Is the False Consensus Effect Hurting Your Marriage?

Doing Marriage Well · May 21, 2026 · 1m · transcript

In this episode of Doing Marriage Well (May 21, 2026), Paul explains three cognitive biases that can damage relationships: the Zanargic effect (remembering unfinished tasks more than completed ones), negativity bias (focusing on problems over positives), and the false consensus effect (assuming your partner shares your views). Paul offers a simple remedy: question your assumptions, ask clarifying questions, and intentionally notice the positive moments to counter these biases. He closes with a reminder that every marriage is different – and a lighthearted dispute over the "right" way to hang…