Latest / Your Enriched Self / 112. Unplug from Overstimulation
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- I don't appreciate the simple things until life gets challenging, until things get difficult. That's when you think back, look back and reflect on those things that were just so simple at the time. And I bet at that time I know for me what I thought was difficult, when I look back on it, obviously it's much simpler, much easier. I remember a time. I don't remember what I was going through at the time or what I was thinking about at the time, but I started reminiscing on how simple it was back then when some of the hardest things I had to do was to convince my mother that I could go out see My mother was pretty strict about her kids and certainly her daughter, she had three of them, and I was the negotiator. I was the person that was always, you know, giving her the rationale and the reason why. That was a job like I had to must stir up the strength and set some things up and set the scene so I can give us an exit to go and enjoy or do whatever. And back then it seemed like a hard thing. And I remember laughing at myself when I was thinking about what I was dealing with at the time and thought, you know, I would what I would give to go back and be in a negotiation role with my mother, and my mother's a pretty tough cookie, but I was grateful that, you know, I could go back and reflect on that and realize that, you know, as you go through life and you deal with the various levels of devils of things that will come up, things start to get a little bit more challenging, and then you realize that things were really a lot simpler than you thought they were. And I bet in another month, two years, three years, I don't know, you're gonna look back in this moment, a moment that you find with extreme difficulty, and you're going to realize that you were resilient, that you pushed through some of the most challenging parts of your life, and the thing that you're dealing with at that next level is probably going to be your next new challenge. But it's good to look back and recognize where you've grown from, where you've come from, and where you want to go to. Hello, my friends from all across the globe, and welcome to the Urine resep Podcast. I am your host, Miley Noir. I am a mindset coach, and your mindset advocate. And all that means in this world, in the world that we live in today, is that there are so many things in the social states, in the streets, at your job that are demanding your attention and your response. And what this podcast, what this platform, what I've done intentionally is created a space for you to come and take in, soak in the information you need so that you can go out in the world and be the best version of yourself. And so the intention is to curate conversations about mindset, self care topics, soul care topics, and really get you to think about what you're thinking about, because when do we do that? When do you have time to really think about the things you're doing. We live in a get up and go, go go society, and it is rare that we are encouraged invited to spend time in our thoughts. And that's what this podcast is all about. I am encouraging you, I am inviting you, I am welcoming you to do that each and every week. And so if you are new to this podcast, I want to welcome you and invite you to the table to have these conversations that are meaningful, that are transformational, and that are intentional, and I want to thank you for being here and choosing to join us, and if you are repeat listener, I want to thank you because we've been doing this for over one hundred weeks. We are at a two year journey with the podcasts, and it is because of you. It is because of you tuning in, tapping in, and turning on your listening ears that I am here, that we are here, and I just want to encourage you to continue listening and to share the podcast with your friends and family. Before we get into this week's topic, and I'm always excited about the topics of the week because they're so relevant, they're so juicy. Before we get into that all juiciness, I want to talk to you about something that is near and dear to my heart, and that is to pour into you what I call a deposit, and I make a deposit into the bank of you by way of affirmations. Affirmations are a great way to start your day and to command your morning. And this week's affirmation is I appreciate the current moment and I find joy in it. I appreciate the current moment and I find joy in it. I appreciate the current moment and I find joy in it. Now, let's get ready for this week's episode of the Your Enriched Self podcast. Things that at every turn there's information coming at us. There are news of weather patterns and the anxiety of a looming recession, the healthcare concerns that are resurging as a result of the fall, when we typically see a lot of you know, sicknesses and all the things that are essentially out there for us to consume. And what I feel like is happening to you and what has happened to me, and let's just bring it out here, is that we are overstimulated. We are over stimulated, and so today I want you to unplug from the overstimulation. I want you to recognize that you are in fact overstimulated because again, you are so busy you don't even realize how well charged you are into the activities of the world. So it's hard for you to focus on the things you need to do, the places you want to go, the destination ahead for you, for your family, for your finances, for your help, for your wellness. It sounds like a lot, and it's because it's a lot when you added up to everything else that's external to you. I want you today to just come in and draw yourself in and leave all the external things out. Because here's the thing about the external factors. You can't control them. You in fact control the moment you're having right now. You control your reaction to the moment right now that you're having. You control the next steps that you can take to address the things that you're working on, or the things that you're dealing with, or the challenges that you have right now. You can make those impacts on your space. And I'm not saying you cannot impact the world around you. I'm not, by far saying that. What I'm saying is the immediate impact is going to be on the things that you are in the driver's seat of, and so that's going to require you to unplug from the oversimulation. Think about when a student is first going through the process of getting their driver's license. So one of the things that the State of Georgia does is the first year that the student gets I think it's the first six months or year after they get their permit, they're not allowed to have any of their team counterparts in the vehicle while they're driving. And that's for a reason because there's over stimulation when you bring other parties involved in your situation. Think about a car with a teenager who just got a permit. For those of you who have been there, or working on your teenager, or thinking about the future, it can be a daunting task. It can be a daunting thought to think that your teenager is in a car with other teenagers who are also learning to drive and learning the rules of engagement on the road, and how are they going to be attentive to that when they're trying to pay attention to what their peers are doing. Because we know what teenagers do, or they're stimulated by the music or how loud the music is, or the latest drama or issue, or the things that are happening. It's over stimulation and it prevents you from really leaching on and latching on to the information that's important. The decisioning that you have to make almost in a split second. Going back to the driving example, but even in life, there are decisions you have to make on a whim before something else occurs. And so that's what I want to talk about today. I really want us to get underneath why we are overstimulated. What are the causes that put us in a nature of overstimulation. So what really has me thinking about this topic is I wasn't a conversation with my coach just a couple of days ago, and she is a former elementary education teacher, and we were just talking in general about how overstimulated we are. She mentioned, you know, I was on social media the other day and within five minutes of me being on or what you know, one to five minutes, I was, you know, excited for something I had seen. I was sad about something I had seen. I was, you know, overwhelmed by something else. Scene And think about your social media experiences or the things that you plug into every day, right, your media experiences in general, you can go from seeing a very exciting post to a very sad post, to a very over hyped posts to a post as nostalgic. There's so many different venues and avenues that you will go down in five minutes of being on social media, and so it overstimulates you. As we were talking about it, she mentioned, you know what, she started to see a lot of that before she left the business. Because she's retired from that work. She started to see a lot of that over simulation and how it played itself out in terms of how these students were categorized. Some of these students were categorized in special education and in different avenues that didn't really fit the pace of where the student was. But systematically, it's how things were driven, and it's because of the nature of over stimulation. And the crazy thing about it is these kids don't know what's happening to them because unlike the kids of today, my kids, at least when they grew up, they had the opportunity to be unplugged into the world, like physically being outside, having actual toy stores. And I had a conversation with somebody the other day and they're like, oh, you know the kids that they still have toy stores. No, they have toy departments in Target, in Walmart, but a toy store was just a whole new world for a child. Imagine your experience. And today's kids aren't really excited about toy stores. They're excited about electronics, they're excited about technology, they're excited about being plugged into a screen. And my kids were coming at the tail end of that. But they had those experiences to unplug from the technology and the world, so to speak, and just be outside. Being outside is not being outside today when we talk about being outside, way to talk about, you know, post COVID being outside, My kids were actually outside. I was actually outside experiencing life, unplugged from the world, so to speak, and just being in my own space. And I want to say that that's something that you don't get to do. It might be the design of your life, it might be the nature of the work that you do. It might be that you've never even really thought about it because we are so programmed because of what we have in front of us to get up in the morning and turn on social media. Some of us don't even pray first. I honestly had to train myself to pray, to give thanks for the day, to acknowledge my creator before I started looking at what was being created for me to consume in media. And so that's why one of the first areas that I believe are the leading causes to the oversimulation, and that is the media madness, the media frenzy, the twenty four hour news cycles, the smartphones. I talked about the social media platforms. How many are there now? I don't even know the rabbit holes that you go down when you start researching one thing, that leads to another thing, that leads to another thing. It exposes you, It overwhelms you to the levels of information and details. It is literally cognitive exhaustion when you really start thinking about how exhausted you are. Sometimes you're not even physically exhausted, you're just mentally strained. That exhaustion comes from a lot of this stuff. It's important to unplug. That's what we're talking about. We need to unplug from the oversimulation. One way to do that is a digital detox. And I know you've heard of it. I know you've probably tried it, and going to encourage you to maybe do it once a week. We need to have strategies right now before we go into overwhelm. And some of you may have already gone there, and you're probably on the brink of being there, but you need strategy. You're not gonna be able to overcome this, walk through this without a strategy. You need a strategy. So a digital detox, and all that means is to cut yourself off, give yourself breaks away from screen, away from social media, away from even the twenty four hour news cycle. That's something I realized a long time ago that I had to cut myself off on and then when COVID came and it was all negative news and the ticker of debts and all of the different things that we were exposed to in a media cycle. And so I at that time, the time that you would think people would want to be tuned in to all the things that were happening in the world, I decided to tune out because it was just too much and it was never anything good. And so that digital dto is a great way to do that. I would say, curate your content. I would say that's a great way to go. But the thing about the algorithms is they gonna work the way they work. If it's a popular topic, it's going to feed into your new sweet even if it's not a thing you care about, even if it's not a thing that you've curated your content to reflect in terms of when you pull it up, and who knows what the people you are, you know connected to what their experience is and what they're willing to share, because that too will determine what you see when you see it. So think about that. I would say the most effective would be to be on a digital detox and then limit your screen time. You know, I know people and even myself there's a certain time of night that I'm cut off from social media. And like I said at the beginning of the day, I don't open social media. The only time I open it is if I go to the gym and I post my stories and I'm I'm in and I'm out. So you gotta give yourself like, hey, I'm gonna post this thing and I'm done that that's going to be the way you maintain this thing. That's going to be the way you control your exposure so that you don't get into a sense of overwhelm, so you don't get into a space of anxiety and stress, because that's what this barrage of information will do to you if you continue to continue to without a strategy. The second contributor that I believe over simulation is that we live in a world where we have followed down this path that there is not enough for all of us. We have a mindset of lack. And here's what I mean by a mindset of lack. We live in a consumer driven in world. We live in a consumer driven society, and it's constantly bombarding us that we need more. You need a bigger phone, you need a bigger home, you need a bigger car. You need the bigger things, the better things. The bigger things are the better things, and the better things are needed for you to be successful in this life, for you to be happy in this life. And so we just keep following down that path. And what was big in twenty twenty one is not big enough in twenty twenty three. So you follow this path and you think you get to what is the hot thing, the big thing, the new thing, the right thing, the end thing, and it's like, oh, that's out. You need to go after the bigger thing. And so it's like you're constantly chasing happiness. You're constantly chasing what is right for you. Now who can tell you what's right for you but you? And so that constant pursuit of a thing that is not tangible or attainable because the rules of engagement to get to that thing keeps changing. And so what ends up happening is you feel empty, You feel like you never have enough, and all that does is put you back in this overstimulated, overwhelmed arena. So how do we break this mindset of lack? Well, first, of all, and I've said this before and I'll say it again, You've got to practice gratitude. You have to be grateful for the moment that you have right now, that you even have this moment, a moment where you can think for yourself, you can be for yourself. You have the four walls and the roof. You're employed, or you're transitioning to a different environment that's going to celebrate you and not tolerate you. We're all in different paths. But if you can look for in the current scenario you're in the moments of gratitude, You're gonna better serve you. You're gonna serve the highest version of you. And so getting to that happiness is not going to be relegated by what culture says. It's going to be relegated by what you said, what you believe. The other thing to that point is to set goals that are meaningful, meaningful, not goals that are the definition in culture of what successes, but meaningful, what's meaningful to you as you pursue success, what gives you genuine fulfillment. You got to ask yourself these questions, because if you don't ask yourself these questions, culture will answer for you what it believes the group think needs to do, and then you're trapped in this system where you're all and we're all thinking the same way. I refuse, I absolutely refuse and rebuke that way of thinking. And so that's why it's important to not get into this group think of what success is and how you can achieve it, because oh, by the way, they're going to give you a one way path and we're gonna get on a road with everybody else going the same way to pursue the same thing, and wonder why we can't get through that road. Everybody's on it, including you. That's why you've got to identify this stuff, declutter your space physically, mentally, emotionally, so you can create your own path, your own road so you can get to the things that truly matter in this life. And the final contributor that I believe is a big part of why you are overstimulated is because you are not able to You have not tried to. You don't know how to find silence, seeking silence, finding that serenity space. You have an absence of quiet time. Moments of quiet are rare, I get it, and depending on your lifestyle, your work life, your family life, whatever you do out there in this world, it may be rare to find that time. A few years ago, I made a conscious decision to not listen to morning radio on the way to work. You know, the morning radio shows that tells you about the celebrity drama and the you know, the things that are happening in the world. I started realizing that those conversations, those talk tracks would not serve me, did not serve me, and I decided to plug into silence, and it was one of the best things I did for myself. To this day, I don't listen to more radio on the way to work. I occasionally will listen to a podcast I find myself. I'll pray all the way to work, y'all. I will pray from the time I leave my driveway all the way to the office. That's how I spend my time. And then there are days I'm just quiet. I'm listening for instruction, I'm listening for the voice of God. I'm listening. And that's something we don't do because we are so overstimulating. Listening requires quiet, right, It requires us to not be saying anything, not allow other noise to enter the chat. Enter our space. And when you're so used to noise, quiet noise, I forget what they call it. You know music that's pumping over the airways, when you go into the grocery stores. Everywhere we go, we are stimulated by sound. I wanted to choose a space that I know I can control, and so I know the places at home. I know there are places in your own home that you may not be able to control and keep quiet. But I promise you just use your car space the other thing that I do. And it works out for me because my family they're typically late to get up. I like to get up early, and so when I'm getting up at five and six o'clock in the morning and nobody's up, oh, that's my quiet time. So there are gonna be some things you're gonna have to do because you need time to reflect on the day ahead, on the previous day. You need time to reflect. And I'm going to encourage you to introduce, reintroduce quiet time into your life. And there's some ways you can do that. Number One, like I said, create those quiet spaces. It might be your car, it might be getting up an hour earlier, or getting up earlier than the people you're with, or maybe choosing at night whenever body's down and you have that quiet time, it may be that you just decide to take a walk. That's another thing that I do to unplug from my world, my life, my family, my kids, my husband, and plug into nothing. There's no expectations when I'm out there. Nature doesn't need anything from me. I'm just out there. Nobody's asking me to do something, say something, be something for them. I can just be and so that allows me to be more mindful. And it is a meditative space because I'm just again in a space where I'm calm, there's no stress happening. I'm just taking a walk in nature. And so I want you to think about where you are right now, and maybe one or all of these resonate with you. But I know that if you take time to look across your life spectrum and you start to identify what you need so that you can unplug from the overstimulation, you're going to find a balance of fulfillment in your life. You are going to find refocus, and you're going to have a more peaceful and meaningful existence. I hope you enjoyed this week's episode of the Urine Ritseub podcast. And the only way I'm gonna know this is if you leave me some feedback. Feedback is a gift and it is free to give, and I would like to hear from you. I would like to know what resonated with you regarding this week's episode. Now here's how you leave feedback on the platform in which you listen to this podcast. 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