, we'll make sure the food and gut tests is spot on.
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SPEAKER_00: We'll make sure that the workouts that you do and the dietary things that you're following are actually unique to your nervous system, to your lived experience, where you're at in life right now.
4:14
SPEAKER_00: You won't you don't put a woman on a fucking fall challenge that has a lot going on in all this chaos in her life.
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SPEAKER_00: You've got to meet her where she's at or else, you're gonna put her right in the grave.
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SPEAKER_00: You're gonna put her in.
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SPEAKER_00: You're gonna further her adrenal fatigue, you're gonna wreck her thyroid and everything.
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SPEAKER_00: That's what we do in our 20s.
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SPEAKER_00: We just push too hard, we restrict calories and all that shit.
4:30
SPEAKER_00: But that's not why I'm talking today.
4:31
SPEAKER_00: It's I really came on here because I was in the gym this morning and it hit me, almost started crying because when I created Hot Mom, see, before that, I was a regular trainer.
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SPEAKER_00: Glass away.
4:41
SPEAKER_00: I was a normal trainer online.
4:42
SPEAKER_00: I had a book of business, I did well, multi-six figures, just literally just created that shit.
4:47
SPEAKER_00: I did not come from money, I come from very lower middle class poverty, scarcity mindset.
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SPEAKER_00: And I just been scrappy my whole life, right?
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SPEAKER_00: But beyond scrappy, I had this deep calling to help people.
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SPEAKER_00: I wanted to inspire women, I wanted to help women, right?
4:57
SPEAKER_00: And we did, we did all that.
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SPEAKER_00: I was in competition mode.
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SPEAKER_00: I would help women back then.
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SPEAKER_00: I would specialize in reverse dieting, rebuilding metabolism.
5:04
SPEAKER_00: Women would come to me with fucked up diet mentalities and thinking they needed to eat less and they had eating disorders and compensatory behaviors, meaning they think they would go eat tacos or something and then think, let me go do legs.
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SPEAKER_00: I need to go burn this off.
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SPEAKER_00: That's a compensatory behavior.
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SPEAKER_00: They had a horrible relationship with food, with their bodies, with workouts, and just had a horrible relationship with their bodies and themselves.
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SPEAKER_00: And then they expected a workout or a doctor to fix that shit.
5:27
SPEAKER_00: I'm like, yeah, that's not gonna happen.
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SPEAKER_00: So women would come to us, like as runners, eating fucking no, no carbs and shit.
5:32
SPEAKER_00: They would come to us and we would get them eating shit tons of carbs, shit tons of food.
5:37
SPEAKER_00: They would start losing weight, they start getting really fit, and it was way easier.
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SPEAKER_00: They were like, oh my God, I'm eating more food, I'm doing less.
5:43
SPEAKER_00: This is so cool.
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SPEAKER_00: Yes.
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SPEAKER_00: It's you have to repair your relationship with your body, with how things have worked for you in the past, because not until you address your body and your fitness and even your business and your relationships from a root issue on the inside and your nervous system level.
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SPEAKER_00: Tony Robbins talks about this.
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SPEAKER_00: It's not new fucking shit, right?
6:01
SPEAKER_00: And I didn't even learn this from him.
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SPEAKER_00: This was just like intuitively led, guided, and lived experience and all that.
6:06
SPEAKER_00: But once I had kids, let me tell you, once I had children, holy shit, and you can chime in, you can comment, let me know.
6:12
SPEAKER_00: You feel me on this.
6:12
SPEAKER_00: So once I had kids, I was 30.
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SPEAKER_00: I had my first kid at 30, 29, 30.
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SPEAKER_00: Because before then, I was like, kids, they'll ruin your life.
6:20
SPEAKER_00: I was taught that kids will literally ruin your life.
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SPEAKER_00: You can't have your dreams, you can't be a businesswoman, you can't have a thriving career or relationship or anything if you have kids.
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SPEAKER_00: My mother literally told me that.
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SPEAKER_00: And I wanted to be successful.
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SPEAKER_00: I thought success meant multi-millions, freedom, and all this shit, and business, and I got shit to do.
6:36
SPEAKER_00: And all my mentors, they didn't have kids.
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SPEAKER_00: Oprah and Miss Olympia, that was my mentor at the time.
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SPEAKER_00: None of the women that that I was inspired by, they didn't have kids.
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SPEAKER_00: To me, women who had kids were, they sucked.
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SPEAKER_00: Like to me, all the clients that were coming to me had kids.
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SPEAKER_00: And I'm like, fuck that life.
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SPEAKER_00: Because I just would look at them and judge them hard.
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SPEAKER_00: I'd be like, but don't you see your life's hard because you have kids?
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SPEAKER_00: Don't you see that you gave up everything?
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SPEAKER_00: You gave up the car, you now drive a fucking minivan.
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SPEAKER_00: You're you're literally giving your life for your kids, yet you're so fulfilled, but your body looks like shit.
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SPEAKER_00: You're cat you're living in chaos, you haven't felt deeply connected and desired by your husband.
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SPEAKER_00: Now you're probably cheating on you're gonna get a divorce in a couple years, and your sleep's not good, and you're just not really happy, but you love being a mom, right?
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SPEAKER_00: And it was just didn't, it didn't add up.
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SPEAKER_00: But what was happening was I I wasn't seeing healed mothers, I was seeing wounded mothers.
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SPEAKER_00: So it just continued to solidify my belief that kids would ruin your life.
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SPEAKER_00: I, very spiritual gal here, like all the woo.
7:30
SPEAKER_00: I kept having these spiritual experiences where I would see kids in my dreams and I would be asking for levels of success and meditation, prayer time.
7:38
SPEAKER_00: And I kept seeing kids, and I'm like, no, no way, no way.
7:41
SPEAKER_00: I'd see the little boys, I would see everything, everything.
7:43
SPEAKER_00: And we were married 10 years, and something I was at a personal growth event and like a church God moment experience.
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SPEAKER_00: And I just was like, I gotta have a kid.
7:51
SPEAKER_00: Like, I gotta have a kid.
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SPEAKER_00: I feel I've got to do it, I gotta do this.
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SPEAKER_00: And I just, it was a calling, it was deep inside of me that was like, I have to do it.
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SPEAKER_00: It was not, it was this weird thing.
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SPEAKER_00: I can't explain.
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SPEAKER_00: Some women, they grow up and they know they want to be mothers.
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SPEAKER_00: That wasn't really me.
8:04
SPEAKER_00: This was just something like it wasn't a checklist thing.
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SPEAKER_00: It was like a people would say, like, God's it, it was just like this internal thing.
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SPEAKER_00: I felt this thing about having a kid.
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SPEAKER_00: So we did it, and I wanted them back to back.
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SPEAKER_00: So I had three pregnancies and two and a half years, had two under two, miscarried in between.
8:18
SPEAKER_00: And let me tell you, after all that, hot moms was birthed.
8:21
SPEAKER_00: And here's why birthed literally.
8:23
SPEAKER_00: After I had children, the the version of me who was in the gym and could do whatever she wanted, and the life you have is a maiden before you become a mother, where you don't have to consider anything else.
8:32
SPEAKER_00: You can, it's just all you, right?
8:34
SPEAKER_00: And even though I was really burnt out, and it as a matter of fact, before kids, I almost went in the hospital.
8:38
SPEAKER_00: I had shingles and I was in a really bad situation, and a nurse kind of got in my face, and she was a like a woo-woo nurse.
8:45
SPEAKER_00: She was a real nurse, and she gave like vitamin injections and stuff like that.
8:48
SPEAKER_00: And she also was uh like a spiritual type person who could sense things psychically and all that.
8:53
SPEAKER_00: She kind of got in my face and she goes, I'm gonna tell you something.
8:56
SPEAKER_00: She goes, You're headed for a stroke.
8:58
SPEAKER_00: She said, and I was in my early my 20s, and she goes, You've got to fucking stop what you're doing.
9:02
SPEAKER_00: She goes, because I at the time I'm flying everywhere, and I literally had a shingled outbreak, and I look like hell and just living on caffeine.
9:08
SPEAKER_00: It was just horrible.
9:09
SPEAKER_00: I was just trying to just go on grinding, what they said to do, what the bros said to do.
9:13
SPEAKER_00: And she said, You keep your bite to burn out.
9:15
SPEAKER_00: She goes, You're headed straight to stroke, Bill.
9:17
SPEAKER_00: You gotta stop.
9:18
SPEAKER_00: And I was like, Hey yeah, everybody tells me I'm I need to do this.
9:20
SPEAKER_00: Everybody was just telling me all these things.
9:22
SPEAKER_00: And I was just like, Yeah, fuck y'all, y'all don't understand me, right?
9:24
SPEAKER_00: You don't understand me.
9:25
SPEAKER_00: You don't know what it's like to have drive.
9:26
SPEAKER_00: After kids, two-hour gym sessions and do whatever the fuck I wanted, it stops, right?
9:30
SPEAKER_00: I was catapulted into the some of the worst post depression ever.
9:33
SPEAKER_00: Didn't take medication because I don't like that shit.
9:36
SPEAKER_00: I've tried to take it back in the day and in pharmacology when I was in like nursing school.
9:39
SPEAKER_00: Literally gives you enough energy to fucking end shit.
9:42
SPEAKER_00: And I knew because of a previous MDMA horrible, challenging experience earlier before kids.
9:48
SPEAKER_00: I knew then that because I came from addicts and watched what that would do to you, just taking pills, numbing out alcohol and just anything.
9:55
SPEAKER_00: Because if you drink alcohol, you're depressed.
9:57
SPEAKER_00: I've been there.
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SPEAKER_00: It doesn't matter if it's just to take the edge off.
10:00
SPEAKER_00: Like there's depression underneath.
10:01
SPEAKER_00: If you're going to alcohol, there's depression underneath.
10:03
SPEAKER_00: It does not to shame you, but just it's just showing you, hey, let's address this, right?
10:06
SPEAKER_00: Because then you're not, then you're free.
10:08
SPEAKER_00: So I fell into this post-product depression and I started to get help.
10:11
SPEAKER_00: I went to find out about my brain, it turns out.
10:13
SPEAKER_00: I get to the doctor after they did this brain mapping.
10:16
SPEAKER_00: He goes, Man, you got a lot of trauma.
10:17
SPEAKER_00: He's like, you've got severe ADHD, your brain, like you're just, it was my help was shit.
10:22
SPEAKER_00: That's when I found hormone therapy.
10:24
SPEAKER_00: This was in 20, 2015.
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SPEAKER_00: I did not go to a regular doctor.
10:27
SPEAKER_00: I found a very specific doctor who was working with celebrities and fitness models.
10:31
SPEAKER_00: And like, that's who I want to work with.
10:32
SPEAKER_00: And she goes, Girl, your hormones.
10:34
SPEAKER_00: Remember, I was 31 after kids.
10:36
SPEAKER_00: She was like, Your fucking hormones are like hospice level, like 80-year-old hospice level hormones.
10:41
SPEAKER_00: And I'm like, oh my God.
10:42
SPEAKER_00: I just felt relieved because I'm like, finally, I felt seen, I felt validated because I'd been to doctors.
10:48
SPEAKER_00: And looking back, like, they would look at my TSH and they would look at my thyroid, and they literally, motherfuckers' white coats would tell me I was normal.
10:53
SPEAKER_00: This white, this lady was like, honey, you you have, she labeled me.
10:56
SPEAKER_00: She goes, You got chronic fatigue, adrenal fatigue, you've got hypothyroid, and some signs of like PCOF.
11:02
SPEAKER_00: All right.
11:02
SPEAKER_00: And I was a new mom.
11:04
SPEAKER_00: No, no help.
11:05
SPEAKER_00: I did not have any family while growing a business.
11:07
SPEAKER_00: My husband at the time had lost his mother.
11:09
SPEAKER_00: He was under massive amounts of stress in his work.
11:12
SPEAKER_00: He had just lost his mom and his dad two years before.
11:15
SPEAKER_00: And his daughter had moved away and he was struggling with alcohol.
11:18
SPEAKER_00: So it was like my life at the time was it was not, it was a lot.
11:22
SPEAKER_00: Then there I was with these amazing, beautiful little, fucking awesome little boys.
11:26
SPEAKER_00: I'm just in the chaos and I'm doing the best I can.
11:28
SPEAKER_00: And I'm looking back, I'm still showing up for you guys.
11:31
SPEAKER_00: I'm still doing all the things.
11:32
SPEAKER_00: And I'm my my daily thing was just like, let me get to five o'clock or six, what seven thirty when the kids go down.
11:38
SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna have that glass of wine and whatever.
11:40
SPEAKER_00: And I knew that was a problem.
11:42
SPEAKER_00: And so I just did real deep work, right?
11:44
SPEAKER_00: I was like, fuck this shit, man.
11:45
SPEAKER_00: I'm not going down.
11:46
SPEAKER_00: I'm not going out like this.
11:47
SPEAKER_00: I'm not gonna be like, oh my god, look at this big old snake.
11:50
SPEAKER_00: Look at this beautiful.
11:51
SPEAKER_00: It's a corn snake.
11:52
SPEAKER_00: Is it a corn snake?
11:53
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, it's a corn snake, and it's not scared of me.
11:55
SPEAKER_00: There we go.
11:56
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I like corn snakes.
11:58
SPEAKER_00: Sweet.
11:58
SPEAKER_00: We're here, right?
11:59
SPEAKER_00: I know some of you are gonna be like, hell no, that's crazy.
12:02
SPEAKER_00: My kids would have tried to catch it.
12:04
SPEAKER_00: And it's interesting, snakes are all about shedding, they're all about the serpent, they're all about shedding your skin.
12:08
SPEAKER_00: And that's what we're talking about right now, and that's what's gonna be required of you if you really want that body.
12:13
SPEAKER_00: You've got to shed your old ways, you've got to shed everything that you thought you knew about fitness and what you're doing right now, and you've got to become a new fucking you.
12:21
SPEAKER_00: And we're not going to, this isn't some spiritual bypass gaslighting shit.
12:24
SPEAKER_00: This is literally finally getting what you fucking want and letting the body feel safe and experiencing life in the present moment, getting to experience life and feel safe and fun.
12:33
SPEAKER_00: And it's coming, Friday night energy is coming back.
12:35
SPEAKER_00: It's all there, man.
12:36
SPEAKER_00: You just got buried, right?
12:37
SPEAKER_00: So, what happens after childbirth, people don't talk about is it activates trauma, it activates all of your childhood trauma.
12:43
SPEAKER_00: It's just a it activates things and it's it's an initiation.
12:46
SPEAKER_00: Nobody talks about not until I literally became this medicine woman-y type vibe.
12:50
SPEAKER_00: Now we initiate people into phases of life, midlife, maiden from mother, all these things, Crohn.
12:56
SPEAKER_00: And so what happened is nobody was giving me this information.
12:59
SPEAKER_00: But what I did was I helped myself.
13:01
SPEAKER_00: I started getting my brains done, my brain stuff done, and my hormones, and I made a decision.
13:05
SPEAKER_00: And I was like, you know what?
13:06
SPEAKER_00: Maybe my life did change, but I'm gonna, I'm gonna fucking, we're gonna do this.
13:10
SPEAKER_00: And so I was like, let's book the photographer.
13:13
SPEAKER_00: I'm still her.
13:14
SPEAKER_00: I need to know if I'm still her.
13:15
SPEAKER_00: I booked a photographer and I continued with my building my business.
13:19
SPEAKER_00: It's like I didn't let anything stop me.
13:20
SPEAKER_00: We didn't have any money really.
13:21
SPEAKER_00: I remember hiring this girl for 20 bucks.
13:23
SPEAKER_00: She was a high schooler, she could just come two hours a day and I'd work on my business.
13:27
SPEAKER_00: Just two hours a day, 20 bucks.
13:28
SPEAKER_00: That's all I could do.
13:29
SPEAKER_00: Still cleaning my own house, still doing all my own laundry, just fucking in it, right?
13:32
SPEAKER_00: But I decided and I was like, here's what I'm gonna do.
13:34
SPEAKER_00: I can't do an hour gym session, but what I can do is 15 minutes.
13:37
SPEAKER_00: And I can't go all in and do this, but what I can do is this, and I can't do this, but I can do this.
13:42
SPEAKER_00: And so I started thinking like that.
13:43
SPEAKER_00: And I created this thing called mommy maintenance program.
13:46
SPEAKER_00: And I would send out, I put it out, and it was like 20 bucks a week, and it started growing.
13:51
SPEAKER_00: It was, I was, it was just my meal plan.
13:53
SPEAKER_00: Here's what I'm eating this week.
13:54
SPEAKER_00: It was a plan, it was a workout and community, and it started growing a lot, and it was just a vibe.
13:59
SPEAKER_00: Next thing I'm like, you know what?
14:01
SPEAKER_00: This is good.
14:01
SPEAKER_00: I want to get more people in it.
14:03
SPEAKER_00: And I'm a business owner, and I think of impact and money.
14:05
SPEAKER_00: And so we grew that shit.
14:07
SPEAKER_00: But then it became even bigger, and I was like, it's an identity.
14:10
SPEAKER_00: A woman that didn't give up, a mom that didn't give up, that didn't lose herself completely to motherhood, she's a hot mom.
14:16
SPEAKER_00: And you don't even have to be a mom.
14:17
SPEAKER_00: You could I work with a lot of single girls, a lot of girls that are 20.
14:20
SPEAKER_00: Pat mom is an energy, it's an identity.
14:22
SPEAKER_00: It's like no matter what fucking happens in life, because it will, because if you're not building your life, you're building someone else's and you're throwing in the fucking towel, and you're never gonna recover from throwing in the fucking towel.
14:32
SPEAKER_00: And I know that when a woman feels and looks fucking hot, the world's a better place.
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SPEAKER_00: It's just like with money.
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SPEAKER_00: Like you having the body and the energy and feeling like you know what to do that day, you're owning the day.
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SPEAKER_00: It doesn't matter how much chaos is going on in your life, like you know how to come back to yourself and you know everything's gonna be okay because of your inner structure and confidence.
14:51
SPEAKER_00: That's it.
14:52
SPEAKER_00: That's it.
14:52
SPEAKER_00: And so I created hot moms with a Z and it took off.
14:56
SPEAKER_00: We made millions of dollars, so many lives changed and families changed because when the mother changes, when the mother, because see, women are toxic as fuck.
15:04
SPEAKER_00: Women are toxic.
15:04
SPEAKER_00: You know why?
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SPEAKER_00: That saying that says happy wife, happy life, that's toxic as shit.
15:08
SPEAKER_00: That shows you that if a woman's not happy, she's gonna make sure everybody's not happy.
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SPEAKER_00: Women are powerful, and that's the thing is you don't know how powerful you are.
15:16
SPEAKER_00: And if you did and you knew how much you mattered, and you knew how much your happiness mattered, if you knew how much you feeling supported mattered, if you knew how much that everybody around you would love to see you happy and having fun and loving her body, like if you really knew that, things would be different.
15:33
SPEAKER_00: And so that's usually when you find my work is when you want an easier way.
15:36
SPEAKER_00: You know there's more to life than the one you're living.
15:38
SPEAKER_00: And even if you've got 90 million a year, because I work with women who are very well off too.
15:43
SPEAKER_00: People think they have everything, but they're not fulfilled.
15:45
SPEAKER_00: Their relationships are a little kind of shitty, their bodies aren't they keep struggling with the same 10 pounds and they're trying to manage everything, same thing.
15:52
SPEAKER_00: So this is about getting you back to the real you, getting you back embodied and who you fucking really are, and who you always were before the trauma, before life told you who you needed to be, before you became a mother and somebody's fucking wife, and before you became a high-level leader, career, yeah, enter your fucking title.
16:07
SPEAKER_00: Cause she's still in there, and you gotta fight for her.
16:09
SPEAKER_00: You gotta fucking fight for her, and you gotta get around people who are also fighting for that.
16:13
SPEAKER_00: And I'm not saying fighting isn't like we're every day's a struggle.
16:16
SPEAKER_00: I'm walking on the fucking beach in South Florida at nine o'clock in the morning.
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SPEAKER_00: I live a good life.
16:20
SPEAKER_00: All right, but yeah, some days I don't want to go to the gym, some days I don't want to push hard.
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SPEAKER_00: And it's all good.
16:24
SPEAKER_00: What I teach is let's meet you where you're at, let's increase the emotional intelligence so that you're not reacting to life.
16:31
SPEAKER_00: You're responding and you're changing patterns and you're breaking generational cycles and curses.
16:35
SPEAKER_00: And you know what?
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SPEAKER_00: Beyond that, you're getting the fucking body you want with ease.
16:38
SPEAKER_00: You're finally getting to enjoy vacations and enjoy holidays and have energy and sleep good and fucking have desire and you're horny and you're enjoying life, you're having fun, and the opportunities are starting to flow to you, the ideas, the creativity's back, and now you're getting into the purpose work.
16:55
SPEAKER_00: Now you're feeling finally, you can finally write that book, you can finally start that business, you can finally scale that business, right?
17:00
SPEAKER_00: Now you can start doing the things that you've always wanted to do.
17:02
SPEAKER_00: But you can't do that if you're in a flabby body, you don't have energy, you're not eating enough food, you can't do it.
17:08
SPEAKER_00: You can't do it.
17:08
SPEAKER_00: So, yeah, hot moms is an identity.
17:10
SPEAKER_00: Hot moms is for women who have not given up.
17:13
SPEAKER_00: It's for women who have a very high standard of living, a very high standard of living.
17:17
SPEAKER_00: Because saying, I'm good, I'm good enough, I'm at the best I've ever been, that's second place loser mentality.
17:22
SPEAKER_00: That's second place loser shit.
17:24
SPEAKER_00: Hot moms is we don't even say that shit.
17:26
SPEAKER_00: Hot moms is a high level, a high standard.
17:29
SPEAKER_00: And you want to be around other people who fucking think we bring that masculine fucking fire, but also embodied, because we don't believe in go all in.
17:36
SPEAKER_00: There's a shadow side to all in.
17:38
SPEAKER_00: Don't believe me?
17:38
SPEAKER_00: How'd it work for you last time?
17:40
SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
17:40
SPEAKER_00: Burn out your adrenals and you're still in the same place as you were.
17:43
SPEAKER_00: You're like, if everything, if I let go one second, everything falls.
17:46
unknown: Yeah.
17:46
SPEAKER_00: Okay, we're not gonna do that.
17:47
SPEAKER_00: This is a new way to get fit.
17:49
SPEAKER_00: And when women think of weight loss and they think of getting fit, they don't look at fucking 90-day challenges or little fall challenges or somebody's selling fucking hormone programs, or let me go take this peptide, or let me just go all in.
18:00
SPEAKER_00: They think of fucking hot moms because you want to be hot, right?
18:03
SPEAKER_00: It's a hot woman in business, career, family life, and your body.
18:07
SPEAKER_00: And a hot woman, she ain't struggling, she's not trying and wondering if it's gonna work.
18:11
SPEAKER_00: She's very confident, she knows, she holds herself to a high standard, and then everything else comes, it's it's easy because she's so strong, all right?
18:18
SPEAKER_00: And you may forget who she is, where she went.
18:20
SPEAKER_00: Hot moms raise it back.
18:21
SPEAKER_00: You may be at the top of your fucking game.
18:23
SPEAKER_00: Hot moms is gonna make you even sharper because visibility, when you start to become more visible, people are noticing you, you're growing in your business and career, visibility trauma will get that ass, you'll sabotage yourself, not on purpose, because your nervous system doesn't feel safe with that level of being seen.
18:38
SPEAKER_00: Hot moms, that's who this is for.
18:40
SPEAKER_00: So I created hot moms because I saw women having babies, and I'm like, hold on.
18:44
SPEAKER_00: You telling me the woman who's saying she can't do it and she can't follow through and all this, it's the same woman who just had a baby.
18:51
SPEAKER_00: That's a near-death experience.
18:52
SPEAKER_00: It's like that's a near-death fucking experience that you just went through.
18:55
SPEAKER_00: Pain.
18:56
SPEAKER_00: And if you look back, do you remember any of that pain?
18:59
SPEAKER_00: Not really.
18:59
SPEAKER_00: You can remember it was daunting, but you don't remember the actual physical pain.
19:03
SPEAKER_00: You just remember the glory.
19:04
SPEAKER_00: You remember the beautiful moment when you heard your baby cry for the first time.
19:08
SPEAKER_00: You remember like how the doctor handed you the baby or how it fell out just on the bathroom floor.
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SPEAKER_00: You don't remember the pain.
19:14
SPEAKER_00: And that's what being moms is like.
19:17
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, some days it's gonna suck and it's gonna be painful emotionally and physically.
19:20
SPEAKER_00: But you're gonna look back in five years and go, you don't remember it.
19:23
SPEAKER_00: You just remember the fucking showing up.
19:24
SPEAKER_00: You remember showing up.
19:26
SPEAKER_00: And you remember now looking in the mirror, the fucking glory.
19:28
SPEAKER_00: You're like, fuck yeah, I did this.
19:30
SPEAKER_00: I built this, and I'm gonna keep building it because I it didn't require me losing myself or sacrificing things I love or the time with the people that I love to get it.
19:37
SPEAKER_00: So of course I can maintain it.
19:38
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19:45
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19:46
SPEAKER_00: Get fit, become a fucking mom, become a hot mom.
19:50
SPEAKER_00: Because I promise you, at the end of the road, you're not gonna look back and be like, I wish I'd have done it differently.
19:56
SPEAKER_00: Or mom's is gonna create a life where you look back and go, fucking, I did everything I wanted to do.
20:00
SPEAKER_00: I did everything I wanted to do.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm so glad I changed my mind.
20:04
SPEAKER_00: So there it is.
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SPEAKER_00: All right, link in the bio, or you can just comment below this video hot moms with a Z or hot A F.
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