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7 Simple Shifts That Will ACTUALLY Heal Your Nervous System · Bye Bye Panic

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  [SPEAKER_00]: What if the reason you're not healing has nothing to do with what you're missing, and everything to do with what you're overdoing?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The people who actually heal their nervous system don't have some secret.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They're just not overcomplicating it and they're committed to the basics.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So in this video, I want to share with you the seven small shifts that will heal your nervous system.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You'll be shocked on how effective this is because it's going to work better than any of the complicated stuff you've been trying in the past.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Number one, name it, don't analyze it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Whenever you have that sensation that thought, that feeling, that discomfort, the brain wants to go into analysis mode.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It wants to understand what's going on.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But instead of trying to figure it out, the best approach is just to name what's going on, which is just that your nervous system is stuck on protection mode.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: When we're helping people in the anxiety recovery programs, whether it's panic attacks and truths of thoughts, agrofobia, anything like that, we simply just say, throw all the symptoms and sensations under the anxiety umbrella.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You can call it the anxiety umbrella, you can call it the nervous system umbrella, whatever umbrella you want to call it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Instead of trying to isolate each symptom and sensation and analyze it, what you're just doing is that you're throwing it under one problem.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This prevents the mind from trying to solve one problem from another.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You might have noticed that when you're on this journey, you might be trying to solve one problem and then another problem surfaces up.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Or you might notice that both problems surface up and then three problems show up.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: whatever it is, instead of playing this whack-a-mold game where you're trying to identify each symptom, the best approach is to throw it under one umbrella.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Have you ever had the flu or the cold?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You don't focus on each specific symptom or sensation of a cold.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You don't say things like I have a clogged nose, back pain, and a headache.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You just recognize it's all part of the cold.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And as the body heals from the cold, all these symptoms and sensations go away.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So instead of trying to analyze each feeling, each symptom, each sensation, just throw it under one umbrella.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This also prevents from what we call somatic shifting.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Somatic shifting is where your symptoms change over time.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You'll notice on this healing journey that certain symptoms might fade, some symptoms might show up, and your symptoms are just changing.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They're always in this flux.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: that's not a bad sign.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: In fact, in many times in the healing journey, we actually see that as a good sign.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But it can really complicated people if they don't know what's going on.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So, instead of trying to identify if this symptom is new, old, pesky, or whatever it is, just throw it under one umbrella.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Number 2, allow the sensation to be there.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Don't resist.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You might be resisting, you might be fighting, you might be fearing the sensation because fundamentally deep down there's a part of you that feels like this symptom is just dangerous.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That having the symptom means that there's something wrong.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Whenever you come from this frame of mind, you will resist it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This same resistance is actually what's feeling the cycle.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The resistance itself signals danger.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You're telling your nervous system that Sean is resisting something, he thinks is dangerous, so we need to treat that thing is danger.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So instead of resisting this sensation, allow it to be there.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Many people overthink it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They run to their head as a way to escape the feeling in the body.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: When you recognize what's going on, when you understand the mechanics of your nervous system, you recognize that these symptoms and sensations aren't dangerous.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What that does is that that gives you permission to come back to your body.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This allows this symptom and sensations to be there and for you to approach it from a place of safety.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Not from a place of resistance, fear.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You recognize that all of this is just discomfort and you can let it be there without resisting.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What that does is that that teaches your nervous system over time to relax.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And ironically, as it relaxes, the symptoms fade away on its own.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now, if you're confused about why you're having these symptoms even when you go to your doctors and they say everything is fine, I have a free ebook down below that breaks down the mechanics of these symptoms.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: so that you can stop fearing them and start allowing the sensations to be there.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The link is in the description box.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Number three, treat symptoms like the weather.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Whether it's symptoms, whether it's thoughts, whether it's sensations, whether it's emotions, just treat them like the weather.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They come and they go.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What happens is that you'll have a symptom and you'll have a sensation and you'll start thinking, oh my god, what if it's here forever?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What if it never goes away?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But if you treat it like the weather, the weather's always changing.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: View it as clouds, they come and they go.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: As you do this, you realize that everything is temporary, these feelings, these symptoms, these sensations, it's all temporary.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Here's a great framework that you can use.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Whatever symptoms, sensation, thought, emotion you're feeling right now, end it with right now.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So instead of saying, I'm feeling palpitations, I'm feeling dizzy, whatever it is.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: End it with, I'm feeling that right now.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What happens is when you tell yourself that you're feeling it, there can be a sense of permanence that, oh, the symptom will always be there.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But if you just recognize that symptoms, sensations, thoughts, they're just like clouds, they come and they go, well, if you can just say, these things are here right now.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And you don't need to do anything.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It strips away the urgency.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: To great framework to use, any time you feel that this symptom is basically overbearing, where you feel like you just won't let up.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Just a symptom that's showing up right now, right now doesn't mean forever.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Number four.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You're okay, even if you don't feel okay.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Many times we feel like, oh, I'm not feeling okay, so I'm not.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But when you're on this journey, you're going to be dealing with this sense where you feel like you're not okay, but things are fine.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You'll talk to your friends, you'll talk to your family, you'll talk to your doctors, and they'll say, look, everything's okay.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: There's nothing really wrong.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: and you will feel like something is wrong but you have to recognize that that's also a feeling.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And one of the most important things on this journey is in many ways you can't trust your feelings in the moment.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Because your survival mechanism, your fight or flight, your nervous system is stuck on this protection mode, it's going to assume everything is danger.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So you almost can't trust that.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: There will be a point that you can go back that you can't trust your intuition in time.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But right now, it's just sending alarms to everything.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's just saying you're not okay, you're not okay, you're not okay.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Think about all the times you thought you were right about something that you were convinced that this thing is true, no matter what, and you turned out it wasn't.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: For me, it was my physical symptoms.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I was convinced it was an onset of something terribly wrong and that the doctors needed to figure it out right now.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And I would bet my house if I could have at the time.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: and turned out I was wrong.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And I realized that I was following a feeling in that moment.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And recognizing that in those moments where I was not feeling okay, I actually was okay.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And reminding myself that, hey, I'm okay.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Even if it doesn't feel like it right now.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Because over time, your nervous system will calm down those alarms and you will see over time.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: that that intuition comes back.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Then you can trust that feeling.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes if I don't feel okay right now, I might sense it, ask myself what's going on, reflect on it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe if I, in a high stress situation, I might feel like that and realize it's an offset of that.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But when you're in the state in many ways, you have to throw it under,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: the umbrella of a sensitized nervous system because the alarms are just blurring all the time.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Number five is to tolerate the unknown.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: When you're in this journey, you are chasing certainty.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The mind works that way.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If you'll notice you are overthinking a lot, it's because the mind is trying to find safety through certainty.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so when you're in this healing journey, you have to
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Having the ability to go into the unknown and knowing that no matter what happens, you will be okay.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: A great framework here is a lot of people go into anxiety mode and they start thinking, what if what if this happens, what if that happens, what if this happens?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You want to follow it with even if this happens.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: See, many people think, oh, I am trying to protect myself from dangers.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So I'm looking through all these different situations and probabilities.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But part of healing is also developing a courage and confidence that even if these things happen, I will figure it out.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You don't need to have the answer right now.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You don't need to know exactly what to do.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You can develop the mindset that whatever happens, I will deal with it when it occurs.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But what you don't want to be doing is creating scenarios and solutions for things that haven't even happened.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This is why so many people feel burnt out.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They feel tired.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They're overthinking.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They're trying to chase that certainty.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The discomfort of uncertainty is just too high.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If you can just let it be there.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If you can tolerate uncertainty, unknown, having the faith, then no matter what happens, everything will be okay.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: When you can do that, and you can show up to things that might seem scary, but show up with courage.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Well, this shows your nervous system that you have resiliency, that you have capacity to handle these things.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now, one of the ways to develop this faith is by recognizing that your body isn't broken, is just overprotective.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I've alluded this throughout the video, but it's important to make this its own point.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Many times we feel like why can't other people understand what I'm going through?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Why is it so effortless for everybody else?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's important to understand that in this moment right now, your nervous system is just a bit more stubborn.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It wants to protect you.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's always going to be on your side.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The issue is right now is that it's just gotten a little bit confused.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What is danger?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What is not?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so your body will do what it's supposed to do.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's just going to assume everything is danger.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so what's happening is that your body is just overprotecting you right now.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: All you need to do is retrain it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Teach it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Talk to it as if it's not broken but scared.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Helping it's understand that everything is okay, but it doesn't learn that from the way you talk to it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's a part of it, but the biggest, most important ways what you show it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Can you go into situations and teach your nervous system that there was no threat?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That it's analysis, its prediction mode was off, that you were actually safe.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If you can show it, that the nervous system will calm out its own.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Being in this protective mode requires a lot of energy, and your body naturally wants to conserve energy.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so when it's doing this and it recognizes that, hey, there is no danger, it will naturally calm down on its own.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It doesn't calm down from you, micromanaging everything.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: In fact, that's what's causing the problems, that's what's causing the issues.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If you can just show it and see, look, everything's okay.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And revalidate that everything you thought was going to go wrong, didn't?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Well, you will start seeing your nervous system.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The next step is to practice gratitude.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I know it sounds simple, I know it sounds easy, and I know you've been told this before, but gratitude is so important because when you're in the state, your body and your mind have basically developed what we call a negativity bias.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's always looking for everything that's gone wrong.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's always going to look at what potentially can go wrong.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And whenever you're viewing this world with this lens, it's naturally think everything that can and will go wrong does go wrong.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But it's important to understand that you are not viewing life as it is.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You view life based on what you focus on.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And when you're in the state, you're naturally going to be focusing on the negative.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Again, it's a survival advantage.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So it's very important for you to practice gratitude, not just for yourself, but for you to see reality for what it is, for seeing all the good things that are happening.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The fact that you woke up this morning, the fact that you're still living, the fact that you're healthy, all these things is still something to be grateful for.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What this teaches your nervous system is that not everything is wrong.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: There are things that are right.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: As you focus on the right things, those things grow.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's not like you just have anxiety or a sensitive nervous system.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You also notice that you have other really great things.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: All of the sudden life is shown itself more in balance.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Gratitude requires the lens you see your life through.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And the last step is to remember your track record.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: A lot of times with anxiety with a hypersensitive nervous system, there's a lot of anticipatory anxiety.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: what if this gets worse, what if this leads to something else, all these what if fears that are showing up?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But if you can show yourself, then look how far I've come already.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Look at all the things I've had to deal with.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: that no matter what you've dealt with, you've dealt with worse and you can handle this, you'll start showing your nervous system that you can respond in courage.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This is what we call evidence-based trust.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The fact that you've gone through these things and you've survived and you've been fine shows that you can handle this.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now that doesn't mean it's uncomfortable, that doesn't mean that you'll enjoy it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And in many ways, because you may have not known how to respond,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But now, you're learning how to respond.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You're re-teaching your nervous system.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You're showing it safety.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You're teaching it how to respond.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And as you do this, you'll see that the only way to go is up.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The only way to move forward is through healing.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This is where confidence comes from.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This is where courage comes from.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You show what courage you show yourself that you can do it no matter what happens and then the confidence comes on its own.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Many people ask, how do I become confident first?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You'll have moments where you won't feel confident where you feel like I've never done this.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But as you do it enough, the confidence comes by itself.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Over time, as you incorporate these small shifts, you're going to find that your nervous system is going to be more resilient to stress.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You're going to have a stressful situation.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Exiety might kick up, your nervous system might go on protection mode, but then whenever the stress passes, you're able to come back to baseline.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Remember, right now, your body's just a little bit stuck.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's a little bit overprotective.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's not broken.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: it's doing exactly what it needs to do.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It just needs you to show it that it's safe, that there is no danger.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The calm happens on its own.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Thanks for watching.